Do you ever struggle with feeling like you haven't done enough in your military career?

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 17:29:08 -0500

Response by CPT Jack Durish made Feb 12 at 2016 5:33 PM

CPT Jack Durish — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 17:33:49 -0500

I struggle with survivor's guilt for not getting my ass shot off like a good infantryman. No joke. I screwed up my military career by bullying senior officers I served under in a division headquarters because I wasn't where "I belonged"

Response by SFC Derrick Harris made Feb 12 at 2016 5:35 PM

SFC Derrick Harris — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 17:35:54 -0500

Yes I do everyday

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 12 at 2016 5:38 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 17:38:43 -0500

No.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 12 at 2016 5:38 PM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 17:38:48 -0500

At times. It seems I am always "just missing" this deployment or "just short" for this school. But then I look back and realize that I have done a bunch of stuff. It just hasn't been the cool stuff I thought I would be doing in the military. I get mobilized about once a year for some State Active Duty assignment. So I figure while I haven't deployed OCONUSI I have still made a difference. I am okay with that

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 12 at 2016 5:51 PM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 17:51:04 -0500

SFC Villines, I find myself thinking about that more every day. But honestly, think about it for second. Whether you serve in the reserves or active-duty, the fact is you are part of less than 1% of this country that serves in the Armed Forces. That may not be enough for some people, including myself, but it's still something that is unique to only us. What I do is volunteer as much as I can from my reserve unit. Even if it's only showing up Friday and volunteering your time helping with administrative tasks, every little bit you do commits to the cause and the mission.

Response by 1LT Ryan Millican made Feb 12 at 2016 5:51 PM

1LT Ryan Millican — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 17:51:22 -0500

Everyday, I wish that I was an awesome E7 that moved up the ranks pretty dang quick and if I would I would reclass to a 13 series, would probably be a CSM one day.....

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 12 at 2016 6:08 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 18:08:56 -0500

Being in the national guard I wish everyday I could do more then I already do. I want at least a deployment and more time in my MOS doing CBRN. I will continue trying to accomplish more then the next day.

Response by MSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 12 at 2016 6:18 PM

MSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 18:18:03 -0500

There are some things that I would have done different. Maybe plotted a different path on how I got there.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 12 at 2016 6:18 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 18:18:11 -0500

I took alot of "sacrifice bunts" for the better of my Soldiers....which in turn stoped me from promotions, awards and better evals. Also some self inflicted wounds. But I'm happy with my career and the privilege of serving with some of the best Americans.

Response by COL Mike Humphrey made Feb 12 at 2016 6:28 PM

COL Mike Humphrey — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 18:28:43 -0500

I think about that everyday. I have led and mentored a lot of people officer and enlisted. Many have succeeded with their career but many have failed. I wonder if I had just spent a little more time or did something different if that person would have succeeded. I have had soldiers that were under my command get wounded or killed. And I wonder if I did something different would the outcome be different. I do think that this is normal, especially for leaders that sincerely care about the people he's working with.

Response by SGT Dave Tracy made Feb 12 at 2016 6:50 PM

SGT Dave Tracy — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 18:50:35 -0500

At times I feel like I really haven't lived up to my "purpose" in the Army.

Response by CW4 Russ Hamilton (Ret) made Feb 12 at 2016 7:00 PM

CW4 Russ Hamilton (Ret) — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 19:00:35 -0500

My career has endured for 37 years (so far), so I have had a long time to reflect on what I’ve done. What I struggle with is wondering if I did everything I could when it came to helping fellow Soldiers or other servicemembers who were in need of help, professionally or personally. I’ve been at a point where I don’t worry much about consequences to my career for a long time – I don’t need that promotion, medal or top block evaluation. I think I’ve always placed the needs of others above my own but over the last ten years or so I’ve stuck my neck out there a little farther than in the past. Maybe I’m a little guilty of my own following criticism. Hopefully, no leader’s first thought is their own career when it comes to providing assistance that may not be “popular” when help is needed but unfortunately, we have many “leaders” who ARE more concerned about themselves and their career than with doing the right thing. Hindsight is always 20/20. I suppose the lesson to be learned is to never forget and apply past experiences to the future. To answer your question: If you know you’ve done your best, I don’t think you should be worried about whether you’ve done enough or not. If you haven’t done your best – start now.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 12 at 2016 7:17 PM

SSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 19:17:58 -0500

I enlisted under the assumption that I would do route clearance. I did manage to get a deployment, but ended up trapped on a FOB for the entire time. I applied for extension three times, but nothing came of it. We're going through "reset" year for the third time in my career. So, I have been quite disappointed in my experience so far, but I don't feel too bad because it hasn't been for lack of effort on my part.

