I just commissioned into the Navy Reserve as a chaplain. What advice can you give me to be the best chaplain possible?

LTJG Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 16:38:05 -0500

Response by SGT Mark Halmrast made Feb 13 at 2018 4:49 PM

SGT Mark Halmrast — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 16:49:18 -0500

Listen
Speak truth
Love

Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2018 4:56 PM

LCDR Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 16:56:18 -0500

CHAPS-Patience is a virtue. You're going to have everyone from kids embarking on the biggest adventure of their lives to "young old men" struggling to get through another year towards retirement. You're also going to be the only "therapist", "priest" and advocate for many across many beliefs, creeds and expectations. You'll hear every "Sea Lawyer" trick on the books...and a few that haven't been written yet. That cross on your collar sometimes means more than the rank on the other side and then again, you're still a serving officer...it's a line you'll have to walk, but one many have walked successfully before. Look for the guy circling the drain and don't let him go down. Never forget that your greatest weapon is faith...and your "Boss" is a great commander.

Best wishes and Best of Luck! (from one the CHAPS didn't let go down the drain)

Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2018 5:03 PM

LCDR Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 17:03:17 -0500

Don't be too buttoned-up. It's not particularly approachable. If you come across as another one of the guys, but one who can offer spiritual advice or life guidance when necessary, you'll have many more opportunities to help people. You can't do anything if they won't come see you.

Response by SGM Bill Frazer made Feb 13 at 2018 5:11 PM

SGM Bill Frazer — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 17:11:32 -0500

1. Keep an open mind. 2. Guide do not preach. 3. Talk from the heart. 4. Keep it to yourself. 5. Remember Christ did not judge folks.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2018 5:17 PM

LTC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 17:17:59 -0500

Be real, dedicated and personal. Get to know your soldiers. Talk to them about the real dilemmas of life and war. Don’t be that fake Chaplin doing shady things and talking about good stuff. Or that judgemental Chaplin that none of the soldiers want to be near or talk to. Model your faith in your walk more than your talk.

Response by SGT David A. 'Cowboy' Groth made Feb 13 at 2018 5:20 PM

SGT David A. 'Cowboy' Groth — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 17:20:38 -0500

Give the personnel your full attention when they come to you to seek help with a personal problem.

Response by Lt Col Scott Shuttleworth made Feb 13 at 2018 5:26 PM

Lt Col Scott Shuttleworth — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 17:26:56 -0500

Be out and about with your sailors and Marines. Don't expect them to come to you all the time...something about being seen walking into a chapel especially when your team members know you are struggling. You will be amazed how a ping pong game or a game of horseshoes or checkers or a run etc will open up someone to you. Conversations here will flow into others especially when they feel comfortable around you. People will have to trust you before they will come see you. As stated below, be honest speak truth and don't be judgemental...they will know if you are slinging bull to just try to get close to them. The chaplains that I have been closest to over the years have beenthe ones that I got to know because they were out and about in the unit...not behind a desk in the chapel

As a side note...cookies are always good!!!

Response by A1C Ian Williams made Feb 13 at 2018 5:46 PM

A1C Ian Williams — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 17:46:49 -0500

Congratulations LTJG Private RallyPoint Member

Response by SPC Margaret Higgins made Feb 13 at 2018 5:58 PM

SPC Margaret Higgins — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 17:58:21 -0500

LTJG Private RallyPoint Member: Along with reading (from) the Bible daily: There is SILENT UNITY- which publishes a pamphlet with both scriptures and prose. You can buy said pamphlet by phoning: 1-800-NOW-PRAY; and asking for Customer Service. You can also go online to unity.org and click on "SHOP"; to buy the pamphlet.

Response by LT Brad McInnis made Feb 13 at 2018 6:23 PM

LT Brad McInnis — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 18:23:29 -0500

I have relied on Chaplains a few times for myself and my sailors. What I found, was that the Chaplains that got out and tried to learn about the different jobs did much better than those that stayed in their quarters. Interest in the troops, breeds trust and willingness to ask for help. Many of the problems that I faced with sailors were generally not huge problems, they just didn't knwo how to ask for help. All the best!

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2018 6:31 PM

LTC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 18:31:16 -0500

LTJG Jeremy Carr - I gave this response a little bit of thought because IMV, a unit chaplain is a key asset to a commander, the commander's subordinate leaders, and the other members of the unit. I have had two chaplains report to me over the years, one when I was a tank battalion XO, the other when I was a tank battalion commander. Both were superb. Here is why:

(1) Their loyalty and commitment was to the soldiers (and families - don't forget the families!) of the battalion, not the chair-borne higher headquarters chaplain that was also in their rating chain or even to me.
(2) Though each had an office somewhere in the cloud (at a chapel somewhere), neither one spent any time there. From PT in the early morning to end-of-day formation, they were somewhere in the unit - motor pool, ranges, classrooms, COFT, even, God love 'em, the gas chamber.
(3) They didn't tell me what they were doing. I found out what they were doing from the company commanders, 1SGs, platoon leaders, and platoon sergeants ... and from some of the wives - beneficiaries of their efforts. These chaplains talked to leaders ... found out from them who had problems or issues ... sought those troops out and, in Facebook terminology, "Friended" them ... and their families as appropriate.
(4) They weren't out there to "sell God." They understood that their mission was to provide support to soldiers across denominations or with no denomination at all. Perhaps not so strangely, by not attempting to "sell God", they got a lot of sales, particularly among the leaders in the battalions.

All of the above translates into "find the sailors that have problems or issues and do what you can for them". DON'T wait for them to come to you - most won't. Further abbreviated, "seek and you shall find".

A short anecdote for what it is worth. One of the criteria that the division chaplain used in rating the chaplains, mine included, that fell within his rating chain was attendance at a quarterly "battalion chapel service." I figured this out just before our chaplain held his first one after I had taken command. I asked him how well they'd been attended in the past and he told me he was lucky to get 5-10 people show up. Too easy - I called in the battalion staff and company commanders and announced a quarterly OPD (officer professional development) on Sunday. Wives were welcome. A pot luck dish was encouraged, bachelor officers could bring chips and dip. While this was not a formal NCOPD, the CSM and his lovely wife were invited and attending. Other NCOs were similarly invited as were the soldiers of the battalion. We had a great turnout, a good service, and an enjoyable pot luck meal afterwards. I didn't have a single complaint from those required to attend ... and those required to attend were outnumbered by those that weren't required to attend. Teamwork. The chaplain had earned the unit's support.

Edited to add: I had to train both chaplains on military sermons. Rule one: Uplifting, positive, motivating Rule two: Have a clear beginning, middle, and end - and the shorter the better.

