Posted on Jul 30, 2015
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This is partly a rant. How do you deal with people. I have done a lot and seen a lot in my short 7 years. I have often found it hard dealing with people. After seeing true suffering I get highly annoyed when people are complaining about the little problems they have about how their sandwich wasn't right and how they are to hot and on and on. Then there's trying to be patient when you are working with them and remembering that you can't talk harshly With them as they are sensitive. So the question part how do you guys deal with it what are your techniques to staying calm and polite and nice. I do a good job at it just wanted to see if anything else works better.
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Edited 4 y ago
If it is bad enough, I just turn my hearing aids off :)
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When the PTSD kicks in, the extreme anger comes out. Thank God for my wife, she can sometimes calm me down. I try to avoid the "triggers", however it"s easier said than done. I leave PC at the door, to my detriment.

Before I would always practice retails mantra "the customer is ALWAYS right.
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SSgt Terry P.
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CPT (Join to see) - "triggers"? Like that person at the register who had rather talk to their buddy than do their job?
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SPC Edward Wainwright
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I go through this every day and have since ets in '89.
civilians for the most part disgust me. Iam nice to all I encounter. In my mind I realize the majority are clueless. The occassional a-hole I have a difficukt time with. I find myself falling into the trap of ptsd and go verbal. I have caught myself mid-sentanc and the big light in my brain gors off. I stop talking and walk away. It is actuall hilarious at that point. Everyone present looks astonished at my exit. It actually make me smile and laugh once I reach my truck.
I came to this town I live in 12 yrs ago and my Veteran Cousin convinced me into staying here. I was on a mission to move West to the Mountains and ride in on horeback and leave society behind. I NOW HAVE A SON. I raise him on my own. He is 9. I've had him 5 yrs now.
I am burnt out again. I want to leave for out West again.
I try so much to adjust.
There are folks who tell me I have to just accept the changes in America and these civilians.
I am unwilling.
Why should I or we Veterans be the ones to just accept things and adapt?
I think the only way this Country of Our will Turn around and survive is if we Veterans stand up against all the corruption in and out of our Government.
NOT in a violent manner....In a manner that makes changes through peace and educatiing the rest of society.
However, if a militarized threat does come in through the southern or northern border....
We, Veterans definitely know what needs to be done.
May God be with all of us,
I am genuinely concerned for America.
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SSgt Terry P. SPC Edward Wainwright , lack of respect will
do it every time. I agree WHY do we have to be the one consistently making the changes. We have a right to be angry also, and we have a right to be respected, civilians,
clerks, whomever, think they are doing us a favor instead of their jobs..
I firmly believe in what both of you are saying, and I think all Vets are concerned for
America as well. Than you, both.
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SSgt (Join to see) I think that your patience will grow over time with wisdom, understanding, and more experience. I use to be very impatient, but I found that over time as I matured, became confident in my leadership abilities, gained valuable wisdom from my peers and leaders, that I soon took on more patience and learned to understand people better for their strengths, faults, and weaknesses. Not everyone is going to be like you and your not going to be like them. We are unique and thats what makes us special in our own way. Learning to accept people for who they are and what they have been through is a step in the direction of profound wisdom. You will soon learn that "Grasshopper!" Thought I would throw in a little humor. Just my shot at your question.
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I have been asking the same question to myself lately. Unfortunately, the people I'm trying to figure out are those who are still in the military. It sems like i have to be super sensitive of people's feelings a lot more lately even when I'm just being matter-of-fact. It's really frustrating.
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