SSG Private RallyPoint Member2524379<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>As a leader, which is more important, being liked or respected?2017-04-26T14:06:24-04:00SSG Private RallyPoint Member2524379<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>As a leader, which is more important, being liked or respected?2017-04-26T14:06:24-04:002017-04-26T14:06:24-04:00SSgt Private RallyPoint Member2524387<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Respected. Always. Your troops/employees may not like you, but that doesn't mean they won't respect you. Many times, respect turns into Like, but it very rarely goes the other way.Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 26 at 2017 2:08 PM2017-04-26T14:08:33-04:002017-04-26T14:08:33-04:00MSG Private RallyPoint Member2524389<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Respected.Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 26 at 2017 2:08 PM2017-04-26T14:08:43-04:002017-04-26T14:08:43-04:00SSG Private RallyPoint Member2524393<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Definitely agree!Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 26 at 2017 2:10 PM2017-04-26T14:10:00-04:002017-04-26T14:10:00-04:00LCDR Private RallyPoint Member2524467<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Respected, I would tell my senior enlisted leaders "This is not a popularity contest"Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 26 at 2017 2:29 PM2017-04-26T14:29:55-04:002017-04-26T14:29:55-04:00CPT Lawrence Cable2524487<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Respected. If I wanted people to love me, I would have joined the Peace Corp.<br />That doesn't mean you have to be a prick every day either. Just do for your troops would you would expect if you were in their position.Response by CPT Lawrence Cable made Apr 26 at 2017 2:39 PM2017-04-26T14:39:13-04:002017-04-26T14:39:13-04:00Monica Schmidt2524602<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>RespectedResponse by Monica Schmidt made Apr 26 at 2017 3:15 PM2017-04-26T15:15:06-04:002017-04-26T15:15:06-04:00CW2 Private RallyPoint Member2524645<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>There's leadership then there's likership. You choose which one you would rather lead by.Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 26 at 2017 3:27 PM2017-04-26T15:27:26-04:002017-04-26T15:27:26-04:00Cpl Justin Goolsby2524739<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Being respected. Being liked is fine, but it won't amount to anything on the day you have to deliver some bad news to someone. With respect though, they know it's not personal and some things are out of our hands.Response by Cpl Justin Goolsby made Apr 26 at 2017 3:54 PM2017-04-26T15:54:37-04:002017-04-26T15:54:37-04:00Lt Col Scott Shuttleworth2524903<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I didn't care if they liked me or not...I was not in a position to be liked or to be their friend. I am the commander or the direct supervisor in a leadership role. They will, however, respect the position...People should always respect the position because of the rank, grade, or responsibility it holds and the trust other leadership has placed in whoever to hold that position. Now with that being said...personal respect is earned. Praise in public, discipline in private...to paraphrase other threads ...take care of the people and the mission will take care of itself.Response by Lt Col Scott Shuttleworth made Apr 26 at 2017 4:59 PM2017-04-26T16:59:27-04:002017-04-26T16:59:27-04:00SSG Private RallyPoint Member2525370<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Respected. If you're doing your job as a leader right the soldiers will both like and respect you.Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 26 at 2017 7:40 PM2017-04-26T19:40:58-04:002017-04-26T19:40:58-04:00SFC Everett Oliver2525485<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I never cared if my troops liked me. Though those I'm in contact with me now say they did. But I like to think I earned their respect....Response by SFC Everett Oliver made Apr 26 at 2017 8:37 PM2017-04-26T20:37:47-04:002017-04-26T20:37:47-04:00Sgt Private RallyPoint Member2525548<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="691632" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/691632-25u-signal-support-systems-specialist-hht-1-73-cav">SSG Private RallyPoint Member</a> If you work hard, take care of your men, and lead by example, you should earn respect. Some of your men will like you, but some will not. As a leader, your job is to lead your men and accomplish the mission.Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 26 at 2017 9:08 PM2017-04-26T21:08:08-04:002017-04-26T21:08:08-04:00SPC Private RallyPoint Member2525612<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Respected. Even if I don't always like my leaders I should still be able to have a measure of respect for them. When they lose that respect, what's to like?Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 26 at 2017 9:37 PM2017-04-26T21:37:39-04:002017-04-26T21:37:39-04:00PO1 William "Chip" Nagel2525621<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>On some levels their is Little Difference, Rarely if Ever do I respect someone I don't Like.Response by PO1 William "Chip" Nagel made Apr 26 at 2017 9:40 PM2017-04-26T21:40:28-04:002017-04-26T21:40:28-04:00CPT Jacob Swartout2525984<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>It will always be respect in my book.Response by CPT Jacob Swartout made Apr 27 at 2017 12:36 AM2017-04-27T00:36:59-04:002017-04-27T00:36:59-04:001SG Private RallyPoint Member2526396<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Being respected! Its not your job to be liked, however the best leaders are not recognized by their Troops until long after they are gone for the most part. I have always had more respect and admiration for my hard noised NCO's who actually trained me to the standards and left feeling out of the equation. I may not have known it at the time, but as I moved up I always seemed to remember their style.Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 27 at 2017 8:14 AM2017-04-27T08:14:05-04:002017-04-27T08:14:05-04:001SG Private RallyPoint Member2526405<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Soldiers like leaders they respect.<br />You will find that the converse is much less likely to be true.Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 27 at 2017 8:18 AM2017-04-27T08:18:46-04:002017-04-27T08:18:46-04:00Col Joseph Lenertz2526412<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Respect, hands down. But respect does not mean feared. Your troops need to have absolute confidence in your competence and integrity. They need to be able to come to you when the news is really bad.Response by Col Joseph Lenertz made Apr 27 at 2017 8:23 AM2017-04-27T08:23:29-04:002017-04-27T08:23:29-04:00PO2 Robert M.2527133<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="691632" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/691632-25u-signal-support-systems-specialist-hht-1-73-cav">SSG Private RallyPoint Member</a> Sgt, in my humble opinion, RESPECT is the most important attribute. Will someone "charge" a hill because they "LIKE" you.....probably not. If they respect you, it would be safe to assume that they trust your judgement. ( maybe not the best scenario, but the one that "popped" into the ol' grey matter! )Response by PO2 Robert M. made Apr 27 at 2017 12:06 PM2017-04-27T12:06:14-04:002017-04-27T12:06:14-04:00CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member2527290<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I have found that more often than not, if one is respected, one is liked. Although I agree with the majority of answers here that "being liked" is not in my job description.<br /><br />Although it should be... As should "super cool". :) :)Response by CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 27 at 2017 12:46 PM2017-04-27T12:46:48-04:002017-04-27T12:46:48-04:00SCPO Private RallyPoint Member2527587<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Being respected is paramount in a leader. It is indispensable in the battlefield environment, and that comes from being respected all the way back to basic levels of training. Being liked will surely follow in non-military situations. Case in point: there were officers on my ships who engendered my respect because of the way they respected me as a member of the Navigation Bridge team. They respected my abilities and they let me do my job. In turn, we worked cohesively, still mindful of the officer-enlisted relationship. Now, enter officers who demanded respect only through the gold on their epaulets. They were pompous, omnipotent, and infallible...so they thought. Though I gave them the same 100% effort I did for others, I did not respect them; I merely worked for them when our watches intersected. As for NCOs, I learned from the best NCOs ever. When there was work to do, these E5s and E6s did not sit around with coffee cups in their hands, barking orders. They grabbed a swab or stood in the supply party line passing stores along. They earned my respect, and never lost it.Response by SCPO Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 27 at 2017 1:49 PM2017-04-27T13:49:31-04:002017-04-27T13:49:31-04:00SFC Dennis A.2527704<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Respect, never have to be friends to be able to take care of, train or support the soldiers in my squad or platoon.Response by SFC Dennis A. made Apr 27 at 2017 2:15 PM2017-04-27T14:15:53-04:002017-04-27T14:15:53-04:00SGM Erik Marquez2527844<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Im not opposed to being liked, I prefer to be respected, I worked to earn respect, like comes or not I care little either way.<br />Its called Leadership, not likershipResponse by SGM Erik Marquez made Apr 27 at 2017 2:53 PM2017-04-27T14:53:59-04:002017-04-27T14:53:59-04:00SSG Randall Speck2528018<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Be respected! Be fair, and only as tough as needed to get the job done. Treat your subordinates as adults, don't degrade them, but treat them as their professionals. They'll respect you for that, and come to you for advice. There's a fine line you have to walk between friendship and leadership. I've always said, if you treat a someone like crap, that's what they'll be. If you treat them like they've got some skills, and can bring themselves up, they will. I hope this helps.Response by SSG Randall Speck made Apr 27 at 2017 3:34 PM2017-04-27T15:34:55-04:002017-04-27T15:34:55-04:00SFC Private RallyPoint Member2528065<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Once you earn your respect , you'll be liked.Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 27 at 2017 3:43 PM2017-04-27T15:43:48-04:002017-04-27T15:43:48-04:00SGT Anna Kleinschmidt2528261<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Respect is most important, leading by example is the best way to achieve both. I would never ask anyone to do something I was not willing to do myself. There were times I had to attend to other business but when time permitted getting in there and getting my hands dirty not only built respect but it built morale and likability. It also gave me a chance to learn about potential problems that needed to be dealt with before they became bigger issues like a soldiers financial problembs. Dealing with an issue like that while it's still manageable is much better for everyone involved.Response by SGT Anna Kleinschmidt made Apr 27 at 2017 4:31 PM2017-04-27T16:31:23-04:002017-04-27T16:31:23-04:00LTC Private RallyPoint Member2528869<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="691632" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/691632-25u-signal-support-systems-specialist-hht-1-73-cav">SSG Private RallyPoint Member</a> I joined to be a leader not be part of a popularity contest. People do things for people they respect. You can like others all you want but if you do not respect them you will not follow their orders. Part of the reason we separate officer/enlisted and have rules against fraternization.Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 27 at 2017 8:07 PM2017-04-27T20:07:39-04:002017-04-27T20:07:39-04:00SSgt Gary Andrews2529132<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Here is what I found, not just in my military years, but also in my civilian career.......if you have "earned" respect, the like factor will follow closely behind. If you "demand" respect, you will not be liked. If you are not respected and liked, you will be obeyed, but only to the extent your subordinates have to.......if you are respected and liked, your subordinates will go the extra mile for you.......they will crash through brick walls if you ask them to. I recall a fellow manager in my department say the following: "if your employees don't hate your guts, you're not doing your job." I disagreed......telling him that if you are doing your job correctly, your employees will like you and bust their butts for you. I built a successful career based on that leadership philosophy.Response by SSgt Gary Andrews made Apr 27 at 2017 10:25 PM2017-04-27T22:25:12-04:002017-04-27T22:25:12-04:00COL Charles Williams2529286<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="691632" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/691632-25u-signal-support-systems-specialist-hht-1-73-cav">SSG Private RallyPoint Member</a> I hope you are joking... Be a leader is never about being liked... Sure, we all (I am assuming) want to be liked. But, that is not why we do what do. We are respected by virtue of our rank and position. My hope was also to be respected for my skills, abilities and competence, and for caring... really actually caring. I did not worry about being liked.Response by COL Charles Williams made Apr 27 at 2017 11:43 PM2017-04-27T23:43:23-04:002017-04-27T23:43:23-04:00CPT Private RallyPoint Member2529347<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Being respected.Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 28 at 2017 12:37 AM2017-04-28T00:37:32-04:002017-04-28T00:37:32-04:00LT Brad McInnis2529413<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Respect. No contest.Response by LT Brad McInnis made Apr 28 at 2017 1:20 AM2017-04-28T01:20:47-04:002017-04-28T01:20:47-04:00MGySgt James Forward2531405<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Respect is always first. Being liked will get folks killed when it gets time to rack n roll. Semper Fi.Response by MGySgt James Forward made Apr 28 at 2017 5:35 PM2017-04-28T17:35:22-04:002017-04-28T17:35:22-04:00CWO3 Private RallyPoint Member3212339<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Being Loyal, Faithful and Just to your men and women under Your Command. That’s Leadership 101!Response by CWO3 Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 30 at 2017 8:31 PM2017-12-30T20:31:55-05:002017-12-30T20:31:55-05:00SFC Christopher Taggart3212506<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>In the military, being respected is priority one. I think once a soldier becomes a SSG or above, he or she tends to be liked a lot less…even with their peers…at least that was my experience. The SSGs or SFCs in my circle never even knew my first name, not that I expected them to call me by my first name. The two civilian supervisors that I’ve had since leaving the military have allowed me to be comfortable with them, without losing the respect of their position. I still referred to them as “Mr. So-and-so” until they said otherwise.Response by SFC Christopher Taggart made Dec 30 at 2017 10:18 PM2017-12-30T22:18:54-05:002017-12-30T22:18:54-05:002017-04-26T14:06:24-04:00