COL Mikel J. Burroughs 1768325 <div class="images-v2-count-1"><div class="content-picture image-v2-number-1" id="image-101602"> <div class="social_icons social-buttons-on-image"> <a href='https://www.facebook.com/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rallypoint.com%2Fanswers%2Fhow-do-you-deal-with-the-physical-sensations-of-anger%3Futm_source%3DFacebook%26utm_medium%3Dorganic%26utm_campaign%3DShare%20to%20facebook' target="_blank" class='social-share-button facebook-share-button'><i class="fa fa-facebook-f"></i></a> <a href="https://twitter.com/intent/tweet?text=How+do+you+deal+with+the+physical+sensations+of+anger%3F&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rallypoint.com%2Fanswers%2Fhow-do-you-deal-with-the-physical-sensations-of-anger&amp;via=RallyPoint" target="_blank" class="social-share-button twitter-custom-share-button"><i class="fa fa-twitter"></i></a> <a href="mailto:?subject=Check this out on RallyPoint!&body=Hi, I thought you would find this interesting:%0D%0AHow do you deal with the physical sensations of anger?%0D%0A %0D%0AHere is the link: https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/how-do-you-deal-with-the-physical-sensations-of-anger" target="_blank" class="social-share-button email-share-button"><i class="fa fa-envelope"></i></a> </div> <a class="fancybox" rel="51b4441295f8804c043592e01d7ea132" href="https://d1ndsj6b8hkqu9.cloudfront.net/pictures/images/000/101/602/for_gallery_v2/9b76f111.jpg"><img src="https://d1ndsj6b8hkqu9.cloudfront.net/pictures/images/000/101/602/large_v3/9b76f111.jpg" alt="9b76f111" /></a></div></div>RP Members and Connections one of the effects of PTSD is Anger! How do you deal with the physical sensations of Anger?<br /><br />Overview!<br /><br />Anger is often a large part of a survivor&#39;s response to trauma. It is a core piece of the survival response in human beings. Anger helps us cope with life&#39;s stresses by giving us energy to keep going in the face of trouble or blocks. Yet anger can create major problems in the personal lives of those with PTSD.<br /><br />Anger, which stimulates the body&#39;s adrenaline response which is our body&#39;s way of helping us to cope with either fighting, or running away (&#39;fight or flight&#39; response). <br /><br />We respond to those thoughts and feelings, by acting, or feeling an urge to act, in threatening or aggressive ways. <br /><br />Thoughts that often occur: <br /><br /> _I&#39;m being treated unfairly <br /> _I&#39;m being disrespected <br /> _They&#39;re breaking a rule or standard <br /> _I won&#39;t stand for it <br /><br />Physical Sensations - The Adrenaline Response <br /><br />When there is real, or we believe there is a real, threat or danger, or that we have to defend or stand up for what we believe is right, our bodies&#39; automatic survival mechanism kicks in very quickly. This helps energise us to fight or run away (&#39;fight or flight response&#39;). We will notice lots of physical sensations, which might include: <br /><br /> _heart racing or pounding - enabling good blood supply around our bodies <br /> _breathing quickly - allowing more oxygen around the body <br /> _tense muscles - a state of readiness to fight or flee <br /> _shaking <br /> _hot, sweating <br /> _light-headed <br /> _stomach churning or butterflies <br /> _fist or teeth clenching <br /><br />Behaviours might include:<br /><br /> _staring &amp; angry facial expression <br /> _aggressive body posture <br /> _go towards what makes us angry <br /> _attacking or arguing <br /> _hitting out (or urge to hit out) <br /> _shouting, snapping at others <br /> _running or storming away <br /> _staying silent, inwardly seething <br /> _door slamming, making lots of noise <br /> _sulking <br /><br />We all feel angry some times. Anger has consequences, and they often involve hurting other people - more usually their feelings, but sometimes physically. Anger can cause problems in our personal lives, and affect work and study. After an angry outburst, we can think very critically of ourselves and our actions, leading us to feel guilty, ashamed and lower our mood, which might result in our withdrawing from others, not wanting to do anything. <br /><br />Identify your triggers<br /> <br />What or when are the times when you are more likely to get angry? If you can see the patterns, then maybe you can do something about those situations, and do something different.<br /> <br /> _Behind the wheel? <br /> _At work? <br /> _When stressed? <br /> _With certain people? <br /> _When you&#39;ve been drinking or using other substances? <br /><br />What to do when you feel angry<br /> <br /> _STOPP! Pause, take a breath, don&#39;t react automatically <br /> _Walk away - you can come back and talk later <br /> _Ask yourself: <br /> _What am I reacting to? <br /> _What is it that&#39;s really pushing my buttons here? <br /> _Am I getting things out of proportion? <br /> _How important is this really? <br /> _How important will it be in 6 months time? <br /> _What harm has actually been done? <br /> _Am I expecting something from this person or situation that is unrealistic? <br /> _What&#39;s the worst (and best) that could happen? What&#39;s most likely to happen? <br /> _Am I jumping to conclusions about what this person meant? Am I mis-reading between the lines? Is it possible that they didn&#39;t mean that? Is this fact or opinion? <br /> _What do I want or need from this person or situation? What do they want or need from me? Is there a compromise? <br /> _What would be the consequences of responding angrily? <br /> _Is there another way of dealing with this? What would be the most helpful and effective action to take? (for me, for the situation, for the other person) <br /> _Visualise yourself dealing with the situation in a calm, non-aggressive but assertive way, respecting the rights and opinions of all others involved. <br /><br />How to deal with the physical sensations of anger <br /><br />Counteract the body&#39;s adrenaline response - it&#39;s readiness for action, by using that energy healthily.<br /> <br /> _Practice calming or mindful breathing - this one act alone will help reduce the physical sensations, emotions and intensity of thoughts. <br /> _Visualisation: Breathe in blue (for calm) and/or green (for balance) and breathe out red. <br /> _Go for a walk, run or cycle, or maybe do some gardening or housework. <br /> 2016-08-01T14:50:41-04:00 COL Mikel J. Burroughs 1768325

