Does it bother you to hear "Thank you for your service!"?

2015-01-21T16:44:45-05:00

All active duty stand down(but don't walk away, this will effect you later) Veterans does it ever bother you to hear that? "Thank you for your service" I apologize but it mmmm...bugs me something awful, telling me " your done go sit down and grow feeble " needs changed to something that endures like we do something like "YO JOE!" or another saying meaning get outta my way theres work to do and I ain't done yet! Forgive if I wasted your time, just wondering.

Response by CW5 Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 21 at 2015 4:50 PM

2015-01-21T16:50:15-05:00

No, SPC Larry Buck. I don't think that's offensive at all. My goodness, folks are thanking you for defending their freedom, for serving our country. It's all good. I don't take it in a negative way at all, no way no how. Thank me for my service any time you like.

Response by LTC Stephen C. made Jan 21 at 2015 4:51 PM

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SPC Larry Buck, I just think most people are genuinely grateful and trying to say something nice. I wouldn't object.

Response by SPC Larry Buck made Jan 21 at 2015 5:22 PM

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Don't get me wrong but I personally feel I could have done more than I did, and as I am going to start discussing it may be a reverse case of PTSD that I didn't want out, but it hurts me cause well I simply don't see it from there point of view, it's unprofessional behavior to say that and I apologize but to feel as I do, gives me questions to feel good about it, first one.. get back to work, so that as they say it it actually means something to my situation cause if feel disrespectful or a user ,they deserve thanks I don't cause " all gave some and some gave all" I didn't really do much as I could have.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 21 at 2015 7:57 PM

2015-01-21T19:57:51-05:00

Not at all. In a time where patriotism seems lost, it's refreshing to hear it.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 21 at 2015 8:00 PM

2015-01-21T20:00:03-05:00

Most of the people that are likely to thank you are the ones who have also served or has had family that served. Next time your told "thank you for your service" try striking up a conversation. You never know some of the great storys some people can tell bout their time abroad.

Response by SPC Larry Buck made Jan 21 at 2015 8:06 PM

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And it's good to learn more.. Thank you all, also I'm sadly telling myself this everytime y'all holler back, it says it plain and pure in the notification box by your titles, man love you all like brothers and little sisters

Response by SPC James Mcneil made Jan 21 at 2015 8:06 PM

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It depends on who says it. Most of the time, it comes from a person that actually cares, and I don't mind a bit. But from time to time hearing "thank you for your service" grates on my nerves because I honestly don't believe the person saying it.

Response by SPC Larry Buck made Jan 21 at 2015 8:46 PM

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How did that photo get there, I don't recall putting one up definitely do not have that one!?

Response by Cpl Aaron Henry made Jan 21 at 2015 8:52 PM

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It does not bother me at all! It gives me chills and I do not know it does. I appreciate the gratitude shown when people say that.

Response by SGT Jim Z. made Jan 21 at 2015 8:58 PM

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I get tired of hearing it because most of the time it sounds like an after thought or not sincere. I hear more around certain holidays. I just usually nod or keep going very rarely will I say you are welcome or thanks.

Response by PO2 Kevin LaCroix made Jan 21 at 2015 9:09 PM

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I hear it rarely, but I say you're welcome and feel good.

Response by SFC Collin McMillion made Jan 21 at 2015 9:10 PM

2015-01-21T21:10:30-05:00

I'm sorry, but I consider any reconization better than what we received 30-35 years ago. It makes me feel as if at least someone knows I exist and did something.

Response by MSgt Robert Pellam made Jan 21 at 2015 9:17 PM

2015-01-21T21:17:58-05:00

Being Retired it is a bit weird to hear it. Not that I don't appreciate it, nor do I deny i served, but I just see my service as my own. I know you can say I helped protect the citizens of the US, and helped millions of people abroad by doing my service.

Privately I know this, and I have even made the point in debates of how many humans the military has helped over my 20 years and the military's life time. Yes we kill people, and well we are pretty damn good at it. But we also can save people. Millions and millions of lives have been saved because American service members were on call to come to the rescue, drop needed food n water, or build a water treatment plant where there never was one.

But it still makes me feel weird. I never asked to be recognized. I never wanted a 10% discount at Lowes. But they are there. I think there are people in this world that see the bigger picture. Humans who have this ability to see beyond the hype and media, beyond the propaganda and satire. Humans who see other humans for who they are and just want to thank them. We make it easy for these people to spot us when were are/were in uniform. Now, that we have retired/separated and moved on, I think these people are still looking just wanting to say thank you. Because we have made it we have done the deed and returned back to society. These Humans, these people just want to say "Thank you" and "welcome back".

For all my career every time someone says that, my reply's have varied as like I said it makes me feel weird and kinda puts me on the spot. But my favorite reply, when I am not surprised and can remember is. "Well thank you for your support."

Response by CPT Jack Durish made Jan 21 at 2015 9:48 PM

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I was tempted to judge the sincerity of the proffered thanks, but how can I? Really? Even if it's said automatically, as when someone says "Bless you" when you sneeze, don't we still respond? Isn't that just polite?

So now I just respond "It was an honor to serve" and leave it at that, without judging.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 21 at 2015 10:12 PM

2015-01-21T22:12:02-05:00

I can't say I object to hearing people thank me for my service, the problem I run into is knowing what to say in response. I do not serve for the recognition but it is nice to know there are those that appreciate it. A lot of people take their freedom for granite and are not appreciative because they don't get it. I will never blow somebody off for thanking me it's just hard to know what to say.

Response by SFC Nikhil Kumra made Jan 21 at 2015 10:20 PM

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I know this won't be too popular, but..... Yes. I've always perceived it as trendy and obligatory.

Besides..
1- I didn't do anything for these people, everything was fory brothers and subordinates.

2- these people ha e no idea. The look at vets as victims of their government. Another "messed up" welfare case.

I'm sure a lot of people will disagree, but I find my happiness around those who are close to me, my family and my brothers I still keep in contact with. It's all I really need I life. I could care less if a stranger is "thankful for my service". If they truly cared they would've grabbed a rifle and done it themselves.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 21 at 2015 10:33 PM

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In a sense, it seems obligatory when offered while I'm in uniform. I am courteous with my thanks to the offerer.

It means more to me to offer it to an older Veteran. Specifically, of the Korean and Vietnam era Veterans. I'll admit that I feel guilty of my public reception versus what those folks had to endure.

Response by CPO Emmett (Bud) Carpenter made Jan 22 at 2015 6:25 AM

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I didn't know what to say at first. My wife had to tell me to just say " thank you". It's a lot better then how I was treated in 1972. Even in Texas you were given the cold shoulder ,sometimes worse. I find it to be a very humbling experience. LSAT year a 10 year old boy came up to me when I was standing next to the Vietnam Wall and said "thank you " and asked if he could shake my hand. It brought tears to my eyes as I thought of all the names on The Wall who never had the chance to hear the words "thank you ".

Response by MSgt Michael Durkee made Jan 22 at 2015 7:06 AM

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I don't mind, when someone tells me "thank you for your service", it gives me an opportunity to reply wholeheartedly - "We couldn't continue to serve without the support of people like you, Thank You".

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 22 at 2015 7:11 AM

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I was honestly surprised the first time it happened. Since then, I make it a point to thank all the older vets, even if I'm in uniform. It seems like it makes their day in many cases.

Response by SSgt Dan Montague made Jan 22 at 2015 10:44 AM

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It doesn't bother me one bit. I never asked for anything in return when I dedicated 20 years of my life to the Marine Corps. It is kinda nice to get a pat on the back or a smiling face telling me thanks.

Response by Lt Col Jim Coe made Jan 22 at 2015 12:14 PM

2015-01-22T12:14:04-05:00

It was unknown for almost my entire active duty career to be appreciated in public. Serving in the Vietnam and post-Vietnam cold war era, the public seldom appreciated the military.

For many years we were advised to not wear our uniforms off-base except as necessary for the commute.

I was at a major theme park last fall wearing my Air Force ball cap and had a woman on a bus thanked me for my service. It was a rare and much appreciated gesture. I had three or four other folks thank me that week. Strange but good.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 23 at 2015 10:32 AM

2015-01-23T10:32:13-05:00

I am not following how this is offensive. What I find offensive is that too often, veterans (many of whom are wearing something to identify their service) is not approached or thanked for their service.

Most of us who have served post 9/11 have experienced the "thank you for your service" drill, but how often have any of us approached that WW II, Korean, Vietnam et al vet for their service? If you have received a free perk for serving (especially for those of you that travel in uniform), have you given a free perk to a veteran who has preceded your service?

A valid question SPC Larry Buck , but one that I do not agree with your opinion, in my opinion!

Response by SGT Beau Thomas made Jan 23 at 2015 10:50 AM

2015-01-23T10:50:42-05:00

I don't really care either way, but one time, me and another soldier went to ChikFila for lunch, where two smokin hot Baylor college girls thanked us for our service and gave us hugs. Best thank you ever!

Response by SSG Johnathon Mullins made Jan 23 at 2015 7:11 PM

2015-01-23T19:11:33-05:00

You know I've always complained about being thanked for my service... I mean to me its a job that I volunteered to do. No one thanks the mail man for bringing the mail; we work for the same guy...

Here is my true take on it and why it bothers me:
I absolutely hate wearing my uniform in public due to the fact it is a sure way to start a conversation and of course bring attention to ones self. Two things I don't wish to do, ever. On the off chance that I must go out, say to the super market on the way home, at least two people will thank me for my service. The first thing that bothers me is that people feel the need to express their thanks for me performing my job. The second is the fact I have no idea how to respond. I mean what should I say? "You're Welcome" sounds kind of narcissistic to me. "It's an honor" eh a little too medieval. I just take ol' Jack Nicholson's advice and say "Thank you" and be on my way.

One caveat: I respect the fact that people would rather say thank you than spit on me as they did with our previous generation of veterans. No one should ever serve their country and be spat on while returning to their home. The true heroes who endured this cruelty should be thanked time and time again for their service. The late 2000s I was working a PR tent and thanked a Vietnam Vet for his service and he disclosed that no one has said that to him before... that's over 30 years and not once did someone thank him for his service.

Just my thoughts take care

Response by CPT Richard Riley made Jan 23 at 2015 7:57 PM

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When anyone stops me to say 'Thank you for your service' I realize that we, as a country, have come a long way beyond how our fellow Vietnam & Korean vets were welcomed. I accept their gesture with the politeness and gratitude it deserves. I know they did not have to say anything but chose to say it out of the goodness of their heart.

Response by MSgt Stephan Hall made Jan 23 at 2015 8:42 PM

2015-01-23T20:42:03-05:00

Doesn't bother me at all, and shouldn't bother you.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 23 at 2015 8:43 PM

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We, who are in the military, or, have been in this generations military, are thanked for our service. We appreciate that. But don't forget those who never got thanked or appreciated like they should. I ran into a Viet Nam vet yesterday, and was compelled to thank him for his service and tell him that he and his brothers and sisters (our fathers, mothers, grandparents) are the reason we don't get spit on. They made sure their kids would not go through that. When you see the Viet Nam vet, tell him "Thank You for your service!" He/She deserves it!

Response by SPC Christopher McClaskey made Jan 23 at 2015 8:46 PM

2015-01-23T20:46:37-05:00

I dont like to be thanked for doing what anyone in my shoes would have done thank you for me is seeing the flag i love so much flying freely

Response by SGT Scott Bailey made Jan 23 at 2015 9:01 PM

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I feel the same. I don't like it at all. I'm no hero, just a soldier (was). And to me that all got started by politics. As far as I can remember, The only soldiers who weren't thanked, were Vietnam era veterans. So, if Americans can't appreciate us all, please don't thank ME. JMO

Response by Lt Col Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 23 at 2015 9:02 PM

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Does it bother me? Never. Nothing else to say....

Response by Sgt Branden W. made Jan 23 at 2015 10:05 PM

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Interesting question. Being thanked is never offensive in my opinion. I will say that there have been times when I am unsure of what to say back. Sometimes I say "Thanks", but that doesn't make sense in hindsight. "You're welcome" doesn't really ring true to me either. I usually stick with "My pleasure" or " It was an honor."

A handshake is all I need. Swap a story. Carry on.

Response by SPC Gary Sheldon made Jan 24 at 2015 1:50 AM

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Response by PFC Zanie Young made Jan 24 at 2015 12:03 PM

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While it embarrasses me, there is no reason that I should let it bother me. It does, however, feel good to be appreciated. So, no, I am not offended.

Response by SPC Paul Reyes made Jan 24 at 2015 2:02 PM

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It doesn't irritate myself personally, but I do understand how it may irk some. I'm just glad someone acknowledges me, even more so now that I've become homeless.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 24 at 2015 2:16 PM

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To many older veterans of those more infamous wars like Vietnam and Korea, it is a good thing and well worth tolerating. This topic comes up every few months but the takeaway point is be gracious and understanding. Vietnam and Vietnam-Era veterans got anything but thanks generally speaking and it is lousy but the way it was. I came in the Military in 1974 and remember how it was.

Response by SGT Luke Huston made Jan 24 at 2015 2:32 PM

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Don't over think it, just say thank you for your support er something like that and Charlie mike.

Response by MAJ David Vermillion made Jan 24 at 2015 3:09 PM

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We need to hear words of gratitude, it can never be said too much. Like saying, " I Love You", these words a powerful and edify a person making them feel worthy.

Response by MSgt Hal Weeden, MBA made Jan 24 at 2015 5:31 PM

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It doesn't bother me as much as it embarrasses me at times. I heard it when I was still in uniform, and I hear it today. At no time did I ever take it as an end-of-career comment.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 24 at 2015 5:48 PM

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Initially it made me think a bit the first time i heard it. However i realized that when someone comes and shakes your hand thanking you for your service. They are not thanking only you directly, they are thanking you and the thousands that served before you. You are the men who died in Normandy, you are the men you died in Iraq & Vietnam.
So when someone comes to shake your hand, you look them in the eyes and remember all the men who have died defending the constitution.

Response by SSG(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 24 at 2015 7:30 PM

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I love hearing it, and always reply with I love my country so much, this is why I do it. I'll add, I hope some day you do too!

Response by MSgt Keith Hebert made Jan 24 at 2015 8:44 PM

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I have learned to appreciate it.
But I have always considered it like awards I was doing my job and my duty.

Response by MSgt Gary Koble made Jan 25 at 2015 12:01 AM

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It used to bother me in that I felt embarrassed and out of place. I viewed my service as something I owed my nation and the gratitude felt awkward. However, as I started running across more older veterans in my community I always thanked them and I realized how it made them feel. They truly appreciated someone thanking them and it gradually changed my feelings on it. Anymore, my reply is "you're welcome and thank you for the support!"

Response by SGT Michael Glenn made Jan 25 at 2015 3:49 AM

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It does to me for the simple fact that I did nothing but my job, my usual comment is " Thank the ones who didnt come home and left loved ones behind, they paid the ultimate price".

Response by CPL Corey Aldridge made Jan 25 at 2015 6:28 AM

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I cant say it bothers me it bothers me. I think embarrasses me is a better term. I served because it was an obligation, my duty. Just like my father and his father and my great grandfather before him. My only child my daughter served as well. There is Honor in that, personal honor. I understand that some are truely grateful so they express it. If I wanted thanks i would be in Downtowm Los Angeles spit shining shoes for half price.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 25 at 2015 7:18 AM

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I think I'll be the minority here but the term "Thank you for your service"(unless coming from a vet) is the new PC thing to do. I honestly think they say it because that is want they think they are supposed to do, rather than they are genuinely thankful for your service. I am happy that the older generations of Service Members are get more recognition.

Maybe its me, but I do find it hard to identify as a vet, none-the-less one that needs to be thanked even after two deployments and 9+ years of service.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 25 at 2015 7:58 AM

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I know you said stand down. But I figured this would be helpful, now as well as later when I hang up the uniform. When I hear a person say "Thank you for your service." I realize it's not mandatory for a person to say that to a person in uniform simply because I service, nor simply because it's politically correct, to support the troops, but because they appreciate a person defending their freedom and rights by fighting to keep it. It's truly an honor and a dream for me. The only job that I wake up loving to do and passionate about. It has been truly a humbling experience. I strive to remain humble because I know I am not alone in this thought process. I am simply one of the hundreds of thousands currently servicing, along with the many others who have the esteemed title of veteran. I say thank you, and always will thank a person who supports what I do, and whom I do it for.

Response by SP5 Douglas Armfield made Jan 25 at 2015 8:57 AM

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Yes. It's just turned into another trend that will go away after awhile. A thank you for your service now does not make up for a "baby killer" then.

Response by GySgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 25 at 2015 11:14 AM

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I just think we should encourage that behavior instead of what our Vietnam vet brethren endured. It also makes the person who gave the thanks feel good they've done something to demonstrate patriotism. Anything that engenders good will is a good thing.

Response by SGT Steve Oakes made Jan 25 at 2015 12:44 PM

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It bothered me for a while because I did not know how to respond. To thank them back seemed wrong, just odd. But I did appreciate the fact that they were acknowledging my service and defense of their freedom and way of life.
Now I say " I appreciate that" ,smile and shake their hand if offered. It seems to make them happy and satisfies my need to acknowledge them in turn.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 25 at 2015 1:47 PM

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I feel proud of myself.

Response by MSgt John Carter made Jan 25 at 2015 2:22 PM

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I have to admit that I do feel uncomfortable when people say that to me. I've never looked at my career as anything special, or out of the ordinary. I did it because I took to heart the words and attitudes of people I look up to: John Wayne, Robert A. Heinlein, Winston Churchill, Dwight Eisenhower, Audey Murphy, and so many others. Everything I did, I did to support my country, and my family. Getting up and going to work every day, rain or shine, is what I could do to live up to Mr. Edmund Burke's quoted philosophy, "Nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could do only a little."

When I enlisted, I did everything that was ever asked of me and I volunteered for many, many duties to support my communities as well as my squadrons, groups, wings, and my country. But no matter what I did, I was never alone; I stood in the company of men and women who were doing the same thing I was doing. Or, I stood in the shadow of the men and women who came before me.

I only did what needed to be done. I only did what I feel--to the very core of my being--should be done by every man and woman in this country. Every citizen of this country should be willing to serve and protect in the armed services of the U.S. I feel that if you want the benefits of living in this country, then you need to earn those benefits.

Response by SSgt Bob Mobbs made Jan 25 at 2015 2:41 PM

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As a Viet Nam vet I was reviled for my service by many for a number of years. So I find it encouraging when I am now thanked. I also make sure to pay it forward whenever I meet an active duty brother or veteran.

Response by SSgt Robert Dawson made Jan 25 at 2015 3:24 PM

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No. I like it. Once in, Never Out.

Response by SGM Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 25 at 2015 5:17 PM

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It doesn't bother me at all. It seems to make the individual happy to give thanks. Too easy then.

Response by SPC Edward Bucci made Jan 25 at 2015 5:18 PM

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Yes it does, I always correct people that say this and ask them if they vote. When they say no then I say thank us vets by voting!

Response by SGT Steven Eugene Kuhn MBA made Jan 25 at 2015 5:26 PM

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I was fortunate enough to be the Sergeant of the Colors for 8th Cav in ODS and was selected to carry the colors in the Victory Parades in NYC and DC.
To say I was proud is an understatement, it was amazing the love we go shown and the thousands of people who said "thank you" but the best was the guy who came up with his child and said to him, standing 2 feet from me, "go shake a heroes hand Son". I was so embarrassed but I simply thanked them for respecting my choice to serve, it was my honor.
I have used this since then:
I simply answer "Thank you for respecting my choice to serve, it was my honor"
As we were marching in the parade there was a Viet Nam Vet who yelled "you guys dont know war, 100 hours is not a war, I fought a war!" I stepped out of rank, (I was calling cadence) grabbed him and pulled him to us and said "thank you for your service, we woudl be honored for you to march with us, he had tears in his eyes, amazing.
I make it a habit to thank vets for their service, I recently met a Viet-Nam Vet on the plane from Budapest to Dusseldorf, I presented him a challenge coin from the USABOT organization I belong to (For Tankers and Tanker Mechanics). He was embarrassed and feeling odd, his wife had tears in her eyes.
9 out of 10 Vets do not know how to react, it is a very personal matter, most understand.

Response by SGT Tim Tobin made Jan 25 at 2015 7:54 PM

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During the 70's it was hatred and being spit on. Now we are recognizing the troops. But it can't be with hollow platitudes. It needs to mean something. I was very proud of my uniform and my accomplishments but I was villified! That must not happen and anyone who gives their service deserves more than recognition!

Response by 1st Lt Jeff Veyera made Jan 25 at 2015 8:09 PM

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Remember, these days it's a tiny percentage who have served. The military is now mainly a family business. The same relative handful of families send their children in generation after generation. Thanking troops in uniform has become an important way to recognize sacrifices one didn't have to make.

Response by PO1 Michael Fullmer made Jan 25 at 2015 8:12 PM

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As a "Cold Warrior", and a few other excursions during my career, sometimes it does. Especially when I am in the company of both of my sons...one an Army vet and the other a SFC still on active duty an OIF II participant. I feel though while I proudly served my country, perhaps I could have done more...although what, I'm not exactly sure. Make any sense?

Response by PO3 Michael James made Jan 25 at 2015 8:53 PM

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I agree with SFC McMillion, some recognition is far better than what we received 35-40 years ago.. Today, any acknowledgement, other than denials, neglect, and abuse is appreciated..

Response by SSG Jim Foreman made Jan 25 at 2015 9:16 PM

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I appreciate someone taking the time to thank me. I always respond that it was my honor to serve. I do have fun with the ones that notice my PH license plates and ask how I got them. I like telling them they are my wife’s.

Response by SSG Bradley Webster made Jan 25 at 2015 9:52 PM

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It does not bother me to hear someone that as never served to say it. But it makes me feel like cramp to hear it from another Vet to say it especially the Vietnam Korea and WWII vets. The way I see it we (the Iraq and Afghan Vets) should be telling the prior vets. they had it much worst than we did. Thank-you all

Response by SGT Seth Slone made Jan 25 at 2015 10:07 PM

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I know for me it does get old

Response by SPC Joshua H. made Jan 25 at 2015 11:33 PM

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Does not bother me at all, I am just glad there are people out there (and the numbers seem to be growing) that truly DO support those that have served, and that are currently serving. I have been out for almost 16 years, and most of the people that thank me are also vets, and can have some pretty good conversations with them. Sometimes it's in odd places and I'm not wearing anything that screams vet (maybe grunt style shirts), but always try to be respectful, because they are respecting US.

Response by MAJ(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 25 at 2015 11:35 PM

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What bothers me most is that Soldier's beret in the picture.

Response by PFC Jason Oliver made Jan 25 at 2015 11:52 PM

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I'm reminded of t-shirt that I saw recently. It said: "It's not that I could and others couldn't, it's that I did and others didn't." Now I've been in social gatherings where the people I was with were PROUD that they weren't "dumb enough" or "stupid enough" to volunteer for service, which really irks me. Then they find out that I served and their whole demeanor changes. Then I hear the "Thank you for your service" comments. So, no, it doesn't bother me when people volunteer their thanks, it is welcomed actually, but if people say it out of embarrassment or some sort of "fear" that I might kick their ass because of what they said, then yeah....it bothers me. So really, it's all in the context of the statement that determines if it's offensive or not.
And for those who are PROUD for not volunteering to "fight and die for their country", I offer George Patton's appropriate response: "Nobody EVER won a war by fighting and dying for their country, although it does happen. They won it by making the other poor dumb bastard fight and die for HIS country." And then I tell them "....and that's what the American Military does." It normally garners looks of astonishment, or stunned silence. But at least I no longer have to hear how they were smart enough to stay out of the military.

Response by CPL Zachariah Chitwood made Jan 26 at 2015 12:12 AM

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Yes, it makes me very uncomfortable. I can't really explain it, but I just did my job. Getting credit for it makes me feel awkward. I don't really what to say, but I do appreciate it. I guess it differs from vet to vet.

Response by A1C Ronald McKenzie made Jan 26 at 2015 12:14 AM

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I served during Nam and I remember being advised not to leave the air terminal in uniform when I flew into Washington DC. Being connected to the service was a negative then.

While it doesn't bother me a bit to hear, "Thank You for your service," it still feels strange to hear it after such a long time of nothing being said. There's another part of feeling strange to hear the thanks and that's because those who didn't come back or came back partially are the ones who really earned it the most. So, I gracefully accept the thank yous for those absent souls.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 26 at 2015 2:25 AM

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Yes and no. As said by other posters, it makes me feel good to know that the time I've spent in the service and overseas is appreciated. At the same time, while I've been on tours in both Iraq and Afghanistan I feel like I shouldn't be thanked because I've never seen combat action (quite sad considering I'm a combat MOS). But I digress, some of you would probably say I'm crazy for being "battle hungry" and maybe I am. Some of my comrades that have seen action never lived to tell about it, have invisible scars from it, or have lost limbs and struggle to get through the day.

So I guess what it boils down to for me is that I felt like all I've given is time. Never shed blood or paid the ultimate price. Those who have, to me, deserve the thanks. Not I.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 26 at 2015 3:42 AM

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I disagree w/ the majority of the posts here. Let me start by saying I have served 16yrs (8 active & 8 Guard) and continue to do so. I have been deployed to Afghanistan and Kuwait, and have been TDY in support of domestic disasters. I mention all this for credibilty purposes for what I'm about to say. Let's face it people, this is an all volunteer force and no one is doing this out of the kindness of their heart. We all have our reasons, but I dare say the majority of those who joined and stay in are in it for the money and the benefits. They're are very few if any that really do this for god & country. Outside of mere family tradition (the next minority), most people are in this for education benefits, health benefits, and a pension. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong w/ this. But where in that does it deserve gratitude? No one would serve if there was no pay or added benefit to do so ie: sign-on bonuses, post 9-11 GI Bill, 100% TA, etc...Therefore, it is my opinion that the thank you should be reserved for those that had no choice & were forced to serve (WWII, Vietnam). I also, hold in high regard anyone that has seen actual combat and/or been injured in support of such conflict. I say this because I believe that only a percentage serving today have actually been in direct combat. Most of us are fortunate including myself, never to have seen a frontline. I know that I'm going to recieve alot of push back on this, but I honestly believe that a thank you is unnecessary and unearned in many cases & it does make me uncomfortable when I recieve it. I'll end w/ this... To those who served during the draft and all those who have put their life on the line in combat so that myself and the rest of us didn't have to, Thank you for your service.

Response by PO3 Andrew Schenck made Jan 26 at 2015 5:37 AM

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I remember when my dad got home from Vietnam. We was yelled at, cussed out, spit on (once that I saw), and treated like dirt. As a kid I did not know that what he did mattered. Now after 25 years post my own active duty, I find "thank you for your service" as a great thing. Like some of the other comments below it feels like I matter, what I did is appreciated, and it means something to someone else. But it also tells me that what my Dad (now 18 years deceased) did back in the 50's/60s/70d/80s also means that what he did mattered, that we are sorry we spit on you, that your son did not need to witness our disrespect. I am a proud vet and what we all have done matters. Thank you brothers and sisters in arms!

Response by SSG(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 26 at 2015 8:14 AM

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It doesn't so much "bother" me to be thanked for my service, because I know that the sentiment behind it is one of respect and gratitude.

It DOES, however make me kind of befuddled at how to respond because it is the career I chose, and I feel that I am good at it. I don't do this for the praise, or medals, or the money (although getting paid twice a month is always a good thing). I do it because I honestly think there is a "Patriot Gene" in my family that compels us to serve (my 17 year old son just enlisted for 11X, and will go to BCT in August) and thus I do it for our country and for the sake of giving back. So when someone thanks me for my service, I usually manage to either say "thank you for your support" or "it's what I do" if I am caught off-guard.

Never decline gratitude or respect. Those are two things that are hard to come by these days.

Response by SGT Reynaldo De La Torre made Jan 26 at 2015 8:36 AM

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Sometimes. Especially from law enforcement because they serve also. I don't ask for, or usually accept the discounts or attention. There are soldiers (many of them kids)
down range right now who don't know if they'll make it home. They deserve the attention more than I do. My time passed.

Response by Cpl Kevin Brown made Jan 26 at 2015 8:44 AM

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I always respond with, "thank you, it was an honor to have served." I feel that it implies to the individual that our country, its people and they themselves are worth the time and risks.

Response by Col Joseph Lenertz made Jan 26 at 2015 9:02 AM

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Bother me? Not at all. Many people just don't have any experience or know anyone in the military. They don't know exactly what to say, so they pick this line that they've heard. At least they're trying.

Response by SSG Keith Cashion made Jan 26 at 2015 12:43 PM

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Actually, as I came through the Gates this morning the MP stated Thank you for your service, and Replied the same to him...his answer...just carring on where I left off.

Response by TSgt Kevin Buccola made Jan 26 at 2015 12:44 PM

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I tell anyone that I see that is a Veteran thank you for your service. I think it is important to recognize our Veterans.