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 12 at 2016 7:35 PM

Sgt Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 19:35:36 -0500

I only served four years but put forth maximum effort during that time. I regret fallen comrades, but not my service. You should be proud that you are a Sergeant First Class and are serving your country with honor. Thank you for keeping our country strong!

Response by SGT Richard H. made Feb 12 at 2016 7:37 PM

SGT Richard H. — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 19:37:20 -0500

I do, because I did 9 years and to this day, I still feel like I should have done 25. With that said, I gave everything I had to give except my life and limbs for those 9 years, so I'm proud of that.

Response by SGM (R) Antonio Brown made Feb 12 at 2016 7:46 PM

SGM (R) Antonio Brown — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 19:46:33 -0500

The thought once crossed my mind and then I wokeup. I did everything that I wanted to and some things that were not in my job description. When I retire I will be able to say that I left my alll on the field.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 12 at 2016 8:09 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 20:09:24 -0500

No I am very happy with what I have done.

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 12 at 2016 8:27 PM

1SG Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 20:27:43 -0500

You must have done something right to be almost an E-8 in our low density MOS. What kinds of things do you feel you are missing? I know that I always feel that I don't do enough to push back on pressing CBRN training in this era of "no apparent threat". I think part of my similar feeling lies in the fact that for most of my career I have been in instructor and non-mos specific positions and have sometimes felt like a glorified cage rat.

Response by SGM Mikel Dawson made Feb 12 at 2016 8:54 PM

SGM Mikel Dawson — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 20:54:06 -0500

At times I used to, but not anymore. I can look back over my career and smile. Yes I did the best job I could at every task I was assigned. Many times I wasn't where I wanted to be, doing something I'd rather not be doing, but the task was completed and done the best I could. I don't know what more I could have done, unless during "my" war I could have been with a 11B or 12B unit instead of being stuck in a HQ.

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Feb 12 at 2016 9:14 PM

MAJ Ken Landgren — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 21:14:11 -0500

Yes, to be a perfectionist means there is disappointment.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 12 at 2016 9:21 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 21:21:32 -0500

You are definitely "preaching to the choir." If I just hadn't gotten out for those five years, I would be retiring in four. But I'm definitely catching up with things such as military education. Because of my break, I might as well just try to stay in as long as the Army wishes to keep me.

Response by SPC James Dollins made Feb 12 at 2016 10:06 PM

SPC James Dollins — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 22:06:50 -0500

Everyday!

Response by COL Charles Williams made Feb 12 at 2016 11:27 PM

COL Charles Williams — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 23:27:00 -0500

No, I did not. Hopefully neither did you SFC Private RallyPoint Member! Thanks for your service!!!

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2016 2:39 AM

CPT Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 13 Feb 2016 02:39:31 -0500

Yes and no. I have had a great career as enlisted and an officer. There are schools I'd liked to have gone to like Ranger School. But those are minor regrets. Mostly, In proud to have served and have my peers' respect. Everything else is just gravy.

Response by PO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2016 7:08 AM

PO1 Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 13 Feb 2016 07:08:49 -0500

Yes i do. But think about this no matter how much or how little you still matter. Also I tell my Marines who have not deployed that it just because they have not been called to. Same with rank or anything else. As long as you can be proud of what you have done and you should be dam proud of your accomplishments then thays all that matters. Do we all wish we were Chesty Puller or Gen Patton yes we do but to be honest just be thankfull for the time spend or spending and your good to go.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2016 7:51 AM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 13 Feb 2016 07:51:09 -0500

Thank you all very much for the responses, I was just wondering if I was alone in feeling like this time to time. I serve with great people and I definitely love the 142nd FA, but there is so much more
I wish I had done. I am for the most part, proud of what I've done so far.

