I'm NG & was notified I'd be deploying in about 4 wks. Trying to put my mother in assisted living home but need more time. Should I ask? How?

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 11 Nov 2016 18:28:23 -0500

Response by SSG Shavonde Chase made Nov 11 at 2016 6:38 PM

SSG Shavonde Chase — Fri, 11 Nov 2016 18:38:22 -0500

Sorry to hear about your mother. Talk to the commander, S1, and Career Counselor.

Response by SGM Billy Herrington made Nov 11 at 2016 6:46 PM

SGM Billy Herrington — Fri, 11 Nov 2016 18:46:39 -0500

Is your mother your dependant in DEERS? If so, that would help.

Exceptions are made all the time for guys deploying. Talk to your readiness NCO, then 1SG, then commander. It will probably have to go to at least the BDE level, maybe higher. Transparency is the key and keeping them inundated with info. It doesn't hurt to present them a plan as soon as you ask with a timeline. That will give the impression that you are legitimately wanting to deploy; you just need to tie up some loose ends first.

Response by SFC George Smith made Nov 11 at 2016 6:51 PM

SFC George Smith — Fri, 11 Nov 2016 18:51:07 -0500

check with the command and can go to the TAGs office and ask for some additional time and state assistance... depending on the state they actually have a personnel family assistance office...

Response by CPT Aaron Kletzing made Nov 11 at 2016 9:07 PM

CPT Aaron Kletzing — Fri, 11 Nov 2016 21:07:31 -0500

talk to your commander ASAP

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Nov 12 at 2016 10:33 AM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 12 Nov 2016 10:33:59 -0500

Thanks everyone. I've discussed everything with my Unit Ministry Team and decided to go forward with a memorandum to my CO Command Staff notifying them of the circumstances, plan of action, and my request. Hopefully, the CMD will understand that this move will make me more available for future deployments and allow me to be a fully mission capable leader, and I will still be an option for this current deployment as a late-deployer.

Response by TSgt William Meyer made Nov 12 at 2016 12:43 PM

TSgt William Meyer — Sat, 12 Nov 2016 12:43:37 -0500

Does anyone else think that a 4 week pre deployment notification is too short ?
I was Air Guard and I was always given a lot more notice than that, unless it was voluntary.

Response by PO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Nov 14 at 2016 8:29 AM

PO1 Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 14 Nov 2016 08:29:31 -0500

Is your mother listed as one of your dependents? If so, see if they can work something on the regards of financial/medical reasoning. You may have already done this, but with care in a assisted living, does she have an alternative POA in your absence, etc. etc.

If you can show a plan to your CoC with your request chit for extention, they should be able to work with you.

Response by SSG Christopher Conklin made Nov 14 at 2016 9:01 PM

SSG Christopher Conklin — Mon, 14 Nov 2016 21:01:43 -0500

use your chain of command, if your unit as a family support get them to try to help

Response by SGM Private RallyPoint Member made Nov 15 at 2016 7:03 AM

SGM Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 15 Nov 2016 07:03:56 -0500

Talk to your SGM and Command Team. Make it clear that you are not trying to avoid the deployment, but need to get your dependent mother settled in before you go. They should have slots for temporary stay-behind orders and can just cut you a separate set of orders to catch up to them down range... all of this is dependent on them though. They do have the option of telling you to suck it up (if it is a mandatory mob).

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Nov 15 at 2016 10:43 AM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 15 Nov 2016 10:43:14 -0500

Update: Asked, and was denied. That's OK though I'm putting things in motion so I can move forward.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Nov 16 at 2016 6:13 AM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 16 Nov 2016 06:13:51 -0500

Is there someone who could do it on your behalf I went through this and I got a power of attorney. IT is very difficult and will consume your free time quite often but it will help dramatically until she's fully settled in.