Do you write someone off after one bad mistake?

2016-10-20T12:25:43-04:00

Sunday night I had way too much to drink and posted things that I am ashamed of. Things that are not indicative of myself or how I think at all. I am not making excuses -- I made the decision to drink. I apologize to RP members whom I offended, directly or indirectly.

It will not happen again.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 20 at 2016 12:39 PM

2016-10-20T12:39:00-04:00

IDK what was said but, what ever it was, I forgive you. we all make mistakes.

Response by CSM Michael J. Uhlig made Oct 20 at 2016 12:39 PM

2016-10-20T12:39:41-04:00

At least you have the intestinal fortitude to own your mistake! Aint a dang one of us perfect in here, especially me, continue contributing to the group and taking down targets SN Greg Wright. Glad to see you have the responsibility and accountability to own your behavior. Hooah!

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 20 at 2016 12:40 PM

2016-10-20T12:40:49-04:00

My ex wife wrote me off. But I digress. You state you wrote things you shouldn't have under intoxication.....but here you are with the intestinal fortitude to make amends for your errors. That takes character and courage. I'm good with you.

Response by Sgt Wayne Wood made Oct 20 at 2016 12:41 PM

2016-10-20T12:41:37-04:00

Depends on the mistake.

Response by SSgt Terry P. made Oct 20 at 2016 12:41 PM

2016-10-20T12:41:27-04:00

SN Greg Wright It happens,glad to see you back.

Response by SSG Stephan Pendarvis made Oct 20 at 2016 1:01 PM

2016-10-20T13:01:33-04:00

alcohol is what I call the truth serum...what we really feel...whether right or wrong comes out at those times. Still it takes a honorable person to admit his or her shortcomings. You are ok sir.

Response by SGM Erik Marquez made Oct 20 at 2016 1:58 PM

2016-10-20T13:58:05-04:00

"Do you write someone off after one bad mistake?"
It would depend.....
If said intoxication allowed for the speaking of "mean things" no, that's recoverable... sticks and stones and all that.....
If the level of intoxication and inhibition it brings with it allowed for some inner feelings, memories, thoughts and desires to come forth and we learned the intoxicated person was coveting the neighbor's minor daughter, plotting the death of a former spouse, recalling the terror they felt after sobering up and realizing the damage on the family minivan was from hitting some guy walking home on the side of the freeway last year...then no, that's not recoverable

Response by Cpl Justin Goolsby made Oct 20 at 2016 2:08 PM

2016-10-20T14:08:02-04:00

Well clearly I must have missed something entertaining and you're apologizing publicly, but no I'm not the type of person to write someone off after a bad mistake. It actually takes quite a bit to offend me.

Response by Jordan Gaudard made Oct 20 at 2016 2:14 PM

2016-10-20T14:14:44-04:00

Alcohol is never a good excuse, never use it in your leading statement unless it is follow by, "I am seeking help for my alcohol addiction"

Response by ENS Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 20 at 2016 2:27 PM

2016-10-20T14:27:36-04:00

I must have missed out on all the gun, SN Greg Wright. Good for owning up to your mistakes and identifying the problem. I am often on RallyPoint with a glass of bourbon. Anything more than a glass or two gets me a little hazy. I start to choose my words very carefully because I identify that I am not of "clean mind."

Response by PO1 William "Chip" Nagel made Oct 20 at 2016 2:38 PM

2016-10-20T14:38:00-04:00

Dude! Cousin! You're a Sailor and a Shipmate, I understand being Human, I understand having a bit too much.

Response by SSG Warren Swan made Oct 20 at 2016 2:53 PM

2016-10-20T14:53:43-04:00

I agree with him. Knowing you like I think I do, there is no way I can see you really writing something that is offensive. Now had it been a Marine, Air Force, or Coast Guard joke, I would've joined in, but once you talk about the Army, now it's on! But seriously it takes balls and integrity to come on and apologize. Not many will do it, and most would rather keep going knowing they're wrong, than just chill and tell you I made a mistake. You're good in my book bro.

