Posted on Aug 1, 2019
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Asking for a friend....literally
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SPC Joshua Blotzer
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Sure. It's called divorce.
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MSgt John Bodine
MSgt John Bodine
2 mo
I had to get my Sq. Commander’s approval, and i was over 21.
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SP5 Richard Maze
SP5 Richard Maze
1 mo
There are a few states where a cheating spouse can be sued for alienation of affection.
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PFC Andrina Rich
PFC Andrina Rich
1 mo
SP5 Richard Maze - Not the spouse, the person they cheated with. LA was one of those states at one time. Not sure if it still is. A cousin of mine pursued this when he caught his wife cheating. Did not go well.
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SP5 Richard Maze
SP5 Richard Maze
1 mo
PFC Andrina Rich Salon.com had an update in May 2019 on the states where adultery was still a crime but it is mostly a civil rather than criminal matter that is largely unenforced. I don't know if Rally Point allows links, but you can find the article by searching for salon and "adultery and fornication"
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CSM Darieus ZaGara
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No. The military has no legal authority over spouses. Thank you for your service.
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MSG Bryan Brown
MSG Bryan Brown
3 mo
SGT Earl M. Beg to differ. It will have a negative effect on the family unit. If there are children you now have separation, never good for kids. SM now back in barracks. Spouse now has to establish new household. SM still on hook for Command Sponsored long tour. Upon PCS, Army will not pay to relocate spouse and child to next duty station if marriage can be saved. There are so many more examples to show and they all impact negatively on the spouse both emotionally and financially.
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TSgt Volunteer
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2 mo
I thought the question was about military spouses, not civilian spouses of military members.
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SGT Ronald Audas
SGT Ronald Audas
2 mo
Civilian spouses have nothing coming if the military spouse cheats.
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SSG Melvin Nulph
SSG Melvin Nulph
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SGT Earl M. from experience, if you ever have to go through it, all housing allowance goes to her even if she left on her own, you kick her out (living off post) if you have children, I have no clue, sorry, was blessed enough not to have that situation until after I retired.
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Capt Daniel Goodman
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Edited 7 mo ago
I'm not trying to be facile here, please understand that...I'd honestly go the chaplains on the installation, and ask for their help to deal with it...first, because that sort of thing is one of their principal functions...second, because I've observed that clerics, generally, often are quite accustomed to dealing with such problems resembling social work...and third, because clerics, also, quite often, seemingly have a rather unusual facility of being able to get attention and/or open doors to fix problems, esp. if they go higher, to their own superiors, if encountering problems along the way...as I'd said, those thoughts were obv not intended to be either facile, or simplistic, certainly, merely observations I'd thought might possibly be useful, if nothing else, honest....
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SGT Charles Bartell
SGT Charles Bartell
6 mo
SSG Dale London - That so called Chaplain did do it. I personally know it for a fact, not second hand hearsay. I will not name the person this happened to, Out of respect for him.
As for the chaplain He was still on active duty when I left that Base 3yrs later. at the same rank.
I have seen my share of Hippocrates in Different churches. In the Military and more on the outside.
I didn't mean to say that all are bad or untrustworthy . Just from what I have seen The life of a priest or minister can be lonely and they are human too.
So sometimes things happen.
We all have seen the wife or husband that their spouse goes on deployment. It is play time for them.
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Capt Daniel Goodman
Capt Daniel Goodman
6 mo
I'm sorry, I hit a profile key, while typing an answer, I'm afraid that often happens when using the tablet I'm on, which tends to be rather clumsy, unfortunately...I'd merely thought to say that I obv hadn't intended to engender the level of discussion here that my suggestion, which was clearly naive, or so I've gathered, obv fostered in this instance...I'd expect there are clearly good and bad clerics to go to, for the simple reason that clerics are only human, with faults and peccadilloes, as with any other human...that being said, I just wanted to assure all of you that I have most definitely read the ongoing discussion here, which, as I'd explained, I certainly hadn't anticipated fostering...I'll certainly keep it in mind in future when suggesting such an idea, which, clearly, has ramifications in both directions, as well as equally bidirectional perceptions based on individual experience, that much is apparently quite evident, I'd only asked to have appreciated by all that my notion, even if clearly naive, as I'd explained, has by all means been offered with only the very best of intentions on my part, of course, that's all is hoped to convey...sorry again about the profile key, I've been hoping the tablet and/or cell phone app versions would have some safety feature added to prevent that, however, that clearly isn't likely to happen anytime soon either, I'm afraid, evidently, please pardon such gaffes on my part when they happen, I do try to avoid such clumsiness, however, sometimes, my fingers inadvertently slip when typing, and I wind up inadvertently bringing up a profile, of course purely by accident, of course....
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SSG Dale London
SSG Dale London
6 mo
SGT Charles Bartell - It is sad but true that the church has it's share of bad eggs. On behalf of chaplains everywhere I condemn that chaplain's actions. This sort of thing erodes the trust that a chaplain needs to have in order to do his job. As I said - that guy should be defrocked. God will deal with him in His own good time. That doesn't mean a court martial is out of the question. It's just a shame nobody reported him to the senior chaplain... or, if he WAS reported, they should both be defrocked.
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SFC Bert Linson
SFC Bert Linson
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"and third, because clerics, also, quite often, seemingly have a rather unusual facility of being able to get attention and/or open doors to fix problems, esp. if they go higher, to their own superiors, if encountering problems along the way". I have seen this and it always seemed strange to me. A Soldier has a problem and seeks help for it from the chain of command but is sometimes ignored until a chaplin is involved. Of course this is not the norm but when it does happen makes no sense. It's even a running joke in some commands that if you have problem then go see the chaplin. Kinda like saying we don't want to hear about it. Go see someone who cares.
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