Response by CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2016 9:40 AM

CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 13 Feb 2016 09:40:33 -0500

There are definitely moments that I think that "I shuda/cuda/wuda.." But, all roads led to today. I am incredibly happy and every time that I witness an impact based on my lending a hand, I am immensely fulfilled.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2016 10:37 AM

SSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 13 Feb 2016 10:37:58 -0500

Hi, SFC Villines.
Daily. I've been out since 2002, but my commitment to my country, my military, and my team will never falter.

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2016 10:38 AM

1SG Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 13 Feb 2016 10:38:12 -0500

There have been a lot of wins, but I remember the ones that got away, too. The Soldiers who could have went either way, and chose to go wrong despite my best effort.
I think of a young Soldier I once had that had come up hot for marijuana. She had once been a pretty good Soldier, but met the wrong boyfriend and he got her into all sorts of trouble. I think just about everyone in the company told her he was no good, but she wouldn't leave him. One day, she showed up missing a tooth, broken finger, black eye, and bruised all over. I sat her down, and intervened about as much as I possibly could to get her to realize she couldn't go back to him. She seemed to listen... and then went back to him.
I don't know what I could have done different, but she and others like her haunt, because caring for my Soldiers isn't just a catchphrase for me.

Response by PFC Tuan Trang made Feb 13 at 2016 11:21 AM

PFC Tuan Trang — Sat, 13 Feb 2016 11:21:44 -0500

There gonna be time where we feel like we useless, but like i tell everyone, since the moment you sign the contract to be that 1%, you already doing something usefull.

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Feb 13 at 2016 5:15 PM

MAJ Ken Landgren — Sat, 13 Feb 2016 17:15:05 -0500

It is easy to reflect on something or someone who you were emotionally connected and say, "If I was just only a better son, father, or soldier." There is much truth to that as some of us demand perfection, but we were often unable to know what perfection was or how to attain it. We know it now, but the ship is gone, what was said and done in the past is molded into eternity.

Sometimes the best we can do is to forgive ourselves for not being the son your parents deserved, not being more attentive to a girlfriend, or knowing you were dumb enough to make your life hard enough. Here is my suggestion: Hang up your boots and cap. Get on the ship called life and throw that ANCHOR CALLED GUILT AND CUT THE CHAIN. Look stoically to what is in your horizon and sale to it. Regrets and guilt are nothing but worthless anchors that make you live in the past. Good luck my friend.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2016 11:47 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 13 Feb 2016 23:47:04 -0500

I think about that all the time. I think how I could have been I better leader or how i should have delt with situations differently. Never made, what I felt, was the wrong decision but maybe the lack of stepping up when I knew something was jacked up. Somethings I tried to change things but couldn't.

Response by SGM Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 14 at 2016 12:02 PM

SGM Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 14 Feb 2016 12:02:11 -0500

Nope, that went away around the time that I realized that I have another family at home. Sometimes the military views us as a natural resource and when it has received the best from you and there is no more to give, it moves on. What else can it do. So, I do the best I can and I am pushing toward my 27th year. They haven't used me up yet and I still have more to give.
Do yourself a favor, look forward to the difference you can make in the lives of others with what ever time you have left. Do NOT think about what you wished you would have done different. Don't wast your precious energy on that. Instead point it toward tomorrow and think about what you can influence for the better.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 15 at 2016 10:21 AM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 15 Feb 2016 10:21:39 -0500

All the time. But for me that's a good thing. Gives me the motivation to do more. It's a curse and a blessing. I prefer to use our as a blessing.

Response by PO1 David Richardson made Feb 16 at 2016 8:55 AM

PO1 David Richardson — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 08:55:06 -0500

No, I don't. Comparing ourselves with one another is common in the military...because of its competitive nature. However at the end of the day I know that I've done my level best. I've given a service to my country, one that I'm proud of ...not because of number of awards I've received nor accomplishments, but because I know that I gave all that I could.

Response by MSG Timothy Smith made Feb 16 at 2016 10:44 AM

MSG Timothy Smith — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 10:44:41 -0500

After having been an E-8 in a CSH, it isn't that I felt I had done enough, rather that I was underutilized. CSH's are notorious for being nurse oriented, and I was a 68P.

