Posted on Oct 7, 2014
Am I being selfish by placing my son (who currently serves) at the head table with me?
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We have a unit ball in the near future, I am bringing my son (and my bride) as my guest (my son is a US Army PFC & an Airborne Ranger, assigned to a Ranger BN). I am very proud of the Soldiers with whom I serve alongside of everyday and very proud of my sons service as well. He is an Infantryman and he has deployed to AFG with his unit. I am proud of his accomplishments.
Interested in your feedback....if you were attending this event, what would you think about my son having a seat at the head table...is it a problem for you and if so, why? What would be your recommended approach (that I take) to bring my son into our unit (our military family)?
As a little additional background, I often discuss family related triumphs and heartaches with the formation.
Interested in your feedback....if you were attending this event, what would you think about my son having a seat at the head table...is it a problem for you and if so, why? What would be your recommended approach (that I take) to bring my son into our unit (our military family)?
As a little additional background, I often discuss family related triumphs and heartaches with the formation.
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CSM Michael J. Uhlig, as you know there are certain protocols and traditions that go with formal occasions, like Balls. Traditionally, depending on the set-up head tables are reserved for the key VIPs (commander, CSM, spouses/significant other and the guest of honor). However, with all things, the Commander has a lot of discretion about how the ball is run. I'd ask him. Depending on the set-up, and amount of space You may end up having to choose between sitting him or your wife at the head table. Honestly, if there was no space, I would have him (and his date if he brings one) sat at a table close to the head table.
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CSM, I would not be offended. Most times blood Family outranks unit Family. If this is not possible and you value your son's presence at the event, why not demonstrate your commitment to your family by seating yourself at his table? I doubt anyone in the unit will mistake you as just a guest and you can reinforce the everlasting importance of family to your Soldiers.
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The only time I would see an issue with your son being at the head table is if the purpose of the ball/event would be the personal recognition of someone other than you or your son. That I think might be considered bad form. If you are celebrating an Army birthday ball or similar event, he is your son/guest so he sits with you. Your bride/wife is a given and I do not believe that warrants an answer.
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