Response by SGT Marvin "Dave" Bigham made Jan 26 at 2015 1:45 PM

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It always catches me off-guard. Both my dad and step-dad are vets and I never heard them get any recognition. My kids used to ask me why so many people shook my hand around town. Now, they go and offer recognition to men/women wearing "Veteran" hats/pins/jackets. It's a GOOD thing!!! Just thank them for their support and move on. You've earned it, but WE don't expect you to just sit down now. Carry on, young Buck!

Response by MSG Edward Flint made Jan 26 at 2015 2:22 PM

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Nope not at all

Response by LTC Marc King made Jan 26 at 2015 3:09 PM

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Specialist Buck: I can tell you that as a returning Viet Nam Vet 45 years ago I had to change from my uniform to civvies before making the trip to the airport. On the way out of Travis AFB I was confronted by the folk singer "Mama Cass" who made it her personal duty to try and spit on service personnel returning from Viet Nam. The only ones happy to see my return was my family. There was no one to greet you at the airport -- no thanks for doing what the country called on us to do... Just slinking out of the terminal to insure that no one else decided to bad mouth a soldier coming home from war. So I say "thank you, it was my honor to serve" when offered that recognition today. It is a badge I now wear proudly and you should too. LTC (Ret) Marc A. King, Armor

Response by SPC John Decker made Jan 26 at 2015 4:10 PM

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I understand your reaction. I don't think that's how most people intend it though. You served. Take pride in that. The reason you separated from the service does not matter.

Response by TSgt Tim Templeton made Jan 26 at 2015 4:29 PM

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Not really, I think. That it goes with the timed. I hate to say it but it is Pc to say it right now. Sorry to say there are alot of Vietnam veterans that should have been told Thank you for your service. We as a country failed on that end.

Response by SFC Joe S. Davis Jr., MSM, DSL made Jan 26 at 2015 4:39 PM

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SPC Larry Buck, It's the ultimate THANK YOU, from AMERICANS FOR YOUR "DUTY HONOR COUNTRY SERVICE TO THE NATION.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 26 at 2015 5:17 PM

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A veteran wrote online about this. It made him uncomfortable but his solution was to reply with "My Pleasure." I've been using it ever since then.

Response by CAPT Bob Bechill made Jan 26 at 2015 5:23 PM

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I appreciate it.

Response by MAJ Ronnie Reams made Jan 26 at 2015 5:30 PM

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Yes, but I am from a time when everyone with some exceptions such as crippled, homosexual, working in a vital job, etc did serve. So the person that did not serve was the exception unlike today where it is the rule. I think that I was just doing what I was
supposed to do.

Response by SFC Robert Miller made Jan 26 at 2015 6:36 PM

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I find it a honor to have served. I am glad people thank me for my service. Most Americans never served our nation. It's a no brainer. Thank you to all my brothers and sisters who have served.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 26 at 2015 7:42 PM

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Uh..? No? Why should it? You should like being thanked for the things you do for others. Even if it means giving your own life for theirs.

Response by SSgt Ernest Robke made Jan 26 at 2015 7:55 PM

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Yes and No. Yes when it is genuine and even impressive when someone goes out of their way to shake your hand and say it. When they do that I am speechless. I hate it when it is fake like in a job interview when they are about to tell you you're not what they are seeking regardless of how much better or more qualified you are. Ever time I hear the that disengenuous "first, let me say thank you for your service" you know the next thing is the knife to the gut.

Response by SPC Tony Bosket made Jan 26 at 2015 8:07 PM

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My drill sergeant use to say, "No one should thank you for being a soldier, that's what paychecks are for. There are no drafts you volunteered to be here."

Response by PO2 Thomas MacDermott made Jan 26 at 2015 8:48 PM

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SPC Larry Buck,

There were the days that the only time the "public" acknowledged the Service Member and Veterans, was during Holidays, Parades or Ceromonies. Barely a second glance if in Uniform all other times.

Liberation of Kuwait and Desert Shield/ Storm, brought the first true recognition of our Service. That even our Viet Nam Vets were being acknowledge and thanked. Something that was long over due, in my opinion.

9/11, brought more.

Now when some one says Thank You to me for my Service. I reply with a Thank You to them. A handshake and a humble nod of my head.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 26 at 2015 9:23 PM

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I tell every serviceman I see, thanks for your service. I also tell every police officer or firefighter thanks for your service. When I wear a Vietnam related cap I get thanked and it makes me feel a hell of a lot better than I did when I came home from Nam.

Response by SP5 John Brandt made Jan 26 at 2015 9:29 PM

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Yes it does! I'm a Vietnam vet and the grateful people of this country spit at me and called me a baby killer when I came home from that war. I was scorned, could not get a job because I was a Vietnam veteran! they would say oh, your a Vietnam vet? We don't want you kind around here! Thank you for your service is a little to little much to late!

Response by Lt Col Don Accamando made Jan 26 at 2015 9:53 PM

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As several of our sisters and brothers in arms have pointed out, so few of us step up to serve the nation, that it's quite possible that the 99% who do not are left with little else to say. So to that end, I'm delighted that a conversation takes place.
As I find more ways for veterans to succeed on a college campus, I'm reminded that many of my co-workers want to help, they just aren't sure how. My new motto is, "it's not that they don't care, they just don't know." It's at that point that I do my best to educate them on how to lend a hand to make the transition to college that much easier.
Maybe it's time we engage in a longer conversation with the next well wisher.
Here's a new question; When someone says, "thanks for your service", and we reply, our pleasure, what might we ask them?

Response by SPC(P) Jay Heenan made Jan 26 at 2015 10:42 PM

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I stumble around and mumble something about 'Thank you for your support'. It does feel a bit strange, because (unlike my Vietnam brothers) I volunteered. I am proud of my service to this great country, I am proud to call my fellow Soldiers, Sailors, Marines, Airmen and Coast Guard my brothers and sisters. I am proud that some gave their life for my family and my fellow Americans. I pray for the families of the fallen and hope that they can find peace in their hearts one day.

Response by TSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 26 at 2015 11:40 PM

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No.
I'm there as the representative of my Branch, and the entire DoD/Armed Forces of the USA. I recieve their thaks on behalf of the aformentioned and all Brothers and Sisters in Arms and reply, "Thank you for your support," because we would rather be thanked than forgotten.

Response by LCpl Timothy Reed made Jan 26 at 2015 11:40 PM

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The only time it bothers me is when they try to hug me with tears in their eyes. I'm not good at the whole touchy feely thing.

Response by SGT Prosecute BushCheneyRummyRice made Jan 26 at 2015 11:53 PM

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"Thank You For Your Service" sounds like something the corporate public relations managers tell their employees to say to soldiers/vets, etc. I usually respond with: "You don't have to thank me. I volunteered and was paid." Most people mean well when they utter the phrase so I don't get upset about it.

Response by SN Tucker Breton made Jan 27 at 2015 3:30 AM

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In a sense, it feels about as weird as it would if someone thanked me for doing my civilian job.

Response by Capt Jeff S. made Jan 27 at 2015 5:00 AM

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No, but I wish people would have said it to the Vietnam Vets when they were coming home.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 27 at 2015 7:42 AM

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I am active but both my mother and father served before me and my grandfather before them. I am currently the 6th generation to serve this Country and I am honored to do so when people thank me for my service I tell them thank you in return for the gesture. I don't do what i do for the money I do it because it is what needs to be done to protect my family and when my time comes and I am finished with my service I will walk away proud of what I have done. I always thank those brave men and women who sacrifice so much for the greater good of the Nation even when the population might not have agreed with the circumstances. I feel that we should be humble when we are given thanks, be proud of your service and show others what it means to serve with pride.

Response by SPC Janet Larson made Jan 27 at 2015 10:07 AM

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It makes me a little uncomfortable, but I get that way when anybody gushes about me personally. I'm not a touchie, feelie individual.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 27 at 2015 10:12 AM

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It would bother me if my uniform looked as awful as yours does, i.e. your beret. And if you do not feel a bit of satisfaction from someone thanking you for your service then it is time for you to get out. Because we don't do this job for the money we do it for our country and the people in it, so obviously there is nothing in it for you. Or maybe you have an MOS that makes you feel unaccomplished.

Response by Sgt Aaron Kennedy, MS made Jan 27 at 2015 10:14 AM

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It doesn't bother me, but it is disconcerting. Don't get me wrong, it's appreciated.

I don't have a real response for it. It's hard to say "You're welcome" to it because we all joined for our own reasons. Responding with a "Thank you for the support" is probably the best answer I've heard, but the entire custom still makes me uneasy. Just because I don't expect thanks or any kind of gratitude.

Response by SPC Dwayne Bowman made Jan 27 at 2015 10:20 AM

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I say thanks tso everyone. Veterans, currently serving, police, fire and rescue. I thank them all.

The best part is shaking the hands of a WWII veteran

Response by MSgt Bobby Vardeman made Jan 27 at 2015 11:24 AM

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I appreciate the kindness and take it in the spirit that speaker appreciates and maybe even acknowledges the contributions we have made to country. Hollow or well meant, I don't judge them. I do feel a little awkward as I was doing what I believed I should do. I've mostly responded with a nod and smile while shaking their hand.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 27 at 2015 12:35 PM

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I do my best when ever I am thanked for my service to respond by thanking them for their support and to tell them that I appreciate it. It is a two way street.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 27 at 2015 1:28 PM

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No. Even though I wasn't in long, I will not turn down gratitude that is genuinely being expressed. I just take it as being given to my brothers/sisters that have done more than I have.

I feel it needs to be expressed more. I volunteer w/ the Mid-Missouri Honor Flight for war vets as a member of the flag line (we salute the members of our branches when they are announced). We have so few WWII vets left that we are now seeing a majority of Korean & Vietnam vets. This service is a welcome home that they never received, ESPECIALLY the Vietnam vets. So many of them get off that bus crying in appreciation. All those years of resentment get released. It is awesome & awe-inspiring.

Response by SGT Dwain Inman made Jan 27 at 2015 1:51 PM

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It does not bother me to hear it. I feel good to hear people actually acknowledge you for putting in all those hrs to keep this country strong and free.

Response by SPC Larry Buck made Jan 27 at 2015 2:43 PM

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Just wondering I know this topic is selfish and over the bounds of good taste, but how many down votes did it get out of 755 votes? Thats awesome to see that even tho the discussion Is horrid to you the voter it bares, notice that it is viewed by you thru your comments a validation of sorts that no questions are bad till not asked... How's that strike ya???

Response by SPC Larry Buck made Jan 27 at 2015 2:50 PM

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You Rock!

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 27 at 2015 2:56 PM

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It doesn't bother me, I just wish my father was still around to get this after the welcomes he got when he came back from Nam! Probably some of the same people that are in charge today that actually spit on him than!

Response by PO1 Jess McKellar made Jan 27 at 2015 3:53 PM

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It did bother me at one time. I know that I served but I never went in harms way, never got shot at, never watched my comrades die in battle or end up maimed for life. I always thought that "Thank You For Your Service" should be reserved for those who went through those things.

Then I realized that the average citizen can't tell who you are necessarily by what you wear and with the way the current wars were fought a lot of people who normally would never go in harms way volunteered for augment assignments in combat zones. People appreciate military service and honestly I now appreciate being thanked for my service.

Response by MSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 27 at 2015 4:11 PM

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Perhaps you are looking at it through a broken or damaged lens. While watered down since 9/11, I think the phrase is generally and genuinely used to appreciate what you sacrificed for the nation, whether you hung up your uniform or not. As such, I usually respond with a "Thank you for your support", as I choose to look at the phrase through rose colored lenses.

Response by PVT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 27 at 2015 4:31 PM

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The only reason it bothers me currently is because I haven't done anything. I don't have a CIB and I'm still just a fuzzy. I'm not sure how I'll feel about it in the future but whether the wording is wrong, it is still heart warming that people recognize the military in a positive way rather than calling us "baby killers".

Response by SSG Rick Bannerman made Jan 27 at 2015 6:19 PM

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I don't find it offensive, but - cynically, perhaps - all too often I find the comment coming almost automatically from folks who often have no idea what it is like to serve, but who have been told that it is what they are supposed to say. Coming up on fifty years since I originally enlisted, I guess there is a tinge of bitterness at how long it has taken and how hollow the words often seem to ring.

Response by CPT David Bernheim made Jan 27 at 2015 6:26 PM

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SPC Larry Buck For those who have never served, maybe "Thanks for your service." is all they know to say. Hard to expect more, IMHO. I enlisted in the Reserves in 1980 while in college. Wearing my ROTC uniform or my Reserve uniform on campus elicited a far different response. Getting spit upon was a weekly thing. Once commissioned, things really did not change outside the installations.
It was well-past 911 before I was ever thanked in public. Not that it was ever necessary for me to be thanked. I just think our nation started to become more aware of what servicemen and women were doing. It does not bother me to thank or be thanked. When I offer a "thank you", I do so knowing some of what that person has given to wear our nation's colors. At the least, I can offer a statement of awareness and gratitude.
Do I think veterans should be approached to continue service? Yes, sir I do! That is a wealth of knowledge that could be tapped and used. I hope you find a way to continue your contributions, SPC Larry Buck! Wish you well, brother.

Response by Sgt Jay Jones made Jan 27 at 2015 6:37 PM

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I remember when I came home from Vietnam in 1971. Nobody was at the airport to greet me. No marching bands. People walked past me like I was faceless and did not know that I had just came from a combat zone. Nobody said thank you. My family was just glad I was home safely. They were the only ones.

When Desert Shield/Desert Storm hit, I was one of those that really supported our military as they began an armed conflict. Thankfully, their conflict did not last that long. They came home to cheering crowds and a vast amount of pats on the back and accolades on their victory. I did not begrudge anything they received. On the contrary, I was thankful for their appreciation. However, deep down inside of me. I said "where was mine".

Then 9/11 hit. America was attacked! Patriotism was abound. Our military responded and our Soldiers, Sailors, Airmen and Marines performed admirably.

Even the VA did a paradigm shift on how Veterans were being treated.

When I look back on all of that. I say to myself. Finally, people are telling us Vietnam Veterans "Thank You". Does it bother me to hear that? NO! I am grateful for it!

Response by SPC Michael Frugoli made Jan 27 at 2015 7:06 PM

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No, but I wonder the response I should come back with. Do I say "your welcome"? "Anytime?" Or "thank you" thanking them for thanking you. It's tricky. But I do say thank you

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 27 at 2015 9:51 PM

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It always feels weird. I never did it for thanks. I really don't feel I deserve thanks. I saw so many Soldiers do and give more than I did. I really want to be thanked by letting me go about my day normally. The thank you just reminds me of all the things I feel I should have done better for my troops overseas. I always take the thanks and thank them for their consideration because there have been and are so many who will never get the thanks they deserve.

Response by PO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 27 at 2015 10:29 PM

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i understand that the military has come a long way up in the public's opinion and i appreciate the thanks i get, but it also makes me feel a little awkward as i don't know how to respond with anything other than a "you're welcome"

Response by PO2 Sheri Starr made Jan 27 at 2015 10:54 PM

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I used to feel uncomfortable, and wished they wouldn't. I also didn't feel like I did anything that special. I agreed to serve my country. Once enlisted it became my only job, something I agreed to do, to the best of my ability no matter what. But most people had a job. It took me years to see that my commitment, dedication, and training is totally different from most in the civilian sector. People take two sick days a month because they see it as a benefit... Leave when their time is up, not the job is done.... What is that?
I'm shocked at the continuous lack of leadership and lack of respect for leadership that I see. I now feel blessed to have served and realize I was a part of something amazing with incredible people. I was Injured and would give anything to have my body back. At a glance no one can tell that I'm not capable of many things I assumed I'd be doing for 40 more years. I realize when they honor my service they are recognizing that they do not understand what I just said in a way that all of you do. I thank you for the years you served in our military. I am sure you have plenty more to offer this fine county because your military service says magnitudes about who you were and are.

Response by PO1 Michael Wright made Jan 27 at 2015 11:46 PM

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People only say thank you because it has been iterated on TV, I got a guy that says it to me every week when I go to the store or on a daily basis, better than during Vietman when I got spit on

Response by CPT Jonathan Wickham made Jan 28 at 2015 12:34 AM

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I respond "I was glad for the chance and I would do it again".

Response by 1LT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 28 at 2015 12:39 AM

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A little, only because I have not been deployed anywhere. I appreciate their support and am filled with pride, but it sometimes feels like getting paid without working.

Response by Devon James made Jan 28 at 2015 7:53 AM

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It's very weird hearing it I did my duty because it's what I signed up for not to be thanked I did it for my brothers to the right and left of me not recognition

Response by PO3 Kalon Scott made Jan 28 at 2015 11:28 AM

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When I go to the VA and this is said to me, I can appreciate it and understand. However, when someone on the street says it to me and it is clear that this person has never served, it drives me nuts. I think to myself, "If that is the way you feel about us, why didn't (haven't) you served?"

On the otherhand it is nice to get the acknowlegement and is better than nothing when someone does know that you are a veteran.

Response by SPC Ryan Aday made Jan 28 at 2015 11:35 AM

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I have always felt uncomfortable for two reasons. Thanks and recognition are fine. They are just trying to show their appreciation. But when you feel extremely uncomfortable and are on alert just for being out in a crowd. It makes it very uncomfortable when total strangers single you out and walk up to you. Especially when you are with your family. The first time my son was 3 three and we were at the county fair. I had only been out for 4 years and a man came up to thank me. Positioned himself between me and my son. I had to exercise a lot of self control and and grumpily informed him that he is between me and my boy.

The other reason is that I just did what I felt I needed to do. It wasn't for thanks or praise or even recognition. I just did the job. I completed the task that needed to be done. So it always felt like why are you thanking me? I didn't do anything special. Just did my job.

Over the years I have been working on my anxiety issues. I am still uncomfortable out in crowds but now when they come up I try to be polite and receptive. But when my family I still find myself on alert more so.

Response by Sgt Patrick Wright made Jan 28 at 2015 11:54 AM

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I dont like to hear it. I was just doing what I said I was going to do when I signed on the bottom line. I didnt do it for the thank you's I did it because I needed some direction in my life and for the love of my nation. I appreciate there desire to recognize me, but I dont like to be put on the spot, I like to be in the backround

Response by SPC David Kirk made Jan 28 at 2015 12:50 PM

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I, like you, am no where close to sitting down and growing feeble. But to those that give their thanks, I respond either with a simple "Your Welcome" or with "Hooah". The later is saved for other veterans or family of veterans (they understand).

Response by SGT Richard Domenden made Jan 28 at 2015 12:59 PM

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I always reply with, "thank you for your support." Usually it's the older generation that says that but when a young person says it it gives me joy somehow knowing that we haven't lost our youth from the PC of the left and surprisingly I have met quit a few of these youth who said they want to serve when the time comes. I just wish our Vietnam vets brothers where shown the same courtesy when they came home.

Response by COL John McClellan made Jan 28 at 2015 1:00 PM

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Absolutely! It's always gratifying and humbling to be thanked for my years of service to the Nation!

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 28 at 2015 1:04 PM

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No, but I often find it difficult to respond. What do you say to someone who thanks you? I often find myself saying, "Thank you for your support."

Response by PO1 Chris Crawley made Jan 28 at 2015 1:21 PM

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I simply respond that it was my honor to serve.

Response by SPC Eugenia Joerger made Jan 28 at 2015 1:26 PM

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If it is said in a genuine manner, no. But sometimes it feels more like an automatic response. When I see an active duty member in uniform I say nothing, I offer my hand, look them in the eye and nod. Unspoken, you know when it's real.

Response by PO1 Alvaro Quesada made Jan 28 at 2015 1:33 PM

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One of my greatest peeves is to hear "Thank you for your service" in any business setting. Because, if I am going to do business with another person or company, the last thing I want to hear is that-they think they understand what I did, what I went through; this makes me feel like I'm just a dollar sign to them, and that is-insulting to me, and insulting to all of those that have gone before me, and especially those that have given their life in the line of combat. The phrase "Thank you for your service" entails everything you, your family, friends have endured together in this subculture (Armed Forces); not to mention those you are serving with, have served with, or brothers and sisters you have lost to war or to the effects of war after they come home (at whatever end of the spectrum).

Response by CSM Carlson C. made Jan 28 at 2015 1:33 PM

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No, I makes me feel good to know that other appreciate our sacrifices. It's when things go back to business as usual when you feel no body is paying attention.

Response by Lt Col Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 28 at 2015 3:52 PM

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Some thoughts on the "thank you for your service" movement.

http://joeforamerica.com/2014/04/stop-thanking-veterans-service/

http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2013/11/help-veterans-by-taking-them-off-the-pedestal/281316/

"For many civilians, veterans are thought about in the span of football halftime shows, where we gawk at troops standing on the sidelines while the camera lingers on flags flapping in the wind. The word hero is tossed around and abused to the point of banality. The good intentions of civilians are rarely in question, but detached admiration has always been a stand-in for the impulse to do “something” for veterans."

Stop Thanking Veterans For Their Service

Rather than writing off the decision to serve with a sterile “thank you for your service” this year, own the sentiment and make it personal.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 28 at 2015 4:58 PM

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It doesn't bother me at all when a veteran thanks me for my service. I quickly return the sentiment.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 28 at 2015 5:22 PM

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I'm a Reservist, so fall under that vague category of "some people say you're active duty, but you aren't really....and you're still a veteran."

However, here are some things to consider. First, "thank you for your service" doesn't have a tense to it. It can mean "Thank you for what you have done," but it can just as easily mean "Thank you for being willing to serve." When I am in uniform and people thank me, it is for the sacrifices that I have made, but also for sacrifices that I'm willing to make on an ongoing journey. I don't think anybody ever fully leaves their time in service behind them. You are a part of a Family that is much more than nearly any other profession, and that bond doesn't ever die. After all, look at how many retired people are here at RallyPoint offering their experiences, consider how many Soldiers that you talk to and still try to offer your own experiences when they are struggling with a decision. Only you can take yourself out of the fight, and I can't speak for you...but I'm still breathing. I may be a bit older, a little fatter, and a bit more broken than I was even 7 years ago...but I'm 7 years wiser, still full of piss and vinegar, and always willing to do whatever I can for a fellow servicemember/veteran.

Furthermore, I'll lump in a second consideration too. It used to bother me greatly because I hear "Thank you for your service," but because I felt that I hadn't done enough. When I joined, I wanted to serve my Country and deploy to take the spots of people I knew that had multiple tours. I figured (naively) that if enough of us joined, people could stay home with their families and maybe not get chewed up by the meat grinder of war. After volunteering to deploy, they offered me a tour and I accepted before asking where. When I finally asked, they told me I would be doing a year in Wisconsin. As funny as it sounds, I was disappointed and embarrassed. 7 years later, I have 2 mobilizations and could never get a deployment.

When I get embarrassed by the lack of combat service, I remember a couple of things. First, I had a combat arms Master Sergeant that reminded me that when I joined, I said I was WILLING to deploy. That in itself is something. Additionally, I tried to remember that my job was to fight just as hard to keep the "garrison stupidity" from getting to my pre- and post- deployment Soldiers. By my "fighting" for them just as hard as if we were in a combat zone, I could help them focus on having a great transition or a great deployment as best as I could. My office was available to be open 24/7/365, as I always had my personal cell phone on me, and every one of my Soldiers had that PERSONAL number so that they could call if they had problems after they left my post. The commanders knew I was trying to help everyone I could, balancing the needs of the Army and the best interests of the Soldiers.

I think that most military folks worry about being obsolete, or wish that they'd have done more. My desire to keep someone home by taking a deployment, a combat veteran wishing he'd done another tour to maybe have helped some of his military family, a wounded veteran wishing he'd have been able to save a friend, a Medal of Honor recipient saying "I just did my job" and not considering the sacrifices. What a GREAT feeling though!! Again, not many professions can have the claim where people are constantly motivating each other to do more and better things. Be proud of what you've done, be willing to help others learn and keep the values and traditions that we hold dear alive, and be ready to fight for the ideas that you love. As long as you remember that, you're still useful.

Response by LTC Terry Dodson made Jan 28 at 2015 5:39 PM

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No it doesn't bother me. It would be rude to belittle or minimize their acknowledgement. I usually respond with "thank you for your support ".

Response by SFC Dan Sorrow, M.S. made Jan 28 at 2015 7:49 PM

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Not a waste of time, brother. It makes me feel uneasy at times at work when we have a veterans day and memorial day ceremony, which is nice of them to set aside work time for, but odd that they don't know the difference between the two holidays. I haven't reached or earned memorial day honors.

Response by CPO Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 28 at 2015 7:58 PM

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When I was first broken, the priority was to remove me as fast as possible from those still involved with active operations. Then, the need to process the "Broken person" as fast as possible or purge them from the roles to allow the team to reform for the mission and also to get a new person for the job. The job, especially in the special forces area must still be done, just push the body out of the way and keep going. Does not matter who's body it is or which side they are on. (That is a perception) . That was probably the hardest part for me and it made those thank you's seem so empty, especially when I was desperately trying to get the help I needed just to stay alive.

Then as I was moving into the VA system, I found great resources and people willing to help, then I felt like there was a real possibility to meaning to those words that had been so empty prior to that.

I also find it very difficult to believe that those in Congress find it much more valuable to thank a bullet than they do to thank a Vet who came home. Especially if that Veteran needs help and support. The constant cutbacks from congress and the games they play with contractors has not been care focused it has been "Dollar" focused.

Seems to me, when asked to serve, most raised their hands and willingly took on the challenges we were confronted with and learned to overcome adversity of all kinds, just to be some of the best at what we were trained to accomplish. No matter the difficulty or even open knowledge of the task at hand. The job still got done.

Then we come home and all the contractors are getting fat, just no budgets for people and maintenance.

This makes it very difficult to look at people and knowingly see those empty words roll out of their mouths.

Now, the many people are genuine in their wishes and thanks. The mass amount of people just do not understand or are willing to stop and understand the real inner workings of the military life. Thankfully and I do mean this with all my heart, the services do have a way of taking care of our own. So, when the words are just something nice for people to say, we have the DAV, AMVETS, VFW and several other service organizations who really know what those words mean and how we can help and support one another.

The military people are demonized in the civilian community as far as budgets are concerned. So the comment, "Thanks for your service", has many different meanings to many people.

For those Vets that have served in the past, along side when I served and in the future, my heart, words, deeds will always be saying thank-you for your "Voluntary Service" when so few were willing to serve or offer genuine support.

Finally, and every time possible, no Vet should deploy or come home without feeling they are welcomed and part of our family. More and more, we must take the time to say thank-you and help our communities learn the real value of honest support in words and deeds.

Just a thought.

Response by Capt Michael Brown made Jan 28 at 2015 10:31 PM

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I always appreciate the 'thank you's but really find them unwarranted. Loved being a Marine and would not have had it any other way. It does make me ache for the Viet Nam era veterans and the disgraceful way this country treated them upon their return.

Response by PFC James Springer made Jan 28 at 2015 11:01 PM

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NO I am proud that I served US Army.

Response by TSgt Steven Summerlin made Jan 28 at 2015 11:08 PM

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It used to, but no longer. I have come to the realization that people just want to express their gratitude. As a representative of the Armed Services Community, it fosters more goodwill to reply with a polite "You're Welcome" than to let it irritate you. If You're Welcome isn't your style, reply in kind with a "I am grateful I had the opportunity". It's sort of a small compliment back towards the person. If that is still out of your comfort zone, then "Best job I ever had" will do.

Response by COL Charles Williams made Jan 28 at 2015 11:20 PM

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I would say it does not bother me, but it does embarrass me. I say this because I never started this journey or continued serving for anything other than the feeling I have/had that was I was doing mattered. This is and never was about me. It is/was about service above self, and doing something that matters.

Nevertheless, I do appreciate it, and knowing that it has not always been this way (thanking random Vets for their service), I also return the favor and thank every Vet I see.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 29 at 2015 3:00 AM

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I wouldn't say that it bothers me when some random person thanks me for my service. But it is always awkward because I don't know what to say back. So I usually just say thanks and go somewhere else.

Response by SFC Mark Merino made Jan 29 at 2015 4:17 AM

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I thank everyone in uniform, and everyone who wears a hat stating when/where they served, and say "Welcome Home" to every Vietnam vet I see. Sometimes the reactions bring tears. Tears are painful memories leaving the soul.

Response by Sheryl Verhulst made Jan 29 at 2015 5:40 AM

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I don't like it. It makes me feel uncomfortable. I was just a POG, nothing special.

Response by MSgt Wayne Morris made Jan 29 at 2015 7:49 AM

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I personally think it is a bit trendy and am anticipating the pedelum will eventually swing the other way.

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 29 at 2015 8:17 AM

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It does not bother me. Instead, it humbles me because I know there are grateful people out there and I know some of my comrades gave much more. Sometimes, we live in a country of extremes. We don't see everyone and when looking at the news or media, you can get a negative attitude if you allow it, but when someone takes the time to just shake your hand and say thank you, that small gesture is displaying a gratitude that is more than likely the heart and soul of our country; the people who are grateful.