<div class="images-v2-count-1"><div class="content-picture image-v2-number-1" id="image-101602"> <div class="social_icons social-buttons-on-image"> <a href='https://www.facebook.com/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rallypoint.com%2Fanswers%2Fhow-do-you-deal-with-the-physical-sensations-of-anger%3Futm_source%3DFacebook%26utm_medium%3Dorganic%26utm_campaign%3DShare%20to%20facebook' target="_blank" class='social-share-button facebook-share-button'><i class="fa fa-facebook-f"></i></a> <a href="https://twitter.com/intent/tweet?text=How+do+you+deal+with+the+physical+sensations+of+anger%3F&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rallypoint.com%2Fanswers%2Fhow-do-you-deal-with-the-physical-sensations-of-anger&amp;via=RallyPoint" target="_blank" class="social-share-button twitter-custom-share-button"><i class="fa fa-twitter"></i></a> <a href="mailto:?subject=Check this out on RallyPoint!&body=Hi, I thought you would find this interesting:%0D%0AHow do you deal with the physical sensations of anger?%0D%0A %0D%0AHere is the link: https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/how-do-you-deal-with-the-physical-sensations-of-anger" target="_blank" class="social-share-button email-share-button"><i class="fa fa-envelope"></i></a> </div> <a class="fancybox" rel="fd226f4b2d0bdf2c8526d3af4a3d10fd" href="https://d1ndsj6b8hkqu9.cloudfront.net/pictures/images/000/101/602/for_gallery_v2/9b76f111.jpg"><img src="https://d1ndsj6b8hkqu9.cloudfront.net/pictures/images/000/101/602/large_v3/9b76f111.jpg" alt="9b76f111" /></a></div></div>RP Members and Connections one of the effects of PTSD is Anger! How do you deal with the physical sensations of Anger?<br /><br />Overview!<br /><br />Anger is often a large part of a survivor&#39;s response to trauma. It is a core piece of the survival response in human beings. Anger helps us cope with life&#39;s stresses by giving us energy to keep going in the face of trouble or blocks. Yet anger can create major problems in the personal lives of those with PTSD.<br /><br />Anger, which stimulates the body&#39;s adrenaline response which is our body&#39;s way of helping us to cope with either fighting, or running away (&#39;fight or flight&#39; response). <br /><br />We respond to those thoughts and feelings, by acting, or feeling an urge to act, in threatening or aggressive ways. <br /><br />Thoughts that often occur: <br /><br /> _I&#39;m being treated unfairly <br /> _I&#39;m being disrespected <br /> _They&#39;re breaking a rule or standard <br /> _I won&#39;t stand for it <br /><br />Physical Sensations - The Adrenaline Response <br /><br />When there is real, or we believe there is a real, threat or danger, or that we have to defend or stand up for what we believe is right, our bodies&#39; automatic survival mechanism kicks in very quickly. This helps energise us to fight or run away (&#39;fight or flight response&#39;). We will notice lots of physical sensations, which might include: <br /><br /> _heart racing or pounding - enabling good blood supply around our bodies <br /> _breathing quickly - allowing more oxygen around the body <br /> _tense muscles - a state of readiness to fight or flee <br /> _shaking <br /> _hot, sweating <br /> _light-headed <br /> _stomach churning or butterflies <br /> _fist or teeth clenching <br /><br />Behaviours might include:<br /><br /> _staring &amp; angry facial expression <br /> _aggressive body posture <br /> _go towards what makes us angry <br /> _attacking or arguing <br /> _hitting out (or urge to hit out) <br /> _shouting, snapping at others <br /> _running or storming away <br /> _staying silent, inwardly seething <br /> _door slamming, making lots of noise <br /> _sulking <br /><br />We all feel angry some times. Anger has consequences, and they often involve hurting other people - more usually their feelings, but sometimes physically. Anger can cause problems in our personal lives, and affect work and study. After an angry outburst, we can think very critically of ourselves and our actions, leading us to feel guilty, ashamed and lower our mood, which might result in our withdrawing from others, not wanting to do anything. <br /><br />Identify your triggers<br /> <br />What or when are the times when you are more likely to get angry? If you can see the patterns, then maybe you can do something about those situations, and do something different.<br /> <br /> _Behind the wheel? <br /> _At work? <br /> _When stressed? <br /> _With certain people? <br /> _When you&#39;ve been drinking or using other substances? <br /><br />What to do when you feel angry<br /> <br /> _STOPP! Pause, take a breath, don&#39;t react automatically <br /> _Walk away - you can come back and talk later <br /> _Ask yourself: <br /> _What am I reacting to? <br /> _What is it that&#39;s really pushing my buttons here? <br /> _Am I getting things out of proportion? <br /> _How important is this really? <br /> _How important will it be in 6 months time? <br /> _What harm has actually been done? <br /> _Am I expecting something from this person or situation that is unrealistic? <br /> _What&#39;s the worst (and best) that could happen? What&#39;s most likely to happen? <br /> _Am I jumping to conclusions about what this person meant? Am I mis-reading between the lines? Is it possible that they didn&#39;t mean that? Is this fact or opinion? <br /> _What do I want or need from this person or situation? What do they want or need from me? Is there a compromise? <br /> _What would be the consequences of responding angrily? <br /> _Is there another way of dealing with this? What would be the most helpful and effective action to take? (for me, for the situation, for the other person) <br /> _Visualise yourself dealing with the situation in a calm, non-aggressive but assertive way, respecting the rights and opinions of all others involved. <br /><br />How to deal with the physical sensations of anger <br /><br />Counteract the body&#39;s adrenaline response - it&#39;s readiness for action, by using that energy healthily.<br /> <br /> _Practice calming or mindful breathing - this one act alone will help reduce the physical sensations, emotions and intensity of thoughts. <br /> _Visualisation: Breathe in blue (for calm) and/or green (for balance) and breathe out red. <br /> _Go for a walk, run or cycle, or maybe do some gardening or housework. <br />

2016-08-01T14:50:41-04:00 2016-08-01T14:50:41-04:00 SGT Private RallyPoint Member 1768329

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Exercise and breathing.

2016-08-01T14:52:03-04:00 2016-08-01T14:52:03-04:00 CPT Jack Durish 1768377

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Physical exercise. Row if I can. Eliptical if I can't. Run if I must. Pound the crap out of the bed with a tennis racket if all else fails

2016-08-01T15:04:44-04:00 2016-08-01T15:04:44-04:00 SSG Keith Cashion 1768388

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>0-60 in Boom. For those that say easy to control. I am one you will never convince.

