If given the chance, would you go back and marry your first love?

CCMSgt Michael Sullivan Ph.D — Sat, 02 May 2015 13:07:39 -0400

Response by SSG(P) Timme Jones made May 2 at 2015 1:08 PM

SSG(P) Timme Jones — Sat, 02 May 2015 13:08:45 -0400

Hell no!

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made May 2 at 2015 1:26 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 02 May 2015 13:26:22 -0400

In heartbeat, but i know it would only be to endure the pain that lasted over 12 years lmao...im sucker for it i guess

Response by Col Private RallyPoint Member made May 2 at 2015 1:28 PM

Col Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 02 May 2015 13:28:41 -0400

Heck no! There is a reason we got divorced!

Response by TSgt Joshua Copeland made May 2 at 2015 2:00 PM

TSgt Joshua Copeland — Sat, 02 May 2015 14:00:00 -0400

Yeaaaaa...NO! It was great, it was fun...but no way in hell.

Response by GySgt Wayne A. Ekblad made May 2 at 2015 2:32 PM

GySgt Wayne A. Ekblad — Sat, 02 May 2015 14:32:18 -0400

Actually, I did. Dianne (my current wife) and I were high school sweethearts. I joined the Marine Corps upon graduation (1975) and, as often happens, we drifted apart. Eventually, I married some gal. Then, she married some guy. Fast forward just over 30 years to 2006 --- I am now divorced; she is separated and going thru divorce. I make a trip to my hometown and, on a whim, we decide to meet for lunch. In early 2008, her divorce was finalized and --- in July of that year --- we got married.

Response by SGT(P) Private RallyPoint Member made May 2 at 2015 4:31 PM

SGT(P) Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 02 May 2015 16:31:52 -0400

I think I might. Distance is what tore us apart, but there's a reason for everything.

Response by MSG Morgan Fiszel, CPCM, CFCM made May 2 at 2015 4:37 PM

MSG Morgan Fiszel, CPCM, CFCM — Sat, 02 May 2015 16:37:59 -0400

She's all blown out with 50 kids...no. No regrets.

Response by LCpl Mark Lefler made May 2 at 2015 5:20 PM

LCpl Mark Lefler — Sat, 02 May 2015 17:20:15 -0400

I did marry my first love, then we got a divorce.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made May 2 at 2015 5:22 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 02 May 2015 17:22:38 -0400

No, personal theory: if their an ex, their an ex for a reason.

Response by SGT Jeremiah B. made May 2 at 2015 6:03 PM

SGT Jeremiah B. — Sat, 02 May 2015 18:03:13 -0400

I did. It ended terribly. We were young and I was gone a LOT.

Response by SFC Ronnie Seaton Jr made May 2 at 2015 6:58 PM

SFC Ronnie Seaton Jr — Sat, 02 May 2015 18:58:26 -0400

I would give it a chance. I hope I can bring some of my wisdom with me, and learn some patience along the way.

Response by MSgt Steven Holt, NRP, CCEMT-P made May 2 at 2015 10:35 PM

MSgt Steven Holt, NRP, CCEMT-P — Sat, 02 May 2015 22:35:49 -0400

I did go back and marry my first love. And I've been content and happy ever since!

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made May 2 at 2015 11:10 PM

1SG Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 02 May 2015 23:10:19 -0400

Absolutely not.
There were plenty of reasons why things did not work out between us.
There were some great times, and sometimes I wonder what became of her, but no way would I want to relive the "glory days".
Thanks for the memories, but no.

Response by PO1 John Miller made May 3 at 2015 7:32 AM

PO1 John Miller — Sun, 03 May 2015 07:32:38 -0400

HELL NO

Response by Capt Richard I P. made May 3 at 2015 7:49 AM

Capt Richard I P. — Sun, 03 May 2015 07:49:23 -0400

Nope, I'm in love with my wife, not my past.

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made May 4 at 2015 11:17 AM

1SG Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 04 May 2015 11:17:49 -0400

Hell NO! And that's my final answer!