Response by SFC Tim Grounds made Jan 29 at 2015 8:27 AM

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I retired in Aug 2002 with 24 years of service and like to hear that. Larry, that is one way to interpret the comment, but I lean toward it being a solemn thank you. When someone says to me "Thank you for your service" I proudly tell them thank you and that I am still serving. Just my two cents, my oath of enlistment never expires.

Response by MSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 29 at 2015 1:01 PM

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I embrace it.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 29 at 2015 1:29 PM

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When someone says thank you for your service. I respond by saying, thank you for your appreciation.

Response by 1SG Robert Gardner made Jan 29 at 2015 1:49 PM

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I'm very thankful when someone recognizes our sacrifices and the sacrifices our families have made. I don't expect the recognition, that's not the reason we serve, but it is much appreciated when it comes. 10 percent discounts, why not? You'll never see a police officer or first responder turning down a discount gor their service to their communities, why should we feel bad about 10% for serving and protecting our nation?

Response by SGT Mitch McKinley made Jan 29 at 2015 3:46 PM

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I have been thanked numerous times...and my response is always the same: "It was absolutely my pleasure." Because it was. I was willing to stand in a gap for those who couldn't/wouldn't.

Response by SSG Marie Albrecht made Jan 29 at 2015 3:59 PM

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I had someone state "Thank you for your Continued service" as I am retired I questioned what they meant and they responded to the effect that knowing I am a veteran is an inspiration to them and their children. I no longer look at thank you for your service as meaning it is over.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 29 at 2015 5:49 PM

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I think the world would a much better place if a lot of people were told thank you more. My mom was an ER trauma nurse and nothing meant more to her than when people would come back to the ER the next day or after they healed and thank her and the rest of the trauma team for helping them. "Thank you" is a very powerful gift to give and receive.

Response by SPC Thomas Lema made Jan 29 at 2015 9:17 PM

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I say in some ways it makes me a bit confused all of sudden we are thanked. But at the same time i agree with it in a very humble way, because pretty much all my family members, father ,grandfather uncles cousin, and my daughter served to. I always looked at it as a obligation to thank our forfathers who made this country great , and all the current service members and vets who keep the torch of freedom lit.

Response by SrA Chris Martins made Jan 29 at 2015 11:52 PM

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No, I say thank you. I am proud to have served. I joined in order to serve my country and all the USA stands for. My grandfather was a retired Col. in the Army and I felt the need to serve. Now my son is in the USAF.

Response by PO2 Alan Taber made Jan 30 at 2015 1:24 AM

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Pretty much anything is better than what we got when we came "home" in '69. The shot-up, f*****d up and the PTSD's were avoided. The only ones in my town that got honorariums were those that came back in a body bag. I have found that the the people who say "Thank you" while they look you in the eye - or touch you - probably have - or had - someone that is serving or has served. I will usually ask them and if it's so and if so, I will pass the "Thank you" back. I have had it come to pass that the person has lost someone and we have ended 'hugging it out'. I suggest that YOU ! WE ! 'touch' anyone that says "Thank you" with a touch of our own for we know not what they have endured.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 2:43 AM

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Not at all and I don't expect people to thank me either. I love my country and serve it with pride and honor. Let me share a very inspiring incident that happened to me a couple of weeks back. "I love eating at Crackle Barrel when I was done eating I left the building and proceeded to walk too my car where I was approached by two older male saying "thank you for protecting my country. There were both retired Marines. I answered by no thank you I would not be able to serve without your sacrifices. It was an emotional day for sure.

Response by SPC(P) Craig Kupras made Jan 30 at 2015 12:29 PM

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If that bothers you, then I recommend you move to the San Francisco Bay Area where I lived long enough to realize that having my military service on my resume was a job killer.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 12:31 PM

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Hearing "thank you for your service" doesn't bother me but I've definitely seen sentiments that are more for the sender than the recipient. Also, if the country would really like to thank veterans, they should pay more attention to the rules, benefits, and pay scales that affect active and retired service members.

I would rather see people (average citizens and policymakers alike) thank us by making sure sick and injured Soldiers get good medical treatment, current Soldiers are compensated fairly for their skills, military leaders are held accountable for their actions, and retirees can live their lives with the dignity and respect they deserve.

Response by MSgt Dave Burke made Jan 30 at 2015 3:49 PM

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YES! "Thank you for your service." DOES bother me. I find it to be just thrown out without feeling simply because political correctness demands it nowadays. I question the sincerity of the speaker. A simple "Hello" with a handshake would be much better IF done with sincerity. I cannot stand fakes or impostors in any situation. Be sincere and true or just go away.

Response by SPC David Wyckoff made Jan 30 at 2015 3:50 PM

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Having someone tell me, "Thank you for your service" doesn't bother me at all. It did, however, take me a few years of bumbled and mumbled answers to finally land on one that I liked. I look them in the eye and say, "It was my privilege to serve". That lets them know that the honor was mine but I appreciate their taking the time to thank me.
That said I don't get people coming up to me a lot. I don't wear anything that denotes me as a veteran except for a very small 1st Cav pin on my baseball cap. So most of the people that I am thanked by are veterans themselves.

I make it a point to shake the hand of any vet I see wearing a hat. Especially the WW2 and Vietnam vets. I always take the Vietnam vet's hand in both mine, make sure I make eye contact and say, "Welcome home, I appreciate what you did". I think it conveys a better message than just Thank you for your service.

Response by SSG Don Waggoner made Jan 30 at 2015 3:55 PM

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I don't really like it. But, don't dis me either. I did what I did and it's done. But the problem is, if you don't insist on it, vets are/wlill be soon forgotten and all the things the country owes us, like health care, will go away. aSo, be careful about refusing a blessing.

Response by PO2 David Barak made Jan 30 at 2015 3:55 PM

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Mostly yes, it bothers me. I agree with what a lot of people here have said, that it's often said as a bit of an automatic thing, often to makes the utterer feel good.

On a more personal note, although I suppose I could have found myself in unpleasant circumstances (combat, POW, or whatever) during my four years in the Navy, I had a relatively easy time of it. America was generally at peace, no full-on war raging. (Although of course we did lose military members to acts of violence during my service in the mid-1980s.) The real "thank you for your service" should go to those that went and fought, or even deployed to support those that fought. Anyone that had a mortar round whistling towards them even once or a bullet zinging by deserves thanks more than I do.

Response by SFC Carl Lukins made Jan 30 at 2015 3:58 PM

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It doesn't bother me at all. I usually respond with "You're welcome and thank you for your support." I thank those from the Vietnam era whenever I see them because they came home from war to face persecution and receive very little anything from the government that sent them.

Response by MAJ Derrick J. made Jan 30 at 2015 4:02 PM

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I'm rather perplexed by this question. Obviously, SPC Buck witnessed something that caused this question to come up, or he's feeling like it puts him in the spotlight or under a microscope, which can be uncomfortable in itself.

I am ALWAYS appreciative of when people recognize and express thanks for the service I rendered to this nation. I did not sacrifice legs or other body parts, but I sacrificed time and effort in Command at other positions that were not very easy and were always demanding. I put in extra time, unpaid. That was the right thing to do. I invested in my troops personally, and also was the right thing to do. I went above and beyond quite often, and too was the right thing to do.

So, no it doesn't bother me in the least nor should it bother any other current or prior service member of the US Armed Forces.

Response by SGT Patrick McCullough made Jan 30 at 2015 4:10 PM

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no not at all usually at that awkward break in conversation with civilians have nothing more to say to you

Response by CWO2 Shelby DuBois made Jan 30 at 2015 4:11 PM

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Why the hell would it bother anyone? With all the other crap veterans have to deal with.,..and when all the ticker tape parades are over the week after a return from a deployment.. its nice to have someone say anything nice... Make my day... thank me.. I'll thank you back.

Response by SGT Michael Heffner made Jan 30 at 2015 4:16 PM

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I never look at it in that manner, Most civilians will never know or understand what it takes to do the job "That we have done" So most people say it I think as an honor from them to us, There may be those who don't mean it... But i'm sure you can see those people a Mile away... Its hard to walk away from the Life... Because I know for me... It wasn't a Job but a Lifestyle .... Not everyone can do this....

Response by PO2 David Johnson made Jan 30 at 2015 4:20 PM

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No it doesn't bother me at all I like to here it because it reminds me of my service and the good times I had there

Response by SPC Danny Ellis made Jan 30 at 2015 4:20 PM

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It is nice to receive an acknowledgment for service. I remember the welcome my uncle received coming back from Nam, not a nice welcome and the no big deal attitude or scorn that I received when I ETS'ed in 81. It is surprising but it is nice to hear.

Response by Sgt Michael Mcelprang made Jan 30 at 2015 4:22 PM

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well, sometimes it's hard to tell whether it's has feeling behind it when people say it or if it's just something someone says to keep you moving along.

Response by SFC Steven Fielder made Jan 30 at 2015 4:31 PM

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Yes, it does bother me, because the first thing in my mind is all of those men and women who have given the ultimate sacrifice and will never hear those words .. Thank you for your service,

I was just doing my job

Response by PO1 Martin Lee made Jan 30 at 2015 4:33 PM

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I was recently at a Utah Grizzlies game and noticed a Navy Vietnam Veteran in the stands. As I always do, I went down and introduced myself as a fellow veteran, shook his hand, thanked him for his service, and also told him 'Welcome Home'. He was so appreciative and we talked and got to know each other. Great times. I for one love to hear the patriotism from those folks that will acknowledge the service and sacrifice because they appreciate what we have done for the cause of freedom.

Response by CPL David Markham made Jan 30 at 2015 4:35 PM

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I tell both young and old service folks thank you for their service because I am sincerely thankful. When I came home from VN 45 years or so ago friends and family didn't like to acknowledge that I had served in VN....

Response by MSgt Robert Kagel made Jan 30 at 2015 4:37 PM

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I did not serve with some grand idea, for me it was Plan C after A and B failed. I was more surprised than anyone that I loved it as much as I did. In the end, I served because I really liked my job and the life I had, even the crappy times gave me fond memories. But I am uncomfortable when folks give me the canned "Thank you, for your service.". It is unnecessary and now trite.

Response by Maj Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 4:37 PM

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Must admit - the first time I heard it, I felt kind of like the wait-staff at a restaurant - maybe it just starts to grow on you after awhile. However, a simple "Thank you" or "Thank you for being there" would work well for me and am pretty sure it'd be suitable for those that HAD to be there during the Viet Nam era.

Response by SFC Charles S. made Jan 30 at 2015 4:46 PM

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When I was growing up I watched the Vietnam war on the TV, and I saw vets get neglected and mistreated, so I would have to say NO, it does not bother me at all. I really appreciate that someone goes out of their way to actually recognize my service.

I see this as not something actually pointed at me specifically but to the Uniform. Thus, by replying or accepting graciously, I am allowing the person to give their respect to the Uniform. I never count it as something that I did personally. It is a greater presence that they are thanking.

The other side of this is what is the response to "Thank you for your service"... I make it a habit to respond with "You are welcome, It was my honor to Serve this Country." Because that is exactly how I feel. But the First time someone said it I hesitated at what to say, you have to think about it and so having a prepared response is best. It's awkward because you don't think about it as being something to reply to. Just MHO.

Response by PV2 Jay Lalli made Jan 30 at 2015 4:46 PM

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I agree. Just because we aren't still in doesn't mean we stop.

Response by LCDR Gordon Brown made Jan 30 at 2015 4:48 PM

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NO! When I receive a Thank you for your Service I respond with Thank you for your support.

Response by SGT Josh Johnson made Jan 30 at 2015 4:49 PM

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It doesn't bother me. I say it to veterans, active duty, reservists...basically, anyone who is identifiable as having served or is currently serving. That being said, the way I use it doesn't imply that anyone is done...at least I don't think of it that way.
BTW, I also say it to our firefighters and policemen, who (it seems to me) risk their lives everyday out here keeping us safe at home.
I fought in Iraq, I served in Bosnia, I did a tour in Kuwait, I've been to Hungary and Croatia. In no way do I think that our jobs, as soldiers is...or ever has been...safe. But, I think that the boys in blue have a much more dangerous job catching drug dealers, murderers, rapists...and sometimes not knowing who is even in a car that was just stopped running a red light or speeding....and they do it everyday, not just when sent overseas. I often thought that, at least we (as soldiers) new who the enemy was (in enemy uniforms). Yes, I know, that wasn't always the case...many times the enemy would be in civilian clothes, driving a Mazda truck or other blowing up a checkpoint or trying to gun down a convoy. But, while I was there, I had no qualms about shooting a civilian-looking person, who I perceived might be a threat (I tried to keep from shooting them if I could, but...). As a police officer it seems that there is in no way a line drawn in the same manner as it is drawn between (American Soldier, and not American Soldier).
But, I digress. My point is that I feel that it says "You're done." when saying "Thank you for your service." To me, it is just a way of saying, "Thank you. I appreciate all the hard work that you do and have done, and the life you laid on the line for our nation." But, I guess it is all in the way that it is said, when you are the one hearing it.

Response by SSgt Lonnie Montgomery made Jan 30 at 2015 4:50 PM

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SPC Buck,

Up until 9/11 one did not hear “thank you for your service” very often. For those veterans of my day or earlier we rarely heard it if at all. So to answer your question straight up: No, it does not bother me in the least to hear it or thank those that have come after.

My only exception is what you hear on the TV every time a service member or veteran is being interviewed. Seems they are being told “thank you for your service” as if being required to say it or they will get their hands slapped. Too often the thanks being said just seem very hollow. If you do not mean it don’t say it.

Response by SFC Dennis Yancy made Jan 30 at 2015 4:57 PM

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I live in a small west Texas town and I get thanked for service every so often. Does not bother me as it is meant as saying thanks. Have never felt I was being asked to get out of the way.

Response by CPL William Harper made Jan 30 at 2015 5:00 PM

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NO! Because we had a generation that previous to mine was maligned by these same folks I am always grateful and humble to get it. I in turn thank every veteran I see and make it a point to say something encouraging to them. By the way....THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE SERVICEMAN! God Bless you and your family!

Response by CPL Hayward Johnson made Jan 30 at 2015 5:00 PM

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yes It does but the problem with me is it's not so much the thank you for your service it's do they genuinely mean it because to me a lot of people say it but they really don't care

Response by Cpl Jason Brown made Jan 30 at 2015 5:01 PM

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Here's the thing.. When someone thanks me, I think of all the Widows and families who gave up a mother or father / Son or daughter. Quite honestly a veteran who dies has a lesser price to pay than a family who has to go on without them, living years missing them.

This might not be a popular response, but it is one that I think about every time I am thanked, and depending on the situation, and thank them back and share those thoughts with the person who thanked me.

So I am officially thanking all the families of service members for their sacrifices. An encourage all my brothers and sisters to do the same if they have the chance.

Response by SGT Bob Sampson made Jan 30 at 2015 5:02 PM

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No, it doesn't bother me. It shows a sign of respect for my service. Better then I received in 1968.

Response by SGT Philip Popa made Jan 30 at 2015 5:09 PM

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Although this message is decades late in telling service members, I do appreciate hearing it from those that are sincere about the phrase. The problem I have with it is it seems that people say it because it is the "politically correct" response. When I go on post for any reason I hear it from the gate guard, but the way it is said and the look on their faces tell me they really don't care if I served. If it isn't how you feel don't say it. Yes, I served. Yes, I am proud of my time I spent serving. Don't tell me "Thank you for your service" and look at me like I don't exist.

Response by PO2 Gabriel Hernandez made Jan 30 at 2015 5:10 PM

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I just used to say "thank you for your support" and carry on with my day.

Response by PO3 Michael Cormican made Jan 30 at 2015 5:13 PM

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After being spit on and call horrible things I really like "Thank you for your service".
Just one OLD GUY'S opinion.

Response by Cpl Jay Samdahl made Jan 30 at 2015 5:22 PM

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ya i have never caught one break for the time i spent in the gulf of oman

Response by SPC Eric Anderson made Jan 30 at 2015 5:23 PM

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It does not bother me because I've never heard it. But I signed that check 39 years ago and my oath of enlistment has never expired.

Response by SSgt Damien Pettway made Jan 30 at 2015 5:24 PM

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I think you are looking at it completely wrong. People want to thank you for your service because you serve the country. No one is saying standdown get out-of-the-way or any of that. I got thanks for my service even when I was on active duty and the people knew I was on active duty. It is humbling when someone thanks me for my service, but the right thing to do is to not steal that moment from that person who wants to thank a servicemember by correcting them or saying "no need" etc...and have them come away feeling bad about the experience. The right thing to do is say "I appreciate your words" and allow them that moment to feel good about thanking a service-member. My 2 cents.

Response by SPC Phil L made Jan 30 at 2015 5:25 PM

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It is a product of the Fox News crowd. To me it always sounds so insincere. No one said it to my dad or uncles who ww2 vets. I guess because everyone served then. Today so few have served and I guess it makes them feel better. I would say it annoys me.

Response by SGT Geoff Stanford made Jan 30 at 2015 5:26 PM

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I just never had a good response. I always felt weird, as if I was taking credit for a huge school project when I only did the easy part like making the poster. So, I started responding with "Thank you for letting me service you...*wink*". That usually returns the awkwardness I am feeling. haha.

Response by SCPO Shawn Northup made Jan 30 at 2015 5:27 PM

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It doesn't actually bother me, but it does make me feel a little uncomfortable. I don't know why anyone else joined the service, but the Navy did more for me in my 20 years than I ever did for it.

I would not be where I am today if I hadn't joined.

Response by TSgt James Davis made Jan 30 at 2015 5:28 PM

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I'm glad that people are thankful for what we have done. I thank those who have served before me and continue to thank those who have served and are still serving.

Response by SGT Kevin Gordie made Jan 30 at 2015 5:37 PM

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I'm a soldier...I'll always be one..people can thank me and people can spit at me I dont care.I am who I am.....so own it or leave it .. don't be a Bitch.

Response by CPL Johan Dominique made Jan 30 at 2015 5:38 PM

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It makes me uncomfortable but i think it goes back to training. Service was a duty and an honor. I thank the military. I guess its more of a guilt because i feel the praise should goout to those that made the ultimate sacrifice. If i could send all the praise somehow to those still in the fight those that didnt make home in one piece and those that didnt make it all i would. Dont thank me thank them.

Response by SPC Todd Fitzgerald made Jan 30 at 2015 5:39 PM

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I think it's a kind gesture and I don't feel bad at all because I always respond with "And thank you for your tax dollars". I feel it's appropriate and makes us equal.

Response by MSG William Adams made Jan 30 at 2015 5:40 PM

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I don't mind at all. When someone says to you "Thank you for your service" I think it's like when someone says "Merry Christmas" around the holidays. They are just being kind. I do not celebrate Christmas, but when someone say's "Merry Christmas" I say "Thanks" just like when someone says "Thank you for your service".

Bill Adams 18ZW9

Response by PO2 Roger Pope made Jan 30 at 2015 5:40 PM

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When people find out I am a veteran and say something, I usually just smile and humbly nod. I don't advertise the fact that I am a Veteran; I'm not ashamed of it, just not who I am. The comment don't really bother me but I'm not looking for it and I don't expect it.

My Dad proudly wore his Korea Veteran cap everyday, and would shake anybody's hand that mentioned it.

Response by SGT Sebastian Paul made Jan 30 at 2015 5:40 PM

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It doesn't bother me that someone appreciates what we have done. However, what I really wish people were doing was giving more gratitude to the families of the men and women who gave their lives in service.

Response by PO1 Jimmie Hall made Jan 30 at 2015 5:41 PM

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I always tell people Don't thank me, instead love your country enough to stop the government from taking it away from you. If they succeed, there isn't going to be many of us patriots left to go fight for you again.

Response by CPL Daniel Perez made Jan 30 at 2015 5:42 PM

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Sometimes it does bug me. I don't know what to say. I joined the Army because it was what I wanted to do. I went Airborne because I really, really wanted to jump out of an airplane. My father served with the 25th Infantry Division in Vietnam, I grew up on army bases and I saw how the military used to be treated and I guess that's why it bugs me sometimes, it's like people are trying to make up for the way they used to treat soldiers. Sometimes I just feel like it's being overdone.

Response by SFC James Massey made Jan 30 at 2015 5:44 PM

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I enjoy it when someone takes the to recognize the fact that I had served and that they are thankful for the time and effort I put into it. I know that I do it to other veterans, I especially go out of my way to shake the hand of a WW II veteran for there are not many left.

Response by TSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 5:44 PM

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I really don't need to hear it. I am a believer that every American has an obligation to serve their country and I consider it a true heart felt honor that I was given that opportunity, I loved the twenty years I did and now iam getting ready to retire again. Once I retire again I want to do the things I want to do.

Response by PO2 Sam Tkach made Jan 30 at 2015 5:47 PM

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It bothers me only when I say to people that I was in Iraq, otherwise, it's doesn't, but actually, makes me feel good.

Response by SSG William Patton made Jan 30 at 2015 5:49 PM

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It does not bother me, but it sometimes embarrasses me if it is in a very public setting. While I appreciate the statement, I was only doing my duty during a difficult period in our nation's history. I did nothing millions of others have done throughout history. Still, I appreciate someone taking the time to thank me.

Response by CPO Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 5:51 PM

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No, it doesn't bother me one bit. I always return by saying "Thank you for your support and if you're a vet, thank you for YOUR service."

Response by SPC David Brown made Jan 30 at 2015 5:53 PM

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This is something I would tell my dad, Master Chief Patrick W. Brown, every Veterans Day, and he would respond in kind. I consider any acknowledgement an honor when sincerely given.

Response by Cpl Sean Rising made Jan 30 at 2015 5:55 PM

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Yeah, canned phrase. I think they mean it but really I try to tell other veterans and current members something a little more personal.

Response by PO3 Donna Parker made Jan 30 at 2015 5:56 PM

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No. It doesn't bother me. I'm very humble, but when I see my sons thank those who are serving now and stop and thank them, I'm proud that they recognize those that keep them safe. "YO,JOE!" REALLY? When ANYONE thanks you for your service, in my opinion, they mean it sincerely..
NUMEROUS Vets came back with no thanks (I'm not one of them) - but there are numerous VETS who served and NEVER got a THANK YOU - those vets (again, not me) kept those that kept us all safe until I became a Vet (again - I state I wasn't in a war zone), but why would that bother you?

Response by SSG Brian MacBain made Jan 30 at 2015 6:00 PM

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I think it is an honor to be recognize and I thank them back. I especially go out of my way to thank a Vietnam Vet for their service for which they did not receive a correct welcome when they came back. I had the honor couple years ago when flying to Alaska that I sat next to a WWII veteran and was in awe when he told me his stories that he had during the war. He and his wife (he was in his 90's) was celebrating their 60th anniversary and doing the trip (boat cruise, train ride). They were from Florida.

Response by Sgt Harlin Seritt made Jan 30 at 2015 6:00 PM

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Why would it bother you? I think you're over-thinking this one ;)

Response by LCpl Matthew Fry made Jan 30 at 2015 6:09 PM

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in a way yes, it does. I joined during desert storm but it was over before I got to the FMF. so my "service" was during peacetime I didn't do anything that I feel is deserving of recognition. you hear about "stolen valor" all the time and that's why it bothers me I feel as if I'm stealing someone else s recognition for something they did when I did nothing. its hard for me to make someone who has never served to understand the difference. maybe one of you knows a way how but I've tried but have regressed to just saying thank you and moving on to a different subject. it just easier that way (but wrong in my heart)...

Response by SGM Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 6:09 PM

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I went to Kuwait, Iraq, Kosovo, and Afghanistan (twice). I came home with no bullet holes, no injuries, no PTSD (that I am aware of), and more or less functional. So it used to embarrass me when someone said, "Thanks for your service", because I didn't suffer anything more than separation from my family.

I now respond, "On behalf of those who gave much more than I did, you're welcome."

I honor those who didn't come back whole like I did. Try it on. Maybe it will work for you too.

Response by CPL James Zielinski made Jan 30 at 2015 6:10 PM

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I don't get affected by it either way but to me it symbolizes a change in attitude from the disgusting way our Vietnam Vets were treated, so I'm glad to hear it.

Response by SGT James Thein made Jan 30 at 2015 6:11 PM

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No it does not. Someone is grateful for your service and a polite Thank you should follow any type of gratitude.

Response by SGT Edward Edmiston made Jan 30 at 2015 6:11 PM

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The "Thank you for your service" often seems to be a meaningless catch phrase. I don't know what I want to hear from others to acknowledge my service, but this thanks seems hallow.

Response by Sgt Chris Casson made Jan 30 at 2015 6:13 PM

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Yes. I got thanked twice a month from disbursing. All this outpouring of gratitude of late seems a bit patronizing to me or patriating to them. Either way, it's not needed or deserved.

Response by CPT Jim Davis made Jan 30 at 2015 6:14 PM

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While I agree with SFC McMillion, it can be nice to hear . . . sometimes. When it becomes a reflexive "no content" response from someone at the VA, who's actually doing dick-all to solving a problem, then it gets really bloody annoying.

Yeah, when I first got off active duty in 1976, I got slapped in an airport bar because I was still in uniform. So, things today are an improvement.

Response by SPC James Philp made Jan 30 at 2015 6:18 PM

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When I enlisted, I was an eighteen year old kid, wondering what I was gonna do with my life, trying to make the best decisions available to me at the time.
It's nice to hear, but I don't expect it and I'm always surprised when I hear it. I wear a small pin on my work badge, and I have my veteran license plates. That's enough for me :)

Response by PO3 Corey Fortner made Jan 30 at 2015 6:19 PM

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Ur a idiot. Being told thank u for ur service is something u shld be grateful for. People are saying thank you for the sacrfices u made for this country. Why shld that bother u. Makes no damn sense.

Response by SGT Michael Sanchez made Jan 30 at 2015 6:20 PM

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I'm sorry, what?

Response by SSgt David Love made Jan 30 at 2015 6:26 PM

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It reminds me of what they tell someone that's being forcibly retired or riffed in the corporate world, just as they're giving them a watch and sending them on their way.

It's such a small phrase, in an attempt to compensate for so much given, so much sacrificed, often uttered in a tone similar to "sorry for your loss."

I often hear it from the same people that seem to think that by volunteering at a soup kitchen or performing a semi tough civilian job puts them on the same level of service, contribution and sacrifice as someone that's served on active duty.

Response by SSG Joe Tappainer made Jan 30 at 2015 6:27 PM

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Not at all. It is very refreshing after all the years when know one cared. It does bother me when people call me a hero though. I am not a hero I did my job the best I know how, for my men and my unit.

Response by SSgt Robert Clark made Jan 30 at 2015 6:28 PM

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It has been almost 33 years since the day I started basic, and I have been back in the civilian world for 22 years. In all that time, I accidentally let it slip one time I was a vet and the person thanked me for my service. I didn't know what to say. I didn't do anything special. I just did the best I could do when asked and without complaint. Don't really feel like I did anything that warrants being thanked.

Response by Cpl David Schaffer made Jan 30 at 2015 6:28 PM

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I have no problem hearing those words. In all honesty it is a bit humbling and I also gives a since of pride hearing those words. Personally it would tick me off a lot more if some civy walked up and said "Yo Joe," maybe because I am a Marine but to me that shows zero respect. I don't mind being called Marine (or even Jarhead as long it is by those that know me). I also go out of my way to thank those that have served before and after me as I appreciate the sacrifice they made for me.

Response by SGT Kristin Myers made Jan 30 at 2015 6:32 PM

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I was told this when I was active duty as well as now when I am a Veteran. In both instances, I felt recognized and proud to have served. Don't look at this as a negative thing, but a postive one. Look at how horrible Vietnam Veterans were treated when returning home as compared to now. Have pride in your wearing of the uniform!

Response by SSG Jayne Reed made Jan 30 at 2015 6:33 PM

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It bothers me sometimes when I get the feeling that the person is going to turn around and vote for a political candidate who wants to cut veterans' benefits. And it rarely sounds sincere to me.

Response by SSG Everett Wilson made Jan 30 at 2015 6:36 PM

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No, makes me feel a little better that my service wasn't in vain

Response by COL Timothy S. made Jan 30 at 2015 6:37 PM

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It really depends on the context. If a young person goes to the effort to walk over to me and say those words (usually, but not always at the prompting of their parents), I go out of my way to respond with deep appreciation. If someone says those words with even the slightest bit of sincerity, I do feel good about it and try to be gracious.

Where those words make me want to respond with with indignity is when they are said as if they are being read from a script. No where have I heard that kind of expression more than at Department of Veterans Affairs facilities. During my orientation at the Austin VA Outpatient Clinic, for example, the administrator leading the session uttered those words no less than 4 times, and each and every time it sounded like it was being read.