2016-08-01T15:05:54-04:00 2016-08-01T15:05:54-04:00 TSgt Joe C. 1768517

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Physical exercise usually helps me control my anger; sleep also helps as well <a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="138758" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/138758-col-mikel-j-burroughs">COL Mikel J. Burroughs</a>.

2016-08-01T15:39:17-04:00 2016-08-01T15:39:17-04:00 GySgt Bill Smith 1768609

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>When that anger wave comes it is best to just ride it out alone in a quite room. I can&#39;t think straight and anyone trying to calm me down just makes it last longer. I know this is not the best form of dealing with anger but this is what works for me. This way can also cause relationship problems because I know I am coming off as distant or unemotional.

2016-08-01T16:03:46-04:00 2016-08-01T16:03:46-04:00 PO3 David Fries 1768701

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I can&#39;t speak from a PTSD viewpoint, but I know when I get very angry I either need to work out, or just be left alone.

2016-08-01T16:34:43-04:00 2016-08-01T16:34:43-04:00 MSG Private RallyPoint Member 1768727

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>let it go, separate from the trigger, realize that actions have consiquences, i&#39;m on meds, been thru cbt, the world pisses me off but thats not my problem anymore its my little piece in the the world that counts

2016-08-01T16:43:36-04:00 2016-08-01T16:43:36-04:00 SGT David A. 'Cowboy' Groth 1768910

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I generally walk away for a few minutes, count to a hundred real slow, then punch something that gives(nonhuman, and non-animal) then walk back to what I was doing before.

2016-08-01T17:36:49-04:00 2016-08-01T17:36:49-04:00 SGT Private RallyPoint Member 1769037

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>When I feel like I'm getting mad, I suck it up, count to ten, and let it pass. Used to, I would feel like beating someone up. I'm not allowing it to describe me.

2016-08-01T18:07:30-04:00 2016-08-01T18:07:30-04:00 LTC Greg Henning 1769075

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Go for a long run!

2016-08-01T18:16:46-04:00 2016-08-01T18:16:46-04:00 LTC Stephen F. 1769095

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Anger can be a useful strengthener or a cruel master <a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="138758" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/138758-col-mikel-j-burroughs">COL Mikel J. Burroughs</a>.<br />Righteous anger helps us defend the weak and defenseless and stand up to tyrants. Unrighteous anger can lead to suicide when bottled up inside or tyranny to family members and friends.<br />It is wise to know what triggers you and what signs indicate you are reaching your boiling point for your own benefit and those around you. <br />Those of us who know the Lord have the benefit of His guidance to help us navigate this potentially dangerous area.<br />I concur with <a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="7792" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/7792-3e9x1-emergency-management">TSgt Joe C.</a> and <a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="78668" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/78668-cpt-jack-durish">CPT Jack Durish</a> that exercise and proper sleep can help keep anger at bay.<br />Sexual release also helps dissipate anger.<br />

2016-08-01T18:22:10-04:00 2016-08-01T18:22:10-04:00 Col Dona Marie Iversen 1769394

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Great post Col. Burroughs! Take a deep breath, excuse yourself from the situation, take a walk. Then return to have a conversation and agree to disagree.

2016-08-01T19:48:03-04:00 2016-08-01T19:48:03-04:00 SGM Mikel Dawson 1769484

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>When living in Idaho, I used to chop wood. Here in Denmark I head to the shop, light the forge and pound some iron!

2016-08-01T20:35:54-04:00 2016-08-01T20:35:54-04:00 SPC Tom Maddox 1769630

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I love my heavy bag for working out frustration

2016-08-01T21:26:05-04:00 2016-08-01T21:26:05-04:00 Capt Michael Greene 1769764

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Anger takes a few seconds to build. That&#39;s never a problem. But instant, startling, killing rage is a problem. In the service, I threw phones and monitors and broke walls and furniture. Once retired, it was OK to see a shrink, so we solved that problem through &quot;Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing&quot; therapy and a pill.<br /><br />A few years ago, I decided to work as a helo pilot. I started lessons, but the FAA disapproved my of antidepressant. At first I decided to fight it, but then I realized that I really shouldn&#39;t be allowed to be a pilot anymore.

2016-08-01T22:04:09-04:00 2016-08-01T22:04:09-04:00 Capt Tom Brown 1769785

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="138758" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/138758-col-mikel-j-burroughs">COL Mikel J. Burroughs</a> None of the coping methods ever worked for me because I was just plain angry at nothing all the time. I would get in the car to drive to a job site and before I left the neighborhood I was swearing out loud at everything. Talking drs. never helped but loved to be paid. Finally about 25 yrs ago I got introduced to a small pill which has seemed to work wonders. I don&#39;t get angry anymore nor do I get happy anymore. This stuff works as a mood-stabilizer. Maybe if I played in a C&amp;W band I would feel better.

2016-08-01T22:12:37-04:00 2016-08-01T22:12:37-04:00 CSM Charles Hayden 1769825

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="138758" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/138758-col-mikel-j-burroughs">COL Mikel J. Burroughs</a> When I am whistling, I am still contemplating what my reaction will be!!

2016-08-01T22:25:29-04:00 2016-08-01T22:25:29-04:00 Anita Nowocin 1769998

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Reading over the information that Mikel shared may be helpful to many.<br /><br />I have PTSD from teaching in public high schools: being assaulted by a student, sexually harassed by students, dealing with classroom management that involved fighting and stressful situations, having administrations that did not back me and being sexually harassed by one. These experiences caused me to have nightmares, which continue to the present time. I realize that my PTSD is different than that of military members and veterans. Because of the nightmares, I had to quit working. <br /><br />I do not face anger, avoiding situations that may bring it on. Stressful situations result in breaking out in hives.

2016-08-01T23:44:06-04:00 2016-08-01T23:44:06-04:00 Capt Seid Waddell 1770072

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Mind over matter. If I don&#39;t mind it doesn&#39;t matter.