Response by SFC Christopher Taggart made Feb 13 at 2018 6:47 PM

SFC Christopher Taggart — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 18:47:35 -0500

Sir, as a former Army Chaplain's Assistant, I would say, always be available to the military personnel in your area of operation. Many times you'll be a chaplain to those that are not necessarily in the Navy, but from other branches of services and their families too. Congratulations, Sir.

Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2018 6:53 PM

LCDR Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 18:53:37 -0500

Welcome aboard!
Reserve USN Chaps can be...no, is a challenging Ministry. Because you’re rarely doing it. Most of your crew, and you, are doing the admin needed to stay ready to deploy. They don’t use a chaplain like active side does, they go home to their pastors most of the time. And not many churches want to lose their pastor for a year, and then repeat the process every few years.
That said, I enjoy it!
To your question. 1) keep up with your records! That includes training. Stay ready for deployment. That’s your job as a reservist. You can be the awesomest chaplain in the Reserves, and useless to your CO if you aren’t ready. 2) more to the actual chaplain side. Deckplate. Deckplate. DECKPLATE!!!! Now that’s hard on a drill weekend, but when on AT/ADT, do it. Sweep the decks, carry the luggage, play trivia nights, stand on the bridge and listen. If I knew how to do gigantic fonts, I would....deckplate Ministry.
Message me if you want more; I’ve been a navy reserve chaps for 7 years, always was a reservist (unlike many, I didn’t do active duty time then switch to Reserves) just got picked up on my first look for LCDR.
Welcome aboard!

Response by SFC Greg Bruorton made Feb 13 at 2018 7:19 PM

SFC Greg Bruorton — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 19:19:35 -0500

Live your faith, follow the Savior's example in all things, and bring compassion and love to those you serve. Extend your hand to those in need and do not hesitate to confront the adversary's influence on those you serve.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2018 7:51 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 19:51:17 -0500

There's a whole lot of ship load of things to get done, Sir.

Response by Maj John Bell made Feb 13 at 2018 7:51 PM

Maj John Bell — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 19:51:31 -0500

Bear with me Padre.

I am a USNA grad. Upon graduation I wanted to get married. If I was going to do it in the USNA chapel, which my bride wanted, we had to go through a 16 hours of marital counseling. I was a non-denominational theist. My fiancee was a non-denominational protestant Christian. We were assigned a Chaplain for that marital counseling. Once he found out I had not accepted Jesus as my personal Lord and savior, (the first 30 seconds) marital counseling ceased and a full-court press on my acceptance of Jesus as my personal savior began. The goal was not achieved in the time allotted. The Chaplain informed me that he would not sign off on our marriage, that we would not be getting married in the USNA Chapel and that he would submit my request to marry with a negative endorsement. In addition he told me that I was "an uncommitted parasite living off a Christian society." Let's just say the pastor wasn't real big on friendship evangelism.

I quick marched to the senior Chaplain's office and gave a short, terse, but respectful narrative of what I had just gone through. The senior Chaplain summoned our marital counselor and asked these questions:

Is your salary paid by a congregation or taxpayers, many of whom are not believers?
Is that Chapel bought and paid for by a congregation or taxpayers, many of whom are not believers?

The senior Chaplain then explained to our assigned pastor, that performance of his duties was independent of the faith of those he served, and that one of his duties was to perform marriage ceremonies. The assigned pastor stated quite clearly that he disagreed. The Senior Chaplain, pulled out a legal pad and in big block letters wrote "I RESIGN" made an x followed by a line. Told the pastor to sign and leave his uniform at the door. The marriage went off as scheduled, by the assigned pastor, who made no attempt beyond tight-lipped civility to conceal his contempt for the proceedings.

Every other Pastor, Priest, Rabbi, and Cleric I met in the service, without exception, was within a military context was a cheerful friend, a sage advisor, a tight-lipped confidant, and a blessing, regardless of my beliefs or theirs. Be one of those Chaplains.

Response by Maj Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2018 7:57 PM

Maj Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 19:57:12 -0500

I agree with all of the other responses. I believe that you should go to the sections that are assigned to you and get to know the those God has called you to serve. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. God has called us as chaplains, to represent Him before all service members. Have fun with your service members. If they go to the burger joint, go to the burger joint with them. If they enjoy sports, go catch a game with them, if they enjoy just hanging. Just hang with them. The important thing is to build relationships! Building relationships, builds TRUST! Relationships builds the bridge! Without strong, trust filled relationships, you will not be effective. In fact, there is a difference between being a Chaplain and being servicemen’s Chaplain. That will only happen, when people invite you in to their lives to experience good times as well as bad times with them. Then and only then, you will be viewed as a service member’s Chaplain!

Response by SFC Michael Hasbun made Feb 13 at 2018 8:02 PM

SFC Michael Hasbun — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 20:02:04 -0500

Be an advocate for your people, not a salesman for your theology.

Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 13 at 2018 10:23 PM

LCDR Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 22:23:56 -0500

You've already received some very good advice from many here. I'll add this. When I came into the Navy as a Chaplain they stressed the fact that we have to balance the collars. We wear our rank on one side and our chaplain insignia on the other. Hence the need to balance the fact that we are both a religious professional and a Naval officer. I always offer this one addendum to that advice. There are things you can do that will cause you to lose the right to wear the rank and be a Naval officer (PT failures, being out of weight standards, etc.) but you could still be a religious leader in the civilian world. You only lose one side of the collar. However, if you do something that causes you to lose the right to be a religious leader, whatever that might be based on your faith tradition, then you lose both sides of the collar. Stay true to your faith tradition first and learn to be a good Naval officer at the same time.

Response by SCPO Jason McLaughlin made Feb 14 at 2018 6:43 AM

SCPO Jason McLaughlin — Wed, 14 Feb 2018 06:43:39 -0500

I see by your picture that you are Christian. You are going to have to figure out how to connect to all of the Jewish, Muslim, Wiccan, Mormon, and Scientologist Sailors at your command even though one of your core tenants is that they are all going to hell.

Response by Sgt Wayne Wood made Feb 14 at 2018 10:17 AM

Sgt Wayne Wood — Wed, 14 Feb 2018 10:17:19 -0500

Learn how to shoot & learn as much advanced first aid as possible... you may wind up with Marines.

I’m serious...

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 14 at 2018 11:21 AM

CPT Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 14 Feb 2018 11:21:12 -0500

You will go to sailors and aid them with both religious and life support. I work for the Navy as a contractor and see Navy Chaplains all the time helping sailors with personal issues, that in turn help them accomlish the mission.

You will also be on some sort of staff, as I'm unfamilar with how Navy staff structure is different from the Army. you will be the subject matter expert on all things religious in nature and SM support programs to your commander.