I'd just as soon not have to hear it uttered by someone who couldn't give a flying flip whether or not I served. We used to have a saying in the National Guard...if it wasn't for the drilling Guardsmen, the AGR full time force wouldn't have a job. I can only hope that that the new DVA leadership will work to institutionalize that understanding within the Civil Servant work force at VA facilities.

Response by PO1 Dan Patrick made Jan 30 at 2015 6:40 PM

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Not at all, I take it as an honor that someone would take the time to recognize my service and sacrifice. I don't consider it an insinuation of feebleness, even at 49 years old I'm still in the mix overseas as a government contractor. When someone thanks me for my service, usually accompanied by a handshake, I simply smile and say "It's my honor to serve, sir/ma'am."

Response by SFC William Farrell made Jan 30 at 2015 6:40 PM

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It is good that Americans are thanking their service men and women for their service to their country even though they volunteered to do so. It was an honor for me to serve this great country and I am privileged to do so as retired soldier today. It means they have finally come to accept the sacrifices we service members make in their behalf.

The thank you's did not come when I returned from Vietnam back in 1972 at 19 years old. It took several wars or skirmishes for this to have happened. You had Grenada and Panama which were for causes that most Americans supported and then you had the first Gulf War to get Saddam out of Kuwait. It was only after that point that the thank you's started coming and rightfully so.

As for this retired Vietnam vet, I am still pissed at the way the media treated Vietnam veterans; baby killers and drug addicts we were called to say the least. In fact my own future father in law, a Greatest Generation veteran even asked me whether i killed any babies or whether I am a drug addict or not. I was dumbfounded and did not know how to respond to the question at the time other than to deny it which was the truth. We were so young and only doing our jobs; whether we enlisted as I did with my twin brother or we were perhaps drafted as were millions of others men.

Like some, who will never forget what Jane Fonda did, I will never forget how a generation of soldiers were treated as the hands of the press! And I do believe it was the press who enabled Americans to treat their returning soldiers in the manner that they did.

Response by PO2 Floyd Green made Jan 30 at 2015 6:41 PM

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It bothers me, but not in the same way. I served and I am proud of my time in service, but my service in a great many ways was nothing like the service some have performed today. I was not in during a war. For me it was more like a job, albeit a job I could not quit. So while I understand what people are trying to say, I would rather them say it to those who have really served and paid for that service in ways that I never had to comprehend.

Response by A1C Lone Wolf made Jan 30 at 2015 6:42 PM

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I think it's ok to thank a vet like that but my question is why did it take us getting attacked before vets got thanked for what they have done

Response by Maj Tony Lucas made Jan 30 at 2015 6:43 PM

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Doesn't bother me and I usually respond with "It was an honor to serve." I sincerely doubt that anyone who made the comment implies that "your (sic) done go sit down and grow feeble." I can't tell you how many WWII, Korea and Vietnam vets I've thanked for their service through the years but I can tell you that I was absolutely sincere in my thanks every single time.

If the thanks you hear comes from a civilian who has never served a day and sounds "off" it may be because they are simply overwhelmed by the idea of someone giving so much and asking for so little - it's alien to the civilian culture and has the effect of making them sound sarcastic or insincere. Get past it and know that your service mattered and matters.

Response by PO3 Jeff Lane made Jan 30 at 2015 6:46 PM

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I served because I wanted to. I'm a patriot and thought of nothing else. Well maybe about football!!! Anyway when it comes to being thanked it feels great and at times emotional. Its nice to get recognition for serving this great nation of ours. I make it a point to thank veterans and active duty when ever i see them!!!

Response by PFC Albert Warford made Jan 30 at 2015 6:51 PM

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You know- It doesn't bother me but it does feel a little embracing. It was a honor to serve my country but I am not a combat veteran so I feel that serving as I did is all the thanks I need and being thanked makes me feel a little uncomfortable. I do not feel worthy of thanks.

Response by PO2 Erik Swanson made Jan 30 at 2015 6:52 PM

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I like it. We have "veteran" on our D/Ls and while not everyone says it, the few that do I think really mean it. To me it's them saying, "I'm glad you did it so I didn't have to."

Response by SSgt Trey Villela made Jan 30 at 2015 6:52 PM

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I've always felt weird when people used to say that to me. But considering what our brothers and sisters in arms had to endure in the past, I feel honored to be recognized. I just retired last July but I have a lot of friends that went to Vietnam and I hear their stories of how they were treated. Anyways when someone tells me "thank you for your service", I reply with "no, thank you for your support." Im proud of my time in the Marine Corps.

Response by PO3 Bob Littlehawk made Jan 30 at 2015 6:53 PM

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anything is better what came in the 60's and early 70's butas someone pointed out lately we took an oath to protect and defend which had a start date but NO END DATE I think most would still protect and defend

Response by CPL Victor Harwood made Jan 30 at 2015 6:56 PM

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It doesn't bother me at all when someone tells me "Thank you for your service" and as a matter of fact I don't see why it would be a question in regards to vets. Once an individual has served their first day they have served and then are open to the saying. So I must say I am a little confused at the actual idea of the post, but I do not intend any disrespect by that. I was told "Thank you for your service" by Al Roker at the airport the day I arrived for BCT and I am still told the same thing to this day. The only difficulties I encounter when an individual approaches me or in conversation tell me this is my response. I usually respond with a thank you back, in the idea that it is just nice to be respected and recognized for something I did. I do also try to make it a point to acknowledge other vets and thank them for their service because it wasn't a job that I did alone or anyone else at that matter. This is just my insight on the topic of thanking or being thanked for service.

Response by Lt Col Phil "SPOT" Taber made Jan 30 at 2015 6:56 PM

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I am humbled by the recognition and typically respond with something along the lines of: "Thank you. It was an honor and privilege." I take this recognition as the compliment that it is intended with no hidden "old guy" meaning.

Although I actively served the USAF for 22 years, I do not consider myself old or out to pasture... yet...

Respectfully submitted.

Response by SSG Samuel Fortune made Jan 30 at 2015 6:56 PM

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It does bother me only cause I never know how to respond. We all had different reasons for joining.

Response by PO1 Michael Rohman made Jan 30 at 2015 7:01 PM

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I kept being told that I was only in the Coast Guard, even by other vets! My dad, who retired as a major in the Air Force, told me that the Coast Guard isn't really the military. This was from 1979 until just after the events of 9-11-01. It got to the point that I wouldn't talk about my service at the VA..... Slowly the attitudes started changing.

I love being thanked for my service! It feels good to know some people appreciate what I have done!

Response by TSgt James Potter made Jan 30 at 2015 7:05 PM

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I respond with "Thank you for your support". Seems to work out pretty good.

Response by SN Mike Bissell made Jan 30 at 2015 7:06 PM

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It really doesn't bother me because I hardly hear it. When I do I really don't know how to respond because I only did what I think every American should want to do and besides that I only served I never paid the ultimate price so many Service Men/Women have.

Response by PO2 Frank Inscore made Jan 30 at 2015 7:09 PM

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After hearing for so so many many years 30+ the words, oh you were in the service. Your a special kind of dumbass arent you, or you volunteered to be a dumbass didnt you, sometimes you have to be the stupidest M@#$er F&$%er I have ever met....this followed by the words from that person(s)... (many more than just 40 or 50 who told me this).... I would never volunteer to be in the military, and if they did have a draft I would be gone to Canada. So yes I am very thankful to hear the words thank you for your service. Thats my 2 cents worth.

Response by LT Dale Ford made Jan 30 at 2015 7:14 PM

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Not a bit. For a Vietnam era vet to be thanked is a real treat.

Response by CPO Harry Stearns made Jan 30 at 2015 7:15 PM

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I both appreciate it and resent it. It is good that people are finally realising that Veterans have made sacrifices, but I am starting to see it as an empty statement, not meaning that much more than saying "God Bless You" when someone sneezes! If people REALLY appreciated our service they would be writing their Senators and Representatives about better VA treatment and cost-of-living allowance for retired Service Members. People love to say thank you, but rarely take the effort to SHOW it!

Response by SFC David Pope, MBA made Jan 30 at 2015 7:20 PM

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I feel it an honor to be part of an elite brotherhood that has served this country and offered our lives on behalf of the American people. My response to a thank you for your service is "it was my pleasure." I don't find any resemblance of go sit down, but rather the opposite, stand up and be recognized. Many of us vets continue to serve in veteran groups, church organizations, teaching and scouting. Mine as well as many others on RP continue to serve in other ways after the military. We do it, because that is what veterans are about till we die.

Response by SGT Rob McSwain made Jan 30 at 2015 7:23 PM

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Really?! All the problems we have and this bothers you. You know there are allot of people who wanted to but were not able to serve, some folks might actually have a son, brother, sister, daughter, etc over seas right now. Or they might just be a fellow patriot and feel the need to shake a veterans hand and give respect where they feel it's due. Your tour might be up but that oath has no expiration date. III%

Response by SPC Michael Williams made Jan 30 at 2015 7:25 PM

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Doesn't bother me. I actually appreciate it. On veteran's day my church plays each branch's song and asks vets of that branch to stand a be recognized. I think it's a nice touch.

Response by SFC Jay Needham made Jan 30 at 2015 7:25 PM

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Yes it bothers me, hell it was my job, I got paid.

Response by PO2 Chris Wright made Jan 30 at 2015 7:25 PM

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I think that if you are unable to take someone saying “thank you” in the way that it’s meant, you’ve got your own issue that’s getting in the way. I thank the older vets all the time and they always light up when they are recognized out of nowhere for doing something. The definition of service is accompanied by humility. If you don’t have that feeling and instead are craving some comic book tween fantasy that you haven’t yet achieved. Get over it.

Response by Sgt Michael Burr made Jan 30 at 2015 7:28 PM

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Doesn't bother me in the least. I wear my Viet Nam Veteran cap frequently & have had people buy me lunch, pay for my groceries as well as thanking me. Perhaps you should re-think your interpretation.

Response by SPC Carolyn Crawford made Jan 30 at 2015 7:35 PM

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Interesting, I also find myself uncomfortable when someone thanks me for my service, but for a different reason. Thanking service members, active duty and veterans, is really a recent development – they didn’t thank us for anything when I got out in 1975. But the odd occasion when it does happen to me, I don’t take it to mean that I’m done and should just fade away.

Last year I had the honor of attending a Veterans Day celebration at my two youngest grandsons elementary school. My grandsons learned all of the songs for each branch of service and were instructed to invite any family members that were veterans. They have always been fascinated that their Mema was a soldier in the Army, so they invited me.

The morning started out with a pancake breakfast, then we moved into the gym where each veteran was called by name to come to the front of the gym and be recognized by the children singing their service branch’s song. I have to say I got all choked up watching/listening to all of those 1st – 5th graders singing, marching and saluting – my heart swelled with pride at being an American and being a Veteran.

It was a very special morning and it made me think about this very subject. I guess I’ve always felt slightly uncomfortable when anyone would thank me for my service, responding that I really didn’t do anything because I was a pencil pusher stationed at Ft. Knox, KY during Vietnam. But my son reminded me that I volunteered and I was available if they had asked me to go into a dangerous situation and I would have done it. He is right – I would have done it. And that's what they're thanking me for - that I was ready to make the sacrifice if needed. So now I’m a little less uncomfortable when I’m thanked for my service.

Response by SFC Collin McMillion made Jan 30 at 2015 7:39 PM

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The response to this single guestion has been fantastic. Not only for the "welcome home", but the "thank-you"s". Truly the y are all greatly appreciated, but being that it has been so many brothers and sisters in arms is so great. My only wish would be that the thousands before us, the 57,000+ in my time and the thousands after could hear and know our graditude and love. My hero's are bared in graves around the world and I know the greatest "welcome home", will come from them when I leave this world. I truly hope that each of us can find a moment in our lives to look towards the heavens and say "thank-you" to all the brave brothers and sisters who can't hear it from others.

Response by SGT Sandra Mitchell made Jan 30 at 2015 7:40 PM

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I say Thank You to anyone who thanks me for my service. It doesn't bother me to hear it and it actually feels good to be recognized. Inherently, I think anyone who says Thank You to me is sincere and good hearted. I haven't received one negative remark from anyone hearing I served my country...only positive. Plus, it sparks a friendly conversation.

Response by CPO Barton Cole made Jan 30 at 2015 7:43 PM

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I love it especially when it precedes, "and enjoy this free adult beverage!"

Response by MSgt Raymond Hickey made Jan 30 at 2015 7:44 PM

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I'm a Nam Vet, and lifer...I spent 20 years in uniform on active duty. The first time someone said thank you to me was in a boarders book store, about 10 years after I retired. A young black woman approached me and asked me if I was a Viet Nam veteran...when I acknowledged that yes, I was, she thanked me for my service and kissed me on the cheek...I had tears in my eyes...after all the bad words, feelings, and hatred for the past 20 + years, I was very moved. Never knew the young lady's name, but her kindness and sincerity were more then welcome. For you youngsters, appreciate and accept the thanks. When we returned from Nam, we were not thanked, we were spit on, ridiculed, badmouthing and outcast. Be thankful that you are appreciated and be grateful for the words and thanks of anyone and everyone.

Response by SSgt Daniel Reed made Jan 30 at 2015 7:48 PM

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40 years ago I was spit on at a civilian gas station in Spokane Washington while in uniform. After that I spent decades keeping my service close to my chest. My attitude changed over time along with the entire country and I finally came out of the closet, so to speak, on my military past. I was proud of my service and now I felt I could finally show it. Hence my veteran baseball cap with the American/Viet Nam Flag and military (Air Force) hat pins.

Now to your question. It does bother me a little. The very first time someone said that to me was in 2013 at the grocery store. I had on my Viet Nam hat. I was surprised and grateful when I heard it. I never saw any of the welcome home fanfare one sees today nor had I experienced any respect for my time with Uncle Sam. However, the first few times people said it to me were great but then I started hearing so often. It now seems so homogenized like telling someone "have a nice day".

Response by PO2 Raymond Seward made Jan 30 at 2015 7:55 PM

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I think it's more in the way we respond or react. As many times as someone has thanked me and really meant it there have been just as many who thanked me, more for their personal reasons and usually to make themselves look better than the next person in line. I like to respond with either, it was all my honor or it was my privilege followed by, DID YOU SERVE? That usually separates the two.

Response by SPC William Hinesley made Jan 30 at 2015 7:58 PM

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It doesn't bother me to be thanked for my service but I'll tell you something I was reminded of last Saturday at a gun show . This gentleman working one of the tables thanked me and another gentleman there for our service and the other man said that when he see's a vietnam vet that instead of thanking them for their service that he should say Welcome Home . Because they were never welcomed back and told to not wear there uniforms and the like.It was a good reminder and a stark contrast as to how vets were treated then and now. Shouldn't matter if its a popular war or not the ones who fought it should always be respected.

Response by PO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 8:01 PM

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No what's awkward is how do you respond to that

Response by SSG Randall Ford made Jan 30 at 2015 8:19 PM

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Actually it kind of feels uncomfortable for some reason. It was my duty as a True American to due my time. Actually 17.25yrs until they did a RIF. Did not even consider medical issues received in the service.
So I got nothing. However going straight to the V.A. and filed my claims. Eventually I had the D.A.V. help me get it raised all the way. I am listed as a 100% disabled veteran (unemployable). The military does screw the vet over just like the politicians. By chance check and see how many of them "did their fair share of time". I consider them as useless cowards that are over paid screwing not only the vets but all the "U.S. citizens"

Response by SPC Joel Quey made Jan 30 at 2015 8:20 PM

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Not at all. Most of the time I heard it was when I was still in uniform, so they clearly weren't saying I was done or feeble. Especially since they were occasionally surprised that I was even old enough to be in the military, because I look young for my age.

Response by 1SG Mark Mccall made Jan 30 at 2015 8:23 PM

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Having attended the Desert Storm War Games, Nam Games of 65-67', Urgent Fury...all doing my part...NO PROBLEM. I returned from the Nam Games to lines of protesters June 67' and discharge. I absolutely Thank the Desert Storm troops, but this was your game, ours has been long over........on paper. The "Thank You" for your service is great, although I do get a strange feeling when it happens. It normally is from a younger service member, or civilians......and I doubt if I ever get use to it

Response by SSG Steven Bison made Jan 30 at 2015 8:24 PM

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My first discharge was in 1970 ans no one thanked me for my service then. When I came home from Desert Storm in 1992 I was embarrassed when people told me "Thank you for your service" because I didn't feel I did anything special there. Now I feel they are thanking me for all my service and I always say "You're welcome, thank you".

Response by PO3 Stephen Michael made Jan 30 at 2015 8:25 PM

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Depends on who's saying. I'm leery of when preachers, politicians, and car salespeople thank me for my service.

Response by SFC Danny Skidmore made Jan 30 at 2015 8:36 PM

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It beats hippies asking how many babies I killed. We have gone through many changes as to how the civilian population regard folks that wear the uniform.

This saying was started as a public service to teach civilians how to speak to those of us in uniform. Its not what civilians say as much as how they say it. If the greeting is meant we appreciate it for what it is. Respect for the uniform.

Response by SPC James Pfost, Jr. made Jan 30 at 2015 8:39 PM

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No, not at all. I spent 20 years before I heard that, besides family, & I'm only 47, but I went in the Army during post Vietnam. There's also a lot more discounts, etc. The time that bothers me when it's said is from a Veteran or Active Duty member. I feel as though we don't need to say it.

Response by SGT Russ Huber made Jan 30 at 2015 8:40 PM

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I really don't hear it much the last couple years. Then again I don't walk around advertising that I'm a vet. just a couple of people that know me will thank me around Veterans Day. The attitude surely seems to have changed since 10-12 yrs ago. Then again, when I was in in the early 80's we were still getting called "babykillers" or "Rambos" and would not dare go out in public in uniform. Times have changed and so has the Army. Regardless, it's still nice to be thanked and recognized. Hooaahh, and GO HAWKS!

Response by Capt Mark Strobl made Jan 30 at 2015 8:40 PM

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I usually think to myself, "I was just doing my job." I used to feel uncomfortable when someone thanked me for my service. But, I heard this phrase... and I've found myself using it more often: "I did it for you." It's a nice way to reciprocate the kind gesture... and remind all in the conversation "why" we all have served.

Response by SPC David Brown made Jan 30 at 2015 8:43 PM

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When I hear this, which is surprisingly often, I typically respond with "Thank you for your acknowledgement".

Response by CSM John Bergeron made Jan 30 at 2015 8:45 PM

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No it is nice , it makes me think off all the members who went before me.

it much better than being called baby kill. or being spate on.

Response by Sgt Vance Bonds made Jan 30 at 2015 8:53 PM

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This bothers me something AWEFUL. I think that the military teaches us to be professional and humble. So when I'm singled out I get embarrased. I sincerely believe that all good citizens are good citizens. Pat taxes, vote, report for jury duty when caleed upon, obey are laws..... Not everyone can make it in the military. Not everyone should even try but if you have the stuff and dedication, love of country and the ability then you have a responsibility.
I don't want to be thanked for that.

Response by SGT Paul Martin made Jan 30 at 2015 8:59 PM

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It is better than getting egged in 1972 as we exited the greyhound bus station in down town Los Angeles.

Response by SSgt Hal Kiah made Jan 30 at 2015 9:01 PM

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As a 12 year Vietnam Era veteran, in many ways, I have been humbled that people have approached me, when I least expect it, and thank me for my service. As I see it, they are not only thanking me, they are mostly thanking many of our brothers and sisters who have made an even heavier sacrifice, and for that, ((I)) am thankful, because they are recognizing what we, as service men and women have been willing to do in protection of our country and way of life.
So, to those who have served, with me, and those who serve today and into the future, Thank You, for carrying on in defense of our nation and our way of life.

Response by PO2 Gerry Tandberg made Jan 30 at 2015 9:05 PM

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It doesn't bother me. Many people, don't know how to appreciate someone who served in the military. Few understand the hardship endured by married military personnel; especially those with children. The pay is low and the separations are many and lengthly. I served during a period of relative peace 1962 - 1968 and was not deployed to Vietnam. I consider myself fortunate. Military service was a period of growth and maturity for most of us. I'm sincere when I say thank you for your service to those who are combat veterans, but in all honesty, it should be extended to anyone who served. I have a great deal of empathy for parents who lost a son or daughter in combat, ditto the wounded warrior dealing with loss of limb(s) and the emotional struggles of PTSD. We don't do enough for our vets who sacrificed so we can get up in the morning and drive to Starbucks w/o wondering if someone will shoot or kidnap us. Yes, thank you for your service.

Response by Cpl Tom Chester made Jan 30 at 2015 9:06 PM

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I appreciate it when folks recognize my service it took way to long to hear that. I tell them that it was a honor to serve my country and my Marine Corps as I still do today. We can't stop the years gone by, but we can walk with pride honor and commitment.
Semper Fi my brothers.

Response by SSgt John Hutto made Jan 30 at 2015 9:08 PM

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nope, dont really have a problem with it. if its coming from alot of people, then thats actually a good thing in my book. that means more people are aware of the struggles us vets go through. and they are aware of the current status of our country. its really all in how they say it. you can tell when someone is being sincere.

Response by SGT Kevin McCourt made Jan 30 at 2015 9:17 PM

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I rarely hear it from someone who has never served. Which is fine with me. I prefer to hang out with my vet brothers. Regardless of which branch you were in, you stepped up, when others didn't.

Response by Maj Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 9:27 PM

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I get tired of the statement because in a lot of cases I think people are told to say that when they recognize a veteran. For example, TSA at airport security check-in's. And hearing other retirees say Thank You For Your Service seems odd for some reason.

Response by SN Martin Bush made Jan 30 at 2015 9:27 PM

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Whenever I am greeted with "thank you for your service", I answer back, Did you serve? More times than not they are not Veterans. When I hear the reply of NO, I ask "Why didn't you serve"? It leaves them dumbfounded and I smile and walk away. Veterans are a special breed. When I hear non military folks speak of the Military, it really pisses me off that they THINK they knew what we went through, what we saw and how we persevered through triumph and tragedy. Even our Commander in Chief has no freaking clue about Military life.

Response by SSgt Meghan Anderson made Jan 30 at 2015 9:33 PM

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I don't like it either. It puts me in the spot and makes me something I'm not. Almost like they'd take it back if they knew I never had to carry a weapon and the like.

Response by LCpl James Robertson made Jan 30 at 2015 9:33 PM

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Being a Vietnam vet, when someone really thank me for my service, I did know how to accept it, I though of Iraqi War veterans, Afganistan veterans, Lebanon veterans, but no Vietnam veteran were included in this, it seemed like outsiders looking in, no one thanked you for your service. During that time Americans avoided us, and thought the war had made us crazy baby killers, jobs would not hire you if they though you were having flashbacks from the war. We were never included, as baby killers they called it. A lot of Vietnam Veterans are dead or dying from agent orange or other diseases, I believe that the VAMC are glad, no benefits to be paid out, if you can't prove your case. So younger Veterans enjoy what you can get out of the government, because one day you will be us.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 9:41 PM

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When someone stops to tell me they appreciate me for serving, it makes me very proud. In 1967 , when I came home from Vietnam, I was called all kind of names, ignored by civilians and veterans of other wars. I tried once to join VFW and American Legion but was turned down because they didn't consider Vietnam a war. I was embarrassed, pissed off, and hurt, so I did what most Vietnam vets did. I went into seclusion and suffered with PTSD for over 40 years before I tried to commit suicide. I finally went to the VA and got help and they really cared. I was rated100% permanent and total. Now, I'm still in my comfort zone but I like being thanked for my service.

Response by SSgt Lowell Cottle made Jan 30 at 2015 9:45 PM

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Bottom line is, anyone that did not serve will never really understand what we went through. Some went through a lot more than others, but do I get tired of hearing it? hell no. I am very proud that I served my country and people who make that comment are perhaps trying in their own way to understand what we went through or perhaps they feel regret that THEY did not step up when they had the chance. I don't feel that it makes me feel "feeble" an any way...on the contrary, my service made me strong, made me savvy, helped prepare me for the rest of life and helped me rise to the top and feel like nothing else in life could ever get me down after what I went through.
Embrace it, own it and appreciate it...be PROUD to have served, be PROUD to be a Vet!

For all you Vietnam era Vets, you guys had it worse than any American military after you came home and I would personally like to say to you "Thanks for your Service!"

Response by SPC Thomas Webb made Jan 30 at 2015 9:54 PM

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The only part about it that bothers me is that it makes me feel like I didn't do ENOUGH... all civilians seem to think that everyone that put on the uniform stood on the front line and got shot at. I spent my entire enlistment in the Panamanian tropics doing shift work. I was just a comm jockey, the guy you called for autovon lines on the weekends so you call mom and dad for free...

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 10:04 PM

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No it doesn't bother me but I always think it took long enough. Vietnam vets set the standard that happens today. We were crapped on and treated like criminals. I, personally went into my hole and didn't come out of it until after I finally went to the VA. I was a combat vet and saw too many things a 20 year old shouldn't see. I tried joining the VFW and the DAV and the American Legion but was turned down because they didn't consider Vietnam a war. So, I never joined and never have had anything to do with them. The VA awarded me 100% disability but I'm still in a hole. When someone thanks me, I think why couldn't that have been done when I came home from Vietnam.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 10:06 PM

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Not really, I just say thank you and be polite.

Response by LTC Brett Weeks made Jan 30 at 2015 10:20 PM

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Yes. First of all, in defending the nation, I am doing what I should do as a citizen. Why should I be thanked for doing my duty? Second, when I was growing up, my father and most of the men of his generation were WW II and Korea veterans. Then there were lots of Vietnam veterans around. Then I and many of my friends joined & served. The older generation defended me when I couldn't defend myself, then I defended them when they were too old to defend themselves. Who was supposed to thank who? Third, when someone who hasn't served thanks me, I get the feeling that they are just trying to assuage their guilt for not having served.

Response by SPC Thomas Gannon made Jan 30 at 2015 10:26 PM

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It does not bother me in fact I find myself thanking others for their service to our country. Remember our brothers returning from the jungles of South east Asia were spit on and disrespected. I will support and thank those who protect me.. of course we say please and thank you in my house also.

Response by PO1 James Friedman made Jan 30 at 2015 10:33 PM

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Actually, it does not bother me at all. It sure would have been nice to hear it in 60s/70s. I simply respond with thank You.

Response by SSgt Matthew Lopez made Jan 30 at 2015 10:38 PM

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It doesn't bother me at all, although it does make me feel odd for hearing it because I merely see my service as a flightline/ISO crew chief who didn't really do anything heroic.

Response by SSgt James Guy made Jan 30 at 2015 10:41 PM

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I am grateful when the young people say it because they have been taught by someone. Better than what we got when we came home. I respond with Thanks for your support.

The ones who spit at us are the same kind (maybe even the same ones) who attacked Henry Kissinger the other day.

Response by SPC Kristofer Hansen made Jan 30 at 2015 10:48 PM

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Yes

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 10:52 PM

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Not at all, in fact, I have an equal statement in return for their appreciation for my service. "Thank you for your support!" I believe we must acknowledge their support as not everyone supports our service and those who have sacrificed on their behalf.

Response by LtCol Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 11:00 PM

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I'd rather they bought me a beer!

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 11:07 PM

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I get it most any time I'm in uniform off post: I'm a reservist, never even got deployed somehow though I've been in since '99. So I nod and acknowledge it with a bit of awkwardness: shouldn't I have at least seen foreign soil or gotten a Purple Heart by accident? I'm not one to steal valor, but at some point the uniform itself is treated like a Superman cape!

Response by Sgt James Sheffield made Jan 30 at 2015 11:10 PM

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It doesn't "bother" me in the sense of being offended by it. I appreciate the fact that people appreciate our military. I don't necessarily feel worthy of it though. I was a peace time Marine so I never really was in harms way. However I really like for my brothers and sisters in arms who were in harms way to be appreciated; especially since both of my older biological brothers were combat Marines.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 11:10 PM

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I feel extremely uncomfortable when someone thanks me for my service. I have a deep love for the military, and am hurt at a primal level when a douche bag shits on it. You know about the traitors of which I speak.

However, I have gained far more from service than I could ever pay. I have been a Soldier longer than I've been an adult, and it has fundamentally shaped me. I should thank them for allowing me to put on the uniform. I should thank them for paying me to follow my passion. I am grateful that America allows me to shape the warriors of the future, and those who will protect our freedoms when I no longer can. I am grateful that I can assure the safety of my children and grandchildren.

I can't understand why they thank me, when I should be thanking them.

Response by SSG Arthur Williams made Jan 30 at 2015 11:13 PM

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No. It is my and at the time I did not understand, because all the people I knew were proud of me. When I did return, there was a class reunion and there were a lot of vets there from my class 1966. So we as a school had the support. The School was St. Emma Military Academy.

Response by LTC William Bridgeman made Jan 30 at 2015 11:14 PM

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Yes, I know people mean well, but I'd rather do without any public thanks.
What really goat my goat, however, was folks making themselves feel good by telling me, "welcome home" twenty-five years too late.

