Posted on Feb 3, 2021
SPC Kyle Durocher
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So for all the vets here, how do y'all deal with someone trying to call you "Stolen Valor" in a polite way? Even if they are being aggressive about it? I've been out on a MEB for almost a year now and there's a store in my state with "Superhero Parking" for Vets, Active Duty, Law enforcement and firefighters, while I haven't parked there yet, I'm sure once I do someone will attempt to say something about it. I have my VA Card and my driver's license says Veteran on it and I have an entire album in my phone with pictures of my army times. Now what if this isn't enough to get them to back off? How can I politely tell them they're wrong and to drop the situation?
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SFC Senior Brigade Career Counselor
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I remember what Dr Suess said. Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind
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SFC Combat Engineer
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Excellent Quote.
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SFC Senior Brigade Career Counselor
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SFC (Join to see) it's what I tell my kids lol
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PO1 Lyndon Thomas
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SFC Jason Boyd, could not have been said or explained any better brother!
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Lt Col Scott Arnott
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Agree but, I also understand why it pisses vets off!
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That's on them. You don't "owe" anyone validation. Other than a couple videos on facespace and twatter, I've never seen it happen in person. Personally, I'd pull my phone out and start videoing them. They're always brave when behind the lens. Flip the script on them.
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1LT Vance Titus
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SFC Moysard, great idea...videoing them...I like it. Unfortunately not likely to happen to me or my wife. Our two cars have Purple Heart plates.
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Flipping the script is excellent. If you ask them what's in block 24 of their DD214 and/or "can you tell me what's on sale at the commissary/PX"? and they look at you like a puppy needing to piss then you've already won. I don't park in an E9 spot at the PX nor did I ever de-plane ahead when announced "06 and E9s may exit now". To use that odd flex never bothered me.
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I don't think it will happen. Yes, there are the rare viral videos, but it's just not the social norm.

I'm sure I'm not the only one dreaming at the chance to lock up a crusty retired CSM calling me out for parking in the Home Depot veteran parking and then pull out my CAC and demand me he show me his.

But that's not how the world outside of my head works ;-)

In the day to day world your veteran license plate frame is enough credentials.

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The most I was able to do in terms of call anyone out was at a local gun range. They give military a discount, and the guy was trying to BS his way to a discount with the clerk. He pulled out dog tags or something.

I interjected into the conversation between him and the clerk, and showing my CAC ID I said, "she want's to see this".

It was a little bit of awesome but not YouTube worthy.
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SPC Kyle Durocher - The wrong people flat out park in Handicap parking, and that's a flat out fined offense as written in your local state vehicle code. The only thing in black and white illegal is claiming military service with the intend to benefit from it in a material way, and it's only illegal at a federal level unless there are other lower level laws at your local level.

Hell, people "steal" valor of all sorts.

I was a member of a high tier drum and bugle corps with world champion titles. This is effectively the world series of marching bands. But realize this is from my high school years. So who gives a crap now.

Anyway, it's a small community of bragging rights and believe it or not, people will falsely claim to have been members of various other top tier drum corps when they were young.

FOR REAL!?!?!?!?!?

It's not only the military. People claim all sorts of crap to get extra attention.

The question is, is the claim of valor impacting you right now? In my case above at the gun range, the guy was holding up the line I could otherwise be on the range myself. So I called him out on it. But I"m not going to challenge anyone that claims BS that is otherwise not materially impacting me (let alone something like a parking space that isn't literally protected by a vehicle/traffic law).
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CPO Jack De Merit
CPO Jack De Merit
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I hate to say this BUT, anyone can walk into a War Surplus store and purchase military medals and Veteran's license plate frames. That does not work in California.
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Anyone can buy a hat or T shirt that says VETERAN or Vietnam Veteran and on and on. That usually works until they open their mouth.
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PFC Anthony Bruce
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Trust me sir it does happen. In 09 I was in college I wore my purple heart hat. ROTC recruiter saw it and said oh bring your dd214 in and I'll set you up with contacts to help with your VA claim. I took my 214 to him he went in to the station commanders office and said he isn't lying he does have a purple heart. Never gave me any contacts. I had a couple possible contacts for him but after that I stopped trading to get him recruits.
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