Response by TSgt David Desmarais made Feb 14 at 2018 11:32 AM

TSgt David Desmarais — Wed, 14 Feb 2018 11:32:02 -0500

You've got to be real and relate to them and their situation, but you cant cower from the truth and they will need to hear it. Also know that not everyone will respond in the way you expect and as open as you are with them, it may take time for them to trust and open up to you. Good luck, prayers for you and those you serve.

Response by Lt Col Charlie Brown made Feb 14 at 2018 12:41 PM

Lt Col Charlie Brown — Wed, 14 Feb 2018 12:41:54 -0500

Listen with your heart as well as your mind and remember that you are a chaplain to all your troops not just those who share your faith group. I have wonderful memories of rabbis, priests and ministers who all helped me and/or my troops along the road.

Response by CPT Kurk Harris made Feb 14 at 2018 4:25 PM

CPT Kurk Harris — Wed, 14 Feb 2018 16:25:33 -0500

Remember you are there to care for the troops, counsel them, and assist them in meeting their spiritual needs. You're not there as their preacher. While you may perform those pastoral duties at times, it is not your primary role. Remember there are many service members who do not believe as you do. Don't push them to the side if they need your help in having their needs met. I have seen Chaplains who wouldn't do anything for someone whose religion was not the same as theirs, and morale/unit cohesion suffered. I also had some Chaplains who opened their doors and hearts to everyone. What I saw was the service members became comfortable with them and morale/unit cohesion improved as a result. Finally, don't proselytize. There are plenty of preachers to do that.

Response by Maj Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 22 at 2018 10:38 AM

Maj Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 22 Feb 2018 10:38:07 -0500

Get out in the field or on ships where the troops work and live.
Always be genuine and listen...listen.

Congratulations on your commissioning and wanting to serve as a chaplain.

Response by COL Jon Lopey made Feb 23 at 2018 10:36 PM

COL Jon Lopey — Fri, 23 Feb 2018 22:36:05 -0500

Chaplain: Congratulations! I served in the USMC and Army and we had some great chaplains. I suggest the following tips after my military career: Trust God and Pray a lot and don't compromise your faith; Love the men and women you serve - Spend time with them and experience their hardships; stay in great physical condition and "PT" with the Sailors and Marines you serve; Volunteer for a combat tour and be as close to the front lines as you can to encourage and support the Sailors and Marines you serve; If I was a Navy Chaplain, I'd do a tour in the FMF and serve Marines - Again, get as close to the front lines as you can and share deprivations and hardships with those you serve; Be humble, compassionate and remember all service members experience hardships and problems from time to time and so do their family members - SERVE THEM TOO - You can be a great advocate for the men and women you serve - Be with enlisted men and women as often as possible - Get to know them and selflessly serve them and you will be loved and respected. I hope this helps, Jon

Response by CPT Don Kemp made Feb 25 at 2018 5:27 PM

CPT Don Kemp — Sun, 25 Feb 2018 17:27:32 -0500

I was in the Army for 9 years active duty. During that time, I don’t recall a Chaplain being active with any unit in which I served, although I occasionally attended chapel services.
My Pastor when I accepted Christ was a retired naval chaplain, USNA graduate, and former body builder. He was an excellent listener, preacher, and administrator. (Google Alex Aronis to see him in his younger days - he is in his 80’s now.
I think you’ve gotten excellent advice here. Be visible. Be available. Don’t forget whose you are.

Response by Col Rob Sprague made Feb 28 at 2018 1:59 PM

Col Rob Sprague — Wed, 28 Feb 2018 13:59:41 -0500

LT: I'm a retired Marine, 24 years. LtCol Shuttleworth is correct. You will fail, or at least not be a very good Chaplain, if you conduct yourself like a church pastor. You are a missionary now, and must be in a relational ministry, going where they are, not expecting them to come to you. It's a ripe mission field, with many who need the love of the Lord but will never come to you for it. Build and earn trust. PT with them. Hike with them. Work with them. Get your hands dirty. Eat in the chow hall. Etc. And read two AMAZING books. A Table in the Presence - written by a Navy Chaplain who was with Marines in Iraq. Second one is Bringing Courage to the Courageous by CH (LTC) Don Williamson, a personal friend of mind. If I can be a resource feel free to email me [login to see] .

Response by Cpl Patrick Grove made Mar 9 at 2018 10:15 AM

Cpl Patrick Grove — Fri, 09 Mar 2018 10:15:58 -0500

Be yourself chaplain. Talk to your Marines and Sailors as a friend and confidant. Have a beer with them occasionally.

Response by 1LT Luke Flowers made Mar 19 at 2018 5:45 PM

1LT Luke Flowers — Mon, 19 Mar 2018 17:45:24 -0400

Trust Jesus

Response by COL Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 19 at 2018 7:06 PM

COL Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 19 Mar 2018 19:06:25 -0400

Pray!

Response by SSG Lloyd Becker BSBA-HCM, MBA made Mar 20 at 2018 12:10 AM

SSG Lloyd Becker BSBA-HCM, MBA — Tue, 20 Mar 2018 00:10:04 -0400

Everyday, even on Sunday, Bless your ship, its equipment and all the personnel who the operate the Ship and those who keep the Ship safe. Keep yourself available. Holy Joes are a commodity, especially in combat.

Response by Ron Ayotte made Mar 25 at 2018 10:51 AM

Ron Ayotte — Sun, 25 Mar 2018 10:51:07 -0400

Listen to members of all faiths... and keep an open mind!

Response by CAPT Robert Rivera made Mar 31 at 2018 8:34 AM

CAPT Robert Rivera — Sat, 31 Mar 2018 08:34:36 -0400

Be aware that there are those that are seeking. While I was a junior officer, I was unaware, but desperately seeking the Lord, and the Salvation that Jesus brings. I served with 2 chaplains that were assigned to my ship. Although they were my friend, not ONCE did they ever share the gospel with me. I won't share my testimony here, but I will tell you LTJG Carr, that you owe it to those to whom you minister, you must be ever open to the Holy Spirit's prompting that the service member or family member you are with needs to hear the Gospel. I don't know your denomination, but eternity for this person may hinge on your telling them about the Good News! I understand the professional dangers in our politically charged military today of doing that, but as a Pastor, I know you're aware that you answer to a far higher authority. May your ministry be blessed. May you be a beacon in what can sometimes be a very dark world. Blessings, pastor.