Response by SPC Jeffrey Frusha made Jan 30 at 2015 11:31 PM

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You can always say "I'm not finished, yet. I continue to serve my country."

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 30 at 2015 11:47 PM

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SPC Larry Buck It used to make me feel uncomfortable, but I have grown to understand and learned how to handle it. What bothers me is the LTC in the picture's beret!

Response by PO2 Mike Vignapiano made Jan 30 at 2015 11:58 PM

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It bothers me but not for that reason. I was PROUD to serve. I am proud to say I served. To me it was an honor to serve. My problem is saying "Your Welcomed" is so not right. I'm sure many have seen the saying that says something like "I didn't join because I hate what's in front of me. I joined because I love what I left behind."
So after many years I now reply with "Don't thank me. It was an honor that most Americans will never know."

Response by SFC Peter Cyprian made Jan 31 at 2015 12:07 AM

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When someone says "Thank you for your service" I usually respond with "thank you, it was an honor to serve".

Response by PO1 Joseph Frazier made Jan 31 at 2015 12:19 AM

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It doesn't bother me at all. Our Vietnam Veterans were getting yelled at, spit on, backs turned on them, and the Government generally forgetting about them until recently. When someone says "Thank you for service," I respond your welcome and I would do it again, because someone has to protect our Freedoms.

Response by CMSgt James Frankland made Jan 31 at 2015 12:44 AM

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I have never been sure of what to say when thanked for my service but after reading the below comments I like "It was an honor to serve." My thanks to those below who provided the appropriate comments. It feels right.

Response by SFC Scott Parkhurst made Jan 31 at 2015 12:46 AM

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No not at all....I think sometimes I feel guilty to hear it when I think about all the Vietnam Vet.'s who didn't get it....I rather hear a "Thank you" then a "_uck you!" wouldn't you?

Response by SPC Robert Norton made Jan 31 at 2015 12:52 AM

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Sometimes it bothers me. When i hear it from someone that never served in the military, it doesn't bother me. When I hear it from a combat veteran it does. I never saw combat, I was never put in harms way like them.

I can even go so far as to say I don't feel like i belong when I'm at a ceremony with veterans and i never saw combat.

Response by PO3 Richard Wagener made Jan 31 at 2015 12:55 AM

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I think it is a nice gesture which I both give and receive!

Response by Sgt Michelle Cosper made Jan 31 at 2015 12:57 AM

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It actually bothers me more that we have veterans complaining about the way in which civilians express the.

Response by SFC Troy Harskjold (Ret.) made Jan 31 at 2015 12:57 AM

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I always try to say, "Thanks for your support". That way its not one sided because it has already started. The same type of liberals who spit on soldiers at the San Francisco Airport returning from Vietnam are beginning to verbally attack soldiers again as our popularity wanes. Yes liberals. Before you defend them, make sure you know the difference between a conservative, liberal and a moderate.

Response by SSG Kyle Shelton made Jan 31 at 2015 1:00 AM

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It does to me. Maybe because I'm humble, maybe because I never like unwanted attention for people. But I volunteered to do it, I got paid to do it, it is a job even though most won't do it. But I just felt awkward most times, probably because of all the people who offer you drinks and get in your face asking inappropriate questions.

Response by SFC Anthony Iocca made Jan 31 at 2015 1:16 AM

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I respond with; it was an honor and a privilege "but" serving was NO "Pleasure".
Members of our Armed Forces are entrusted with the weaponry very capable of mass destruction. President Obama condons his trust with Homosexual’s to be the guardians of such weaponry. That decision reflects a serous lack of sound judgment.

Military Service was a rewarding and challenging way of life. The promotion of homosexuality is not a challenge it’s a bridge to burn not to cross.

Response by Col Terry Stevens made Jan 31 at 2015 1:19 AM

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Why should a person saying "Thank You For Your Service" bother you? To me, it is a sign of respect for me and the military for protecting this country. It may bother some people because they don't know what to respond. I always say, "Thank You For Your Support." After all without the respect and generous support for us by the people of the United States the military wouldn't be in business very long--taking the rest of the free world with them.

Response by SFC Gene Helstrom made Jan 31 at 2015 2:33 AM

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I find that being thanked is a great feeling. If you think the intent is "Thanks, now got sit in a corner and don't bother anyone", if that is your feeling then you need a serious attitude adjustment! Just a few years ago we were spat at and called baby killers. Most Americans today have a small understanding of what we do or did for them. If your not humbled by this show of support then you think a little too much of yourself and that is not the military standard. Respond with "Thank you Sir or Mam", it's that simple. they took time out to recognize your willingness to serve, you should take time out to thank them! Some of these responses are from some seriously ungrateful and cynical soldiers!

SFC Eugene Helstrom
Retired

Response by Cpl Steven Traina made Jan 31 at 2015 2:42 AM

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I'm one that it affects. I went to a Alabama(the group) concert, on their fair well tour, shortly after getting back from Iraq. When they said it I started crying uncontrollably and had to go outside. It's 12 years later and I still feel odd and don't know how to respond.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 31 at 2015 3:02 AM

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I think it's better than the alternative...

Response by SGM Joel Cook made Jan 31 at 2015 5:24 AM

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Doesn't bother me at all. I retired after 27 years. If you are still on active duty consider it in present tense like, thanks for your continued service.

Response by CSM Frank Graham made Jan 31 at 2015 5:32 AM

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I personally appreciate the thank you. No one owes me anything for my service but, it makes me feel good to know that someone cares for your sacrifices to our country and our way of life. Doesn´t bother me at all.

Response by SrA Rex Brown made Jan 31 at 2015 5:57 AM

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To hear "Thank you for your service." Doesn't bother me a bit and you shouldn't let it bother you either. They are simply appreciating you for what you did or are doing. It doesn't mean you have to go curl up and wither away. That just means go out and do something else that could be of good service to the community. Show them your pride in what you have done and make others want to take that next step and follow in your footsteps. Many young men and women I have known all throughout their high school years, that were getting into trouble, have went into the military and have come home on leave and wanted to see me to express how much they appreciate the fact that I never gave up on them. Thank you is always a great expression of appreciation.

Response by MSgt James Bowers made Jan 31 at 2015 6:02 AM

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I am pleased to hear this statement, and for quite some time, I did not have a reply that seemed to fit. My response now is " Thank you it was my honor to serve"

Response by SGT Edward Valiket made Jan 31 at 2015 6:30 AM

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SPC would you rather be thanked for your service or called a baby killer and spit on? That is what we returned too forty years ago so now when someone thanks me for my service I get a feeling of pride. For years I tried to hide the fact that I served only in the last few years have I let it be known that I did with any kind of pride so to answer your question yes I like it when people thank me for my service.

Response by SSG Alvin Amezquita made Jan 31 at 2015 6:35 AM

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Personally it makes me feel good. But at the same time I feel bittersweet because Vietnam vets before me never got that kind of treatment. I owe it to them and there selfless sacrifice to endure such hate and treatment that paved the way for the treatment I and many like me receive today. And for that I salute them and say thank u for ur service and selfless sacrifice.

Response by SPC Acie King made Jan 31 at 2015 6:41 AM

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It took me some time but I do like hearing it and just reply with anytime. If I have to I would try to do it again.

Response by CW3 Chuck Huddleston made Jan 31 at 2015 7:25 AM

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I have taken to wearing a baseball cap that reads U.S. Army...Retired! I often have people stop me and say "thank you for your service" and I usually reply with a simple "Thank you, some of it was fun". I joined in '62 stayed until '83 and can honestly say that I never was treated badly and surely was not spit on by anyone. If I had been spit on, I most likely would have punched that person in the nose, regardless of who it was or how big they were. Maybe wouldn't have been the wisest thing to do, but I was young and dumb back then and having been brought up as an army brat, I was pretty proud of my Army! I'm very proud of having been a Nike-Hercules vet for a number of cold war years, site duty was pretty good. I thank all of you for your service!

Response by SPC Mary Stewart made Jan 31 at 2015 7:28 AM

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This bugged me for the longest time. I got so mad when people would say "thank you for your service". I could only think "where were you? Why were you not beside me?" And "the real ones you should thank are dead". It wasn't until older vets from prior wars told me of how they were mistreated and looked down upon by fellow Americans when they returned. They think it's an honor to hear "thank you for your service" because they were not given the respect they deserved when they returned.
I have leaned to reply with "thank you for your support". At first it was really hard to say, it still is, but it's gotten easier. Learn from the wise ones and carry on. Don't let this phrase anger you so much.

-Stewart, Mary
OIF 08/09

Response by LTC Michael Parker made Jan 31 at 2015 7:51 AM

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It does not bother me in the least and it happened all the time when I on active duty. Riding the metro back and forth to the Pentagon I was always being thanked for my service. I would often reply thank you for paying your taxes because I could not do this for free. I would also be met with a gauntlet of protestors everyday as I entered the Pentagon. It was a good check to know that my job is to protect and defend the Constitution and that freedom of speach was alive and well even if I whole-heartedly disagreed with that speech.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 31 at 2015 7:57 AM

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No, just when they say I'm a hero. I am doing something I always wanted to do which may require sacrifice but in my opinion doesn't rate hero status. But most everyone likes to know they are appreciated.

Response by SSG Robert Webster made Jan 31 at 2015 8:11 AM

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My problem is that it has gotten to the point that it has almost become the "greeting of the day". Instead of being a true show of appreciation, it has now become almost meaningless due to its over use. To be honest with you, after a short meeting or discussion with a young NCO or Officer today, I would much rather be told - "Have a good day." The other problem that I have is that when said to me by an active duty service member in day to day conversation, it really becomes a meaningless statement, because rarely if ever does the service member even know a small fraction of what we may have done.

No matter who you are take a look at how any service member reacts to a veteran of WWII or Korea, to the way they react to a veteran of Vietnam, to the way they react to a veteran of Grenada, Panama, DS/DS or Mogadishu, to the way they react to a veteran of the Cold War era (without combat periods), and how they react to the current service members (and compare the reaction to CIBs, CABs, Combat Action Ribbons, etc. to those without).

Think about it.

Response by MAJ Peter Barber made Jan 31 at 2015 8:13 AM

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Bother? I find the comment rather condescending. I was a professional soldier with 23 years as enlisted and as an officer. I was, for many years, well compensated and continue to be with a nice pension and benefits.

No one thanks the mail carrier who spent 23 years delivering the mail in all kinds of weather.

Response by SSgt Michael Best made Jan 31 at 2015 8:28 AM

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I understand what the original poster is saying, but Personally It does not bother me. People want to let it be known that they are thankful for the things we do. I came out of service in the 90's, even after Desert Shield and Storm you never heard anyone say anything, So now when it does happen it makes me feel better that at least some folks appreciate the the things we did.

Response by TSgt Robert Carter made Jan 31 at 2015 8:38 AM

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I really don't mind it, but i think telling someone "Thank you for your sacrifice" is much better.

Response by LT Kevin Clark made Jan 31 at 2015 8:49 AM

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I don't like how it's being politicize (we support the troops, thank you for your service, etc...) and seeking to divide us. When it comes from that place it bothers me, because we all are Americans and country should come first!

Response by Sgt William Gutierrez made Jan 31 at 2015 8:51 AM

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It has been my experience that the medical staff at the V.A. I go to say this as if it was part of a drill. It is said with no meaning while not even looking at you as if it was part of a ritual they are told to perform. It is there, of all places, that I do hear this the most and it surely annoys me. The ones at the V.A. that do seem to mean what they say have been mostly from the receptionist. Needles to say I have set a few young doctors straight. Outside of the V.A. all have said it with sincerity.

Response by SSG Patrick Hayes made Jan 31 at 2015 8:55 AM

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First of all , thank you for serving. I took an oath to defend this great country against all enemies, foreign and domestic. I've never been relieved of those duties or oath.

Response by SSG Dwight Welsh made Jan 31 at 2015 8:55 AM

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It does not bother me at the least.
I am thankful for anyone recognizing that I (or someone with me) took the time to sacrifice some of their time, life, family,... to serve this Great Nation.
I am thankful that unlike how Veterans were treated in the 70's - 80's after Vietnam, people now-a-days actually understand that "first and foremost" we are and were not Baby Killers.
I don't feel condescended towards when someone says that to me.
HooooRAAAAAH!!!!!!!!!

Response by A1C Michael Clarke made Jan 31 at 2015 9:03 AM

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I've been thinking about this very topic for some time. It used to bother me only for the fact that "thank you for your service" has become such an automatic response when someone discovers that you've served that it seems disingenuous. It would make me feel uncomfortable and put on the spot. I would respond with "yeah, sure" or "you betcha" and do my best to move on.

I've gotten to the point where I just say "thank you". I don't feel so uncomfortable any more. After all, disingenuous or not, someone is trying to show appreciation that you put your ass out there for them and that's a good thing.

Response by Lt Col Russell Carlisle made Jan 31 at 2015 9:09 AM

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Sometimes, because I don't feel like I did anything special. I live in an area far from any military bases, so when I would drive to and from my reserve duty, I would sometimes stop for gas, food, coffee, etc., in uniform. I can't tell you how many times someone walked up to me and thanked me for my service. Also, several times people paid for my coffee, gas, meal, etc. without me knowing until I went to pay. That DID bother me, because I imagine in several cases I was making more as an AF officer than a lot of the folks that paid for my stuff did. But I appreciated the gesture.

So, now that I'm retired, I try to pay it forward. I don't usually verbally "thank" a service member for their service, I might just smile or nod or say hi. The exception is if I know they served in Vietnam, because those guys were never thanked properly. If they're a junior enlisted member, I have paid for their meal in a restaurant without identifying myself. I'll just quietly summon the waitperson over and take care of it.

Response by CDR Michael Goldschmidt made Jan 31 at 2015 9:31 AM

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It bugs me for a completely different reason. Our mission was to make our country safer, but, in fact, we may have made it less free and less safe. We got paid well for doing our job by a bankrupt nation for the benefit of a few. In short, we were all duped. Please read Maj. Gen. Smedley Butler, USMC's, book, "War is a Racket". You can find it free and read it online at warisaracket.com.

Response by SSG Timothy Lanham made Jan 31 at 2015 9:33 AM

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I never heard it much when I was active but I do hear it on occasion now. "Thank you for what you do or have done. Thank you for your service". This country would be a lot better off if we the people could say that to more of the people in DC

Response by PO2 Michael Prudhomme made Jan 31 at 2015 9:44 AM

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No it does not. It sparks some real good conversations with others especially with the younger generation.

Response by SPC Ronald Treitner made Jan 31 at 2015 9:47 AM

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good question, it makes me both happy to hear it and rather awkward/uncomfortable at the same time.

Response by MSG Dan Foster made Jan 31 at 2015 9:48 AM

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Take it as a compliment, acknowledge and move on. They're thanking you for your service, nothing more, nothing less. However, I often wonder, do they know what they are really thanking us for.

Response by CMSgt Charles Elliott made Jan 31 at 2015 10:04 AM

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Not at all...I was in an airport recently with my wife waiting for our flight and was wearing my retired Air Force hat. I saw this lady approaching with her luggage and she was looking at me kind of strange. She came up, raised her hand and took mine and said thank you for your service! My wife started tearing up and I told her I really appreciated that! Others saw what happened and the next thing I know several people are shaking my hand! It was a humbling experience, but made me feel good.

Response by 1SG Patrick Sims made Jan 31 at 2015 10:04 AM

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It makes me feel uncomfortable when people thank me for my service. I spent 915 days in Vietnam, and I still feel like it wasn't enough. When I think back and remember all the guys who didn't make home, it makes me sad. I'll be 69 this year, and as I get closer to the end of my life their deaths seem to press down more on me than they did when I was a young man.

Response by COL Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 31 at 2015 10:11 AM

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I admit that it used to be awkward when I started hearing it. Don't be bothered, be proud!

Be a professional, look at the person in the eye and simply state "Thanks for your support, it is a pleasure and an honor to serve!".

For me 90% of the time, the folks who thank you are genuine, and want to share a story of a loved one, or a friend who is currently serving, or already served.

Response by PO2 David Morrier made Jan 31 at 2015 10:12 AM

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What I am hearing is "thank you for giving what many were unable or unwilling to give." Thank you for the risks that you have already taken and what you have sacrificed. I don't think that it in any way suggests that its time to retire - it is only a matter of recognizing what has already been given.

Response by SGT Criss M. made Jan 31 at 2015 10:15 AM

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Me being from the Cold War era, 78-86, it makes me feel uncomfortable and embarrassed. I didn't do anything really, except work, PT, pulling CQ, going to the field, etc. Yes, I was injured, but injuries I recieved were not caused by war or any "enemy".
Yo Joe sounds good to me to just as a way to acknowledge that I once was a Soldier.

Response by SP5 Loren Gee made Jan 31 at 2015 10:22 AM

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Nope - considering that during my service there were signs up in Norwalk, Virginia saying "Sailors and Dogs keep off the grass". We got the shaft while on duty and I think it is great that finally being thanked for my 9 years.

Response by SFC Frank Hoskins made Jan 31 at 2015 10:30 AM

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i appreciate it every time i hear it!

Response by CPL Dennis Black made Jan 31 at 2015 10:46 AM

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Hell no It doesn't bother me. when I was in 1971 to 1975 we were treated like crap. Now that our service men and wemen are getting thanked, we should never want more or better praise.

Response by SSG John Rider made Jan 31 at 2015 10:52 AM

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I wouldn't say it bothers me. I become a little emotional about it, as so many have done so much more than me that I don't always feel comfortable with being thanked. But then it would take to much time to explain that, so I simply say thank you, or it was my honor and move on..

Response by SSgt Barry LaMont made Jan 31 at 2015 11:06 AM

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Thanking me for my service is just fine unless something better comes down the pike. I'm a Veteran and served my country as best as I knew how, but those days are long gone. I hardly find it an insult to be thought of being put out to pasture only because that's where the studs go to produce the new line of warriors. With that said, I have found as of late more disrespect from ACTIVE duty service members thinking their way is the right way and that past warriors did it wrong. They don't understand what the Cold War was and don't consider it a "true" war. Grenada, Panama, the attempted rescue of the hostages from Iran don't even cross their radars which I find pathetic. Their total attention seems that Iraq or Afghanistan is all that matters and whatever happened in the past is irrelevant. This is what bothers me. Civilians only know what they see and try to be supportive but this new wave of "warriors" need to be taught their lineage and appreciate just who walked before them in battles long since past.

Response by SGT Joseph Carollo made Jan 31 at 2015 11:08 AM

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I say it all the time and I'm a fellow vet. Especially nowadays, as the military is voluntary, the percentage of the population that hears the call and answers it deserves the recognition.

Response by SGT Joseph Carollo made Jan 31 at 2015 11:10 AM

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I say it all the time and I'm a fellow vet. Especially nowadays, as military service is voluntary, I feel anyone who hears the call and answers it, deserves the recognition.

Response by SSgt Dale Darrough made Jan 31 at 2015 11:14 AM

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I came home from Viet Nam in November 1967. Landed at Travis, and transported by bus to San Francisco International Airport for my final leg home. I got off the bus in uniform, and was accosted by a group of protesters, one of whom spit on me and called me a "baby killer". I have never forgotten that, and the lingering feeling that I no longer fit into mainstream American society. We were outcasts who were hated by a large part of society. Now, some 48 years later, we are being thanked for our service, primarily by people who would have been the offspring of the scum bags that spit on us. Its nice to be thanked, and helps close the life long wounds, but the scars still remain.

Response by CPL Roland Newton made Jan 31 at 2015 11:22 AM

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It bothers me more when the VA says it, and then takes away my benefits with no explanation!

Response by SSG Michael Herzog made Jan 31 at 2015 11:31 AM

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My boss says it to me every Veterans day, and I get it just about anytime it comes up in a conversation and I always respond with, "you are welcome." I find myself doing the same thing whenever I run into personnel still in uniform. It's an acknowledgement that you appreciate the sacrifice the service member is doing. As "they" say, "Better than a poke in the eye with a sharp stick."

Response by SPC Michael Kennedy made Jan 31 at 2015 11:34 AM

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I don't have an issue with people thanking me for my service. I simply reply back to them "Thank you. It was an honor to serve." I believe someone thanking veterans is their sincere way of giving thanks to an individual who answered their nations call to defend it.

Response by Sgt Michael Oberline made Jan 31 at 2015 11:35 AM

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Yes! Coming home from Vietnam people spit on us and called us baby killers. You can respond to that in any number of ways. The government threw us away with "DOWNSIZING." Our services were not needed any more. Most were able to deal with that slap in the face. Businesses would not hire us due to a lack of useful skills. Not much call for professional gunfighters. Now people come up to us on the street and say "Thank you for your service." How the hell do you respond to that. While probably not the intention, it almost sounds like another slap in the face.

Response by PO3 Charles Balfour made Jan 31 at 2015 11:38 AM

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It usually bothers me to have some one thank me for my service. Its not that I don't appreciate the sentiment. It's just a driving factor in how I was raised. You don't go seeking recognition for the things you do. You just go out every day do what you can to make things a little better.

Response by Pvt Bill Oneilkl made Jan 31 at 2015 11:50 AM

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Yeah, it does bother me! As a Nam vet, I really enjoyed being despised by the left! I intensely dislike the whole sniveling crowd that mumbles "Thank you". That phenom started when "Platoon" came out. Except for kids, they can stick their compliment where the sun don't shine.
My favorite expression, said by the Vietnamese whenever a patrol passed them "F***ing Marines"!

Response by PO2 Donald Goff made Jan 31 at 2015 11:52 AM

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I try to acknowledge every service person I see and we usually ask each other what we did during our service time and where we served. I appreciate the recognition for my service.

Response by SMSgt Bryan Raines made Jan 31 at 2015 12:03 PM

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No it does not bother me. The majority of people I know who say "Thank you for your service." mean it. They are truly grateful for the servicemen and women who have written that "blank check" and served their country. I do get embarrassed but I get embarrassed when anyone gives me thanks or praise for what I consider doing my job/duty.

Response by SGT Steve Golden made Jan 31 at 2015 12:06 PM

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ha.

Response by MAJ John McGee made Jan 31 at 2015 12:24 PM

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It is a Cliché designed to make the majority of the American public feel better about themselves and appease any quilt that they might have about really not giving a crap about our serving military or the country's veterans. As a retired Military Officer and VietNam vet it holds about a s much water as when someone of my generation says "Welcome Home". That saying is equally appalling to me. I haven't forgotten and never will how even the veterans organizations wanted nothing to do with the VietNam vet. We were portrayed as Drug smoking, baby killing, psychotic dishonorable losers. Think about movies like "Rambo, The deer hunter", Apocalypse " and Platoonand what they did to reinforce those stereotypes. Fast forward to American Sniper and how it is now being attacked by the same type of people who dishonored a generation of Vietnam Veterans. You can take both sayings and "shove"em"

Response by PO3 Nathan Barr made Jan 31 at 2015 12:24 PM

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It has always bothered me. It creates an awkward situation that (to me) is a lot like opening a present at Christmas. When I joined, I never considered the possibility that I would spend the rest of my life being thanked for my service. The problem is: how do you respond to something like that?

My response has become: "Thank you for your support." or "Your support makes/made my job easier." or something to that affect.

I am a firm believer that we need to foster and support the general public's need to be thankful for us. That gratitude is more than just words. It translates into supportive legislature and funding that the military will always continue to need to survive.

Response by SGT Brian Kelly made Jan 31 at 2015 12:28 PM

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It wouldn't even be an issue if serving was a common thing

Response by SGT Kevin Bradley made Jan 31 at 2015 1:03 PM

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It bothers when when vets say it bothers them that people say "thank you for your service". If someone is genuinely thankful for your service and you aren't big enough to respect that because of your awkwardness, then that's your issue, not theirs. Instead of being hypersensitive over random shows of gratitude, maybe you should pin a sign to your shirt or write on your forehead what would be acceptable for people to say to you regarding your service. Whether or not you're proud of your service, or want to talk about, NEVER tell a thankful citizen that you don't like it when they express it. It's selfish and gives people a bad impression of all veterans.

Response by Sgt Paul Kimura made Jan 31 at 2015 1:05 PM

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How do you respond to that. Kinda puts you in the center and you are expecting to say something other then Your welcome. To me when someone says that I look past it and think what did you do today, besides thank me?
It was my job, I loved it, I did not want to stop doing my job. But maybe it was because I felt I was doing a great thing and enjoying the spoils, but working hard at it too. One thing I know I wants to stay over because I did not want to see people take advantage or abuse there freedom, the freedom I worked hard to protect and that my brothers and sisters died for.

Response by SPC Douglas Highlander made Jan 31 at 2015 1:13 PM

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It used to bother me only because I didn't know how to respond without seeming fake. Once I was able to say "it's been my pleasure. Thank you for supporting us," it was much more comfortable. To follow, I started thanking older veterans with " thank you for your sacrifices." They gave much more than I could ever imagine.

Response by MAJ Robert Grimes made Jan 31 at 2015 1:14 PM

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No it does not bother me. I believe people say it respectfully. I say it to active duty all the time. Seems to me people are getting better at accepting it.

Response by SrA Paul Skyberg made Jan 31 at 2015 1:16 PM

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It doesn't bother me a bit. It's a sign of respect and appreciation for selfless service and sacrifice for our country. I tell it to current and former service members often and appreciate it when it's said to me. I'd say lighten up and be respectful to those that appreciate your service!

Response by Cpl Bill Johnson made Jan 31 at 2015 1:21 PM

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Yes, it bothers me. I didn't ask for any thanks when I enlisted. I was serving for thanks or accolades. I don't need the civilian populace to kiss my backside. I would prefer that they thank us by electing leaders who aren't in such a big hurry to throw our lives away for no reason.

Response by SSG Kenneth Lebowitz made Jan 31 at 2015 1:30 PM

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The only time in my career that I felt annoyed to hear that was when I was a recruiter and people would tell me that. I would then ask them if their children who are of age to serve would consider joining and the response was almost always something like "Oh not my Johnny or Susie." I can't stand the mentality of "Oh I'm so glad you're doing it and therefore my children don't have to or I won't let them."

Response by COL Ted Mc made Jan 31 at 2015 1:36 PM

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No.

Response by SGT Frances Richardson made Jan 31 at 2015 1:36 PM

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Yes it does. I absolutely hate hearing it.

Response by MSgt Jim Bain made Jan 31 at 2015 1:50 PM

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DO NOT THINK I HAVE EVER WALKED INTO OUR NEIGHBORHOOD WALMART WEARING MY "RETIRED AIR FORCE" HAT AND NOT HAVE SOMEONE THANK ME FOR MY SERVICE.
I INTURN ALSO GIVE A BIG THANK YOU TO ANY VET'S I INCOUNTER.
DOES IT BOTHER ME, HECK NO, I THINK IT'S GREAT.
WE SHOULD ALL THANK OUR BROTHERS AND SISTERS WHO HAVE WORN THE UNIFORM OF OUR COUNTRY, IN WAR AND PEACE!

Response by MCPO Hans Brakob made Jan 31 at 2015 2:21 PM

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"Thank you" works for me. I have no idea WTF "YO JOE" means.

If I can figure out their rank or branch other than just a vet, I'll say "Thanks Sarge" or "Thanks Shipmate" or whatever.

Response by PO2 Lisa Lloyd made Jan 31 at 2015 2:23 PM

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No , It does not bother me. It makes me feel like I belonged to something very great!!

Response by CPT James Burkholder made Jan 31 at 2015 2:28 PM

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It does sort of bother me since I "volunteered" because I was drafted in 1965 as I finished my internship and the Army needed lots of docs. After several months in Korea I did volunteer for RVN. So am I being thanked for not running to Canada? However now that fewer than 1% of Americans serve in the military thanks is very appropriate and I've given it to some. I recall a bunch of guys in an airport returning from the middle east about 10 years ago in their worn dirty uniforms and walked over and talked with one, thanking him and we talked about RVN. He pulled out a button that he cut off the uniform of one of Hassam's officers and gave it to me. It was sort of a mutual bond of thanks and something I treasure.

Response by COL Mike Walton made Jan 31 at 2015 2:32 PM

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HELL NO!!! When some IDs me as a retiree, or sees my VETERAN license plate, they come up to me and say that phrase.

I respond with "...and THANK YOU for your support!"

I think it's important that those of us accepting the "thank yous" turn this thing around and tell people "thank you for your support and understanding..." They don't get that feedback from us Vets. They need to hear it, see it and know that we mean it from the center of our souls. Our Vietnam Vet brothers are now just recently getting that same sort of acknowledgement from citizens...and they should likewise say "You may or may not agreed with the war...but I thank you for your support to me and others in my lot."

They need to hear that. We need to hear that thanks. It never gets old...annoying sometimes, but never old. They are trying to be respectful and most cases thanking us for things they cannot or do not want to do.