2016-08-02T00:39:28-04:00 2016-08-02T00:39:28-04:00 Sgt Seth Welch 1770577

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I've learned to turn this into productive energy, I'll typically either grab the weights and go until I'm too tired to be angry, or run it out until it subsides. <br />Whenever these don't seem adequate, I'll try again (and fail) at putting a hole in the heavy bag. I feel much after it's all over

2016-08-02T08:18:50-04:00 2016-08-02T08:18:50-04:00 SFC Richard Giles 1770604

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Awhile back I found another way to settle some anger issues.<br />I have a great fiancé who thank goodness doesn't understand anything about the military, except for what we have talked about in our conversations. She does know a lot about life though and she has helped me tremendously. I liking her sometimes to a doctor who doesn't charge to see her and is there when I need her. Sometimes she doesn't say a word other times we talk out my issues. She also, well sometimes, understands that there are times when talking isn't going to work and that I need to be alone, she also understands the things I do to calm down. She is very sympathetic but can also keep me inline when needed.<br />It has brought us much closer to each other and we are both better for it. The thing with her though is she wasn't with me at all during my career except for the last year or so.<br />I guess what I'm trying to say Rally Point members is don't discredit your spouses as a tool to help you, sometimes they can bring a whole different perspective to things<br />Just my 2 cents worth.

2016-08-02T08:38:34-04:00 2016-08-02T08:38:34-04:00 Kim Bolen RN CCM ACM 1770992

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>KUDOS~Mikel........Love it~K

2016-08-02T10:52:59-04:00 2016-08-02T10:52:59-04:00 1SG Private RallyPoint Member 1771242

<div class="images-v2-count-1"><div class="content-picture image-v2-number-1" id="image-101828"> <div class="social_icons social-buttons-on-image"> <a href='https://www.facebook.com/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rallypoint.com%2Fanswers%2Fhow-do-you-deal-with-the-physical-sensations-of-anger%3Futm_source%3DFacebook%26utm_medium%3Dorganic%26utm_campaign%3DShare%20to%20facebook' target="_blank" class='social-share-button facebook-share-button'><i class="fa fa-facebook-f"></i></a> <a href="https://twitter.com/intent/tweet?text=How+do+you+deal+with+the+physical+sensations+of+anger%3F&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rallypoint.com%2Fanswers%2Fhow-do-you-deal-with-the-physical-sensations-of-anger&amp;via=RallyPoint" target="_blank" class="social-share-button twitter-custom-share-button"><i class="fa fa-twitter"></i></a> <a href="mailto:?subject=Check this out on RallyPoint!&body=Hi, I thought you would find this interesting:%0D%0AHow do you deal with the physical sensations of anger?%0D%0A %0D%0AHere is the link: https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/how-do-you-deal-with-the-physical-sensations-of-anger" target="_blank" class="social-share-button email-share-button"><i class="fa fa-envelope"></i></a> </div> <a class="fancybox" rel="09b632a08f75e1fd7914d6a12499d82c" href="https://d1ndsj6b8hkqu9.cloudfront.net/pictures/images/000/101/828/for_gallery_v2/7f3e0ca1.jpg"><img src="https://d1ndsj6b8hkqu9.cloudfront.net/pictures/images/000/101/828/large_v3/7f3e0ca1.jpg" alt="7f3e0ca1" /></a></div></div>Front towards enemy.<br />Don&#39;t lose sight of why you are upset, and who is responsible. Confront it directly, but with a calm, thoughtful head.<br />Avoidance breeds resentment.

2016-08-02T12:13:19-04:00 2016-08-02T12:13:19-04:00 LCDR Rabbah Rona Matlow 1771474

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Anger is a symptom for a lot of issues. It is a corollary to depression and anxiety, and certainly comes very easily and quickly with disability, be it physical or emotional. PTSD is now known to cause physical changes in the brain, so it's really a double whammy. <br /><br />The work you're doing is so critical in saving vet lives...

2016-08-02T13:14:30-04:00 2016-08-02T13:14:30-04:00 CPO Amb. Terry Earthwind Nichols 1773117

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Check out Repetitive Behavior Cellular Regression(CR). Works to stop the effects of PTSD, MST, and Suicide Ideation without counseling, or therapy, or meds and not office visits.

2016-08-02T22:23:42-04:00 2016-08-02T22:23:42-04:00 SSG Michael Scott 1773918

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Sometimes I feel like the Hulk or Wolverine. Anger was my fuel in Iraq for surviving. It still comes and goes depending on the issue. I do things to calm down. Gardening, spending time with the 2 labs. I highly recommend pets. Try to focus my negative energy into doing something productive. Pressure washing the house, because the cold water does feel good and has a soothing feel to it.<br />Hope this helps.

2016-08-03T08:01:04-04:00 2016-08-03T08:01:04-04:00 SGM Private RallyPoint Member 1779222

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I&#39;ve always found the most important advice I&#39;ve ever received is to stop and think &quot;Who has the power here?&quot; The answer is almost always &quot;Me.&quot; I have the power to allow my anger to control me or to control my anger. I don&#39;t cede that power to another person, another situation, another force, or any other entity. The power is mine.<br /><br />I know it sounds a little silly, but in practice if you really stop and put that in the forefront of you mind, it can work. Simple, but effective.

2016-08-04T18:03:54-04:00 2016-08-04T18:03:54-04:00 SFC Louis Willhauck, MSM, JSCM, and ARCOM 1788495

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>In my case, I used to get frustrated and angry at/over all sorts of things. It usually happens when you are experiencing things contrary to your upbringing or sense of right (righteous indignation) and stress begins to build which then requires release (like a tightly twisted rubber band). While speaking of religion is usually a taboo area; my answer became just turning all this garbage over to God. And to become the proverbial "duck" (just let it roll right down and off my back!)

2016-08-08T14:17:04-04:00 2016-08-08T14:17:04-04:00 Kim Bolen RN CCM ACM 1789382

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Today, I cried.

2016-08-08T20:11:57-04:00 2016-08-08T20:11:57-04:00 SA Jim Arnold 1803148

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I used to punch things.....abusively. And after 10 years of commercial fishing, I have destroyed more than a few knuckles.

2016-08-13T12:53:39-04:00 2016-08-13T12:53:39-04:00 Capt Private RallyPoint Member 1806129

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>It varies. The worst was 40 years ago today when we lost our daughter (she lived only 20 minutes) I broke everything in the nursery we had prepared to pieces.

2016-08-14T19:34:49-04:00 2016-08-14T19:34:49-04:00 SSG Jacey R. 1808353

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>What ever thought that comes to mind comes right out the mouth. I have learned how to keep some in.

2016-08-15T18:38:37-04:00 2016-08-15T18:38:37-04:00 CAPT Michael W. Langston, PhD, DMin 1817222

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Awesome response Mike. Thanks!

