Do you know who you are outside of the military? How do you make yourself feel relevant (the authentic you) outside the active military you?

Most people become their uniformed persona and struggle to move on after retirement. Many struggle to identify this retired persona and they feel depressed. Do you remain in a military community? Do you join military organizations? Do you go back to work in a military facility? Do you consider finally getting mental health help? Do you have hobbies and friends?