Response by SFC Philip Kaough made Jan 31 at 2015 2:44 PM

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My response is always the same. "It was my pleasure".

Response by MSG William Wold made Jan 31 at 2015 3:20 PM

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One of my observations is it has come and gone and come back again. IN WWII we as a nation were more of less minding our own business when we were attacked (Pearl Harbor) That ticked off the American people, and they rallied behind the troops and the war effort big time. The war was won, and they were heroes. Then Korea was just a clean up of some late comers to the war.. Afterwards, Lots of years of peace and growth expansion.
Fast forward to Vietnam. The political atmosphere was to stop Communism before it reached this country, and we arrogant American politicians were going to show the French who was in Vietnam for years and didn't get anywhere, how it's supposed to be done So sending off our soldiers to another country to fight it was the idea.
Problem was we as a nation were in so long of a peace. We were not attacked. Merely one day after high school, your best friend disappears, is in the military, and sent to another country and for what? Next thing you know he's home in a casket. And for what? Rumors of baby killers, this country going thru the "Hippy" generation, "Give peace a chance" thing, a soldier didn't dare wear the uniform or acknowledge he was one, yet the military insisted we travel in uniform. Yelled at, cursed and spit at.
Equally frustrating is when I got to Vietnam, you shot when fired upon and asked questions later. Shortly after that you had to get a major or above in the chain of command to give you permission. I lost a buddy waiting on permission. After that I told them, next time I'll just ask for forgiveness.
9/11 came. We were attacked on our own mainland shore. Again the majority of Americans rally around the troops. We "won"; " Mission Accomplished" only started, didn't finish things. We were being successful, till it has dragged on and on, and political agenda ties the hands of the soldier in doing the job he was trained to do, then they become glorified urban baby sitters.
It is extremely hard to go from being a member of the military during and shortly after the Vietnam War being shunned and cursed at all these years, to now being acknowledged and thanked for the service. It almost feels like a hollow saying without meaning; more of for the person saying it, making them feel better under the guilt of not saying it all those years.
But it was my honor and privilege to serve this great country, regardless on how the "sheeple" feel.. Most will never understand.. But it seems I am getting used to it. And I thank them for supporting the soldiers.

Response by SFC Cheryl McElroy US ARMY (RET) made Jan 31 at 2015 4:03 PM

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What bothers me is that someone would post such a silly question to begin with. It shouldn't bother you in the least. Not everybody has what it takes to be a Soldier, especially to stick it out for a total of 30 years (10 Reserve, 20 Active) like I did. I did two tours in Iraq, and when someone thanks me for my service, I graciously say, "You're welcome".

Response by CPL Brian Clouser made Jan 31 at 2015 4:54 PM

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Have to say it does bother me when someone say" Thank you for your service" I'm lost, I mean I don't know how to response to that. I end up saying "Thank you" and move on

Response by SFC Adam Miller made Jan 31 at 2015 4:55 PM

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I always appreciated it because I remember how the Viet Nam Vets where treated when I was a young child. If it was a young person thanking me I would always take the opportunity to invite them to join me in service.

Response by LT John Stevens made Jan 31 at 2015 5:02 PM

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I tell active duty personnel I meet "Thank you for your service." I tell retired and former military personnel the same. I make no distinction.

Having served at the end of Vietnam, and having been cursed and spat upon by the idiot peaceniks, I am happy and proud to be recognized for my service, no matter how long ago that may have been.

Response by TSgt John Marshall made Jan 31 at 2015 6:07 PM

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While I appreciate the meaning behind the statement, and it is usually heartfelt, I joined and served 20 in the AF because that's all I ever wanted to do since I was 9 years old. I wanted to serve and still do in a different way. However, as SFC McMillion stated, the Viet Nam vets received the complete opposite.

I am thankful I was able to serve my country and I will always reply, "It was my pleasure."

Response by SGT Kenyatta Collins made Jan 31 at 2015 6:09 PM

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It feels good to know that fellow Americans appreciate our service. I don't think they're saying "you're done". The only thing that would bother me is if they are just empty words. Actions speak louder than words. So do tell me "Thank you for your service", and then leave me homeless, sick and hungry.

Response by SPC Mickey Bennett made Jan 31 at 2015 6:38 PM

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On the one hand, it weirds out my inner hard ass, as I was just doing my job, but on the other hand, it's a sign that we're appreciated, and that gives me hope that we can bridge the gap between veterans and civilians! Basically, it's better to grin and bear praise that feels weird than the backhanded condescension of the Michael Moore's, the Kristen Stewart's (see the Daily Beast interview in relation to the movie Camp X-Ray), and the douche nozzles on certain cable news channels who like to wax faux intellectual about modern warfare! Oh, and those who know me know that I was raised by a Vietnam veteran, and I'll tolerate the complements because I watch him appreciate them because when he first came home, he got the absolute opposite the first time around!

Response by Sgt Jim Bower made Jan 31 at 2015 6:44 PM

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Yes, it bothers me and always has. If fact, it makes me sick. No one told us that back late 60's or early 70's. In fact, many of us suffered the effects of Honorably serving our country. I was never spit on, but I did lose a shot at working for Southern Railroad because they said my hearing was bad. I told them they had not even administered a hearing test. They said it didn't matter, if I flew on helocopters I Must have lost some hearing. That was just a way to pass over me. Also had a college history professor named Krueger that failed me on a test. When I showed him in the book word for word that my answer was right, he just shrugged and said "Too Bad." He, in years later was featured in a news article about discriminating against vets in his classes and he bragged about it. So when I hear the words "Thank You For Your Service," it conjures up all the crap I went through. An apology should be made to those of us that served 40 or 50 years ago. Just saying the words don't mean anything.

Response by PO1 Douglas Goodwin made Jan 31 at 2015 6:57 PM

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No it doesn't bother me because it seems heartfelt when it happens and when I see WW2 and Vietnam Vets I thank them. Where I live now is full of Vets and I have always been in areas that were near Bases where Vets tend to retire so when a few years back I was visiting a friend in Rose Hill Tenn in the Rockies I found out there are places where Vets are few and far between we went to the VFW because his Dad wanted to show us off and being in our 30's we were the youngest by a Long shot and the Members told us stories of their time in WW2 and Korea and Vietnam it seemed like when we were at War they answered the call but during peacetime the Military wasn't what young people did and their Post was dying out and That Bothered me

Response by SSG Mike Angelo made Jan 31 at 2015 6:58 PM

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Today, I like the "thank you for your service" part better than the "spit in your face baby killer" mantra, from another era.

Response by SSgt James Stanley made Jan 31 at 2015 7:13 PM

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No, it doesn't bother me. It's nice to know that there are people who appreciate our service.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 31 at 2015 7:25 PM

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Nope! I have learned a very appropriate response, "It was an honor." (Smile, shake hands, walk away)

Response by Sgt Gregory Myers made Jan 31 at 2015 7:43 PM

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It does not bother me one bit when an American citizen thanks me for my service. The first few times it happened it actually was a humbling experience. I did not feel that my service was appreciated until then. I realized that there were and are Americans that truly thank us service men and women for what we do to protect our freedoms. I look upon my time of duty as doing the job I signed up for, the good and the not so good. Many do not have what it takes to be willing to make the sacrifices that we have. If it bothers you when an American thanks you for serving out country, you may need to look inward not to those who offer their gratitude.

Response by Cpl Craig Franklin made Jan 31 at 2015 8:09 PM

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Makes me feel appreciated and respected. I have no problem with it whatsoever. People SHOULD be thankful to me and all of my brothers and sisters for putting our lives on the line for them, and I love hearing them say so.

Response by SSgt Zackary Rice made Jan 31 at 2015 9:12 PM

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I will be honest and say it does make me uncomfortable. I only served 6 years and it was in the Air guard as an Aerial Porter (we loaded planes). In the one deployment I did have, I was fortunate enough to be at Bagram In the winter of 2011 and it was pretty peaceful for those of us inside the wire. As an aerial porter, I was responsible for helping out with loading cargo and equipment on planes, including airdrop bundles. Seeing the stuff that we sent out helped me realize how rough everyone else had it. I'm certainly not ashamed of my deployment, despite its relatively safe status, but I do feel uncomfortable when someone wants to thank me the same they would thank someone from the Fighting First or any other group that sees the real action. That's just my take..

Response by Maj Steve Clark made Jan 31 at 2015 9:15 PM

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I'm appreciative and tell them it was a pleasure to serve, and that the real thanks goes to the folks that aren't here because they gave everything so we could even have this conversation...

Response by SSG Tc Bhardwaj made Jan 31 at 2015 9:24 PM

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All I can say is that I'm happy to hear civilians at least caring a little bit about us. Most of the men that trained me were for the most part from a Generation of Soldiers that got little to no recognition or appreciation for their Service. Many were treated with out right disrespect. For Our Generation, a lot of this is Lip Service, a pre-programmed "Thank You" that it is simply a common/decent thing to say, but when it comes from some People, you can tell that they really mean it. It's heartfelt. So for the one's that just sorta mumble it, it's very annoying, but when you hear it from a younger person...the next generation, and see that they really mean it, it feels to me almost like a Thank You for all the fine Soldiers that trained me, although belated, and with a few degrees of separation, it's really nice.

Response by SSG Mike Thompson made Jan 31 at 2015 9:54 PM

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It doesn't bother me anymore... One day I was at Wal-Mart pharmacy, getting my pain meds refilled. I was in my wheelchair, wearing an old flight jacket...

See, this little girl of about 10 or 12 was there with her mom, waiting like I was... She'd looked at me for awhile, looking at my chair... She said something to her mom that I couldn't hear, but she then came over to me and asked, "Are you a Veteran?". I replied that I was, and she then asked if she could give me a hug. I said, "Sure, hon."...

So I get rid big ol' hug from this girl, and she then said, "Thank you for serving."

I daid, "You're welcome. You were worth it, sweetie."...

Response by Capt Keenan Lee made Jan 31 at 2015 10:29 PM

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I thank them but every statement of "Thank you for your service", I think of my friends that didn't make it, those that never returned, or those of us that are in pain every day. I just say "Thank you, I appreciate that." A good handshake and we both move on.

Response by SGT Tim Grow made Jan 31 at 2015 10:41 PM

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I had a friend say to me "I never had the balls to join the military like you did. But I want to do something to show my support for the people that served. What can I do?" I simply told him a thank you goes a long way. Any show of support and respect towards veterans and active duty and actively drilling military personnel is important. It shows us that people still appreciate the sacrifice we made for this country.

Response by TSgt Marilyn Haretuku made Feb 1 at 2015 1:14 AM

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I never get bothered by it and always respond with "Thank you for your support". It is rare for people to build up the courage to talk to a stranger, now a days, but when someone is moved enough to let you know they are grateful, you should remember that it is for all Americans that you defend the rights to freedom. So I will hold my head up & thank them for needing to thank us.

Response by SPC Dale West made Feb 1 at 2015 2:16 AM

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"Thank You For Your Service" Doesn't Bother Me As Much As Being Called A "Hero" Especially When There Are People Like Police Fire Fighter And Emergency Personnel That Put There Lives On The Line Day By Day. They "In My Eyes" Are The True Heros

Response by SSG Keven Lahde made Feb 1 at 2015 2:37 AM

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It makes me feel good for someone to have thanked me for my service, which I reply back saying "Thank you, but to me its my job and I am more than glad to do it.

Response by PV2 Daniel Shipley made Feb 1 at 2015 7:59 AM

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For someone like me, in my position, yes. I am technically "prior service" for my "length" of service and I am technically considered a veteran, even though I have never served over seas. I don't correct a citizen when I am thanked for my service, but it does eat me up inside knowing I never got the chance to fight along side my brothers who have died.

Response by SFC Peter Thens made Feb 1 at 2015 8:08 AM

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It did (and still does) make me feel a little uncomfortable. I seem to get it a lot because all my friends and family introduce me as a retired veteran of 26 years. I used to say "You're Welcome" but that always sounded a little egotistical to me. I heard a soldier say "Thank you for your support" and I must admit that I use that reply now and it sounds a little better to me and seems to make the person thanking me for my service smile as well.

Response by SMSgt Gary Calhoun made Feb 1 at 2015 9:43 AM

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At first, yes. Someone was thanking me for a decision I made of my own free will and accord; they had no idea where I had been or what I had accomplished to merit a thank you.

My uncle did 3 tours in SEA - 2 to Vietnam, 1 to Thailand. He didn't get a TYFYS and I felt he deserved it more; much more.

Now I understand better - most couldn't fathom what we did. They are just happy someone did it. Now I just reply with a "Thank you" or "It was my privilege". It was a privilege to serve and even though all those years wore my body out; I'd do it again in a second. Why? Because I was a part of something bigger than I was; because troops on my left and right depended on me and I depended on them. We did what we were called to do and we kept faith with each other.

I walk across the street now to thank Korean War and Vietnam War vets. They did their duty too, but were either ignored or vilified by their country for doing the right thing.

Response by SFC Rapfeal Mayfield made Feb 1 at 2015 9:54 AM

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After hearing it so much from everyone, it dose sound a little cliche...but ut doesn't bother me. I'd rather hear that any day than all the other negative things people have to say about the military.

Response by SPC Rick Simms made Feb 1 at 2015 10:26 AM

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I do my best to try and hide my service now a days. I want to be known for what I'm doing in the present, not live in the glory days gone by. When veterans pander to having their ass kissed it makes sick and I figure most of those guys are spoons/CAB's living with the guilt and resentment of making the choice to not go in all the way. I served honorably but I'm not gonna lie, some of the things I did and helped do I sometimes wonder if I should be thanked for... There's a balance, we did good and bad. I like to think on most days my actions hit 51% good. For the guys having a tough time coming to peace with themselves it can be kinda tough to hear.

Response by SSgt Ed Miller made Feb 1 at 2015 11:50 AM

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I think it's great for the civilians and fellow service members to thank someone for their service. I have family members who served during the 60's and 70's and remember a much different attitude. Personally I kind of cringe a little because I don't believe that I have done as much as others have.

Response by SPC Matthew Hart made Feb 1 at 2015 12:15 PM

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I accept it graciously, then say "you're welcome" and drive on. In my mind the army did more for me than I did for it. Sure I deployed, but I never had to shoot anyone, never got blown up. We had a rocket that landed near the pods but it didn't explode, and a UXO exploded behind the TOC, but no one got hurt. Most of my unit made it back, and the one guy that didn't well... it really wasn't due to combat action.

Response by COL David S. made Feb 1 at 2015 12:57 PM

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I can remember the times when servicemen got spit upon by their fellow citizens. I remember demonstrators hurling bags of urine at soldiers. The first time a lady came up to me in a restaurant as I was sitting at breakfast in uniform and thanked me for my service, I nearly fell off my seat.
I have always believed in service to my country. That someone would have the courtesy to thank me ... it is an honor to receive that thanks. As a veteran and having served 30+ years in uniform, I am thankful that others.... perhaps .....are thankful for what those in uniform have done for their country. There is sacrifice in service and we should gracefully accept thanks.

Response by SPC Michael Murphy made Feb 1 at 2015 2:25 PM

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Yespecially and no, I served because I knew I should for God and for country, I served during cold war and gulf war, but saw no combat but served, I think the thanks should go to those who lost something for our a or served and came back with scars or wounds no one can see.

Response by MCPO Don Hopkins made Feb 1 at 2015 3:11 PM

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No it does not bother me, I believe it is the appropriate response when given out of Respect to You for Service to GOD & Country!
I say let it alone and stop all this politically correct crap. That's what's wrong with things today. STOP THE POLITICAL CORRECTNESS CRAP!
GOD BLESS THE USA!

Response by TSgt Joshua Leary made Feb 1 at 2015 3:18 PM

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I am sorry if you don't see how appreciative people are, and how much they respect us for what we have done or doing for there freedom. Sit back and think for a moment, would you rather them hate you for what you done or appreciate you for what you have done? It is your choice, as for me I see how much we are appreciated.

Response by MSgt Sandra McKinney Dent made Feb 1 at 2015 3:36 PM

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I do make it a point to say it, and to say "From one veteran to another, Thank-you"

Most of the time, I DO NOT get a "Thank-you" in return from fellow veterans. Sometimes I might get one from a stranger, but half the time, even my family forgets. I put in a career, and still they forget.

I don't know why, women have been serving officially in uniform since World War I, and women have been in the Army Nursing Corps since the Spanish American War.

Letting you guys know, this is a very touchy subject for your sisters in uniform.

Response by SGT David Emme made Feb 1 at 2015 4:00 PM

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No. It bothers me when people do not mean it. Seen it happen lots of times-too many times at Walter Reed when I was there 22 months until I was retired medically.

Response by CPL Roland Newton made Feb 1 at 2015 4:49 PM

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As for the civilian population. When Some one says it to me , I kindly say" thanks, just doing a job."

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 1 at 2015 5:01 PM

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It does bother me. But a lot of it is my problem. I'll put in the caveat that the abuse that was doled out to Vietnam veterans who returned was abhorrant, and if the new culture of giving thanks to service members provides any solace to them than I am happy for it.

That being said, I'm never sure how to take it. Every time I hear "thank you for your service" it feels like an eternity before I can get the words "thank you" out. I find myself wondering why they said it. Most of the time I feel that people say it because they believe that they are supposed to "support the troops". Others I feel like they say it because they are sympathetic, and the rare few have insight, either because they have a loved one that went or because they have been themselves. The latter are the only ones I don't feel super awkward around.

The other thing I run into are those that want the "thanks" to breach into a conversation about my experiences and my thoughts about it:

"Oh, you're in the Army?" "Did you have to go to Iraq?" "Do you think we should've gone?" "Do you think there were ever WMDs?" "Have you been shot at?" "Did you see a lot of dead bodies?" "What was it like?" or "I'm glad there are people like you that go over there" "I could never do it" "I'm sorry you had to go" "are you ok now?" "

Most of the time I can behave myself and provide pretty neutral answers, and deflect away from the more intense topics. But there is the odd instance where someone will push too hard and I'll give them what they want, and they'll realize that they didn't want to know.

I suppose I should probably cut & paste this post to my shrink :)

Response by LCpl Zackarias Wade made Feb 1 at 2015 5:45 PM

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Honestly people don't really know what to say other than that. It may seem empty from some and carry weight from others.

Response by LTC Jason Mackay made Feb 1 at 2015 5:47 PM

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Sometimes, when I sense they are groping for something to say or they say that and then follow up with a comment that demeans service or otherwise shows their non-support. Most of the time, I accept it at face value and thank them for the support.

Response by SGT John Galbraith made Feb 1 at 2015 7:38 PM

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I was chatting with a senior NCO and friend in the lobby of the building I work in the other day. he was in uniform and had stopped in to see me on his way home. A couple of people came up and not only thanked him for his service, but took it way over the top short of asking for his autograph. When they left I looked at him and he felt uncomfortable and I know I certainly did. I have a theory that people feel guilty for how soldiers used to be treated and overcompensate now. Am I off base on this one or is anyone elses perception similar?

Response by CW4 Ray Montano made Feb 1 at 2015 8:09 PM

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It depends. Occasionally, it feels obligatory. I always thank them bank, but the reality is that I did not serve to later be thanked.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 1 at 2015 9:29 PM

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It really used to bother me.. I didn't always know how to respond to the accolades.. But one day an old WWII hero shook my hand and said, "thank you for your service to our Country.".. I kind of shrugged it off.. with a "no, no... thank you... he said, " it was "OUR" honor son, an honor, that those that have never served Her will ever know.".. so from then on I just say,.. It was my honor.. and it was.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 1 at 2015 11:28 PM

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I am not going to lie, it does make me feel a bit uncomfortable. I was never one that liked to be thanked for anything I did, especially when it was something I wanted to do, but that's just me. I think it's good that people actually take the time to appreciate our service though. Whenever someone thanks me for my service, I say "thank you" shake their hand and that's usually the end of it.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 1 at 2015 11:43 PM

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I hear it anytime I'm in uniform. I does bug me because I feel I've not done anything to deserve recognition. I did my job and duty to my country. I love it I don't need a thank you or recognition. I want my kids proud of me and know life isn't easy. Add for you maybe your bugged or miss the fact that you're no longer in uniform. I will miss it terribly when I have to give it up. I'm guard do I work troop support on civilian side so that makes me feel a part of it too. Something like that for you or volunteer work thru a veterans network. Your not done yet there's always more to do.

Response by A1C Joe Edwards made Feb 2 at 2015 4:28 AM

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I was in the Air Force. I was in during peacetime, and not in combat, in a combat zone, and I do feel what I did back then, is nothing compared to the guys who were in combat, and fighting today what I think should have been over a long time ago, and swiftly, and decisively. I tell guys I see that are new vets, and I admit to them that I have nothing on them or what they have done, and seen.

Response by SA Steven Herberts made Feb 2 at 2015 5:31 AM

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No it does not bother me. I am actually happy to hear it.

Response by SPC Steven Depuy made Feb 2 at 2015 7:02 AM

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My service was too long ago, never heard that directed at me much. I think with many people that say it, its kind of a catch phrase that in reality, does not come with a lot of heart felt emotion anymore, but just a natural response to hearing someone served. But like someone else said, its a lot better than what the guys went through in the 60's and early 70's for sure.

Response by CPL Guy Grafton made Feb 2 at 2015 7:08 AM

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It doesn't bother me at all. It its the acknowledgment alone that made me proud to serve. I had an illustrious career, got to travel across the globe, worked with fine soldiers, learned new cultures & skills, and used that experience in my civilian life. Granted I didn't achieve high ranking (Retired as CPL), though had various opportunities to advance but to chose other venues, the fact I had the opportunity to wear the uniform is praise enough. It may not come up as the primary conversation starter, but when asked, I gladly respond humbly "you are welcome" and DRIVE ON!!

Response by SPC Jason Poirrier made Feb 2 at 2015 9:37 AM

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No it doesn't bother me. And my response is always the same, Your Welcome. Most civilians are truly thankful for your service. As an OIF vet, I even thank Vietnam and any other vets I run into because I'm thankful.

Response by Cpl Anthony Pearson made Feb 2 at 2015 9:37 AM

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Does not bother me at all. Civilians are often very unsure of how to approach us. They don't know what to say or how to act. The 'crutch' response is "Thank you for your service."

That never bothered me, ever.

I look them right in the eyes, I smile, and I thank them for saying something.

I often hear veterans discuss how they feel civilians don't appreciate or understand what it means to serve. I agree, they don't. If we want them to understand, we should be more open to explaining it. Answering their questions. Thanking them for acknowledging us and thanking us for our service.

Response by MAJ Chris Ballard made Feb 2 at 2015 9:49 AM

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To me it is totally dependent on the context. When it's heartfelt, then I appreciate it, say "my pleasure," and move on. When it's insincere, kind of an unspoken "I feel so sorry for you that you were too stupid to get a real job," then it bothers me.

Response by PO3 David Rudd made Feb 2 at 2015 10:01 AM

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no it doesn't bother me and I love to return the favor so thank you for your service !!!!

Response by LCpl Dave Walter made Feb 2 at 2015 10:09 AM

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I must admit that sometime I am annoyed by this, but for different reasons than the ones stated in the OP. I am happy that people recognize the sacrifices we all have made, but I don't feel comfortable with the "accolades" that seem to come with it.
I didn't join to get recognized. None of us did. I don't know why, it just makes me feel weird. I would much rather people support those who didn't make it, or who came back broken, both in body and spirit. That's just me.

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 2 at 2015 12:16 PM

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It is not about what YOU feel. It is about how the sender feels. Like it or not, and as uncomfortable as it makes me feel, accepting it in a professional and respectful manner is what people are expecting. It makes THEM feel good for saying it. My service isn't over, so I will suck it up and say to them "It is my honor." People really mean what they say when they say it. It is better to keep that relationship with the public alive than squelch it for petty personal reasons.

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 2 at 2015 12:28 PM

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It's not about how YOU feel. It's about how the sender feels. They feel like they are being proactive and THEY ARE. As uncomfortable as I feel, I try to keep that attitude alive in the public by responding professionally and courteously and not be an a__hole who questions their greeting. When I am in uniform and I am told "Thank you for your service" I say "It is my Honor",shake his or her hand if it is offered, and move on. Out of uniform, same thing. The majority of the public means what they say. Most don't know what else to say.

Response by SSgt Larry Castile made Feb 2 at 2015 6:45 PM

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I appreciate hearing that even though it was my choice to enlist and defend. We are a special breed and therefore hearing this from those who are truly grateful means a lot. I even thank a veteran when the chance arises.

Response by Cpl Rick West made Feb 2 at 2015 7:22 PM

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Yes and no.
I always reply with either, "You're welcome" or "it was my pleasure."

Response by PV2 David Minnicks made Feb 2 at 2015 7:41 PM

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I offer this greeting and I am of the opinion that this recognition and thanks is due and in many instances terribly overdue. Having family members that served and saw combat who then came home and were greeted with hostility instead of a hero’s welcome this is the very least that I can offer. This greeting of recognition and gratitude is not reserved for veterans it is also offered to active duty service members and I am unclear as to why you feel that it implies that you are somehow being put out to pasture. Possibly a trip to your local VA Hospital is in order and I challenge you to offer this greeting to each veteran and active duty service member that you see. Just a hunch on my part but after you receive their replies and witness their reactions I have a feeling that this will go a long way in changing your opinion of the importance of this greeting.

Response by MAJ Ron Peery made Feb 2 at 2015 8:54 PM

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No, it does not bother me. It makes the person saying it feel good. I just tell them it is not necessary, as I had a great career, and got to play with weapons and explosives, go 4 wheeling in the desert, and travel to lots of interesting places. And then I thank them for paying for my vacations. It's all good.

Response by A1C Gregory Beckham made Feb 2 at 2015 10:18 PM

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There are a number of reasons one might feel the way you do.

I'm not throwing punches here, but hear me out:

If I was working for Burger King and someone told me, "Thank you for your service."
I might be a little peeved, I don't know why, but I would.

If I pulled people from burning houses, and someone said it, I'd probably tear up.
Why? Because I felt like I mattered in my time of service. If I watch my friends perish, if I miss my kids birth because of deployment, if I suffered, in anyway during service,(I did) It'd mean something.

Now, had I just handed out towels in the gym for 4 years and someone said it, I might get annoyed. I've actually seen this happen with someone else. I asked him why and you know what he said? "It was just a job/paycheck"

That's the difference, at least, in my opinion. My short, 25 years of life experience...

Response by SSG Robert Poorman made Feb 3 at 2015 1:49 AM

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No it doesn't. And it doesn't make me feel like I'm done and ready for pasture.

I have heard a good response to "Thank you for your service" though recently and have had a chance to use it and will be using it when the occasion arises, "You're Worth It".

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 3 at 2015 2:00 AM

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Not at all. I appreciate that people appreciate me and what I do. Sometimes it gets a litte uncomfortable but only with best intentions in mind!

Response by Cpl John Hobgood made Feb 3 at 2015 9:38 AM

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My service in the military was a calculated decision. I knew when I signed the dotted line that I was gettng paid to do a job that job came with risks. I enjoyed my time as an active duty Marine and don't need to be thanked for it.

Response by PO2 Jeff Jackelen made Feb 3 at 2015 12:13 PM

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I was surprised the first time I was told this; after all my service was between wars and had been out a good number of years. I was also welcomed home many years after my service by different-era veterans. I appreciated it and I follow suit when it is appropriate.

Response by PO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 3 at 2015 1:37 PM

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It doesn't bother me. They don't mean anything negative.

Response by SFC(P) Tobias M. made Feb 3 at 2015 3:18 PM

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The only time that it bothers me is when i know that they are only saying it because they feel that they "HAVE" to. If they do not mean it then they need not say it to me.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 3 at 2015 4:28 PM

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I appreciate it when I receive a thank you for your service. I do the same thing when I see veterans that attend our unit functions. I am stationed at Fort Hood and I have seen and meet so many veterans, at the Ceremonies I see the same veterans that attend almost every single event that happens. Every time I am with my father-in-law who is an Army MSG (Ret) and served in Vietnam many times, he is proud to wear his Vietnam veteran hat and a lot of younger and older men and woman are always coming up to him and shaking his hand, and in turn he tells them I am in the service and I get thanked also. Makes me feel good and proud to do what I do.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 3 at 2015 4:30 PM

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It's good to hear, sometimes it catches me off guard, people run up on you out of nowhere to shake your hand and thank you.

Response by CW3 Guy Snodgrass made Feb 4 at 2015 7:35 AM

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First I apologize for being away for so long. I've been working on getting my second book published and out.

Yes, I did what I did not to be recognized, but to server my fellow Americans and my family. For those that enjoy it, please don't be offended. I'm the same way with awards. While they are a necessary evil if you want to be promoted, I know if I did my best or not. An award isn't going to tell me.

