Posted on May 2, 2015
My oldest daughter is about to graduate from high school and she has no drive to do anything. What can I do?
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For 2 1/2 years my oldest daughter told me she was going to join the Navy. I said ok got to go you know what you want. Well we went to see the recruiter he said all is good but her weight I said ok I know how to do that, she does not listen at all, and does not care school ends in 6 weeks here and she has no plan for life and its ok with her. I said August 30th your moving out you must become a productive member of society, she does not care. I begged her. I don't know what to do to motivate her to get up and be someone. What can I do i don't want my daughter to become some 2 bit hooker?
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That's a tough break. We all hope our kids will learn from us and follow our example. My oldest is 14 and you can't start molding them early enough but my fear is that even the best laid plans can go to pot. I would try charging her room and board to motivate her to get a job. Bring her to a soup kitchen to volunteer and show her that this could be her future if she chooses to do nothing.
Good luck with this. Please let us know how you are progressing because I'm sure some of us may go through this ourselves.
Good luck with this. Please let us know how you are progressing because I'm sure some of us may go through this ourselves.
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Update yesterday was my daughters 18th birthday she called me from school and tolled me she would not be returning back home she was moving in with her female friends. I tried everything I could to get her to at least stay till the end of the school year but she would not listen. She also admitted she and her friends had planed this for 2 years now. I did tell her she can come back if it does not work out for her.
She thinks I don't know where she is staying right now but she forgets I'm well connected in the Veteran community and they have tolled me where she is right now and there keeping a eye on her. Scouts Out.
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She thinks I don't know where she is staying right now but she forgets I'm well connected in the Veteran community and they have tolled me where she is right now and there keeping a eye on her. Scouts Out.
MSgt Mike Mikulski
TSgt Hunter Logan
MAJ Robert (Bob) Petrarca
SSG (Join to see)
SFC Ronnie Seaton Jr
Cpl Robert Lowes
MSgt Jamie Lyons
1SG (Join to see)
CW5 Sam R. Baker
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MAJ Robert (Bob) Petrarca
Thanks SPC Christian Ziegler Hopefully things will calm down. I watched my cousin do this to her parents at about that age and it was not pretty. At least for your sake your daughter is local where you can keep tabs on her and you're keeping communications opened that's always a good thing. If you haven't seen the Die Hard 4 move - "Live Free or Die Hard" It's worth a watch for the opening scenes where Bruce Willis has to deal with his estranged, college living daughter. Might give you a few chuckles!
My 14 year old is starting to sow his wild oats and is getting to that "I Know Everything" stage.
My 14 year old is starting to sow his wild oats and is getting to that "I Know Everything" stage.
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MSgt Jamie Lyons
Hang in there and be ready to lend support. When things get tough she will need your help and guidance. Be her safety net. Keep tabs and a watchful eye and things have a way of straightening themselves out. When I worry about my daughter I always let her know I love her and support her no matter what. Sometimes it is hard and sometimes easier. Just be there to catch her when she falls, and she will. I know I did and so did my daughter. You are doing the right thing.
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I was the same way when I was 18. I figured it out. I just had to get out there and fail miserably. I also had a supportive mom who let me fail, and helped me pick up the pieces. I would say make sure she has birth control. I know it sounds crass, but it's much easier to get your life in order of you are not caring for a baby/small child.
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