2016-08-18T15:27:54-04:00 2016-08-18T15:27:54-04:00 SGT Michael Olsen 1915964

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I use writing as my escape from anger. Thus my first screenplay &quot;UNSUNG: The Forgotten&quot;

2016-09-22T16:02:32-04:00 2016-09-22T16:02:32-04:00 PFC Jay Miner 1915966

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I listen to music, mainly country or a few select worship songs. I go for walks in the woods, or hit the heavy bag if I can find one.

2016-09-22T16:02:57-04:00 2016-09-22T16:02:57-04:00 Cpl George Crab 1915970

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I internalize them. That&#39;s what men do, right? ;)

2016-09-22T16:04:35-04:00 2016-09-22T16:04:35-04:00 SSG Nancy Amore 1916040

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I use to keep a lot of anger bottled up inside of me, until I would finally explode, most often yelling and throwing things. That of course caused problems, after a woman&#39;s Bible group at my church, I found other ways to deal with my anger. I deal with the situation at the time and doubt bottle it up. I do walk away and calm down(most times) before discussing what made me angry.

2016-09-22T16:20:37-04:00 2016-09-22T16:20:37-04:00 SPC Louis Copechal 1916271

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>There are times when anger comes about without warning creating ied, intermittent explosive disorder. We all deal with it, it just depends on the cause and effect aspect of life. I refuse to let anger define who I am. It is the way you handle it. I am an honest man and when my integrity is questioned I feel they are claiming I am dishonest. I am honest to a fault. I do not hold my tongue and once the barrage of words come out and I cool down I come back and when asked about it I explain the why&#39;s aspect of it. Why I said what I did and why I don&#39;t hold back from telling the truth. I have gotten to recognize my irritations and I avoid them like the plague. I seldom use social media because it could potentially fuel the anger. The best way to avoid it is recognize it and then figure out what&#39;s best for yourself and move forward addressing it 1 moment at a time.

2016-09-22T18:14:21-04:00 2016-09-22T18:14:21-04:00 SFC Jeff Couch 1916331

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>As someone that personally that has this problem my problem is I will get mad in seconds but over the years I have learned some of my triggers when I feel that I might loose it I go camping for a week or two but for some one that has been in combat says they don&#39;t have problems I would urge them to seek some kind of help and support their is no shame for asking for it trust me I felt that way for years and about lost everything just another brothers opinion

2016-09-22T18:37:48-04:00 2016-09-22T18:37:48-04:00 SFC(P) Private RallyPoint Member 1916420

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>My PTSD is bad, my Anger Management is worse. I started the anger management, then got pulled for deployment, I still have the book, and I am slowly working through it, but I still have issues. I used to run when I was mad, but with my back and knee be shot, running is not an option. I do try to burn off anger in the gym as well.

2016-09-22T19:29:28-04:00 2016-09-22T19:29:28-04:00 SSgt Terry P. 1916603

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="138758" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/138758-col-mikel-j-burroughs">COL Mikel J. Burroughs</a> I spent about 35 years with limited contact in any social situation.<br />Was lucky enough to earn a living with only minor contact other than immediate family.<br />Only in the last few years have i been able to live a &quot;normal&quot; lifestyle.<br />I still get really anxious over something as simple as a clerk that is conversing with his buddy instead of performing the function he was hired to do,but i do not overreact now.<br />No one is going to die because this jerk isn&#39;t doing his job and that finally got through to my subconscious mind.

2016-09-22T20:52:46-04:00 2016-09-22T20:52:46-04:00 PFC Jennifer Davis 1916727

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I used to think I had my anger reaction under control. But, recently, I found out the opposite is too true.

2016-09-22T21:59:55-04:00 2016-09-22T21:59:55-04:00 Sgt Dallas D'Angelo-Gary 1918064

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Anger is a good response to certain situations ... momentarily. But if you hang onto it and feed from it, it is physically harmful both to you and others.

2016-09-23T12:31:36-04:00 2016-09-23T12:31:36-04:00 Angela Hawkins 1930177

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I usually &quot;fake it until I make it&quot; and walk it off. I&#39;m not usually one to act on my anger. I know it is a natural emotion and I just deliberately think to myself how I have the choice to let it pass or not and only I am in control of what I do with that anger. I know that no one can make me angry. I may get angry when someone provokes me but like I said, it&#39;s my choice so I know i can either get over it or blow up and show my butt so I try my best to move on. I know that is so hard to do, especially when you have a disorder but this is how I personally handle it. When I feel like I am getting angry I have to remind myself to be consciously aware of that emotion and keep it in check. I may follow up with a personal time out, hot bath, walk or uplifting music on my iPhone.

2016-09-28T14:56:37-04:00 2016-09-28T14:56:37-04:00 SPC Jill Drushal, RN, MA 1930219

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>In any stressful situation where I can walk away, I do. In the process, I silently repeat a short Jesus prayer over and over. . . Many years ago, I was in a serious auto accident. At high speed, I was rear-ended by a 16-year-old driver who was drunk and high. He passed out behind the wheel. I was certain I was going to die. I didn&#39;t have time to think, just to react. I repeated this same prayer and it saved my life. . . &quot;Lord Jesus Christ, only Son of the Living God, have mercy on me, a sinner.&quot;

2016-09-28T15:12:51-04:00 2016-09-28T15:12:51-04:00 TSgt George Rodriguez 2008204

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Confronting the situation that makes you angry, not necessarily an individual, but angry at oneself for our own inabilities in functioning, (Being old and thinking you can still do things that you used to do when you were younger and finding out your unable too.) Just take a deep breath low down and attempt it again in a different manor. If its an individual that makes you angry, approach them and try to work things out. If its impossible God says I have to forgive him for his stupidity but I won&#39;t forget and walk away. If it comes to a physical contact initiated by him, take him out by any means possible. I&#39;m 72 years old and too old to take an ass whipping. My defense in court would be &quot;I feared for my life&quot;.

2016-10-24T12:58:33-04:00 2016-10-24T12:58:33-04:00 CPT Joseph K Murdock 2008486

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I seek a quiet place which does not work because the wife wants confrontation.

2016-10-24T14:55:30-04:00 2016-10-24T14:55:30-04:00 1stSgt Eugene Harless 2009367

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Maybe because of all the medication I&#39;m on I really don&#39;t get angry anymore. It could be that, or I just realize that nothing is worth me getting sick over. It does hurt that I am in a position that I will have to actually go out and LOOK for things to make me mad, which I refuse to do.

