Has anyone ever tried to make a parent-in-law your dependent? What were some obstacles during the process? How long did the process take?

CPT Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 18 Oct 2019 22:37:39 -0400

I got information on “how” to do it (DD Form 137-3 and 1172), but what were some obstacles you had to overcome during the process? And how long did the whole process take? Any information would be greatly appreciated.

Response by LTC Jason Mackay made Oct 19 at 2019 2:02 AM

LTC Jason Mackay — Sat, 19 Oct 2019 02:02:38 -0400

I have not done this, but I believe the burden is as follows:
- Provider letter must articulate fully why they can't care for them selves
- for an In Law, no other sibling can do it.

The resources at this DFAS website is fairly extensive.
https://www.dfas.mil/dfas/militarymembers/SecondaryDependency/SDC/SDC_FAQ.html

SDC_FAQ.html

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 19 at 2019 3:11 AM

CPT Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 19 Oct 2019 03:11:36 -0400

Sir, when I was enlisted I did go ask questions about it on post for my mother in law. They stated it would have to be a matter of serious illness or a lack of ability to take care of themselves. Paperwork (proof) would be needed. It's a lengthy process I was told.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 19 at 2019 4:17 AM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 19 Oct 2019 04:17:58 -0400

I only know a few people who have succeeded in this. The biggest obstacle is proving that you consistently provide over 50% of their living expenses. If they don't already live with you, it's probably not going to make the cut.

Response by CPL Tan TruMella made Oct 30 at 2019 3:15 PM

CPL Tan TruMella — Wed, 30 Oct 2019 15:15:53 -0400

Case by case, if you can prove you can match the secondary dependent income $1 for $1 and you have proof like bank statements or allotment AND you provide more the 50% of there support for hospitals, rent and utilities. Approval guaranteed! Also, if the secondary has 0$ income Is a Bonus automatically approved if they live with you. BUT, If they received ssi, retirement, and disability and they can’t afford their bills and your income match there income and more, you will be approved.
Hope this helps!