Response by MGySgt Terry Richards made Mar 31 at 2018 1:33 PM

MGySgt Terry Richards — Sat, 31 Mar 2018 13:33:53 -0400

Dear Sir first congratulations on your commission. I will give you he same advice given to my pastor, preach the birth death and resection of our Lord Jesus Christ. Teach love and forgiveness with compassion just like the beattitudes do. Always finish your prayers in the name of Jesus and for God's sake use the King James version. Have a blessed life

Response by COL Thomas Weiss made Apr 9 at 2018 12:32 PM

COL Thomas Weiss — Mon, 09 Apr 2018 12:32:31 -0400

I was ordained after I retired and always respected chaplains. The advice given by the others in this discussion is spot on! Listen to your sailors, they will tell you what they are thing if you give them the chance. THe foxhole (I do not know the Navy equivalent!) is always the best place to listen because that is where they live. It is where they fear the most! It is where service becomes reality! Be there!

Response by PO2 Tom Hauser made Apr 12 at 2018 3:34 PM

PO2 Tom Hauser — Thu, 12 Apr 2018 15:34:08 -0400

My advice is stay near the action and show up at the forward deployed units -visit the hospitals especially when casualties are coming in - check on your personnel that are running into disciplinary problems - check on the personnel that have Red Cross type family emergencies - if you have shore duty be available to the spouses and kids. Be proactive and a good witness to Christ. Do not compromise your faith in Jesus Christ by being politically correct when it comes to Islam or the Social Justice Warriors or the PC Nazis or the Secular Liberals that want Jesus Christ, the Holy Bible, prayer and the Christian faith removed from the military. Fuck those assholes and that includes some in the military! If someone asks you for a prayer for good weather then be that guy - God has a sense of humor. Most of all you will always be watched by those who are struggling with issues of faith - your walk and how you perform your duty will not go unnoticed - and you will always be a blessing to those who have put their trust in Jesus Christ. Identify some helpers and put them to work - they will appreciate the challenge and opportunity to exercise their faith and team work multiplies your outreach. When in the shit wear a helmet and vest and carry a weapon - some of the most outstanding signers of the American Revolution were ordained ministers. God Bless You!

Response by Cpl Gregory Romeu made Apr 15 at 2018 9:31 AM

Cpl Gregory Romeu — Sun, 15 Apr 2018 09:31:45 -0400

BEST ADVICE? Believe in God!

Response by SFC David Pope, MBA made Apr 18 at 2018 4:12 PM

SFC David Pope, MBA — Wed, 18 Apr 2018 16:12:32 -0400

Listen!

Response by Cpl Aaron Littleton made Apr 19 at 2018 11:51 AM

Cpl Aaron Littleton — Thu, 19 Apr 2018 11:51:38 -0400

Make yourself available. Stateside is hard to get interaction with the troops. Once deployed, they tend to open up more. Work close with the Lay Leaders. Try to get in on some PT and other unit activities. Learn a little about each MOS so there is some common topics to discuss.

Response by Capt Michael Halpin made Apr 23 at 2018 6:55 AM

Capt Michael Halpin — Mon, 23 Apr 2018 06:55:52 -0400

A Colonel once told me that the best Chaplains were those that would into the bars with the troops and listen to them there, where they were letting their tru feelings out.

Response by PO3 Jim Fierek made May 1 at 2018 8:49 PM

PO3 Jim Fierek — Tue, 01 May 2018 20:49:25 -0400

As a Navy Chaplin, my spin is that You are Not Only an Officer...you are Enlisted e-1 may be e-3, plus you are Also like a LDO or Chief Warrant Officer (half chief / half O3). I would recommend spending some time on Subs with A-Div., then maybe on Carrier with the Rescue Choppers, try to get your Dolphins and maybe your Air Crew Wings...do this in Two years.
You will have the respect of God and Everyone else.

Response by SFC Jim Ruether made May 2 at 2018 7:00 PM

SFC Jim Ruether — Wed, 02 May 2018 19:00:27 -0400

Pray a lot Chaplain because now that you are in it gets harder.........

Response by CH (LTC) Robert Leroe made May 3 at 2018 7:38 AM

CH (LTC) Robert Leroe — Thu, 03 May 2018 07:38:32 -0400

Email me and I'll send you my e-book on the chaplaincy. [login to see]

Response by A1C Charles Hagen made May 6 at 2018 2:31 PM

A1C Charles Hagen — Sun, 06 May 2018 14:31:43 -0400

Talk with them not at them. Walk in their shoes. Every chance you can walk in their shoes.

Response by Frank Leverett made May 8 at 2018 6:46 PM

Frank Leverett — Tue, 08 May 2018 18:46:19 -0400

Not having served in the Military, just on a Fire Department, LtC Shuttleworth is still spot on. Be available to your Sailors, be honest, and make sure above all else, they know they can come to you for/with anything. And as the LtC said, cookies are always good.

Response by SFC Ralph E Kelley made May 10 at 2018 4:49 PM

SFC Ralph E Kelley — Thu, 10 May 2018 16:49:22 -0400

Be out with the units and talk to those that are deployed.
When I was in Europe in the 80s Army I saw the Catholic Chaplains would go to the field to conduct services.
If we were out - so were they. The Protestant Chaplains never deployed, never counseled soldiers with problems and only wanted donations.
My platoon was roughly 50% Protestant 20% Catholic and 30% who knows.
After the end of a 3 year tour (Cohort Unit) the percentages were 25% Protestant, 70% Catholic and 5% who knows – with the increase in Catholics coming from the other two percentages.
BUT don’t do it so you can get converts – do it to help the soldiers – they can use all the help you can give them.

Response by SPC Daniel Rankin made May 13 at 2018 11:05 PM

SPC Daniel Rankin — Sun, 13 May 2018 23:05:30 -0400

Listen with your heart as well with your ears. When they come to you with their problems it is not always spiritual. And do not push your own personal believes onto them.

Response by SGT George Duncan made May 15 at 2018 1:20 PM

SGT George Duncan — Tue, 15 May 2018 13:20:31 -0400

really listen. really care

Response by SSG Richard Loney made May 15 at 2018 7:03 PM

SSG Richard Loney — Tue, 15 May 2018 19:03:44 -0400

I especially like the "get out and about advice". The best Chaplains that I remember also masked what particular Christian or whatever denomination they were from the worst was the one in Basic Training who made it abundantly clear what Christian denomination he was from; arranged for Company Commanders to march us to both services so he could have the highest attendance rating in the US Army and arranged punishment for the Jews and Roman Catholics who went elsewhere to their on services.

Response by SFC Christopher Taggart made May 15 at 2018 7:13 PM

SFC Christopher Taggart — Tue, 15 May 2018 19:13:51 -0400

Chaplain, I might have already commented on your question. As a former Army Chaplain's Assistant of twenty-five years, I say listen you those that you minister to, listen to your command and your NCOs in your unit and of course remember who put in your position...God!.

