How is it in a dual military relationship?

I can only speak from my experience, but once you're married the first thing you two will need to do is get each other in DEERS (you'll need your social security cards, birth certificates, ID's and marriage license) so visit your MPD office and do that. Next you should enroll into the MACP (Married Army Couples Program) this program will get you two considered for joint domicile assignments you can look up the regulation for more specifics in AR 614-200 Section IV. Each of you will need a 4187 to submit to your commands to enroll in the program, I'm sure if you ask people in your units they may be able to help you fill it out and point you in the right direction. I'm not exactly sure how the NG works with transferring units with dual military specifically so I would ask your COC to figure that out. Again I am only talking from my experience, my husband and I are both active duty, but I hope this helps!

PFC (Join to see), congratulations. When I met my wife, she was an officer in the ILARNG. When we got married I was stationed in Kansas and she drove back to Illinois for drill and AT. It was only about 3 hours away, so it wasn't bad. My next assignment was in Washington state though. At that point, she dropped paperwork for a transfer to the WAARNG. It took about a year to process and in the meantime she split her drill (she worked in Washington but was counted under Illinois). You will have to figure that out if you want to stay in. We moved to Washington DC after that and she split her drill again until she finally retired. It's a lot tougher to make it when you jump from state to state. You won't be counted as dual military unless you are active guard. It doesn't matter to the Regular Army. They won't even make considerations for your assignments. Your other half can ask, but it's highly unlikely they will even blink and the next thing you know, you're in Alaska or California. Then you have to chose between him and the ARNG...or figure it out like my wife and I did for a while. Good luck.