2016-10-24T21:48:55-04:00 2016-10-24T21:48:55-04:00 CPL Eric Escasio 2080013

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>When I get angry for a reason always, I tend to pick one of my pet dogs and carry them around until I am calm. By holding them in my arms I know they are fragile same way I look at life situations. If I hold them too tight they will get hurt and if I let go they will get hurt. So I just hold them just right and they will respond back by wagging their tails and licking my chin. This calms me down and clears my head (calm down) for a better solution to fix whatever angers me.

2016-11-16T10:06:22-05:00 2016-11-16T10:06:22-05:00 CWO3 Private RallyPoint Member 2094809

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I try to work through it; sort of a modified (internal) fight vs. flight. Once we lose our internal locus of control we become a captive. If things start to get heated with others I make a conscious effort to turn down the stress-o-meter and calm down. If someone else is pushing the buttons I make it clear that we both need to mellow out but if it is going south I&#39;ll just clam up for emphasis and hope for the best. Worst case, unless attacked I&#39;ll leave the general area for the good of us all and return when things have calmed down. I find it helpful to discuss the stressor afterwards when cooler heads have prevailed, in order for party(s) concerned to understand the problem and maybe prevent it in the future. Sort of a post-game chalk talk.

2016-11-21T08:51:23-05:00 2016-11-21T08:51:23-05:00 SGT Private RallyPoint Member 2108506

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Focus on the breathing and go to a quiet place a hike..Anxiety can be real extreme. It&#39;s tough when u feel like your whole world is turning upside down. After I got out of active duty I would severe anxiety attacks. I dealt with it by walking and alone time. And I know the drinking and drugs didn&#39;t help. 1 step at a time. Seek help to fix it.and talk about it. The VA has many support groups. That&#39;s what they get paid for so use them.

2016-11-26T04:43:50-05:00 2016-11-26T04:43:50-05:00 LCpl Donald Faucett 2128003

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>To tell the truth, It is a waste of time and energy to get angry. Anger disrupts the quality of your life. Impairs judgement, and your whole physiology gets messed up. Make you sick for sure. Adopt an optimistic attitude, cause attitude is nine tenths of the equation

2016-12-02T18:40:18-05:00 2016-12-02T18:40:18-05:00 SGT James Colwell 2150911

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Ideally, if those sensations are identified early enough, I can determine if the anger that is coming is either a righteous anger, or simply an emotional overreaction to something. I can then control the response. In the event it is a sudden emotional outburst, which is rarely of the righteous variety, I remove myself from the situation. I do that for the protection of those around me, to spare them from my anger. I also do that to avoid any escalation of the anger resulting from somebody trying to reason with me. I also do it so I can vent my anger in private, so that I don&#39;t have to try to restrain my anger, which results in it being buried without having put the fire out first. This works for me for the most part, but there are others who should not be alone with their anger.

2016-12-11T19:20:39-05:00 2016-12-11T19:20:39-05:00 LCpl Todd Houston 2188500

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Years ago my answer was a rather large portion of inebriating liquids. That ended in my beloved Marine Corps and I amicably parting ways. That resulted in my first DUI only 4 months after my EAS. Unfortunately I only received a $100 fine. Had I got what I deserved I might not have had a second ten years later. Booze was my answer until about 4 years ago when that all but stopped. Now I have been through CBT and thanks to the VA, take a handful of pills everyday that pretty much

2016-12-25T19:03:59-05:00 2016-12-25T19:03:59-05:00 LCpl Todd Houston 2188515

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Cont... Leaves me like a virtual zombie. About 4 years ago I woke up in the hospital after what I thought was going to be a successful suicide. Im in a better place now, but it remains a daily struggle as I am quick to anger. Thank you for posting this question Colonel.

2016-12-25T19:13:41-05:00 2016-12-25T19:13:41-05:00 GySgt Melissa Gravila 2188720

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>This is something I&#39;ve had to learn over the years- what my triggers are and how to deal with them constructively. Because I am so &quot;type A&quot; I like to have control of EVERYTHING, and if things don&#39;t go according to plan, in the past, it has sent me over the edge. I have the reputation of being &quot;rough on the furniture&quot;- but I attribute that to an unwillingness to compromise. (It&#39;s not a lie as long as I believe it!) But some things that I can&#39;t control I have to let go of, it&#39;s just easier said than done. In my profession, my personality is a good thing, in my personal life, sometimes I have to apologize ALOT.

2016-12-25T21:14:02-05:00 2016-12-25T21:14:02-05:00 SFC George Smith 2189016

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>depending on the Level of anger make work... Go to the range ... take a nap

2016-12-26T00:46:47-05:00 2016-12-26T00:46:47-05:00 1LT Private RallyPoint Member 2189030

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="138758" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/138758-col-mikel-j-burroughs">COL Mikel J. Burroughs</a> - Multiple tap head shot practice. Word gets around I am pissed off - and taking my anger out on the range. Problem gets sorted - staff reports problem resolved. This is better than expressing my anger directly to the problem. Warmest Regards, Sandy :)

2016-12-26T00:54:55-05:00 2016-12-26T00:54:55-05:00 Lynda Key 2323712

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I focus on taking deep slow breaths.

2017-02-08T15:56:04-05:00 2017-02-08T15:56:04-05:00 A1C Cathy Valentine 2323989

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I have grounding exercises to be very helpful when I feel like I&#39;m going to lose control. This link shows just one example, but there are many more. <a target="_blank" href="http://www.therapistsb.com/blog/post/5-4-3-2-1-coping-technique">http://www.therapistsb.com/blog/post/5-4-3-2-1-coping-technique</a> <div class="pta-link-card answers-template-image type-default"> <div class="pta-link-card-picture"> </div> <div class="pta-link-card-content"> <p class="pta-link-card-title"> <a target="blank" href="http://www.therapistsb.com/blog/post/5-4-3-2-1-coping-technique">therapistsb :: Blog :: :: 5-4-3-2-1 COPING TECHNIQUE</a> </p> <p class="pta-link-card-description"></p> </div> <div class="clearfix"></div> </div>

2017-02-08T17:41:44-05:00 2017-02-08T17:41:44-05:00 SMSgt Timothy Cathers 2327112

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I drink.

2017-02-09T17:08:06-05:00 2017-02-09T17:08:06-05:00 PO1 Kerry French 2393154

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I scream a lot in my empty house.