Response by SSG(P) Brian Kliesen made Feb 16 at 2016 10:54 AM

SSG(P) Brian Kliesen — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 10:54:07 -0500

As a reservist, I feel this all the time. I have been in 10 years as a 68W and haven't been a medic yet. I have been mobilized twice CONUS as a clerk and was in a useless position for a year each time. I was on the volunteer list for 3 years, but my unit couldn't get their act together to get me out. When I tried to do it myself the unit went batshit crazy about jumping the chain of command. I try my best to train my soldiers but am constantly caught in the 'required training' and power points that come down from above that prevent me from completing useful training that will prepare my soldiers for the future.

Response by SCPO Don Baker made Feb 16 at 2016 11:57 AM

SCPO Don Baker — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 11:57:10 -0500

I think a lot of us think/thought about that subject at one time or another. Myself, now retired, I'm not upset with my career choices.

Response by PO1 Marc Trepanier made Feb 16 at 2016 12:03 PM

PO1 Marc Trepanier — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 12:03:49 -0500

SFC, I think that most, if not all, of us ask that question. Perhaps there is some "survivor's guilt" with it. I know that I feel that. I want to point out a few things.

First, you have done more for our country and our Army than every American citizen and most Troops. You have nothing to feel ashamed of or doubt your service.

Second, You served your time honorably. You made SFC. That would not have come if the Military did not have confidence in you and your skills. You embodied the Army's Be-Know-Do philosophy.

Third, you were a leader of Men and Women. They trusted in you. They looked up to you. They followed your lead and command. They have, no doubt, become better troops due to you.

Finally, and I say this as an intelligence professional with 12 years from in th weeds and bush to theater level experience, there are limitations to what one man can do. There is no doubt that you met and exceeded every expectation put to you. Still, there is only so much that one man can do.

With All Due Respect,
PO1 Marc Trepanier

Response by LTC Larry Morris made Feb 16 at 2016 12:17 PM

LTC Larry Morris — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 12:17:17 -0500

Everyday.
I honesty think about "shoulda, coulda, woulda" on just about everything that I did while wearing the uniform. I know it is not healthy, and I know that I did some good, not so good things, but it is just the way I can process the 32 years of service, in active, reserve, and national guard duty. I still wish that I was in the "mix" and contributing to the cause, but now all I can do is think of how I can help veterans and how I can get active with organizations that can use my "help".

Response by SSG Jerry Chlarson made Feb 16 at 2016 12:28 PM

SSG Jerry Chlarson — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 12:28:06 -0500

A simple "Yes" for me.

Response by SFC Carlos Gamino made Feb 16 at 2016 2:23 PM

SFC Carlos Gamino — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 14:23:09 -0500

At the end of the day or career you must ask yourself, was I selfish or was my family first. Sometimes we just focus on ourselves.

Response by SSG Jerry Eidson made Feb 16 at 2016 2:59 PM

SSG Jerry Eidson — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 14:59:11 -0500

I would say "HELL YES"!!!! Being a CBRN NCO in a combat arms unit seems to get stuck in the rut. Same old S3 shop doing land and ammo or training.. Etc. DA wasn't to helpful for me. I was able to be an instructor and loved the job.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 16 at 2016 3:44 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 15:44:16 -0500

I believe the question is, Can I advance in my career and will the military have the funds to send me to schools? I may be Mday but I'm over the hump by far (16) I'm at a stand still with my state and the system. I would like to be a E7 but it seems to far away because of funding and a wait status for the whole time your waiting for a slot to be open. It's frustrating when I'm a squared away soldier and get nothing. I love to hate the military because I loved it for so long.

Response by SFC Carlos Gamino made Feb 16 at 2016 3:50 PM

SFC Carlos Gamino — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 15:50:59 -0500

The only struggle was keeping my family together. At some point selfishness controls a military lifestyle. Maybe it was all about me, because it benefited me more. I should have done more for my daughters, like not missed their birthdays, graduations and important events in their lives. So no, There is no struggle.