Response by A1C John Weiss made May 16 at 2018 1:31 PM

A1C John Weiss — Wed, 16 May 2018 13:31:53 -0400

Sky Pilot, be true to yourself that is the first thing. Give to the troops who you truly are not what you think they want. And remember even the young troop who's having problems is more deserving of your time and ministry than than the self confident Officer leading the troops. Just my two cents as an

Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made May 24 at 2018 11:14 AM

LCDR Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 24 May 2018 11:14:07 -0400

Best advice I can give you is get on the small ships, cruisers and destroyers if you can to be there for the sailors. Especially during deployment. This is something the Navy use to do in the past but for some reason, we’ve stopped doing this.

Response by SFC Antonio Nieto made May 26 at 2018 2:17 PM

SFC Antonio Nieto — Sat, 26 May 2018 14:17:10 -0400

Listening you should do

Response by Sgt S.P. Woodke made May 31 at 2018 8:03 AM

Sgt S.P. Woodke — Thu, 31 May 2018 08:03:31 -0400

Lose any and all affiliation to any brand/sect of belief that you follow - and - let HE that is within you and Not of this World guide you aka the Great I AM...

Not every body is where you are spiritual knowledge ready to hear and pushing a certain brand of religion will only make you less effective. Keep it general and basic for the Masses - let them KNOW that "G" has their back.

Response by PO1 Don Gulizia made May 31 at 2018 10:09 AM

PO1 Don Gulizia — Thu, 31 May 2018 10:09:26 -0400

As the “shepherd,” while attending to your “flock,” don’t neglect your “sheep dogs.” What is interesting is that during my 20 year career, one of the most disgruntled ratings I encountered was RP (Religious Program Specialist…for our non-Navy brothers and sisters). I don’t know all of the reasons why they were so unhappy. I’m sure each situation was due to different causes, but it was surprising. I totally understand why an undesignated seaman working in Deck would be disgruntled, but shocked at the number of RP personnel. Perhaps it’s because other officers only have to worry about and care for one division or one department, but chaplains care for the whole crew. That doesn’t mean coddle or be overly friendly with your enlisted staff, but don’t neglect their well-being and professional development, either. Good luck.

Response by Capt Ralph Thomas Eiff made Jun 6 at 2018 6:37 PM

Capt Ralph Thomas Eiff — Wed, 06 Jun 2018 18:37:51 -0400

What a great, great honor. Chaplains are the glue for the military...of all denominations. My high school chaplain, back in the fifties, had served with the Marines in Korea, and was hard as nails, but as fair as anyone can be.

Response by SN Kristi Kalis made Jun 6 at 2018 6:47 PM

SN Kristi Kalis — Wed, 06 Jun 2018 18:47:54 -0400

Remember that everyone volunteered to be there. Whatever your personal convictions, you cannot discriminate based on race, religion, sexual orientation or gender. Humor is the best way to reach the masses. A funny Chaplain would reach me quicker than a dry one. That's not to say everything is humorous. Jokes do go a long way though.

Response by CDR Bob Lange made Jun 10 at 2018 10:56 AM

CDR Bob Lange — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 10:56:20 -0400

You are not there to"save" them, you are there to serve them. Visibly live so that they WANT to be like you. Preach the Gospel at all times, ut only use words when necessary.

Response by MG Scott West made Jun 10 at 2018 6:35 PM

MG Scott West — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 18:35:11 -0400

There is a huge difference between a Preacher and a Chaplain. A good Chaplain senses when NOT to preach. Sometimes the troops need a sounding board.

Response by SGT Wesley Hammer made Jun 15 at 2018 7:43 AM

SGT Wesley Hammer — Fri, 15 Jun 2018 07:43:34 -0400

I would not follow the ways of the catholic Priests and avoid any physical contact with alter boys...

Response by SPC Robert Coventry made Jun 15 at 2018 2:04 PM

SPC Robert Coventry — Fri, 15 Jun 2018 14:04:57 -0400

Cool picture...

Response by CW2 Jalistair B made Jun 17 at 2018 2:08 AM

CW2 Jalistair B — Sun, 17 Jun 2018 02:08:36 -0400

Many have given you some good advice here on how to work with people. However, the most important advise seems to be omitted, allow me to bring this up now. Ezekiel 33 is a passage every preacher should take to heart. God has called on many to serve him as leaders of his flock. Your first allegiance is to God, not to the military. You will be called upon by God to preach the hard issues that todays world wants to change. Issues such as homosexuality that the military now embraces, adultery, which has always been common in the military, drunkenness, idolatry, and most important that all men are sinners and the ONLY way to God is through his son Jesus Christ.

You have accepted a commission by God to be a watchman. As such you will be judged more critically by God on how you respond to the adversity you will face in the military. Will you stand on his scripture as the inerrant word of God or will you bend the word of God to the desires of man? Jeremiah 5:31 says that the prophets (insert preacher or chaplain here) prophesy falsely and that the people love to hear false preaching that adheres to their way of life. However, if you give man what mankind wants instead of what God says they need, you are the one who must face God under the the extra scrutiny of Ezekiel 33.

I wish you the best in your career. I also hope that along the lines of Joshua 24:14-15 you choose to serve God. This is a choice you must make each and every day. Do not be afraid to ask others, to include those whom you serve, to pray for you that you may serve God.

Response by LTC Carlos Llarena made Jun 19 at 2018 1:44 PM

LTC Carlos Llarena — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 13:44:47 -0400

One of the best chaplains I ever worked with (and most were really good) was first, an infantry 1LT fighting in Korea and then went to divinity school. The beauty of this guy was that he fully understood the soldier and did his chaplaincy work through the eyes of the soldier, the officer, and his God. He called me one day and mused as to why I hadn't cour martialed someone who desperately needed it. He was there for the troops. He marched with them, he joined them in foxholes, in effect, he suffered with them and thus, soldiers opened up to their chaplain buddy. When he advised, they listened.

I contend that a chaplain is a combat multiplier. soldiers feel God through their chaplain. He was a priest, a pastor, and a rabbi depending on whom he was dealing with. He could pray Kaddish with a Jewish soldier, Praise Hallelujah with the Protestant soldier, and as a priest administered sacraments and said mass. If you are there with them, suffer through their soldierly burdens with them, and remember that you have a command purpose to assist in achieving the organization's mission, you will do just fine. Congratulation, and rather than say good luck, I'll simply say God bless you.