2017-03-04T23:39:13-05:00 2017-03-04T23:39:13-05:00 PFC Stephen Eric Serati 2397830

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Snappy and loud.But after the initial emotion,I calm down and examine the situation,to come up with underlined problem or problems,and react accordingly.

2017-03-06T19:46:34-05:00 2017-03-06T19:46:34-05:00 SFC Scott Parkhurst 2407868

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Great question! For myself, I find bicycling really helps because it works everything in your body plus your getting a lot of fresh air as well. I find drawing really calms me down too. Do to some injuries I can no longer run or do the hard core stuff like I used to do. I&#39;m very lucky that I can ride a bike now. I find that counting to ten can help .But no matter what I never take my anger out on my loved ones cause I don&#39;t want to loss them. The last thing I want to do and do is get into my car and drive! If your ever afraid your going to lash out, please leave the house and chill. Also maybe get help from a professional too. It will help.

2017-03-10T01:05:32-05:00 2017-03-10T01:05:32-05:00 MSG Private RallyPoint Member 2410802

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Find ways to counter that anger and use it to your advantage. It&#39;s an obstacle that may be hard to overcome at first, but with the right help there is always a bypass no matter how difficult. Some technique mentioned when my unit returned from Afghanistan were working out, getting a massage, deep breathing, etc. This is just one of I&#39;m sure plenty of ways that can help in this situation.

2017-03-11T09:33:02-05:00 2017-03-11T09:33:02-05:00 PO3 John Wagner 2410806

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>It is exhausting. With PTSD it is also one of the first reactions I have. I have learned many years ago never to physically act out on my anger. I know there isn&#39;t really anything wrong with me in my response to others anger. To me the fumbling around with anger by folks not accustomed to it is amusing. The PTSD kicks in when I am treated poorly or am forced into situations where I don&#39;t know how to respond.. When I don&#39;t know how to respond I defend.. Anger is the weapon of choice.<br />Unfortunately I must turn the weapon inward..eating myself alive and affecting the relationships with those I love.. To my shame I have total understanding of the expression &quot;you only hurt the ones you love.&quot; As my wife well knows.. a man can also deliver an absolutely brutal beating with just a few cruel words designed to strike at the most vulnerable spots. We hurt ourselves and our loved ones.. Those in the world who know we will turn our anger inward, and who are not such nice,persons themselves, will give us brutal beatings any time they want. Handily sending me down a path of self doubt and shame with a turn of an unfriendly card.

2017-03-11T09:35:58-05:00 2017-03-11T09:35:58-05:00 SPC David Whitney 2410879

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>When someone makes me angry that lets them live rent free in my head. Not a place I want to be. My first reaction is to count to ten and take several deep breaths. Then, if it seems reasonable I try to tell the person who made me angry that he/she did and explain why. If it is a situation where I see no compromise then I accept that we have differences in our opinions and accept that fact and go on with my life. I respect the right of any person to disagree with me. Sometimes I find the discovery of those differences is enlightening and have been known to change my attitudes or opinions based on the learning experience of working through my anger. I loose no control of my own life in these situations, nor do I attempt to change the life of others. Anger is a true emotion but my resolution and return to comfort rests in the way I attempt to handle it!

2017-03-11T10:06:39-05:00 2017-03-11T10:06:39-05:00 SPC Paul C. 2410981

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I am very interested in this subject. There are a lot of people out there who have PTSD as well as anger management issues, and they need guidance. This is a very good and informative post.

2017-03-11T10:54:03-05:00 2017-03-11T10:54:03-05:00 MAJ Norm Michaels 2411109

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>It helps to remember that there are consequences to rage. There is nothing wrong with anger, but rage..... <br /><br />Philippians 4:11 is what I have always called my &#39;life scripture&#39;.<br /><br />Philippians 4:11-13  Not that I am saying this to call attention to any need of mine; since, as far as I am concerned, &quot;I have learned to be content regardless of circumstances.&quot;  I know what it is to be in want, and I know what it is to have more than enough—in everything and in every way I have learned the secret of being full and being hungry, of having abundance and being in need.  &quot;I can do all things through him who gives me power.&quot;

2017-03-11T11:39:41-05:00 2017-03-11T11:39:41-05:00 SFC Dave Beran 2411206

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Get away from the problem, try to calm myself.

2017-03-11T12:17:38-05:00 2017-03-11T12:17:38-05:00 SPC Douglas Bolton 2411720

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I counted to ten. That didn&#39;t work. I counted to twenty, and that didn&#39;t work either. I finally walked away a found a very quiet place. I take my Bible with me, and find out often that God is saying, &quot;Shut up, and know that I am God.&quot; That usually gets the point across.

2017-03-11T16:59:41-05:00 2017-03-11T16:59:41-05:00 SP5 Robert Ruck 2412306

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Thank you for an intriguing article. Once I got into law enforcement I learned quickly to control emotions, especially anger. To lose control of your emotions was to lose control of the situation and that could become deadly very quickly. Also in order to treat everyone fairly you had to control how you felt about that person. During interviews it was important to convey different feelings at opportune times to obtain the results you were looking for.

2017-03-11T20:47:03-05:00 2017-03-11T20:47:03-05:00 SFC Don Vance 2413778

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Excellent article and advice! What I&#39;ve learned to do very simple.<br />1. I avoid traffic as much as possible so that I don&#39;t get road rage. <br />2. When I get angry at my wife I go into my home office and close the door. She understands that when that door is closed I&#39;m not to be bothered for any reason. <br />3. When someone threatens me I ask myself what is the worst thing they can do to me. Bend my dog tags? Stamp my meal card No Dessert? Send me to Korea? Send me to a Combat Zone? Since the army did all those things to me I guess that they can&#39;t really hurt me.

2017-03-12T13:29:16-04:00 2017-03-12T13:29:16-04:00 COL Charles Williams 2417990

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Breath deep, and take a moment... Private time makes it all go away... for a time...

2017-03-13T23:33:41-04:00 2017-03-13T23:33:41-04:00 MAJ Derrick J. 2418459

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Anger is a symptom of PTSD which manifests both physically and psychologically / emotionally. It is a flight or fight reaction to protect ones self from harm, real or perceived. It can become ingrained over time through event reinforcement and lack of treatment and awareness. Although all of this may appear rudimentary to some, there are details and a certain level of mythology that plagues the term. And yes, I&#39;m a duly licensed mental health professional.

