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I have PTSD and did 21 years active duty years. I picked up my 15 year old daughter. We had a slightly heated exchange about dinner, so I asked for silence. What came spewing out of her mouth really pisses me off. She said I don't work, so I have not earned it, and I do nothing for the family. Kids can be really stupid.
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ask her what work she is doing / contributing to the family!!
when I was her age, I knew it all, too. Now, I am 40 years old, about to retire and I don't know a damn thing...
when I was her age, I knew it all, too. Now, I am 40 years old, about to retire and I don't know a damn thing...
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MAJ Ken Landgren
You know right and wrong, the gates you must go through, and azimuth to guide you. Things that kids sometimes don't know yet.
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Sit her down a show her some real good documentaries about how war really was. Not the Hollywood version but the stuff that makes your gut wrench. Call it family movie night. And then have a come to Jesus meeting with her. Because she can see through your eyes and only can come from her perspective. Life has not kicked her up side the head and have had to come out the other side like most of us. But that's what makes you who you are. Those life experiance shaped who you are today. Now pass that knowledge to the next generation so she can get a reality check and see it from your perspective. But do it with love even though she pissed the holy hell out of you. Don't harbor anger for ignorance, just show her your view point so she can grow and learn a life lesson. It will strengthen your bond for the future. Make it a teachable moment.
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MAJ Ken Landgren
You are absolutely right, her failure is the inability to empathize with what I have done and what I do for the family.
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Sherry El Dora Trinity
Believe me I know I got 15 yr old twins and a 20 yr old. Being a single mom with my own issues. I battled everyday to keep a roof over their head and food in their bellies. And I made my kids aware from an early age we are in this together. Sure it's not perfect and most days it will suck but we're going to get through this come hell or high water and I ain't giving up the fight is not over. So until someone had to live in that and come out the other side. They can't have perspective they don't have the battle scars to prove it. So if you simulate it as real as possible for her and have her grow at her own rate through the experiance and love her through it. You two will butt heads until the message sinks in. I pray for you to get through this and both come out the other side learning a good life lesson. And maybe through this process you can heal some of your pain and let it go and stay in the past. This is a teachable moment for you too. May the universe bless you and your family
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They start around 12 and it will go on til they are 20+.......If I sounded off to even my Mother like that it would be off to the kitchen by the ear for a bite of Ivory soap to clean that mouth of mine out that was not clean enough!!! Just an FYI, I raised my sons as I was and they are respectful, helpful, schooled and working. They haven't yet reached that "AHA" age when Dad as it turn out was right all along but they will as your Daughter will Ken. Remember, It's their job to say stupid things during those years.
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SGT Craig Northacker
Usually our kids perform exceedingly well at these tasks, which I choose to think means we are doing a good job!
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