how can we have thought provoking and insightful interactions?

i have and still experience how our fellow military veterans from all eras have ongoing peaceful to hostile and aggressive reactions and proactive actions on everything from the past to ongoing regarding our views and different kinds of participation during our time in the military and non military and religions with other topics\subjects that continues to indirectly and directly influence and control our lives from the subtle to the blatant obvious consequences that range from the immediate to those that will be ongoing - eternal. thanks for your time.