Response by PO3 William McFaul made Feb 4 at 2015 8:57 AM

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It doesn't bother me in the least to hear someone say that to me, I think it's respectful for people to offer their thanks. The fact is, I did serve my country & they are simply & respectfully thanking me for it. I don't feel like anyone is telling me to go sit down & grow feeble. Most people can see I'm physically & mentally ready to go serve again & I would not have to think twice if I ever got that call to duty once again. I'm sorry you feel this way & maybe you can see it from this point of view & thank you for asking me this question, I really do like staying in touch with those that have served.

Response by Cpl Robert Masi made Feb 4 at 2015 10:39 AM

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I think it's lip service....you can see how people dish it out. Personally I just ignore it. If I bring it up, it's because I'm in the middle of telling a story while I was stationed out of country.
If Americans meant it, they would listen to us when it comes to Global Politics. But no, when it comes to anything going on in the world, we are first to be ignored, because shit, we only lived through it...Even Elections, no one asks what Military Personnel think, especially not Veterans.
And have you ever heard a Liberal say anything positive about the military? Of course not. This new movie American Sniper is a perfect example....As soon as Americans make a hero out of a Veteran, Liberals jump all over his character (after he is dead of course)...but some guy says he's gay and is a Football player "Oh my god, he is SO BRAVE. He's a Hero"....
........It's just a big cosmic joke.

Response by Maj Rocco Albano made Feb 4 at 2015 1:04 PM

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As a VN era vet, I can tell you it was way too long before anyone recognized our service. Not only did our service not get recognized in a positive way, we were vilified as baby killers and all sorts of other things without regard to whether or not we were even "in country". When I finished training in early `69, I was sent to Europe and VN was done by the time my tour was over. Europeans didn't treat us any better than our fellow countrymen either, even though "our fathers" saved their asses only twenty years earlier and we were standing between them and the Russians. The only time I am bothered by the "thank you for your service" is when the person saying it is obviously being perfunctory and doesn't sound like they really mean it. Most of the time however it doesn't bother me.

Response by MSgt Robert Paris made Feb 4 at 2015 1:32 PM

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As an old USAF VN vet I was never spoken to in this manner until 20 years after retirement I was traveling with a USAF retired hat and a Navy retired gent came to my table said those wonderful words. It took me a moment to regroup and say it was my honor and wished him the same greeting. I understand the question from many levels.

1. I say it to ole vets wearing military gear
2. Soldiers in uniform

For me it no longer matters, the how to deal with and desire have long been taken care of. Who knows someone may stop me again, I truly do not believe so

Response by SPC Johnny Velazquez, PhD made Feb 4 at 2015 3:07 PM

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As a Viet Nam Era Vet. I welcome those words. Not what we receives in the 60s.

Response by 1SG Henry Yates made Feb 4 at 2015 10:28 PM

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Not at all. I put myself in their shoes and ask myself, what else are they supposed to say? It's a show of support and respect. We had the big fires in Colorado and in a heartfelt appreciation I bought some Fire Fighters their drinks while in line and said, "Thank you for what you do." What was I supposed to say? They seemed to appreciate it, but I really wanted them to know. I felt like a dork for a second because it slipped out before I really thought about it.
I deal with my own limitations and man it get's to me when I question myself on how my Wife see's me today. I don't ask her how she see's me, her actions show it. She loves me. I've learned to let statements of others especially the ones I may not get soak for a bit and dismiss it if they see me for something I'm not. I do I miss the physical strength, stamina, and I've inherited "Can't Remember Stuff" (CRS). But, I still do the best I can and work to make it happen. I still use a PDA and my Android device. I'm working on fitness, but running will end my spine. I'm not the same after Service and I began to see it during my career. Life is good, but I'll always think I'm supposed have the abilities I had as a Soldier, realize I don't and feel my heart sink in that moment. I've become stronger in other ways and I compensate for lost abilities. I don't know if this ever changes, but enjoy any show of appreciation, because sometimes we are our worst critic.

Response by CH (CPT) Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 4 at 2015 11:13 PM

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At first, when I was a mere ROTC cadet and I was in uniform (and civilians didn't know the difference), I felt like I had to apologize, because I hadn't really served. But after a few years, I realized that "thank you for your service" was not about me. It was about me representing every other person wearing that uniform. This whole situation took on an entirely different character from then on. I graciously accept that small gesture now (and now I'm actually in, though I'm still fairly new around here) because I see it as a "thank you" to everyone in uniform.

Response by SPC Joy Clymer made Feb 5 at 2015 11:44 AM

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I think you may be reading meaning into the comment that the speaker doesn't intend. Although prior military myself, I always thank military members for their service, especially if they served in combat. I don't assume (and don't mean to imply by my words) that their service is over. The fact is, many of the sacrifices veterans have made (moving frequently, loss of dear friends, marital/family stress, career paths, injuries, identity crises, PTSD, and damage to the soul, among others) impact them for life. But it would be a bit awkward to say all that when thanking them... As is often the case, a few simple words are meant to convey far more than the mere words themselves. Sort of like "I love you." I'm deeply grateful for all that veterans carry (for my benefit) and wouldn't think of not thanking one if given the opportunity. When people thank me for my service, I simply state that it was my privilege to serve.

Response by CPL Jeffrey Velazquez made Feb 5 at 2015 11:58 AM

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I agree with SFC McMillion, I don't mind it at all however what I find difficult is what to say in response to that, You're Welcome! That makes me feel like, that is not the right answer. Anyways I appreciate it when someone says it especially when its from WW2 or Vietnam Vet, I thank them in return the same.

Response by SGT David Dow made Feb 5 at 2015 2:50 PM

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I Never know what to say. I did here Jacob Schick say you are worth it which I thought was awesome.

Response by SGT Loren Hammons made Feb 5 at 2015 3:49 PM

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Receiving a thank you!

I have found that there are not many out their that say "Thank you" to affect me. I Love the fact that there are so many that recognize soldiers and their contributions. I do feel awkward when someone says thank you. I did not serve because I was looking for a thank you. I served because that is how we are raised. I was doing the job that I was hired to do. I think saying thank you to our spouses is more important.

I will accept the thank you, it took someone thinking about soldiers to walk up and say thank you. As an NCO I appreciate any recognition for the soldiers.

All my Army Brothers out there, Thank you

Response by SSgt Gerald Fowler made Feb 5 at 2015 4:08 PM

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Bugs me since it seems like the only ones saying it are the ones trying to sell you something. It was a great motto for our troops during the war, but how many really mean it.
With over 60k homeless veterans, and veterans going without promised medical care, which retirees are required to pay for now, it is just an empty statement. Sorry if it bugs people to hear a veteran respond this way but don't ask the question if you can't accept an answer.

Response by TSgt Art Pancoast made Feb 5 at 2015 7:16 PM

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Virtue doesn't exist if recognition or appreciation is the goal.

Response by Sgt Michael Selbach made Feb 5 at 2015 11:03 PM

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The first times I heard it...I didn't know what to say. So I started saying I did it to avoid collage
and everyone laughed. later I felt I was belittling what they were saying to me and what they were saying to all of us. So now I just shake their hand and give them a "It was my honor"

Response by Sgt David G Duchesneau made Feb 8 at 2015 10:27 PM

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It took 44 years before anyone said to me "Thank you for your Service and Welcome Home." I am a proud Vietnam Veteran and everyone knows how we were treated when we came back to the World. I was treated like a Criminal, an outcast. I was met at the airport by anti-war demonstrators and cold shoulders. I was spit on and called names like "baby killer." Why? Because of the news media. The Vietnam war was the start of an new era for news reporters. They were allowed in the front lines and they didn't belong there and they still don't. They reported what was happening as they interpreted it and not as it actually was. Hell, they even reported that we lost the Vietnam War. We didn't loose the Vietnam War, we were ordered to Stand Down, just like we were in Iraq. But even when we left Vietnam , we still had boots on the ground until the last US Soldier was air lifted out. Does it bother me to have someone say, "Thank you for your Service" no way in hell. I served my Country with dignity and pride and I did my job in protecting the rights and freedom of the South Vietnamese people from communism.

Response by SPC(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 9 at 2015 11:06 PM

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The only real dilemma I face is I am never really sure how to respond back to the person thanking me, other than "you are welcome" which makes me feel arrogant for some reason. Anyone else can relate?

Response by SPC David S. made Feb 11 at 2015 1:31 AM

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It does but it doesn't. It does because I was never deployed, I simply joined during this war. It doesn't because I understand their gratitude towards the Armed Forces as a whole. Regardless of weather you actually deployed or not.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 11 at 2015 1:50 AM

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Although it may sound a little trite; but I still like to hear it. It a sign that most of the public loves our military regardless of their political viewpoints, just the opposite of the way our military and veterans were treated during the Vietnam era. Thankfully most people realize the mistake we made during that time and have tried to make it up to Vietnam and all veterans. Even in San Francisco, a city the many perceive to not be military-friendly, on at least half a dozen occasions where I have worn my uniform, people came up to me to thank me for my service! Not one negative encounter!

Response by SPC Neil Hood made Feb 11 at 2015 3:23 PM

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Honestly, I enjoy being a veteran. Hindsight makes you reflect upon what you were involved in even if you couldn't see it then. I take the thanks as a thanks to my Father and both of my grandfathers as well.

Response by CPO Michael Callegri made Feb 11 at 2015 3:58 PM

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It bothers me because it usually seems like a canned response. When you cant think of anything else to say, that works. I think it's fine to thank me for my service, but try to find out a bit about what I did, what I went through. I think is would work better, if everyone was working to make sure we got what is coming to us.

Response by AN Brian Ivie made Feb 15 at 2015 10:01 PM

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I always reply, thank you for the paycheck...lol

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 15 at 2015 10:04 PM

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It doesn't bother me per say and I realize it's a 'Thank You'. I just feel like I haven't done anymore than anyone else who has served.

But what's killing me is that Soldiers beret.

Response by SGT Kenneth Bechtel made Feb 17 at 2015 11:57 AM

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For me, it makes me uncomfortable. While I appreciate the sentiment, I was doing my job, and serving with some great folks. I don't see it as the OP posted, but it's often difficult to say thank you. IDK just hard for me to verbalize.

Response by COL John Power made Feb 17 at 2015 1:13 PM

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It doesn't bother me at all. I'm a bit embarrassed by it simply because I felt it was my honor to serve my country and the citizenry. We don't call it military service for no reason at all. Often I say "Thank you. It was my honor and privilege to serve." And I must say I'm pleased that folks now recognize there are a bunch of willing volunteers who step up.

Response by SPC George Long made Feb 17 at 2015 1:17 PM

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As a Viet Nam Vet I've had much worse said to me. Now about 5 years ago the people who called me names and ignored me thank me. Many times with the additional, "I would have gone but was not drafted", neither was I RA1158****. Some I tell them if they would like to see combat someone would help them out. It is easy to be thankful when you have done nothing and the danger has passed. Clearly even the VA wishes we would go away.

Today when I meet young service members I stick out my hand and say "' Thank you Sgt, Airman, Capt, , is there anything I can do for you". If I cannot determine their rank, like if they are in the Navy, I address them as soldier, sailor etc. If I see them with their family at a Restaurant I pay their bill with a note...From one vet to another...Namaste ! (I recognize the warrior in you)

But as to the question...there are some folks who are sincere and I accept that. They don't know what else to say as they don't know us. The Ricky recons...well depends on my mood but generally they piss me off.

Response by SSgt Brett Barnett made Feb 17 at 2015 2:15 PM

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I appreciate the sentiment behind it. It kind of catches me off-guard since it started happening to me a few ago. It still takes some getting used to it.

Response by MSgt Jerry Bailey made Feb 17 at 2015 6:11 PM

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Yes, it bothers me for someone to say, "Thank you for your Service". I served in Europe 1968-1972, in Thailand from 1974-1975, and retired 1987, but I remember the days of "coke bottles" being thrown at the train, buses (I was traveling on, in uniform), in Illinois, and England. I never gave a "shit" what anyone, and I mean anyone thought, I was proud then, as I am now of what I was doing. Proud, even if our government said there was no war in the Viet Nam theater, after August 13, 1973. Someone ought to tell the 500 + dead Military Names that gave their lives from that date until after the fall of Laos, Cambodia, and don't forget Saigon of Viet Nam. Those names are on the Viet Nam War Memorial !

So Americans wanted Viet Nam & everything attached to that era to be a memory. Then came 9/11, and now American civilians see death! "Send our young boys to the Middle East to Kill", they cry, "Give Glory, Honor, Praise, Benefits, Medals, oh yeah we have to give bread crumbs to Viet Nam era vets".

I never heard "Thank You For Your Service" until 2013, and, to me, it sounds as it is being said as a "Have To".

Jerry L. Bailey Jr. MSGT, USAF, RETIRED

Response by SP5 Terry Pool made Feb 18 at 2015 8:21 AM

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I will never get tired of hearing someone telling me: "Thank you for your service!"

Response by SSgt Stephen Snyder made Feb 18 at 2015 12:28 PM

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Not if it's sincere in tone & appropriate to the situation. I dont feel the need to be thanked, I did it for my reasons.

Response by TSgt Kevin Buccola made Feb 18 at 2015 1:26 PM

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Just this morning I went to McDonalds for coffee and saw a group of gentlemen some were wearing military hats and some had lapel pins etc. I went over and thanked them all for their service...Their faces lit up, we talked for a little bit and then off to work I went. I always try to tell a military member past or present --- Thank you.

Response by CPT James Burkholder made Feb 18 at 2015 3:00 PM

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Yes, sort of. It seems like it has become a variant of "Have a Nice Day". So I was in Korea and asked to transfer to RVN. I was never sent to the real combat areas there. I never felt I was worthy of any real thanks. The people saying it don't really know what they mean usually.

On the other hand I was in an airport in the 90's and was in the same place as a bunch of guys obviously returning from the middle east. I managed to talk to one and we spoke of experiences each had. The guy pulled out a button he took from an Iraqui officer and gave it to me. Somehow the link between two guys who had served separated by 35 years was very precious.

Response by 1SG Thomas Holliday made Feb 18 at 2015 8:26 PM

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I respond with Thank You for your support!

Response by PO1 David Kazimierczak made Feb 21 at 2015 10:05 PM

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I always pay my respect to a fellow Veteran or Service Member. It is important to myself, when I see a Veteran from any Branch of service, from all time frames. I want them to know that they are greatly appreciated for their dedication to their duties. We are able to enjoy our Freedoms because of their service. Thank you to all Veterans, and all future Veterans!!!

Response by SGT Jim Z. made Feb 22 at 2015 8:21 AM

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This article is about two veterans from Afghanistan who don't like and their reason. It is a very good read. Yes it is a review about a book but still shows the insight of their psyche.
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/02/22/sunday-review/please-dont-thank-me-for-my-service.html?_r=0

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Response by MSgt Stephanie McCalister made Feb 22 at 2015 9:45 AM

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I find it often puts a lump in my throat, sometimes the tears come ... especially if it's young people ... and my standard response? "It was my honor & privilege, Thank you." ... And if it's a fellow veteran (or military still serving), I add 'and Thank you for your service!' ...

We were raised in a military family ... my brother, a civilian, is very patriotic, very supportive ... one of his favorite things to do, is go to Golden Corral every so often, & paying attention to things like hats, shirts, jackets ... and if he spots someone wearing some sort of military memorabilia, he makes a point of stopping by their table, mentioning he noticed the military reference, & asking if they or a family member served ... regardless of the response, he'll either thank them for their service, or thank them for sharing their pride & support in their service member ... & goes on to tell them he never served, but our dad, & his sister (me) served. Sometimes they'll shake his hand (he always asks if that's ok too)... This is the example my brother sets for my niece, nephew, & their friends ...

Photo of my supportive brother & I. Yea, he really dresses like that, you should see inside their home, more of the same, & a flag always flying outside (he also retires flags properly as needed!)

Response by SGT Frank Leonardo made Feb 22 at 2015 12:54 PM

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So vets do some vets don't I think it is up to the individual. Personaly it doesn't bother me and and I just say thank you

Response by LTC Hillary Luton made Feb 22 at 2015 1:25 PM

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It doesn't bother me, but at the same time, it does humble me. When I was in uniform, I carried small cards with flag ribbon pins on them. I called them pin-cards.

If a civilian thanked me for my service, I would tell them that it was my honor to serve and then I would ask them if I could give them something. They always said yes, and I would hand them the card and walk away. Depending on where I was, sometimes the civilian would chase me down and give me a big hug - many times, they would do so with tears. Then they would immediately pull the pin off of the card and wear it on their clothing.

I started doing this when I went AGR and continued until I retired. It was my way of letting civilians know that their "thank you's" do not fall on deaf ears. It was also my way of encouraging them to continue doing it. Not for me, because I didn't need it, but for that private or specialist or NCO that needed a reminder once in a while that they served a purpose and they are appreciated.

Response by PO1 John Meyer, CPC made Feb 22 at 2015 1:43 PM

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Not at all. But just like anything else; it's all about perception and how the message is received.

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 22 at 2015 1:47 PM

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Does not bother me at all. Can people show appreciation and gratitude in different ways? Sure but a simple thank you is also fine. We have to remember they may only see one Soldier over a period of time even if they are the 10th person that day that told us. If you don't like it then don't complain when a celebrity does not want to sign and autograph or take a picture. They also have forgotten that they may be asked 100 times a day but many of those asking will only see them once in their life. I see a correlation there

Response by SSG(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 23 at 2015 3:44 PM

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DON'T THANK ME FOR MY SERVICE...and yet another article that states the same opinion as the OP.

I am mystified that a SM could take a 'thank you' as anything other than that.

However, this article digs into the very essence of what the OP was probably trying to iterate...I'm interested in everyones thoughts on this...and if it goes along with the thinking of those that disapprove of hearing the words, 'thank you for your service'.

Is there some PTSD history? Does this article convey your opinions succinctly?

http://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/02/22/sunday-review/please-dont-thank-me-for-my-service.html?referrer=&_r=0

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 23 at 2015 3:55 PM

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Does it bother me? Yes. Only because there are the others who made the ultimate sacrifice and deserve it more honestly.

Response by PO1 Karl Heckman made Feb 25 at 2015 2:06 PM

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It's interesting to me that it does bother me a bit. I joined up for the job and the paycheck, and while I'm happy to have served my country, I didn't suffer much and was never shot at. Somehow accepting thanks for being in submarines seems like someone thanking me for being an American. It's just something I did without ideology or patriotism. That sense has all come lately, now that I'm on the north end of middle age.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 26 at 2015 12:19 AM

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It does make me uncomfortable because I don't know how to respond. I have chosen to say, "I am honored to serve".

Response by SGT David Litton made Feb 26 at 2015 7:05 PM

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When somebody tells me, thank you for your service... I tell them, we all volunteered! Usually they will say, what do you mean? I will resond with... None of us were drafted or forced to sign up to fight four our country and freedom, we all volunteered. But, thank you anyway.

Response by 2LT Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 27 at 2015 10:50 PM

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I feel it is a pretty empty and lazy statement, personally. I understand people have been sort of "trained" to thank us. I'd rather have a conversation with someone than a quick passing TYFYS!

It's just lost its meaning (granted it can have a meaning to you) as it's just used as much as any "greeting" - Think of all the guys getting Article 15s and other UCMJ actions who have been thanked for their service by others. Really loses its touch after awhile.

There is another website I frequent where "TYFYS" is used as a very sarcastic statement and in jest. Speak to me like a normal human being - not a poster child.

Response by GySgt Wayne A. Ekblad made Feb 28 at 2015 4:31 AM

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I never heard this when I was in so, while I do appreciate hearing it now (not that I do very often since I am not one to go around talking about my Marine Corps days or wearing a lot of Marine Corps related clothing and accessories), it almost seems like some kind of an after-thought.

I truly hope that people in uniform today are appreciative of the support they receive from the public . . . it wasn't that long ago that the attitude was very different.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 28 at 2015 4:31 PM

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Context. If it doesn't fit in the conversation, or they sound very assholish about it, that pisses me off.

Response by CPO Scott Hosler made Mar 1 at 2015 12:05 PM

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Larry, I am a medically retired Chief Petty Officer. I think it's a matter of perspective, I guess, because I've never heard anyone complain about being "thanked"; for anything. To me, it's simply a sign of respect and recognition of someone's appreciation for what we've done; what we accomplished.

I also beleive it took a whole generation to convince and motivate civilians to say it and not be embarrassed.

I'm an advocate of thanking people for their service, active or veteran.

Response by MAJ Keira Brennan made Mar 4 at 2015 2:56 PM

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I say "Thank you for thanking me for my service..."

Response by SSG(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 4 at 2015 3:00 PM

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It doesn't bother me. It's great that Americans actually appreciate what we do. I try to thank all the Vietnam Vets out there too, since they never got the welcome home ceremonies and thank yous that they deserved and still do deserve.

Response by Lt Col Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 4 at 2015 4:34 PM

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Certainly doesn't bother me, but not necessary...I considered it a privilege to serve. Now, if some one said "thank you for your service" to my father (35 B-24 missions; now 94 years old) or father-in-law (25 A-26 missions; now 90 years old) they'd respond "what the hell for?"

Response by CSM William Payne made Mar 11 at 2015 2:38 PM

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By CSM William Payne less than a minute ago:

I feel this is a generational issue.

For our Brothers and Sisters in Arms are having such a big problem with this, I joined the Army in 1973 and my brother served in the Marines in the 60s and did two tours in 'Nam. So I have seen both sides of the spectrum on this and let me tell you I really prefer today's reaction. Would you rather people line up to protest you, call you names like baby killers and / or do worse like spit on you like they did to returning service members from Vietnam?

When we were able to travel in ACUs, the "thank you" on the airplane usually led to dialog as to what you do in the service and allowed one to help bridge that gap of knowledge between the military and civilians. No Soldier I know will travel in ASUs, because if they are not needed for your trip it's just extra clothes to carry and if they are needed at your destination you don't want to get your uniform messed up, especially your shoes during the course of travel. So what this does is just further seperate the military experience from the flying public.

The Profession of Arms is a noble and respected occupation and being able to articulate the pride in what you do helps to keep it in that regard. I especially enjoyed it when some boy or girl walked up to me and offered their little hand while thanking me for my service.

By the way, anytime I see somebody with a service hat on, Retired, World War II, Korean, Vietnam, Desert Storm or whatever, I will make an effort to go over and thank them for their service to their country. I have had many of great conversations with a Veteran in a McDonalds that I could tell by their conversation and the look on their face how glad they are that somebody appreciates the sacrifices they made for their county.

I know for those of you that have grown up in the smart phone / texting generation may not feel comfortable about having a face to face conversation with somebody you don't know and that is one of the reasons you don't want them approaching you in the first place.

The fact that so many young people today grow up playing video games, e-mailing, texting and not having to develop interpersonal skills is one of the factors of why we have so many Soldiers feeling isolated and attempting or succeeding in commiting suicide. That we have so many Soldiers that feel alone and isolated on a military installation with thousands of like minded peers speaks volumes.

So I personally have no issue with this. My reply has been for the longest time; "Thank you, it has been an honor and a priviledge to serve my country".
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Response by PO2 Tyler Arnold made Mar 11 at 2015 5:30 PM

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Yes, it does bother me. Being "young" to the military, I really haven't done anything that I feel the need to be thanked for. It bothers me, but I always politely respond with a "thank you".

Response by SPC Anthony Davis made Mar 11 at 2015 8:10 PM

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I think it is a wonderful thing. When are brothers and sisters came back the or spit on and called names. Now they are even getting the depreciation they deserve. All of our troups should be thanked.

Response by SrA Robert Kaznica made Mar 11 at 2015 10:11 PM

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I apreciate those who wish to thank me but i served in peacetime and saw no action..when i think that others who fought in the Middle East. Vietnam..Europe etc i realize the price of their service does not compare to mine

Response by CPT Chris Loomis made Mar 18 at 2015 11:43 AM

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No, it does not. My reply is always, "and, thank you for your support."

Response by SP5 Richard Maze made Mar 18 at 2015 11:49 AM

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It depends on how it is said. Are they trying to be sincere? I'm OK with it. When it is just spouted like some jargon, with all of the feeling of saying "bless you" after you sneeze, it burns a little. It only last a second, and life goes on.

Response by CPL James Zielinski made Mar 18 at 2015 2:29 PM

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I think it bothers some people with combat time to hear it from people who have not served because they don't really understand what they are thanking them for, and that it isn't really appropriate to thank them in some ways because it sort of belittles what they've been through. Thanking someone for an experience where they've lost brothers right next to them feels like "thanx for the coffee". I understand this too and it's not anger at the person saying it, but it's dismay that they don't really understand what it is that they're saying. On the other hand, I'm glad to hear it because it's so overdue for our Vietnam vets who came back to being spit on by the people of the country that asked them to go. It's a very different thing to soldiers of different generations. For Vietnam vets it's an apology for not recognizing their contributions earlier, for WWI or WWII or even Korean vets it's just an nice recognition, but for our newer vets, many of whom are still being told that their efforts are a waste and that their losses and sacrifices are a waste, and that their lost brothers in arms were a waste it's an insult and an arrogant tip of the hat from someone who presumes to support them but doesn't really understand. The current political climate in our country produces a faction of people who are willing to publicly recognize our soldiers, but not value what they've suffered, endured, and fought for because they don't recognize the value of what our current soldiers fought for and believed in. Many people don't recognize that the modern American soldier is a giver and a builder and fights for love more than hate. The modern American soldier is a man who risks his life and spills his blood to make a better world for other people, not for government and corporate entities. The actual people of the middle east and the brothers next to him are the people he fights for, not the government and the people who make money off wars. When the value of his efforts are robbed from him with one hand, and the other hand says "Thank You" it's hypocritical, and he knows it. "Thank You for Service" means something when it comes from someone else who's been in the trenches, but it's presumptuous and arrogant from someone who has not served.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 18 at 2015 2:32 PM

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Never except for the fact that I have social anxiety. Thank God I have a face for radio only. I was pulled over not long ago for wearing a Halloween outfit and the officer apologized when he knew it was no costume.

Response by MSG Brad Sand made Mar 18 at 2015 4:14 PM

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It does not bother me but, I know this will shock people, I have been known to make a smart comment like "Thank you for paying your taxes because I would not have done it for free."

Response by PO1 Henry Sherrill made Mar 19 at 2015 3:51 PM

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Yes it does, at times. Especially when it is coming from someone that refused to allow their children to join the military and they themselves didn't serve, but are willing to let other people serve in their place. To me it is patronizing and hypocritical.

Response by PO2 Robert Lee made Mar 19 at 2015 3:55 PM

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It doesn't really bother me, except for the fact that i was in a support position, and I only saw about a week of in theater.

To see Combat Veterans upset about it, I don't understand so much except for the fact that I have always wished I wasn't so technical and joined the ARMY so that I could have seen combat.

Response by 1SG Jason Smith made Mar 19 at 2015 4:18 PM

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I have heard the Thank yous and at first they made me very uncomfortable. The more I thought about it the more I began to realize that is was an honor to serve my country and my fellow Americans. SO normally when some one says thank you for your service I answer back with "it was my honor."

Response by CPL Jesse Vasconcelos made Mar 19 at 2015 4:24 PM

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I say to all young, old, in uniform,and with a Veteran hat on. I am also a Iraq combat Veteran and I love to say it and appreciate every time I hea it.

Response by SPC Bernie Davies made Mar 22 at 2015 5:36 PM

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I am 63 and served in 70-71. No one said thank you for 25 years and I still remember who said it, when and where. I don't consider myself retired and put out to pasture in the least. If needed I would pick up a weapon and back the current generation. During the first Gulf War my PTSD kicked in and I wanted to go very badly so I could keep one young person from having to go and experience the reality of war.

I say thank you to anyone I can now, If the situation is appropriate. They need to hear acknowledgement that they did answer the call. No, no of us are special but we have gone the extra mile and stood at the edge of the cliff.

My thank you is not meaningless in the least and I respect you and everyone who served. No, they aren't "hero's" but they are above the rest.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 22 at 2015 5:42 PM

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the men and women to put their ass on the line for our country is most certainly got my respect past present and future thank you for your service

Response by CPO Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 23 at 2015 9:37 AM

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As a soon to retire service member I thank Veterans and current service members to include police and firefighters for there service. I do not think thanking some one for there service means that you think they're done. If I an thanked I always thank them for there support. Without support what are we doing. I also say to those that do not agree with policy that they should support the people even if they do not agree with the Leadership. Also your service is not done at the end of your service you still have work to do, in you community and with your new career choice. Be an example to those around you actions speek louder than words.

Response by MSgt Allan Vrboncic made Mar 23 at 2015 10:44 AM

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It should never bug a veteran.

Response by SPC Tim Brown made Mar 23 at 2015 10:46 AM

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The only time I feel weird about someone thanking me is when an older vet says Thank you. In my eyes they don't need to thank me for anything. It is my responsibility to them to show my gratitude for the freedom they gave me prior to my service. The thing that really gets me is when they say "you boys had it so hard over there". Yes and no. I had a pretty rough tour in Afghanistan but what I always fall back on is the fact I had an IOTV, a Kevlar helmet, and balistic plates. My big red one for father's fought without those luxuries.

