Candor, Character or Confidence...which is most important for a person display in relationships? Why?

SFC Stephen King — Sun, 22 May 2016 09:10:12 -0400

Response by SFC Joe S. Davis Jr., MSM, DSL made May 22 at 2016 9:18 AM

SFC Joe S. Davis Jr., MSM, DSL — Sun, 22 May 2016 09:18:40 -0400

SFC Stephen King they all our important, however I was embedded in 1989 in BCT, to display honesty first and foremost. Candor (the quality of being open and honest in expression; frankness) as step one. If you can't respect something or someone what the purpose. Great depiction. I was raised on the 4 Cs: courage, competence, candor and confidence. It actually was a question on my E-5 promotion board back in 1993. Wow 23 years later I see it again. Awesome read and share.

Response by SSgt Terry P. made May 22 at 2016 9:29 AM

SSgt Terry P. — Sun, 22 May 2016 09:29:36 -0400

SFC Stephen King I suspect that most will say all of them.
Candor to me is very important and usually takes care of the other two,if a person is honest,they usually are confident and of good character.J.M.O.

Response by CPT John Sheridan made May 22 at 2016 9:42 AM

CPT John Sheridan — Sun, 22 May 2016 09:42:51 -0400

Candor, because trust matters above all. Character always sounds good, but requires further definition and is somewhat subjective. Confidence comes with trust.

Response by Cpl Mark A. Morris made May 22 at 2016 10:09 AM

Cpl Mark A. Morris — Sun, 22 May 2016 10:09:09 -0400

Great question,

Character, a solid one of Honor, will have the consistent appearance of all three words combined. Show me a person with character and I will show you a person that also has candor and confidence.

Let me hear your War Cry!

Mark A. Morris BS, RDMS, RVT

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made May 22 at 2016 10:28 AM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 22 May 2016 10:28:26 -0400

I would say Character. As others have stated, the other two are embodied in Character.

Response by SFC Stephen King made May 22 at 2016 11:18 AM

SFC Stephen King — Sun, 22 May 2016 11:18:51 -0400

“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”
John Wooden

Response by SFC Stephen King made May 22 at 2016 11:28 AM

SFC Stephen King — Sun, 22 May 2016 11:28:46 -0400

"If you reward candor, you'll get it." Jack Welch

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made May 22 at 2016 12:13 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 22 May 2016 12:13:57 -0400

Character, as it is an internal depiction of how one will guide themselves in situations that are challenging and cannot be faked. If one has questionable character, it will display it's self at some point. One of the reasons the Army focused on professionalism and more specifically character recently.

Response by Capt Michael Greene made May 22 at 2016 12:14 PM

Capt Michael Greene — Sun, 22 May 2016 12:14:13 -0400

I would normally say that a solid character is the most valuable asset a person can have. But out of compassion, I discovered that between enforcing rules or nurturing relationships, it's best to think "relationship before rules." (Do not apply in war. In war, it's always mission first.)

Response by SGT Paul Mackay made May 22 at 2016 1:02 PM

SGT Paul Mackay — Sun, 22 May 2016 13:02:18 -0400

character

Response by CPT Joseph K Murdock made May 22 at 2016 2:58 PM

CPT Joseph K Murdock — Sun, 22 May 2016 14:58:24 -0400

Character is the cornerstone.

Response by CSM Darieus ZaGara made May 22 at 2016 3:13 PM

CSM Darieus ZaGara — Sun, 22 May 2016 15:13:59 -0400

One without the other does not allow for a complete personality, frankly more traits should be added to the list. I guess I cheated by saying all, Candor for me would take the lead! Candor can only be had when one is Confident, which depicts Character. Great post!!!

Response by SSG Roger Ayscue made May 22 at 2016 10:21 PM

SSG Roger Ayscue — Sun, 22 May 2016 22:21:16 -0400

Character

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made May 22 at 2016 10:58 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 22 May 2016 22:58:14 -0400

Candor, Character more than Confidence. I can teach confidence, the other two I've found to be most reliable when they are innate to the person.

Response by MCPO Private RallyPoint Member made May 23 at 2016 1:01 AM

MCPO Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 23 May 2016 01:01:58 -0400

Candor.

If you speak honestly, you aren't going to be lying and displaying anything short of good character. If you speak honestly, you have no choice but to speak with confidence - even when you are ignorant about a specific situation (you'll readily admit that you're out of your league!).

That's just my ten cents, because my two cents are free.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made May 23 at 2016 6:12 AM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 23 May 2016 06:12:13 -0400

Candor would be #1 for Military relationships but competence would be my #1 work-wise. If you can use candor you already got the other two

Response by Col Rebecca Lorraine made May 23 at 2016 6:51 AM

Col Rebecca Lorraine — Mon, 23 May 2016 06:51:14 -0400

Character, although used as a positive, could also be associated with a negative: he/she was a "shady", "boisterous" or "deceitful" character, so honesty is always the best policy! The adjective describing type of character is more important.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made May 23 at 2016 10:55 AM

CPT Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 23 May 2016 10:55:35 -0400

Definitely Character. You can build Confidence, you can teach Candor, but Character is harder to fix.