Response by SGT Linda Moss made Jun 19 at 2018 7:40 PM

SGT Linda Moss — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 19:40:57 -0400

Learn about others believe systems. Do not push your own brand of religion. Be open to many different ways people worship. Be aware that some time all some one needs is a listening heart . Get out around them and let them know you are there to help not judge. "Serving God and Country: United States Military Chaplains in World War II ". Learn from them and follow their ways. this site looks like it may have books that would help. ://thechaplainkit.com/library-2/books-by-chaplains/

Response by CPO David Sharp made Jun 20 at 2018 6:22 AM

CPO David Sharp — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 06:22:13 -0400

Sir the best advice I can give as a BUC is to give proper advice to your junior Sailors on proper behavior. This seems to be a problem today and any Senior leadership Personnel should be aware and responsible.

Response by MSgt Stephanie McCalister made Jun 23 at 2018 12:42 PM

MSgt Stephanie McCalister — Sat, 23 Jun 2018 12:42:43 -0400

First off, thank you Chaplain, yours is not an easy task.
Please all, bear with my sharing here, there is a purpose.

Chaplain LTJG Private RallyPoint Member I cannot offer you advice on what your tasking might or should be, all I can offer, is my bearing witness as a woman of faith, and as a veteran.

My father started in the USAF as Air Police, also a Southern Baptist ... during the Vietnam era, he and my mother were introduced to, and subsequently converted, to the Seventh Day Adventist faith, and as such, my dad felt strongly and became a conscientious objector. He went through many trials during his remaining tenure in the service, but held fast to his beliefs. He tried to transfer to become a medic so he could continue to serve, but it was not to be. So, after 12 years of military service, he was Honorably Discharged as a Conscientious Objector, and used his GI bill to earn his Theology degree, and became an Adventist pastor.

He served many communities well, here in the US & abroad, was always out visiting his flock, participating in community activities as long as they didn't conflict with his beliefs and the Sabbath, and was also active in the American Legion. He would visit retirement & nursing homes, VA hospital wards, and was often invited to guest minister to flocks of other denominations. He also did mission work.

He was glad he had served in our military, as it was through his military service he met my wonderful mother. He was equally invested in his life as a pastor, a shepherd, a teacher and of course, husband and father.

He later tried to return to military service as a chaplain, but at that time, cold war era, he'd already passed the age cap for signing up. He instead was called back to mission work. The things I remember most about my father, both from being a 'military brat' & as a 'preacher's kid' ... was his strength in his beliefs, his dedication to his mission, his love of his family, and most of all, his Faith & Belief in the Lord ...

Here's where I'm going with this ...

My father became afflicted with Alzheimers-like Dementia, and after a time, was forced to medically retire from his ministry. Eventually his failing health had him in hospital care for a critical ailment, that had him completely unaware of where he was, and who was around him. For 10 days he spoke, almost non-stop, night and day ... but not ranting and raving .. his faith, was so very strong, that even in the depths of his subconscious and despite tremendous pain, he spoke out, he prayed, he taught, he ministered, he counseled ... family members of other patients started pausing outside his door, some openly weeping to hear such devoutness from a critically ill patient, medical staff would pause during a prayer, all were astounded at how connected to his beliefs, that he could minister in such a fashion, while not conscious of where he was or what was happening to him.

A few years later, upon his passing, as sad as it was to say goodbye until the day comes we are together once more, the joy of recalling how strong my father was, in his service to his country, and later in his many years of devout service under the Lord, continues to help me with my faith, and also during my time of service, his example was a guiding light.

I offer a prayer, that you find that balance of your faith and your service, and the strength to hold fast and be a beacon. I offer my testimony as my father's daughter, in the hopes that it may in some small way be of help to you. Most of all, I pray that your faith, be strong and pure ... that if a day comes where you find yourself in the darkest depths of pain and despair ... that your voice from within ... is guided by your Lord and beliefs, that all those around, may see the brightness of that light, and hear the words, the devotion, the love you have for your flock and your Lord. That any conflicts between your faith and secular, your trust in the Lord that you are not walking alone, will sustain you.

I thank you for your patience, and wish you well, with Fair Winds and Calm Seas.

Response by SCPO Kenneth Richards made Jun 23 at 2018 11:10 PM

SCPO Kenneth Richards — Sat, 23 Jun 2018 23:10:15 -0400

As someone else stated, don't preach. They will let you know if they need more "divine" advice. You'll be working with service members of all faiths and beliefs and some with no specific beliefs.

As an Independent Duty HM on a DD, I made frequent use of my visiting CHAPS or "Sky Pilot" I had sailors that were in need of more counseling assistance than I was able to provide, but either didn't need or didn't want a referral to Mental Health Professionals. CHAPS was a good way to get them that counseling without having to worry that it would become part of their record if they just wanted some guidance or advice. He was able to provide more informal advice to them. Get to know your medical staff. You will be working closely with them, and can often share ideas and advice for those service members that are having a rough time.

Wander the spaces and just talk. They will most likely not come to you, but will more than happy to chat or ask questions if they see you out and about. It shouldn't be a surprise seeing you in their spaces, from the Bridge to the Engineering spaces. Get to know their environment, and see how they live and work. They will recognize you, trust you and be more willing to talk with you. Get involved and be part of the crew. Go to events, say hi, ask them about their day.

Last, I'll put in a plug for the Chief's Mess. Get to know them. They work closely with their sailors and can help introduce you to them, and their work. They will know who might need some extra help and some of the history. You are already part of the Wardroom but will have to seek out the CMC/Chief's Mess and make sure they know you are available to them also. They can be one of your best resources, use them.

Ken Richards
HMCS(ret)/USN

Response by MCPO Speed Dillon made Jun 30 at 2018 1:21 PM

MCPO Speed Dillon — Sat, 30 Jun 2018 13:21:44 -0400

Stay in 'Touch' with the Enlisted Men, by that I mean, do PT with them, if your in 'The Field' eat with them, keep yourself visible to everyone. A very good mentor is Capt. JOHN CREWS U.S.N.(CHC) Ret.

Response by SCPO Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 30 at 2018 7:21 PM

SCPO Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 30 Jun 2018 19:21:02 -0400

Listen to your CO, XO, and RP.

Response by LTC Wayne Dandridge made Jul 2 at 2018 3:11 PM

LTC Wayne Dandridge — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 15:11:39 -0400

Talk to every Sailor, Marine, Soldier in your unit. Ask them what problems they are having and make sure the ones with serious anxiety and other mental health problems get referred to and seen by Mental Health and you. Many military men and women will not ask to see you and mental health, even when they need to. Best of luck. Sincerely, W. Larry Dandridge

Response by Rev. Fr. Joel Osborne made Jul 3 at 2018 9:00 PM

Rev. Fr. Joel Osborne — Tue, 03 Jul 2018 21:00:35 -0400

I served 6 years as a Chaplain (Cpt) with the SC Guard. The greatest advise is the same I use in KAIROS Ministry..."Lissten Listen Love Love".