Response by LTC Thomas Rumsey made Feb 16 at 2016 4:07 PM

LTC Thomas Rumsey — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 16:07:00 -0500

Every minute of every day...as a great soldier once told me..."life is about making the best decisions you can with the information you have at the time...and spending the rest of your life managing regret". We all have regrets...just do your best to manage them well and if needed, get help...the brothers you had there are here as well.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 16 at 2016 4:14 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 16:14:01 -0500

As a reservist, I am always surprised when my leader ship tells me put in for a promotion. I really don' think I have accomplished much in my career. However, when I compare myself to other E7 reservists. I am surprised how any of us get promoted. LOL but I'm told that I'm to self critical.

Response by LCpl Zane Enright made Feb 16 at 2016 4:14 PM

LCpl Zane Enright — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 16:14:53 -0500

Everyday. I got a DUI after my first deployment. I was set to pick up E-4 and ended up getting busted down I was only able to make E-3 back before getting out. I tried to get back in but they wouldn't take me because of the DUI. Also upset I didn't stay in for 1 more deployment. I did Iraq, wish I would have went to Afghanistan too.

Response by Sgt Sherry Taylor-Bruce made Feb 16 at 2016 4:57 PM

Sgt Sherry Taylor-Bruce — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 16:57:34 -0500

When talking to other veterans or civilians I find the term you only served 4 years comes up often. To civilians I think, yeah four more than you. To retiree's I say I got out after four years to raise our two kids. Being stationed at the same base isn't a sure thing.
Regarding MY military service, my AFSC was Base Supply. My husband was aircraft maintenance. Most would think my field is boring. I never thought it was, in a flying wing when a plane is grounded because you don't have a part to fix it you are in a MICAP situation (mission incapable). My husband's friends actually thought I could help them get their parts faster. It was kind of exciting seeing items come in from a truck or plane, be processed and delivered to the end user within minutes. I even enjoyed driving the fork lifts.
I liken all of our service experiences to verses in the Bible describing us as parts of the body (of Christ). We all can't be brains or hearts or legs and arms. Some of us need to be big toes, supporting the body and providing balance. So, I was a big toe in the AirForce but I was a darned good big toe. We helped maintain equipment for the entire base, helped three squadrons of F111 make their sortie goal every month and passed all federal inspections. I feel pretty good about what I did during MY four years. I then became a military spouse which enabled my husband to complete twenty one years active duty.

Now that I'm 57 I feel fulfilled as a "Big Toe" by volunteering for the Cancer society, my Church's Veterans program, and the VA. My AMVETS Post goes to our local VA Nursing Facility weekly to play Bingo with the Vets there. On a weekly basis I visit with Vietnam and WWII Veterans. My favorite's are John and Maxine who are both 98 years old and sharp as a tack!
So if you don't feel like you did enough or the right things, there is still time (you're not dead yet). You can do more or the right things. VOLUNTEER!

Response by SFC Casey O'Mally made Feb 16 at 2016 5:19 PM

SFC Casey O'Mally — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 17:19:55 -0500

I guess you have to answer the question of what "enough" is, first. What is "enough?" A certain rank? A certain award (or number of awards)? Maybe a specific achievement (Sergeant Audie Murphy Club?) Saving a life? Changing a life? Maybe just surviving for a certain number of years with honorable service is "enough?"

I honestly feel like this isn't a "professional" question, but a personal one. The answer will change for each individual.

I think we all, at times, struggle with this question. Even Audie Murphy at times thought he hadn't done enough. The only real answer is to go out and do the best we can every day. Work hard, make the hard choices, and do the right thing. Even if we don't think it is "enough" today, over the long haul it is more than enough.