Response by SGM Mikel Dawson made May 4 at 2015 11:31 AM

SGM Mikel Dawson — Mon, 04 May 2015 11:31:17 -0400

I don't think so. My first wife (who I loved very much) after years marriage, ended up liking women as much as I did. The only problem was she wouldn't share. Doubt it that's changed.

Response by TSgt Kevin Buccola made May 4 at 2015 11:44 AM

TSgt Kevin Buccola — Mon, 04 May 2015 11:44:25 -0400

No I am very happy with my decisions would not change a thing

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made May 19 at 2015 10:08 AM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 19 May 2015 10:08:36 -0400

As cliche as it sounds, everything happens for a reason. Personally, I'm better off independently to do things for myself by myself. Sometimes the army (military) takes a big toll on the relationship and I refuse to be distracted or held down by someone else. I've got things to accomplish in life and at this point in time I'm better off doing them alone. End rant.

Response by SrA Private RallyPoint Member made May 19 at 2015 11:26 AM

SrA Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 19 May 2015 11:26:23 -0400

No we went down that road in High School and she left for Basic and AIT at Fort Stewart/Gordan dont remember which and ended up sleeping with about 15 other guys during AIT, after that there was no saving it, We had planned to get married when she got home but decided against it, we were in the same NG unit and she ended up hooking up the the OPS NCO and being still in love with her, when he found out she was prego with his kid he took her about 160 miles away to another town to get an abortion and I drove down there to get her, needless to say looking back on it I feel like i was used for alot of things as she kept going back to the people who hurt her...

That and I am now happily married with a little man that i wouldnt change for the world

Response by SSG Roger Ayscue made May 20 at 2015 11:40 PM

SSG Roger Ayscue — Wed, 20 May 2015 23:40:17 -0400

No,

there is a song that says it better than I ever could; "I thank God for unanswered prayers" I am married to my soul mate, she is surly the "one" that I was meant to be with. We complete each other.

Yep, I loved my "First Love" like a boy thinks he loves his first crush. But the man in me knows I am right where I am supposed to be.

Response by SGT Jimmy Carpenter made May 20 at 2015 11:55 PM

SGT Jimmy Carpenter — Wed, 20 May 2015 23:55:38 -0400

If given the chance? I probably would. My first true love was my high school sweetheart. We dated for about 2 years and spent nearly every minute of every day together. Breaking up with her was one of the biggest mistakes of my life.

Over the years we've run into each other a few times and all those feelings rushed back but had to be restrained because either I was married or she was married. We're friends on Facebook and every time I see her post a new picture of herself. I'm flooded with those feelings again. Every relationship/marriage (only been 2 of those) I've had, I try and compare to the relationship I had with her and they don't even come close.

So yeah, if I had the opportunity to get back with her...I would.

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 1 at 2015 10:26 AM

CW2 Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 10:26:53 -0400

NO!!! She lied, cheated, and stole everything I held dear.... and then did it again. Yeah, I wish I could go back... SO I COULD TAKE ONE LOOK AND WALK AWAY!

