Posted on Feb 18, 2014
SFC Anabel Cepero
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I have seen it time and time again, Leaders (NCOs/Officers) and Soldiers being too friendly/close. There is nothing wrong with creating an amicable work environment, but when do you think the line is being crossed and how do you as a Leader stop it? 
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CSM Michael Poll
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Edited 11 y ago
Oh dont even get me started on this you will read a 100 page report by the time I am done.. Bottom line..  NCO's and Officers... Be NCO's and Officers!   You are not your Soldiers friends, you are thier supervisors.  Act like it!  There 100 pages in 3 lines.
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SFC Anabel Cepero
SFC Anabel Cepero
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CSM Poll,

Best 100 pages in 3 lines I have read! 100% agreed. We are not given the privilege of being NCOs or Officers to become friends with everyone. We have a duty to uphold and as I recall the NCO Creed does not mention anything about being liked. 
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MSgt Aircrew Controller Ii
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Anytime a relationship between Leaders and the Subordinates is 'perceived' as being a friendship then it needs to stop.  Leaders should always foster a professional environment and working relationships.

 I always told my troops that professional and personal are two different and distinct relationships.  You have to be able to distinguish between the two and if you can't then the only acceptable relationship is the professional one.  I achieved this by always treating my subordinates the same.  The same rules, standards and expectations were levied on all my subordinates.  We did get together in an 'off duty' setting on numerous occasions and I strived to include all the subordinates in the activity.  I maintained a very relaxed and open setting, but kept the overtone of professionalism.  If a subordinate while on duty tried to 'invoke the off duty' friendship to get out of something, I swiftly and immediately corrected that individual reminding them that one had nothing to do with the other.

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SFC Anabel Cepero
SFC Anabel Cepero
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MSgt Koss,

Those are my thoughts exactly, I have seen both right and wrong first hand. I have been lucky enough to have had leadership that has always set the correct tone and never let us misconstrue personal from professional. 
With that being said, I have also seen the leadership that lets the lines blur and in turn it has created somewhat of an uncomfortable environment. I have seen it turn into favoritism of certain Soldiers, a hostile environment and even heard of inappropriate relationships. 
How as Leaders can we stop this kind of behavior when those that can stop it, either turn the other cheek or pick and choose which battles to fight so to speak?
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CMC Robert Young
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I have relieved a section leader for creating the wrong atmosphere with his people. That unfortunately is often the only way to solve the problem because once followers loose respect for their leader through the leader's poor performance, it's not likely to be restored.
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SFC Anabel Cepero
SFC Anabel Cepero
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MCPO Young,

I wish more had that kind of mentality! Very cut and dry, short sweet and to the point. 
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