Response by SgtMaj Patrick Wilkinson made Feb 16 at 2016 6:17 PM

SgtMaj Patrick Wilkinson — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 18:17:32 -0500

If you have had a positive impact on the lives of your Marines, or in your case your soldiers, and made the units that you have been a part of combat effective, then you have nothing to question

Response by SSG John Jensen made Feb 16 at 2016 6:26 PM

SSG John Jensen — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 18:26:46 -0500

No, 29 yrs, 4 MOSs, all spt. Abn Medic in the eighty-deuce, intell weenie in a Bde Hqs (Pvt- E-6) Truck mechanic, Truck Driver (deployed in HETs), no ribbons to speak of, but Jump Wings, EFMB, and CAB.

any idiot can study tactics, professionals study logistics - murphy's laws of combat

Response by SGT Tim Fridley made Feb 16 at 2016 6:51 PM

SGT Tim Fridley — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 18:51:30 -0500

I think we have all taken "sacrifice bunts" for our soldiers. Personally seeing my Soldiers get awards and promotions and becoming leaders that was satisfaction enough for me knowing I had a hand in it

Response by Amn Michael McClung made Feb 16 at 2016 7:24 PM

Amn Michael McClung — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 19:24:14 -0500

I was an E-2, Airman, with less than a year with service. I felt terrible, like a coward, while my friends deployed, some into combat, while I got sent home. I was discharged Honorably, as a result of medical stuff. But it really, really bothered me for a while.

As time has gone on, I have found pride in my brief service- I witnessed history by experiencing the infamous Lackland abuse scandal- And, I introduced my best friend from back home to my best friend from the USAF, and they are getting married this year. Despite its briefness, my service did matter. NOW, the toughness and perseverance I learned from the military is helping me succeed in my new career- becoming a chef.

Its not what you sacrifice that matters, its how it makes you strong in other parts of your life and the lessons you learn and the lives you touch. Its not a cock measuring contest.

Response by SGT Ken Price made Feb 16 at 2016 7:31 PM

SGT Ken Price — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 19:31:17 -0500

I served under comrade carter, so I have tremendous guilt that we were not allowed to rescue our hostages in Iran. This brought great shame to the PRDF, thinking we served under a true CIC. I have further shame over Zaire, where again we we turned away from helping.

Response by SSgt Jamie Ritter LeBlanc made Feb 16 at 2016 7:46 PM

SSgt Jamie Ritter LeBlanc — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 19:46:54 -0500

Set goals for yourself and judge yourself by that.

Response by TSgt Gerald Wilson made Feb 16 at 2016 8:51 PM

TSgt Gerald Wilson — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 20:51:03 -0500

After 20 years of service, 4000 flight hours, and after having seen a spouse take her own life, my question on reading that is, 'Haven't done enough for who?' We take from our families to give to the military. And our families forfeit our presence and love and influence year after year 200, even 300 days a year trusting OUR assumption that OUR service is a calling worth THEIR sacrifice. And in very many cases, the bottom drops out understandably; the service member remains stalwartly true to the cause and finally hears those words "publish the order." But the spouse and children are not there. Gone for good. Is that a success? We each have to decide. So, in answer to the question, I say, "NO I haven't done enough" for a few people who truly matter. As to whether I did enough for the Air Force, my conscience is clear.

Response by SGT Greg Gold made Feb 16 at 2016 9:00 PM

SGT Greg Gold — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 21:00:50 -0500

Sometimes, but then i remember that even in a large war not everyone gets to deploy to the combat zone. I tried three times to have an active duty career or get deployed to where the 'action' was. What did I get for it? Two medical retirements, (one was TDRL), and permanent disability in the form of nerve damage. Everyone gives, that's why it's called serving. The important thing is that you held up your right hand and swore in.

Response by SSG Angela Madoux made Feb 17 at 2016 12:13 AM

SSG Angela Madoux — Wed, 17 Feb 2016 00:13:53 -0500

I think for me personally there is always a struggle. I feel that as an NCO I put forth the best possible effort for my Soldiers, and I feel good about that aspect of my career. My internal struggle is more related to my MOS as a Practical Nurse. The last six years of my career I spent working in the Burn ICU in San Antonio. Although many Soldiers, Sailors, Marines, and Airmen that I cared for have survived, there are those who have not. I see them in my mind and know I will always wonder if there was something more I could have done to prevent that outcome. All I can say is that as long as you gave 100% then that's all any of us can really do. Many people never serve, in my opinion those of us who do have already done more than enough.