2017-03-14T08:07:46-04:00 2017-03-14T08:07:46-04:00 SSgt Private RallyPoint Member 2424987

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>To be honest I am not sure I have figured out a full proof method of dealing with anger. I find solace at my church or when I am geeking away on my Linux computer, or when I hit the track and do 2 miles sometimes 3 which helps a lot. I will say that I like my brother Brackin also use Good old &quot;Rock-n-Roll&quot; Music to chill. sometimes a beer and good movie or a ball game, (depends upon who is playing might stress me further). but its among friends and the companionship makes it more amicable. Staying out of arguments is helpful, and knowing when to walk away is key. In conclusion praying everyday for the strength to be better than yesterday. It never gets easy its an ongoing battle for the mind.

2017-03-16T13:24:47-04:00 2017-03-16T13:24:47-04:00 Lynda Key 2442511

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Stress usually prompts anger for any situation. I have learned to slow my breathing down and not speak right away. If I need to I walk away. I try to see what the trigger was and if I can identify it I&#39;m able to deescalate easier. Sometimes even knowing the trigger doesn&#39;t help. That&#39;s when I go outside to feel the breeze, watch the Flora and fauna, and do some serious cloud watching. Saw some great dragons, whales and turtles the other day.

2017-03-23T13:14:37-04:00 2017-03-23T13:14:37-04:00 SFC Timothy N. Livengood 2479124

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Sharing our experiences with others and allowing people to know it is okay. Just take this BULL by the horns and accept nothing less than being a warrior over this. Anger is only a feeling, its what we do with it that can make it a bad experience. Seek the help...its there.

2017-04-07T14:26:44-04:00 2017-04-07T14:26:44-04:00 SFC Private RallyPoint Member 2485568

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Sometimes, when the anger comes, I have to use extreme self-control to not let it out. When I am at work (retail environment) and something trips my PTSD button, I may get angry, but I can&#39;t just go hide out in a room all alone until it passes. I have to deal with it, put a smile on my face and force the anger down. I cannot allow an emotion to take over my reasoning.

2017-04-10T23:08:25-04:00 2017-04-10T23:08:25-04:00 SP5 Robert Ruck 2489637

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Rarely do I get angry. The feeling I get though is very physical. I can feel adrenaline coursing through my body. At that point it is very difficult to control at least a verbal outburst. Deep, calming breaths will usually stem the tide. I try to do this before the adrenaline starts flying. Fortunately I am a very laid back person and anger is not one of my standard emotions.

2017-04-12T17:22:24-04:00 2017-04-12T17:22:24-04:00 MSgt Ronnie Kelly 2547126

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Leave to walk it off or jump on my bike and ride some lonsome road

2017-05-04T20:22:44-04:00 2017-05-04T20:22:44-04:00 AN Donald Miller 2653409

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Me I get it out, speak my mind then move on. I remember my first ten years after military, the nightmares. It all started when volunteering for something <br />The man in charge was one of the original 50 members of the Seals back when their existence was classified. We went into a room made of mirrors. I remember drinking something from a little glass, then a flash of light. That was when the nightmares started. What really helped me was talking to other Veterans. Would see things I had dreams about in the news weeks months even years later. Everyone I talked to where either recon or seals and they all said the same things. I carried a Top Secret clearance but for some reason I was put under investigation for a crypto level clearance. Why , who knows, but its in my records.

2017-06-15T22:16:49-04:00 2017-06-15T22:16:49-04:00 SGT Brent Scott 2707704

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>But this can also be a sign of PSTD, after many sessions with the mental health team it was was determined that the anger that many vets face isn&#39;t anger at all but a side effect of PSTD, but before you self diagnose that you have to look at the key factors. <br />Anger is much more intense for a lot of vets especially after you have been in a combat environment, I know for myself that before when I would get angry or mad it was just that, but after seeing combat and learning what fight or flight was about I did notice my anger was more of a rage, a rage that if you don&#39;t know how to control and calm yourself it will be your destruction. My brotha&#39; s heeed the signs of anger, don&#39;t let it control your life but control it, find something that you can vent with

2017-07-06T17:48:42-04:00 2017-07-06T17:48:42-04:00 SSG Private RallyPoint Member 2752517

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I went to Church , I called my Celebrate Recovery Sponsor. I personally believe anger can be just damaging or more so in some cases as drugs or alcohol . And I hit a big punishing bag a lot . Is the V . A . helping vets yet truly helping them .?.

2017-07-21T10:59:19-04:00 2017-07-21T10:59:19-04:00 LTC Private RallyPoint Member 2971307

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I am a big fan of Mindfulness and self talk -- but I need to be alone to do this stuff. <br /><br />I also like the manual labor answer! Good, hard, honest work will cure just about anything in my book.<br /><br />Cheers,<br /><br />Mike

2017-10-04T22:58:34-04:00 2017-10-04T22:58:34-04:00 1SG Henry McDonald 3511208

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>The most important thing is realizing when the anger is taking you over. Once I got good at realizing it was overtaking me managing it became easier. Don’t get me wrong managing anger is not easy. Stupid really sets me off. Stupid comments stupid questions and stupid actions. This will cause me to go into a full drill instructor mode quickly. I have been less to nice to some people including family members. My response was totally unnecessary. Everyone has a right to their opinions and so do I. That doesn’t make any of us right or wrong. I am much better at managing this now but once in awhile it still overtakes me. Something I will continue to work on

2018-04-04T09:47:17-04:00 2018-04-04T09:47:17-04:00 SGM Bill Frazer 3511250

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>So true- If I catch it in time, I will try to Zen out, but it is tough, especially driving.

2018-04-04T09:58:34-04:00 2018-04-04T09:58:34-04:00 1SG Cj Grisham 3517685

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I go outside, set up my shooting tree, and fire off a few hundred rounds at the targets.

2018-04-06T11:58:05-04:00 2018-04-06T11:58:05-04:00 LTC Stephen Kubiszewski 3518613

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Still practice yoga and mediation to establish a baseline.

2018-04-06T16:52:22-04:00 2018-04-06T16:52:22-04:00 CPL Michael Moore 4709955

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>First of all make sure the tactics match the mission. Think and think again anger for angers sake is wasted. We are professionals. What mission am I trying to achieve ? What level of response is necessary to achieve the goal? Unless there is a actual physical threat present than use what I call mental violence. This is where you disarm your opponent with logic deesscalate

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