Response by MSG William Wold made Nov 27 at 2015 2:02 PM

MSG William Wold — Fri, 27 Nov 2015 14:02:40 -0500

Good old Charlie Brown and his Cute little red headed girl. Raging hormones. High school and before, sweetheart. Opinionated semi wild feisty dominating redhead. I just knew I was destined to marry this redhead. I graduated and went in the Army, to Vietnam. My childhood sweetheart met a person in the local Army base and 3 months later married him, as he was "just like me in so many ways, and I wasn't there".
3 years later I got out of the Army and hung around my home town as I joined the local National Guard. One day I met this wonderful young lady (not a red head) and we hit it off, though it was more physical and I was the dominating person. A couple weeks later I'm at her parents place, and met her brother who was in the Army. His wife was using the bathroom. Suddenly I hear a familiar voice from the past, "What are you doing here?" OMG! It's her!. Flashbacks, no bad words were said, we actually had a pretty decent conversation. However, suddenly I was not welcome at the home being I was their son's wife's ex boyfriend, and their youngest daughter was their "favorite protected child". They even enrolled her in a Community College 3 states way where grandma lived and she would live with her to go to school. But that didn't stop me.
Well the soldier and his red headed wife transferred to Ft Hood, TX shortly after that, and I pursued this other gal. We ended up getting married. The other left the military, and came home to buy her parents home, and they still live there happily. She became a nurse, they had 2 children, and fostered a few dozen and adopted 6 over the years. Sometimes at family gatherings we'd talk about what if's, but it didn't go any further than that.
My wife and I had 5 children, at the youngest graduation, she turns to me and says, well looks like we're done. Yeah! I had visions of an empty house, chasing her around the house naked! But no, a divorce was filed. She got 50% of my military retirement, 50% of my civilian retirement. Our kids were stunned. BTW they talk to me on a weekly basis, they very seldom give their mother the time of day.
Ok, so I worked about 5 more years, retired, moved a state away to the coast to enjoy the ocean and rivers, do some fishing. There I met a red head that had been divorced 13 years, was an RN, and raised 3 of her 6 boys all by herself after a nasty divorce and a cheating spouse. We hit it off and we married.
A few months ago one of my daughters held a going away party for her brother (my youngest son) being deployed (again) so I went. His mother was there with her new husband, and I with my new wife, plus several other people, and that original childhood redhead showed up. We talked here and there thru the day, along with others, then we found each other in a corner and she said, "well you finally got your redhead" I said yeah, she's just like you in so many ways, and you just wasn't there". She stared at me for a second, then chuckled. She said, "well you've deserved nothing less all these years. You have raised some mighty fine children. But enjoy the time you have left with someone who really cares, and it looks like you found a real keeper there." So my childhood sweetheart's been married to the same guy about 45 years now. We're still friends, and that's it. We have developed different hobbies and likes over the years, I don't believe if circumstances find us both single in the future, it won't go past what it is now. Just too much water has passed under the bridge.. And I'm loving where I'm at!

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Nov 27 at 2015 2:04 PM

MAJ Ken Landgren — Fri, 27 Nov 2015 14:04:07 -0500

Yes as I still adore her.

Response by PO3 Donald Murphy made Jun 9 at 2016 2:55 PM

PO3 Donald Murphy — Thu, 09 Jun 2016 14:55:13 -0400

No. My first love and I were not that compatable. My second love and I were highly compatable but then changed to NOT compatable. My last love turned out to be the gem. We have been married 29 years this July 4th.

Response by SPC Sheila Lewis made Oct 3 at 2016 2:48 PM

SPC Sheila Lewis — Mon, 03 Oct 2016 14:48:28 -0400

no.

Response by MAJ Byron Oyler made Oct 20 at 2019 2:22 AM

MAJ Byron Oyler — Sun, 20 Oct 2019 02:22:01 -0400

My wife is better looking today than all of the past loves so that is a strong no.

Response by SGT David A. 'Cowboy' Groth made Oct 20 at 2019 6:29 AM

SGT David A. 'Cowboy' Groth — Sun, 20 Oct 2019 06:29:01 -0400

Can't, she was killed in a train/car accident.

Response by Maj John Bell made Oct 20 at 2019 9:45 AM

Maj John Bell — Sun, 20 Oct 2019 09:45:15 -0400

I asked my first love to the 8th grade ice cream social. It was our first "official" date. We had been hand holding friends since sixth grade. She and her father were killed in an automobile accident on the way home after the dance.

Response by MCPO Roger Collins made Oct 20 at 2019 11:41 AM

MCPO Roger Collins — Sun, 20 Oct 2019 11:41:21 -0400

Without a doubt, 56 years and counting.

Response by SFC Greg Bruorton made Nov 12 at 2019 11:41 PM

SFC Greg Bruorton — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 23:41:50 -0500

No, I would not. There were too many "Dear Johns" from her to see aside. Then there exists differences that are important to consider.