Response by CWO2 Shelby DuBois made Feb 17 at 2016 10:50 AM

CWO2 Shelby DuBois — Wed, 17 Feb 2016 10:50:27 -0500

Briefly, and only briefly. Hindsight is great and sometimes dangerous. Don't beat yourself up over what you could have done.. that's over... be proud of what you accomplished. Every Marine I know has an "I love me" wall... It's his own testament to himself. It's braggadocios and even arrogant, but it's not for the family....not for friends or passers by who to look at and stare at with awe. It's a place where Marines can glance up and instantly feel the camaraderie, the history and that feeling one gets when we realize we'll never go there again.. but at that time and that place.. it was special. Feel good about what you've done..for yourself. Anyone who put on a uniform and served with pride and dignity has already paid a price..don't make that price any higher than it already is.

Response by Cpl Dale Harvey made Feb 18 at 2016 2:23 AM

Cpl Dale Harvey — Thu, 18 Feb 2016 02:23:49 -0500

I feel that way cause my career was cut short due to medical problems

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 18 at 2016 1:17 PM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 18 Feb 2016 13:17:01 -0500

Frequently. I spend 11 months on the line, and then got sent to POG central Fort Jackson.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 18 at 2016 1:21 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 18 Feb 2016 13:21:17 -0500

yes, i could've been a better fsg, had done the schooling, i could've been a good csm i could have done a lot but time and training are limitted when in the reseveres, of course there is the problem when you have co that doesnt care looking for his own way out and a unit that is so f'd up nothing you do will help, ? i retired

Response by SCPO Clark Gertner made Feb 18 at 2016 3:33 PM

SCPO Clark Gertner — Thu, 18 Feb 2016 15:33:38 -0500

If you don't regularly feel that way, you'll never be a top notch Senior NCO. You become better by constantly questioning and re-evaluating yourself, and trying to improve. Observing how others you respect manage various situations will also help you grow. NEVER stop learning, NEVER stop improving.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 18 at 2016 7:47 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 18 Feb 2016 19:47:55 -0500

I absolutely enjoy the time I've served, ups downs, whatever each may be. I have met some interesting people throughout my journey and am grateful for all of the schools I have gone to, I am also blessed by the places I've been (even the bad ones). I guess I feel that I just have done enough or am where I want to be at this point in time, I have a love of learning, and a love of leading. There are a few more schools I would like to get before I'm too old or retire, but the funding for the guard kind of stops all of those things from happening, I'm hoping the cuts end rather soon. I thank everyone for their answers and I am glad I'm not alone, thank you all for the alternative ways to view things, it all makes sense.

Response by Lt Col Kurtis Sutley made Feb 18 at 2016 8:31 PM

Lt Col Kurtis Sutley — Thu, 18 Feb 2016 20:31:16 -0500

I used to. Then I figured out that God had me right where He wanted me, not where I wanted to be.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 18 at 2016 9:09 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 18 Feb 2016 21:09:58 -0500

I did for a long time. I was always after more. Then I started going thru the retirement process and sat down and really started looking at what I've done in my career. Hard to believe between the schools, deployments, leadership roles, and Soldiers that I've influenced to strive for so much more than they thought they could accomplish that's it's soon coming to a end. It is a real eye opener. Yes there are things I wish I could have done, but you know what they say about wishing....

For me the hardest part is going to be hanging up the uniform, and throwing the boots over the power lines for the last time.

Response by SGT(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 18 at 2016 9:30 PM

SGT(P) Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 18 Feb 2016 21:30:20 -0500

Yes, I did. Now I'm doing it. I started off working my way up in the Navy during the 90's. Did 8 years. I knew E7 was going to be impossible unless someone died, so I got out. After getting out, I heard soooo many stories from the front. I felt like I didn't do shit because I was on a ship the whole time. 5 1/2 years at sea. Flash forward to age 39. I went back to basic training for the Army. I TOLD the recruiter that unless I can get in an Airborne Infantry batt, I'm not even coming back in. I helped stand my unit up and am still here doing it. Love every minute. Just wish I did this first when I was 20. But, even now, I still feel like I haven't given enough. I will do this until they tell me I can't. AATW!!