Response by PFC John Coble Jr made Jul 5 at 2018 4:33 AM

PFC John Coble Jr — Thu, 05 Jul 2018 04:33:26 -0400

Be observant look for the warning signs care about these men and women if you see somebody having a bad day hope and talk to him tell me a joke ask them how their family is. In the military when you need Aid and comfort you called one of two people a medic or Chaplin both will save your life a bring you mercy comfort and aid. Never be affaired to step in and stop personnel from being pushed over their limits. Be passionate be strong be understanding and forgiving but most of all have the courage to do what is right no matter how hard it is and what the personal price is.

Response by CPO Kenneth Laughman made Jul 11 at 2018 2:05 AM

CPO Kenneth Laughman — Wed, 11 Jul 2018 02:05:42 -0400

Chaps, remember you are ministering to EVERYONE, not just the Catholics, Baptists, etc. Listen to them and go with your heart when giving advice. Military Chaplains are a breed apart from other people in the Ministry, I remember two from Boot Camp, and that was back in 84.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 13 at 2018 12:42 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 12:42:08 -0400

Relationships as you can see from previous postings are the most important thing. The vertical relationships you build with people around you will build towards the conversation about the horizontal relationship with God by your sailors and Marines. After all, you're responsible for getting souls into Heaven, but that will only happen through genuine interaction with your troops.

Know your behavioral "red flags" as they indicate that a troop may be dealing with overwhelming stress that could lead them down a destructive path. You have a unique opportunity to affect the lives of many in a positive way. Remember your responsibilities to both the command and "the guys." Have a clear understanding both roles.

Here are a couple of resources for you.
The New Christian Counselor: A Fresh Biblical and Transformational Approach, 2011. Ronald Hawkins & Tim Clinton. ISBN: 978-0-7369-4354-3
Psychology, Theology, and Spirituality in Christian Counseling, 2011 Mark McMinn. ISBN: 978-0-8423-5252-9

Best wishes,
Les

Response by Alexander Frost made Jul 13 at 2018 6:30 PM

Alexander Frost — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 18:30:38 -0400

You are now a chaplain. Talk less think louder.

Response by SGT Mark Rhodes made Jul 15 at 2018 6:25 PM

SGT Mark Rhodes — Sun, 15 Jul 2018 18:25:52 -0400

Be a Chaplain that is out helping his people and not the one out at the bar drinking on Saturday night and preaching on Sunday morning. This really happened and probably still does.

Response by LCDR Michele Bird made Jul 26 at 2018 10:20 PM

LCDR Michele Bird — Thu, 26 Jul 2018 22:20:08 -0400

Join the unit sports teams, the base or unit runs, work out at the gym. Know that every minute someone is watching you.

Response by CPL Robert Michaels made Jul 30 at 2018 3:10 PM

CPL Robert Michaels — Mon, 30 Jul 2018 15:10:01 -0400

Listen. Remember it is a ministry of presence. Go to their events. When at Quantico with the FBI, I was asked by a few folks if I'd come hang with them, so I went to the "Grove" every night, spending time with the folks who were partying. When Saturday rolled around, I invited them to hang with me Sunday at Chapel. We filled the place.

Response by SSgt Douglas King made Jul 31 at 2018 8:06 PM

SSgt Douglas King — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 20:06:45 -0400

Always inter-act with the troops. Keep a open mind, each person is different and has and needs different guidance needs.

Response by PV2 Terry Hughes made Aug 4 at 2018 11:23 AM

PV2 Terry Hughes — Sat, 04 Aug 2018 11:23:53 -0400

Lt. Col Shuttleworth offered advice that should be agreed and acted upon by all clergy. Sound advice sir!

Response by SSgt Michael D. made Aug 5 at 2018 5:45 PM

SSgt Michael D. — Sun, 05 Aug 2018 17:45:53 -0400

I have been gone from military service for 35+ years, and I didn't feel I fit in with most of my fellow veterans back in the '70's. Since then, I have found myself being active with various non-Christian religious groups since I served. I ask that you keep an open mind to those who follow a different path in their beliefs, help them achieve what they feel should be the way for them to worship. They will respect you for doing this.
BTW, I just was part of the Druid (ADF) ritual team today for Lughnasadh at the Dublin (OH) Irish Festival. On Sunday morning they host seven religious services - three Catholic, three Protestant and 1 Druid service. Back in the '70's this would have never occurred!
Blessings to you in your chaplaincy, May you be guided and fulfilled in this role.

Response by SPC Walter A Murray Jr made Aug 8 at 2018 8:03 PM

SPC Walter A Murray Jr — Wed, 08 Aug 2018 20:03:38 -0400

Christian or Islam
Judge Murray

Response by COL Rich McKinney made Aug 20 at 2018 12:40 PM

COL Rich McKinney — Mon, 20 Aug 2018 12:40:42 -0400

Understand there is a difference between being a Minister/Priest/Rabbi and being a Chaplain. A chaplain's job is to see to the spiritual needs of ALL of your charges, not just the ones in your religion. I had a chaplain in my Army Reserve unit once. His "day job" was as a prison chaplain. Initially he had a hard time getting his head around that when a wiccian asked for his help with their pagan rituals.

Response by CH (MAJ) Private RallyPoint Member made Aug 29 at 2018 12:16 PM

CH (MAJ) Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 29 Aug 2018 12:16:06 -0400

There's already some good advice here. Therefore, here's some advice from an Army National Guard chaplain: Be connected with peers within and outside the service....in and outside your denomination or faith group.

There will be a time you need someone for advice, time for someone to lean on...and just a time for simple camaraderie without any expectations. When you get to be constantly serving our service people and families you need to fill up your space with what helps you. It's more than just finding "balance"...but perhaps 'ballast' in that which helps keep you healthy while serving our brethren... for God and Country.

Response by LTJG Norman Lampton made Aug 29 at 2018 1:22 PM

LTJG Norman Lampton — Wed, 29 Aug 2018 13:22:16 -0400

Our chaplains on the USS Midway had absolutely no idea what the different rates did to keep the ship afloat and in combat readiness. Learn about the Navy.

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Aug 31 at 2018 3:02 PM

MAJ Ken Landgren — Fri, 31 Aug 2018 15:02:09 -0400

Listen to the soldiers, give them advice and courage, provide overhead cover by helping them use the appropriate agencies if needed.