Response by PO3 Tanis Huston made Apr 3 at 2015 8:59 AM

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Personally I enjoy hearing the recognition expecially coming from another Vet that is older. Being a female specially a female in the engineering field made for some tough stereo types to over come, I would like to believe that everyone has come a long way from that way if thinking, but to be honest it didn't and doesn't surprise me because it only takes one grape to spoil a batch. It took a lot of hard work and dedication to prove to my fellow male shipmates that I was actually there to work.

To hear someone recognize me with "thanks for you service" brings me back to a really proud time in life. The memories of my shipmates and the fun we had, the trials we over came and the bonds that we built. And to hear those words from a fellow vet makes you feel like your still part of something great, something with honor and integrity and tradition!

Response by SPC Ken Hall made Apr 3 at 2015 9:47 AM

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I say it, both as a DAV and brother because I know many, especially our Korean and Vietnam Veterans either heard nothing or what they heard was unthinkable. For me it is a sign of respect, just as we saluted officers or used terms that have been taken for respect (Top, Gunny, SarMaj, etc). I also know that the era I served in (the 80's) if you were Guard/Reserve you were considered by many (active duty) to be 2nd class soldiers. (This despite the fact that we have served in every major conflict/war since before the US was a nation, and served more combat tours than many Regular Active Duty.) Also I remember the year that I spent AGR and had just got married as well. I realize that the spouses also served, so I thank the families as well. They have to be prepared to have their Military loved one gone and have the prospect of raise their children alone. They serve(d) as well. So, many of us see that as a way of saying thank you.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 3 at 2015 9:59 AM

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No, not me. Someone had to do it while everyone else with an opinion relaxes. Simple fix respond with "thank you for your support" or embrace it and say someone had to do it just for the ones with the opinion but will never serve or can't.

Response by SSG Gerhard S. made Apr 18 at 2015 9:46 AM

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I am not at all bothered hearing this. Additionally, I feel honored to both hear it, and to impart that same sentiment on those Veterans, particularly from previous wars, where the hardships endured was in many cases exponentially greater than that experienced by many of our latest generation of Veterans. (I mean no detraction to recent Veterans by this statement, only a recognition of the deplorable conditions previous Veterans had to endure both on the battlefield, AND upon their tumultuous return home.)

Response by SFC(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 18 at 2015 11:52 AM

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To civilians that is their way of expressing the appreciation of the sacrifices that you made. They do not know what else to say. I would rather they say that than ignore it.

Response by SGT Edward Crowley made Apr 21 at 2015 8:31 AM

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I tell people thx and say it was an honor to serve and I did it for them and country

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made May 20 at 2015 7:42 PM

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I'm actually mad when they say welcome home. Like educate yourself.

Response by SGT Joseph Carollo made May 23 at 2015 4:52 PM

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Had the pleasure of handing out poppies for the American Legion recently. Many of those who donated thanked me for my service. I didn't think any of it was contrived. Some had served themselves.

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made May 23 at 2015 6:03 PM

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A lot of excellent responses. I usually respond with thank you. It does not bother me, because these folks mean well, and often times, it is fellow veterans.

Response by SGT Justin Lamb made May 23 at 2015 10:12 PM

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SPC,

It fills me with pride to hear it. But the whole hero thing I politely decline. I simply shake their hands and say thank you for your support. Hearing your words makes my job that much more worth it.

Response by PO3 Private RallyPoint Member made May 25 at 2015 1:27 PM

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Yes it does... I don't know why but my heart wrenches a little every time I hear those words. It's probably because all of the friends, neighbors, and relative that have been maimed or have died in combat. What the hell have I done that deserve thanks?

Response by GySgt Joe Strong made May 25 at 2015 1:28 PM

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The only problem I have with it is the (apparently) growing number of people who are tainting sincerely offered thanks by not just asking if a discount is available, but acting as if one is owed.
Other than that, I have no problem accepting thanks for my POG-ish support that enabled a Warfighter to either discourage or dispatch a threat to our Country.
I like to think that having done my job well enabled others to do theirs also.

Response by PO1 Luther Sawicki made May 25 at 2015 1:37 PM

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It is always a pleasure to be thanked, however it's a better feeling to reply it was my honor to have been a part of continuing their Freedoms

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made May 25 at 2015 9:22 PM

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Yes, I am not a hero, my career became a duty to a higher calling.

Response by COL John Power made Jun 11 at 2015 2:03 PM

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It doesn't bother me at all. At last some folks are recognizing that serving isn't easy and that those that do sacrifice a lot to do so. For us Vietnam vets it is long overdue, but I wouldn't dwell on that. What we and so many others did is create a framework and legacy and tradition for each of our branches. We are still part of them; they are still part of us. Always will be. I was honored to serve my fellow Americans; it was a great career (although not always fun) but I tell them I was honored. We serve others and are proud to do so.

Response by SSG Hank Ortega made Jun 12 at 2015 2:57 PM

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When it means something to the person saying it I don't mind. When it is obviously scripted (like when talking to the phone bank at Veteran's Choice for instance, I resent it.

Response by LTC Kevin B. made Jun 12 at 2015 7:53 PM

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It doesn't bother me. It's a little uncomfortable to hear now that I'm retired, but it doesn't bother me. I normally just say "Thank you; it was an honor to serve." Regardless, I feel others are much more deserving (current AD, those who deployed, disabled vets, etc.), and I know many veterans never heard any words of thanks in some bygone eras.

Response by SP5 John Brandt made Jun 18 at 2015 11:52 PM

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I used to really resent it because of the treatment I got when I returned home from Vietnam. But, I have been going to group therapy at the small VA clinic where I live. I live in rural
Arizona and it is sparsely populated, my group has seven members, a close knit group. They have helped me me put it aside. The people who tell me that are really sincere, and should be respected for offering their thanks. So, in other words, get over it.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 29 at 2015 11:40 AM

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I grew to know how to respond. It took some time though.

Response by SFC Philip Kaough made Jul 2 at 2015 7:21 PM

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My answer is always the same. "It was my pleasure."

Response by SGT Brad Salomon made Sep 7 at 2015 7:28 PM

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I always say "You're welcome." They usually reply back "What?"...ha,ha
Seriously though, I'm gratified by people taking the time to thank me. My father, who served as a pilot in Nam and my uncle who died as a grunt there, would have been thrilled to be recognized for their service. They endured some pretty harsh treatment by the country they fought for. My father was spat on, my uncle returned in a wooden box like a parcel marked "return to sender."
I am grateful to civilians for thanking me and always take the time to talk. I know first-hand what a privilege being thanked for your service is, a luxury that some that went before me never had.

Response by 1SG Thomas Holliday made Sep 8 at 2015 10:22 PM

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I always respond with Thank You for you support!

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 8 at 2015 10:31 PM

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Absolutely not! I have given my blood, sweat and tears in servitude to our great country and appreciate it when someone acknowledges it. Hooah!

Response by MCPO Hans Brakob made Sep 10 at 2015 2:14 PM

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It gives a little inner boost and makes the rest of my day, especially if the person saying thanks is a young person or a teen, or if they also seem to be a vet.

Response by MCPO Roger Collins made Sep 10 at 2015 2:25 PM

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When the statement is serious, rather than perfunctory, absolutely not.
But, most of the time is isn't.

Response by PO3 Bob Walsh made Sep 10 at 2015 5:23 PM

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I called Senator Blumenthal's Office today to register my opposition to the Iran Nuclear agreement. The Staffer told me he was voting for the agreement, I asked did he realize this will provide money to Terrorist groups who are killing US troops, this vote in my opinion is Treason. I am a 100% disabled Veteran, and I could not be more strongly against this vote. The aid replied, Thank you for your service. I could only say what good was it! You guys are throwing it down the drain. I would like a letter from the Senator explaining how he Justifies this vote.

Response by SFC Stephen King made Sep 17 at 2015 6:56 PM

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Never

I appreciate all people who take the time to thank a person serving. It's how you respond to them and be appreciative that matters.

Response by SGT Patrick Reno made Sep 17 at 2015 7:10 PM

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It seems most people say it now with out even thinking about it. Every now and then some one will say it and you can tell they really mean it. Then you feel your service was really worth it.

Response by MSgt John Taylor made Sep 17 at 2015 8:27 PM

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I reply "it was my honor to serve, thank you"

Response by SFC Nikhil Kumra made Sep 18 at 2015 7:48 AM

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It's still awkward... It always will be, simply because I know I didn't do anything for them, nor did I sacrifice anything for them. Like, really, nothing FOR THEM. They just don't realize it.

But... I do say "your welcome" awkwardly and move on... no idea how to respond to it.

Response by Sgt Tom Cunnally made Sep 18 at 2015 8:41 AM

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No & I remember when I never heard those words living in the SF Bay Area just the opposite from ACTUP, CODEPINK, GLAD ...

Response by SFC Eric Williams made Mar 14 at 2016 10:07 PM

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My Response now will be;
"It is and will always be an honor to serve"

Response by SFC William Farrell made Mar 14 at 2016 11:58 PM

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Its probably the first time since WWII that American service members were thanked for what they have done an continue to do. I have always appreciated what others have done and for what us of the Vietnam generation did not receive, a proper thank you. After I returned from Vietnam, there were no welcome home parades, not airport greeters unless they were protesting. In fact I had to hitch hike home from the airport!

For some of our generation the thank you for your service has come not soon enough, for others far too late and and for 58,000, it never came. So form me to all RallyPoint service members and veterans, Thank you for your service; it is appreciated.

Response by PVT Raymond Lopez made Mar 15 at 2016 4:54 AM

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Yes!! I am a Vietnam veteran and the last time I came back from there the left wing Liberal TRAITORS called me a BABY KILLER! I do hold grudes!!

Response by 1SG Robert Rush made Mar 17 at 2016 3:42 PM

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No it does not bother me. It makes me proud that most American's are behind our former and active service members. I am proud to have served in the US Army, active and reserves.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 24 at 2016 4:09 PM

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I always respond with. It was my honor. I couldn't do it without you.

Response by Cpl Jay Samdahl made Mar 25 at 2016 11:20 AM

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The first one hundred times I heard it, yes, it did bother me because I did not have a response that I was comfortable with. But I have had a few years to think about it. I now use it as an opportunity to start conversations about how badly the VETS were treated in the 70s and 80s compared to now. It is 180 degrees. I am almost 60 now and it is true "once a marine, always a marine." I am so proud of my brothers and the sacrifices they have made and are still making today .... so proud .... proud to tears. (yes marines cry) So, to the people that I did not respond well to I say " Thank You but I made it home, Let us both thank those that didnt."

Response by LCpl James Robertson made Mar 25 at 2016 8:13 PM

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Thank you for your service were never mention during my time in service, I feel out of place because that word never came up until the most recent wars. I feel that the person have mixed me up with the Iraq and Afghanistan veterans. I know the citizens are trying to be polite, but I really don't know what to say, if you are a veteran of prior wars no one ever thanked you for anything. You just went on without being acknowledged.

Response by SSG Arthur Williams made Apr 1 at 2016 1:26 PM

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No it do not, I like it

Response by 1SG Robert Rush made Apr 4 at 2016 3:16 PM

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No, and it shouldn't. You are doing or have done what a very few of the American population has done. Be proud of your service. I am!

Response by CPT Jim Davis made Apr 14 at 2016 11:13 PM

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I appreciate it from individuals, like my Neurologist today, who put some feeling into it. When it's from a clerk or phone answerer as part of a script, it bugs the crap out of me.

Response by SSG Jeremy Kohlwes made Apr 14 at 2016 11:41 PM

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I'm fine with the thank you's. Just say "thank you for your support" and carry on with your day. It's the hero talk that bothers me.

Response by SGT Paul Mackay made Apr 16 at 2016 7:53 PM

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no I'm a vietnam vet so it's a welcome to me finally

Response by MSgt Wes Tracy made Jul 7 at 2016 2:21 PM

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It doesn't bother me, but I feel a little unqualified because, although I served 20 years, they were relatively safe years and so many others have braved, endured, and lost more than I can imagine. Still its just another person's way of saying "I appreciate you". What can be wrong with that? I like SPC Diego CDeBaca's suggested response and will try to remember it so I can use it.

Response by SSG Arthur Williams made Jul 14 at 2016 1:07 PM

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No it does not

Response by MSgt Raymond Hickey made Jul 14 at 2016 1:54 PM

2016-07-14T13:54:08-04:00

Does it bother me?...fair question, but the answer is not a simple one. If I'm confronted with a person of today's generation and they say "thank you" , I am hone red and very moved. If confronted by someone of my generation, I am wary and very skeptical. Those from my generation, Vietnam war generation(s) are the same ones who decried our involvement and who, not only were against the war, but ridiculed and defamed we who were in the military and fought in Vietnam...for those people, I am not forgiving and never can be.

Response by CPL Roland Newton made Jul 14 at 2016 5:23 PM

2016-07-14T17:23:39-04:00

It bothers me more when people ask if I served in combat and I say "No" their interest fades very quickly, and the 11 or so years I did serve doesn't stand for much.

Response by SPC Joel Quey made Jul 15 at 2016 1:41 AM

2016-07-15T01:41:13-04:00

I'm a 31 year old veteran, who still hears it fairly often. It doesn't mean I'm old or feeble, it means "Thank you for your service".

Response by SN Kurt Barker made Jul 29 at 2016 6:51 AM

2016-07-29T06:51:57-04:00

I don't usually wear anything that shows I'm a vet, but when I do it's nice to be appreciated. On the other hand, when I see someone in a hat, shirt, etc...or uniform, I make sure to go out of my way to thank them. I let them know I served as well, but only to let them know that I understand something of what they have sacrificed. I've seen a lot of grateful looks in their eyes. I truly think it's important to give that respect to those who have served.

Response by SGT John Galbraith made Aug 4 at 2016 2:30 PM

2016-08-04T14:30:22-04:00

It doesn't really bother me. Say you're welcome and move on. Where it starts getting annoying is the "I would have joined but the _____ wouldn't take be because I have __________." Though entertaining sometimes, it gets annoying.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 16 at 2016 5:10 PM

2016-10-16T17:10:41-04:00

I say thank you or your welcome.Not annoyed. It shows people in California or even Canada still care!

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 16 at 2016 5:12 PM

2016-10-16T17:12:10-04:00

I don't wear my uniform except on my drill weekends. I'm not active duty but I have over 3 years of deployments.

Response by SGT Philip Roncari made Oct 16 at 2016 5:18 PM

2016-10-16T17:18:18-04:00

I make it my business to thank current Service members for their service,some take it well,others kind of ignore it maybe it embarrasses them,but I remember coming home to a different kind of greeting,thankfully this doesn't happen now and that's a good thing.

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 16 at 2016 5:19 PM

2016-10-16T17:19:30-04:00

I wear my Marine Corps cap sometimes, so some folks do thank me for my service. It is a great thing that people care enough to say thank you.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 16 at 2016 5:50 PM

2016-10-16T17:50:51-04:00

LTC Private RallyPoint Member Too many have been treated poorly, so just be gracious and think you are serving for Vietnam Vets or our WWII vets who sacrificed for us. James Adair

Response by SFC George Smith made Oct 16 at 2016 9:21 PM

2016-10-16T21:21:00-04:00

... Yes and thank you for your support...

Response by SPC Brian Mason made Oct 17 at 2016 8:14 PM

2016-10-17T20:14:11-04:00

No. I usually ask if they did. If they did I return that remark. If they didn't, I say "Thank you for your support." People don't know it, but being 'here' and supporting us, they are doing their own part. Many people don't know how to help or show support for the military. There's a lot of ways. Accepting thanks, isn't being prideful; unless you act that way. It's good to hear people who support you. As a soldier, airman, sailor, marine.......we serve the American people. Not a portion, but all of them. People we'll never met, people we love, and people who hate us.

Response by LCpl Hilton Hoskins made Oct 18 at 2016 5:32 PM

2016-10-18T17:32:46-04:00

It depends on who's doing the thanking and if they actually mean it. I've had a lot of people thank me for my service but it always makes me wonder if they truly mean it. If there's something that I'm sure that we could all agree on is that we don't like when somebody's blowing smoke up our asses. Sometimes when people say "thank you for your service" I feel like they don't really mean it. Their words say one thing and their actions say another. In saying that it reminds me of something that happened years ago. I had this friend, who we all called 'Gypsy'. He was a Decorated Homeless Vietnam Veteran exposed to agent orange and diagnosed with cancer and PTSD. He was a street artist that used to hang outside of one of the bars where I used to go. He was always working on something outside and had a hump in his back from his body deteriorating from cancer. Everybody at the bar knew him and always looked out for him including me.

Well, I had come to the bar one evening in a suit just leaving a job interview. Gypsy was outside painting as usual. He looked up saw me, we said hello and did our usual "bro hug" as we liked to call it. He told me what he was working on and I told him that as usual that when he's ready for a drink let me know. I said hello to the bouncer and went to walk in the door at the same time this group of two couples. One of the guys said, "That's a nice suit, I wouldn't be hugging anybody from the street in that suit. They'd dirty it up."

Needless to say that pissed me off and I let him know it in swear words that I'm pretty sure he's never heard before. I straight up told him that Gypsy was a Veteran and that I'm a Veteran too. I won't go too much into what I exactly said but long story short, I ripped him a new asshole. And after all that he had the nerve to try to patronize me by "thanking me for my service" and even offering to buy me a beer which I refused (I actually wanted to kick his ass). I made sure for the rest of the time that I was there, I stayed far away from the guy and when Gypsy walked in, we downed about 9 or 10 pitchers of beer and laughed like old friends. We were Veterans from different eras but brothers all the same.

I guess the point that I'm trying to make is that a lot of times it's questionable when people thank you for your service when they treat people who could be Veterans like shit. If they are willing to treat somebody who could be a Veteran like that, then what makes us think that they actually mean what they say?

Response by SP5 Steve Sullemger made Oct 30 at 2016 2:46 PM

2016-10-30T14:46:54-04:00

After the way We were treated when we came ,cursed, spit on, and reviled. I just want to ask where were you 30 years ago. All of a sudden we are different than we were before?

Response by SSG Arthur Williams made Nov 3 at 2016 2:51 PM

2016-11-03T14:51:35-04:00

Never get tired of hearing it

Response by Sgt William Straub Jr. made Nov 3 at 2016 3:01 PM

2016-11-03T15:01:33-04:00

I, actually, appreciate the thought. It was much different 40+ years ago when I came home. My answer to those kind folks is always the same. "It was my honor and privilege, and I would do it again." My wife and I were in a Shoney's in Cartersville, GA having a Sunday buffet breakfast. When the server took our order, I ask for the check since many times they leave the check when you have the buffet. She said "no check, a gentleman took care of it in appreciation of your service. I was wearing my USAF Veteran hat. I looked around and saw another Air Force Vet wearing a hat with USAF on it. He was by himself. I got his bill from the server and paid it forward for him. Sometimes people surprise you. We wanted to have him join us but he was leaving after he paid his check. He came over and we spoke for a couple of minutes. He was a Korean War Vet. We talked like brothers. God Bless him. I have noticed that since the first Gulf War, people seem to have more respect for us. So when someone says "Thank you for your service", I take is as the appreciative comment it is.

Response by SFC Anthony Iocca made Nov 4 at 2016 11:21 AM

2016-11-04T11:21:30-04:00

"Thank you for your service" is a standard greeting or response when your veteran status is revealed. I thought about it and came up with a fitting standard reply; "You're welcome, it was an honor to serve but certainly not a privilege or pleasure." If you are a sniveling Officer; your reply could be; "It was an honor and privilege"

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Nov 4 at 2016 12:22 PM

2016-11-04T12:22:36-04:00

It doesn't bother me as it gives me an opportunity to thank that individual for their support and let them understand that they are valued and appreciated as well

Response by LCpl James Robertson made Nov 18 at 2016 8:24 PM

2016-11-18T20:24:55-05:00

Being a Vietnam ERA veterans it sounds strange and belated, but I know people are trying to thank us for our service. But I feel like it don't relate to veterans of past wars. We are not in the mix. Take the USMC, I were a veteran who served in Vietnam, never got a Vietnam Service Ribbon, today it is said that Marines that went on operations during Operation: End Sweep is not desiring of even the Armed Forces Expeditionary Medal (AFEM), the Vietnam Service Medal is no longer issued. When you are cheated out of valor and served your country to the best of your ability, and the USMC say you haven't done anything, how are we suppose to feel when the Marine Corps have listed us as nothing.

Response by PO2 Jeff Hufford made Nov 21 at 2016 6:41 PM

2016-11-21T18:41:49-05:00

Would not bother me at all.

Response by COL David S. made Dec 8 at 2016 6:34 PM

2016-12-08T18:34:11-05:00

Not at all. I remember when soldiers were spat upon and worse. The first time that I was in a diner and a lady marched up to our table and thanked us all for serving our country, I nearly fell off my chair! I served many long hours and my family sacrificed as I did. I will never get tired hearing it.

Response by SrA Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 12 at 2016 1:54 PM

2016-12-12T13:54:58-05:00

I guess it is not so bad to hear a “thank you for your service”…even if said automatically and somewhat lacking sincerity. However, wait a while, history has a tendency to repeat, it’s quite possible another unpopular war/event breaks out and just like those who sadly never got thanked or appreciated in the past upon returning home we could find ourselves once again getting the looks, and not-so-nice comments instead of a “thank you for your service”.

“Neither let us be slandered from our duty by false accusations against us, nor frightened from it by menaces of destruction to the government nor of dungeons to ourselves. Let us have faith that right makes might, and in that faith let us to the end dare to do our duty as we understand it.” —President Abraham Lincoln

Response by SSgt Robert Gainor made Feb 4 at 2017 8:15 PM

2017-02-04T20:15:45-05:00

It isn't so much people saying "Thank you for your service" it's that it has become automatic and feels insincere. It's like after 9/11 and everyone was driving around with those stupid window flags letting them get shredded and torn in the wind. It's like "Hey look at me, I'm really patriotic!" I really don't like it.

Response by Cpl Anthony Pearson made Feb 9 at 2017 11:47 AM

2017-02-09T11:47:20-05:00

Another thought...

There are only so many ways and things to say to let a veteran or military serviceperson know that you are thankful. While you may hear it often, you are hearing from people who have probably never said it to you before. Ever. They mean well. They don't know.

If nobody said anything and just took us all for granted, we would be complaining about their lack of appreciation and indifference to our service.

Response by LCDR Gordon Brown made Feb 16 at 2017 12:52 PM

2017-02-16T12:52:47-05:00

No it doesn't bother me to hear "Thank you for your service!" what bothers me is that is as far as it goes, those words rarely turn into positive actions. I'm dealing with Veteran suicides and with 22-30 Veterans dying by suicide daily, I would like to hear "How can I help stop this epidemic?" https://tvfaz.org/suicide-counter/

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Response by SSG Arthur Williams made Feb 16 at 2017 7:36 PM

2017-02-16T19:36:29-05:00

No it does not bother me, Love it

Response by MSgt James Bowers made Mar 2 at 2017 3:27 PM

2017-03-02T15:27:40-05:00

For years I was uncomfortable with the comment and not sure how to respond. I realized it was my honor to serve. My response now is, "it was an honor to serve you and our great country". " thank you for your support

Response by CDR Vic Monzon made Mar 4 at 2017 5:40 PM

2017-03-04T17:40:52-05:00

I take it at face value... an expression of appreciation and respect. I make the same statement to other active and separated members. I received insults while in uniform during the early '70's. And I am so inspired by Nephews who are currently serving (twins, one in SEAL Team 1 and the other a Marine Aviator in training; a third Nephew in Army recruit training).

Response by SFC Lewis Jones made Mar 21 at 2017 12:16 AM

2017-03-21T00:16:50-04:00

No it doesn't I think it is a form of respect to a service man /woman

Response by SGT David A. 'Cowboy' Groth made Jun 21 at 2017 5:09 PM

2017-06-21T17:09:56-04:00

I generally blush, and thank them for their support.

Response by SSG Edward Tilton made Jun 21 at 2017 5:48 PM

2017-06-21T17:48:14-04:00

I didn't do it for them

If we hadn't gone to Vietnam, southern California would be overrun by Vietnamese

Response by SP5 Dave (Shotgun) Shockley made Jun 21 at 2017 6:00 PM

2017-06-21T18:00:33-04:00

It use to embarrass me a little, but I always smiled and said thank you it was an honor to serve.

Response by Cpl Zach Wellborn made Jun 21 at 2017 6:05 PM

2017-06-21T18:05:05-04:00

I find it awkward personally. Mainly because I work with a lot of disabled and wounded combat veterans. Don't thank me for my service, go to a VA Hospital and thank the men that lost their legs or their eye sight. Thank the mothers of the deceased that gave their life for this country. I spent 8 months in Iraq and I was a welder. Wtf did I do, 4 years and out.

Response by Maj John Bell made Jun 21 at 2017 10:47 PM

2017-06-21T22:47:20-04:00

I always respond the same way. "Hey the best occupation in the world and you guys paid me!!! Thank you for the opportunity."

Response by LtCol George Carlson made Jun 21 at 2017 11:09 PM

2017-06-21T23:09:21-04:00

I am somewhat ambivalent. On the one hand it is good to be recognized (and like others have said, I take it as a thank you to all of US). In the middle, it seems to have become a bit "automatic" and trite. When some 18-year old clerks says it ... well it just doesn't mean as much as when some older cashier looks me in the eye and says it. On the down side, there is still a part of me that wonders where these folks were in 1970 when I came back from Vietnam, was told to travel in civilian clothes (like the haircut wasn't a dead giveaway), and ultimately called "baby killer" in what was supposedly a professional setting. Simply put, for me (and I think a lot of RVN vets) it's a "mixed bag."

Response by Sgt Bob Leonard made Jun 22 at 2017 8:28 PM

2017-06-22T20:28:26-04:00

The following says it as well or better than I could myself...

"Tim O’Brien, a Vietnam vet and the author of the acclaimed book “The Things They Carried,” told me that his war’s vets who believed in the mission like to be thanked. Others, himself included, find that “something in the stomach tumbles” from expressions of appreciation that are so disconnected from the “evil, nasty stuff you do in war.”

The more so, he said, “when your war turns out to have feet of clay” — whether fighting peasants in Vietnam or in the name of eradicating weapons of mass destruction that never materialized.

But doesn’t their sacrifice merit thanks? “Patriotic gloss,” responded Mr. O’Brien, an unofficial poet laureate of war who essentially elevates the issue to the philosophical; to him, we’re thanking without having the courage to ask whether the mission is even right."

NYT SundayReview | NEWS ANALYSIS
"Please Don’t Thank Me for My Service"
https://www.nytimes.com/2015/02/22/sunday-review/please-dont-thank-me-for-my-service.html

Please Don’t Thank Me for My Service

Some veterans wince at reflexive gratitude.

Response by SMSgt Lawrence McCarter made Jun 23 at 2017 1:02 AM

2017-06-23T01:02:38-04:00

Why would it bother Me ? That is not the reception We got when We returned from Viet Nam, this is 100% better ! Quite an improvement from 50 years ago on return to the US in Military Police duties having to deal with Anti-war demonstrators. I usually will respond by saying thank You for thanking Me. In My opinion if someone is going to express that appreciation don't respond in a negative way, that is so wrong !

Response by PVT Mark Brown made Jun 23 at 2017 2:21 PM

2017-06-23T14:21:06-04:00

When this fad first started it seemed genuine to me, now it is a boor. I think it is a little too little and a lot too late. Any more when I get that greeting from and adult my usual response is, "thank you, did you serve too?" They usually get it, 'nuff said. Where were all these people when I got home after 27 straight months picking rice out of my teeth? Sure could have used a little support then. I got home 1 Dec 1970 and landed at San Francisco International. You could just imagine the greetings that were handed out!

Response by COL Charles Williams made Jun 24 at 2017 11:06 AM

2017-06-24T11:06:03-04:00

Yes, at times. SPC Larry Buck, as that is not why I served.

Response by SFC William Stephens A. Jr., 3 MSM, JSCM made Oct 10 at 2018 12:27 PM

2018-10-10T12:27:42-04:00

yes, Do they really mean are they just trying to look good in front of people.

Response by PO1 Mike Wallace made Apr 26 at 2019 12:45 PM

2019-04-26T12:45:09-04:00

I know I am wrong in many cases but it has become a knee jerk reaction which makes it insincere. Some businesses make their employees say it when they become aware of it. My wife is also a veteran and when I tell them that they sometimes are dumbfounded and say nothing.
I think in a lot of cases it is pentance they think they owe for not serving. Yea, I know that might be wrong but I did 5 trips to Nam and when I get a welcome home itmeans a lot more because it pretty much always means the person was either there or is a close family member of someone who was.

Response by PO2 Kevin Lomas made Dec 17 at 2019 9:05 PM

2019-12-17T21:05:47-05:00

I respond with. Your welcome and thankyou