Response by Sgt Tom Cunnally made Feb 19 at 2016 4:52 AM

Sgt Tom Cunnally — Fri, 19 Feb 2016 04:52:24 -0500

This is a very great question. I was accepted for OCS but instead accepted an offer to work on the Apollo Program in Downey CA. & discharged from the Marine Corps. I have often thought that was a big mistake and should have gone to OCS and done more in my military career. Also just a few days after discharge 45 guys in my Company landed in Pleiku South Vietnam. Something that has made me struggle for a long time.

Response by SGT Robert Cupp made Feb 21 at 2016 3:20 PM

SGT Robert Cupp — Sun, 21 Feb 2016 15:20:47 -0500

I always wanted to go to airborne and air assault but I was a pog in my 20's and it was way harder to get schools. Then I reclassed to 11b and we got a deployment to Qatar, WTF!

Response by Maj Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 21 at 2016 9:39 PM

Maj Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 21 Feb 2016 21:39:58 -0500

No because I have given it my best

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 2 at 2016 9:50 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 02 Mar 2016 21:50:05 -0500

I've had the thought, that I've done all the things a good NCO does to better my career. I've been a PSG, 1SG, lots of staff time. When it's all said and done, it's not about me, it's about the Soldiers I influence, to make them better than me.

Response by CPO Michael Callegri made Mar 7 at 2016 3:40 PM

CPO Michael Callegri — Mon, 07 Mar 2016 15:40:20 -0500

All the comments are great and all are true. I also had that thought, but for me the thing that has made me realize that I did everything that I was supposed to do, when I have those that have worked under me before that have sought me out on Facebook and other sites and thanked me for guiding their careers and watching over them. That alone has made me realize that every one of those "sacrifice bunts" was worth it, so I'd do the same again.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 9 at 2016 7:50 PM

CPT Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 09 Mar 2016 19:50:24 -0500

No deployments! As a Behavioral Health provider who mostly completes assessments and makes sure soldiers get to the next level of care. Love taking care of soldiers, but don't see that I've done that much.

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made May 9 at 2016 9:00 AM

CW2 Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 09 May 2016 09:00:46 -0400

Yes, still working towards being satisfied with what I've done by trying to do more.

Response by PO1 Gerald Sutton made Jul 2 at 2016 4:24 PM

PO1 Gerald Sutton — Sat, 02 Jul 2016 16:24:12 -0400

Every time I look at my retirement box. I always looked out for those assigned to me and gave up a promotion to one with less time in grade, but, he knew the job better than me. It turned out that I retired as a E-6 instead of E-7. I always feel like I should have gone past 20 because one year after retirement 9-11 Happened.

Response by SGT Richard Mower made May 18 at 2017 11:44 PM

SGT Richard Mower — Thu, 18 May 2017 23:44:33 -0400

Yes, had an ROTC scholarship in college and was flying helicopters as my major. Lost focus during my junior year. Went in for three years to pay back my time, but stayed 7 years enlisted. Should have stayed focused and went in as an O1 vs an E1.

Response by LTC Trent Klug made Jan 12 at 2019 11:02 PM

LTC Trent Klug — Sat, 12 Jan 2019 23:02:42 -0500

Some days yes, some days no. There are days where I feel like I should have done a couple more deployments. I am happy with my career. I just started year 35 and will go until MRD in October 2021 (hopefully). I have been enlisted and officer, and I deployed my company twice. The only things I haven't done, and I won't get a chance to do is being a battalion commander and the War College.

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Oct 28 at 2019 5:05 PM

MAJ Ken Landgren — Mon, 28 Oct 2019 17:05:02 -0400

I feel guilty for not serving in a war like WWII, Korean War, and Vietnam War.

Response by SGT Daniel Rocco Ames made Jul 17 at 2021 4:09 PM

SGT Daniel Rocco Ames — Sat, 17 Jul 2021 16:09:51 -0400

When I was about to go through an MEB, my Section was given to another soldier and I was put in charge of the guys chaptering from my unit. One of the soldiers that had just gotten to our unit was struggling very badly with his wife who had just had their first child. They were both about 18 years old. I knew of his issues, and told the soldier that replaced me what was going on, but he decided not to listen and berate the soldier constantly. A few months before my MEB out date, that soldier killed himself in front of his wife and new baby. I wish I had focused more on getting that soldier help.