Response by CPT Robert Russo made Sep 3 at 2018 3:00 PM

CPT Robert Russo — Mon, 03 Sep 2018 15:00:41 -0400

Not sure what the Navy equivalents are but an Army Chaplain I knew and had great respect for was Airborne and Ranger qualified. Those wings and tab opened many doors.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 7 at 2018 4:31 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 07 Sep 2018 16:31:44 -0400

Sir, I have a great friend of mine who was my Chaplain when I first came in. He was roundly loved and respected because he did everything we did. He did hide behind his cross to keep from going out to the field and staying there. If we humped 12 miles with a 45 lbs pack, so did he. He was just as much a Paratrooper as he was a Chaplin, and still is today. We all knew he loved and cared for us because he is our brother and a paratrooper. He went to every tough school there was ( airborne, Jump Master, Air Assault) If you want advise, look him up LTC Erich Spicer, USA he will set you in the right direction.

Response by SFC Danny McDaniel made Sep 10 at 2018 8:13 PM

SFC Danny McDaniel — Mon, 10 Sep 2018 20:13:32 -0400

Be there for the men/women. Don’t hide in your chapel.

Response by SPC Edwin Savoy made Sep 11 at 2018 7:57 AM

SPC Edwin Savoy — Tue, 11 Sep 2018 07:57:56 -0400

The most difficult you can try to master is in the question,"What would Jesus do?" All you can do is what the Master would do, as much as you can possibly do, and teach His word! God Bless you for answering His call! I will keep you in my prayers! SPC 4 Edwin Savoy US Army / PFC Edwin Savoy USMC Honorably Discharged from both.

Response by CPL Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 18 at 2018 9:01 PM

CPL Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 21:01:15 -0400

Not everybody follows the same deity not everyone follows a deity. Know the soldiers beliefs and please dont be like every chaplain ive ever talked to and say dumb stuff like, "Well usually I turn to god in times of need. My faith is my guide. I trust he has a plan." Beyond that like I said the biggest thing is know your personnel

Response by MSgt Lowell Skelton made Sep 24 at 2018 3:46 AM

MSgt Lowell Skelton — Mon, 24 Sep 2018 03:46:03 -0400

Research former chaplain Gordon Klingenschmitt. Then, do NOT be like him.

Response by CW5 Donna Smith made Sep 26 at 2018 12:32 PM

CW5 Donna Smith — Wed, 26 Sep 2018 12:32:34 -0400

Be your authentic self. Walk your talk. Be the radiant light that you have been chosen to be. If you come across with a façade, you cannot earn trust. Be the compassionate, passionate, spiritual guide and teacher. The rest will follow.

Response by CAPT Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 7 at 2018 7:44 AM

CAPT Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 07 Oct 2018 07:44:02 -0400

There is a lot of good advice here about flock how to work with folks and a lot of what not to do.

Just for perspective, I have been in for 35 years and commanded an LPD (finest crew in the Navy by the way). I think for a number of reasons the military draws, and I will use our chaplain's words from my XO tour, a lot of walking wounded. You will certainly deal with Sailors and Marines wounded through the course of action or otherwise. But there will be a lot of folks who need the structure, regimen and camaraderie of the military. When the vision of the military they joined doesn't match reality (and it rarely does) those wounds can open again. I have seen and taken a lot of people to Captain's Mast (the absolute worst part of the job) who could have been helped out had we helped to recognize early on what those wounds were. That is where you come in. Certainly there is no expectation of you having insight into everyone's being, but as mentioned a number of times in this post if you are out and about, you can help them heal their own wounds.

I would also add that the chaplains we had during my XO and CO tours were amazing. Both helped me personally better understand what our Sailors were going through. Both served as a sounding board for me as I worked over what to do for or with Sailors in many cases. As a Buddhist, they were not there necessarily for my spiritual needs, but they were fantastic counsel.

Response by PO2 Robert Aitchison made Oct 16 at 2018 11:40 AM

PO2 Robert Aitchison — Tue, 16 Oct 2018 11:40:51 -0400

I missed this conversation the first time around, I guess this is why RP brings back old discussions from time to time :)

In any case, as a non-Christian (Jewish) person of faith I can't stress enough how important it is to always remember that not everyone you will be helping will be Christian. This is especially important if you're speaking at a memorial service for multiple people who's faith is unknown to you.

I've heard some chaplains give talks that were very heavy on references to Jesus when memorializing a group of people where it's relatively certain that some were not Christian. One I heard literally made he hair on the back of my neck stand up.

I've also heard others who give eloquent, moving memorial speeches that are meaningful and relevant for everyone from a born-again Christian to a Jew to a Muslim to a Buddhist.

Response by PO3 Kenneth Mckinnon made Oct 17 at 2018 6:52 PM

PO3 Kenneth Mckinnon — Wed, 17 Oct 2018 18:52:35 -0400

One very moving moment for me personally, and I don't subscribe to God, was in the movie (adapted from Hal Moore's book) We Were Soldiers...worth a look.

Response by SGT William Nixson made Oct 20 at 2018 7:39 PM

SGT William Nixson — Sat, 20 Oct 2018 19:39:22 -0400

Everything I have read here resonates with me. The "best" chaplain I ever served with played second base on our company softball team. He was out there with us enlisted guys, having fun even when we lost! Always there for us grunts with an ear and a hand, telling jokes and always trying to clean up our language(and failing!) Point is, he was THERE, not in some office, or chapel, and that meant the most!!

Response by 1st Lt Padre Dave Poedel made May 6 at 2019 2:54 AM

1st Lt Padre Dave Poedel — Mon, 06 May 2019 02:54:59 -0400

Preach the Word, administer the Sacraments and be a faithful pastor to the men and women you are privileged to minister to. May God be with you, dear brother!

Response by 1st Lt Padre Dave Poedel made Jul 24 at 2019 7:58 PM

1st Lt Padre Dave Poedel — Wed, 24 Jul 2019 19:58:35 -0400

Be faithful to God, your Ordination vows, and CARE, CARE, CARE!

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 12 at 2021 9:40 AM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 12 Jan 2021 09:40:38 -0500

From a former enlisted guy who is in the process of becoming a CH Candidate’s (Army) perspective: You are already off to a good start by asking for advice from the one’s who have been there. From what I saw as an enlisted soldier, the best advice I could give you is to just be there. Know what the sailors and marines in your unit are doing, be around, be approachable. You never know what a simple “How are you today?” might open the door for.

God bless, and thank you for answering the call to this area of ministry.

Response by 2LT Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 27 at 2022 1:29 PM

2LT Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 27 Sep 2022 13:29:20 -0400

Take the time to listen.

Response by PVT Ted Rodosovich made Nov 16 at 2022 10:38 PM

PVT Ted Rodosovich — Wed, 16 Nov 2022 22:38:17 -0500

Find legit work. Maybe become a licensed certified social worker vs fairy tale enabling.

Response by PVT Ted Rodosovich made Feb 17 at 2023 4:22 AM

PVT Ted Rodosovich — Fri, 17 Feb 2023 04:22:46 -0500

Find honest work. Maybe a licensed certified social worker.