Response by MGySgt James Forward made Oct 20 at 2016 3:14 PM

2016-10-20T15:14:07-04:00

One mistake should not cause you to written off, it might dig a hole so deep that you can not recover from in your military career. Posting to a blog and being in error is just a sign of immaturity, learn from your mistake and move on. Water that has flowed past you is no longer your concern, let it go. Dwell on the future not the past. We have all been there at one time or another. Semper Fi.

Response by SSG Warren Swan made Oct 20 at 2016 3:34 PM

2016-10-20T15:34:13-04:00

BTW Greg.....it's Thursday.....you're not underway, and you're tied to the pier, so.........offended yet?

Response by MCPO Roger Collins made Oct 20 at 2016 3:55 PM

2016-10-20T15:55:02-04:00

Not necessary, Greg. We've all been there one time or another.

Response by Capt Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 20 at 2016 4:27 PM

2016-10-20T16:27:19-04:00

Darn, I missed the fun again.

Don't know what was said, but sincerely respect your taking responsibility.

Response by MSgt Steven Holt, NRP, CCEMT-P made Oct 20 at 2016 4:35 PM

2016-10-20T16:35:33-04:00

SN Greg Wright, welcome to elite membership to the Club of "Damn, I wish I hadn't said that..."! I've eaten so much crow over the years, I'm starting to develop a taste for it.

If we each are truly honest with ourselves, deep down where no one likes to look in themselves, we ALL have things in our past we're not proud of and wish we could either erase or do differently. The trick is to learn from those mistakes and try to not repeat them. "Let he that is without sin cast the first stone." You'll get no stones heaved your way from me. Use the situation to become a better person. Repeated incidents of the same behavior are no longer "mistakes" but show the true character of the offender.

Response by PO1 Brian Austin made Oct 20 at 2016 8:53 PM

2016-10-20T20:53:29-04:00

You owned up to it, kudo's to you. Most of us have been there at one time or another. No worries here.
Sometimes booze and the internet isn't a very good combo. :)

Response by SFC George Smith made Oct 20 at 2016 11:31 PM

2016-10-20T23:31:37-04:00

depends on How bad the Screwed up and who was effected...

Response by Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 21 at 2016 12:07 AM

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As long as it wasn't me, we're good :D

Response by Maj John Bell made Oct 21 at 2016 3:21 AM

2016-10-21T03:21:27-04:00

You just moved to the top of my list of people write in for President!

Response by PO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 21 at 2016 8:42 AM

2016-10-21T08:42:57-04:00

From someone you don't expect anything to happen (even as small as this), you have to take into considerations of what could be involved. It's also depending on how the person is reacting to what they did and how they are able to amend or try to change from the bad situation.

You're manning up to your mistakes and apologizing for your actions.
You're good with me.
Just don't let drinking get the best of you. We've lost a lot of shipmates and SMs from this.

Response by SPC(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 21 at 2016 1:37 PM

2016-10-21T13:37:43-04:00

Make amends, recover and Charlie Mike

Response by MAJ Raúl Rovira made Oct 21 at 2016 11:54 PM

2016-10-21T23:54:30-04:00

You made a mistake (no one killed or injured), recognized it, and made an honest attempt to make things right, that is good in my book. Keep your spirits up. Very few would do what you just did.

Response by PO1 John Meyer, CPC made Oct 22 at 2016 5:22 PM

2016-10-22T17:22:25-04:00

Everyone makes mistakes, shipmate. It takes a real man/woman to own up to them and apologize.

Response by LTC Jason Mackay made May 19 at 2019 3:37 PM

2019-05-19T15:37:15-04:00

SN Greg Wright you owned it. Everyone has an aweshit.

Response by SSG George Holtje made Nov 19 at 2019 10:42 AM

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I’ve been written off for a minor mistake or not answering fast enough or giving a complete answer in accordance with the FM or a bad mistake or not being a GOB or being a quiet professional or saying if you say it behind my back to my subordinates rather than discuss it with me you’re trying to create a mutinous situation and you’re afraid of me you do not deserve the rank you were probably handed based on poorly perceived potential rather than actual duty performance.
I write off no one for a mistake. I write off no one for admitting they are wrong. I write off no one for being upfront about what they perceive as an issue.