Is it still a man's role to protect his home and family?

SGT Christopher Churilla — Thu, 13 Dec 2018 16:14:40 -0500

I have a friend who delivers newspapers very early in the morning, like 0200. So the other morning as he was delivering a newspaper he was greeted by a woman who told him her husband saw him approaching the house and asked her to investigate.

He told me that it was, for lack of a better term, cowardly because he thought that barring a physical disability a man should still protect his home and family, but I'm not so sure.

What do you all think?

Response by CW5 Jack Cardwell made Dec 13 at 2018 4:38 PM

CW5 Jack Cardwell — Thu, 13 Dec 2018 16:38:43 -0500

We live in the boonies, I am first out the door if anyone approaches.

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 13 at 2018 5:24 PM

Sgt Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 13 Dec 2018 17:24:53 -0500

If you are married, it might be a joint responsibility. It depends on the couple and how capable each is. In most marriages, some responsibilities are shared, while other duties are handled by one of the spouses exclusively.

Response by CPL James S. made Dec 13 at 2018 5:31 PM

CPL James S. — Thu, 13 Dec 2018 17:31:26 -0500

Offered IMHO only:
Though I am a male and I was raised with strong gender-specific "roles" by parents, I am also living very, very remote with a pack of wolves and a wife who is part Cherokee and all bad*ss. If there is one thing I have learned being in the military, being a firefighter, being married to a Cherokee and having been raised overseas during the cold war, I will say it's that gender means jack-sh*t unless you want it to mean something. (and as a leader, my first comment has never been about gender but rather about skill and ability)

I've watched men knock themselves out with an SCBA while a woman outperformed most of the men in the fire department, and I've watched a woman kick butt in a firefight while some men hid scared, so though I understand the cultural assignment of specific roles in society I also know that those roles are entirely dependent on the observer, the individual and those who are interacting in the specific time, place and situation.

My wolves beat me out the door to protect the home, but that doesn't make me cowardly. It makes me slower than the wolves. Not everything is as it appears, so that is something to consider when reading about a situation like above.

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Dec 13 at 2018 6:05 PM

MAJ Ken Landgren — Thu, 13 Dec 2018 18:05:19 -0500

Everyone has a responsibility to home security.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 13 at 2018 6:59 PM

LTC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 13 Dec 2018 18:59:28 -0500

Definitely. God made men this way

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 13 at 2018 7:58 PM

LTC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 13 Dec 2018 19:58:24 -0500

Whomever is most capable at the time of need...

Response by SPC Elijah J. Henry, MBA made Dec 14 at 2018 7:12 AM

SPC Elijah J. Henry, MBA — Fri, 14 Dec 2018 07:12:10 -0500

Yeah, that's a crappy way to lead a family. Unless -- maybe -- he's on overwatch with a rifle... and even that is sketchy in its own way.