LCpl Steve Wininger 129142 <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>When I was growing up divorce was rarely heard of. Today many of us have either experienced it once or know someone that is divorced. Personally, I have been through two, and am currently separated. <br /><br />I have been separated for seven months now. I have seen my estranged wife once for about twenty minutes in that time. I still wear my wedding band and continually pray for my wife and our marriage.<br /><br />I do believe that God has intervened by preventing this divorce from happening. She has claimed to filed in late November, but has since admitted her lawyer took the money and ran. This I believe, I did talk to the lawyer once and he told me I should be served in the next few days. Perhaps I misunderstood him. That was more than a few months ago.<br /><br />There has not been any marital unfaithfulness on either of our parts. This is the main reason I believe God has kept me hanging on, which brings me to my point.<br /><br />How long does one fight and hang on before letting go? As a Christian, I do not wish to go against God's will. My motivation for this thread is not because I have cat scratch fever and am feeling the urge to merge anywhere, that has never been my style, at least it hasn't since I first married. <br /><br />My problem is, I feel my life is in the balance. For seven months I have prayed and believed. Even today, I believe, but I can also sense myself losing grip. I do not pray as often or as fervently as I once did.<br /><br />I can see a glimmer of hope some days, but yet on others, the only hope I have is to just get by. <br />Is this God telling me it is time to let go, or am I experiencing combat fatigue and just need to tighten my grip with all my might? <br /><br />Sometimes it is easier for a person that is not directly involved to give a more unbiased opinion. I guess I am just trying to make sense of all the confusion and different emotions that this battle has left me with.<br /><br />Any comments, suggestions, or feedback is greatly appreciated. 2014-05-17T22:30:30-04:00 LCpl Steve Wininger 129142

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>When I was growing up divorce was rarely heard of. Today many of us have either experienced it once or know someone that is divorced. Personally, I have been through two, and am currently separated. <br /><br />I have been separated for seven months now. I have seen my estranged wife once for about twenty minutes in that time. I still wear my wedding band and continually pray for my wife and our marriage.<br /><br />I do believe that God has intervened by preventing this divorce from happening. She has claimed to filed in late November, but has since admitted her lawyer took the money and ran. This I believe, I did talk to the lawyer once and he told me I should be served in the next few days. Perhaps I misunderstood him. That was more than a few months ago.<br /><br />There has not been any marital unfaithfulness on either of our parts. This is the main reason I believe God has kept me hanging on, which brings me to my point.<br /><br />How long does one fight and hang on before letting go? As a Christian, I do not wish to go against God's will. My motivation for this thread is not because I have cat scratch fever and am feeling the urge to merge anywhere, that has never been my style, at least it hasn't since I first married. <br /><br />My problem is, I feel my life is in the balance. For seven months I have prayed and believed. Even today, I believe, but I can also sense myself losing grip. I do not pray as often or as fervently as I once did.<br /><br />I can see a glimmer of hope some days, but yet on others, the only hope I have is to just get by. <br />Is this God telling me it is time to let go, or am I experiencing combat fatigue and just need to tighten my grip with all my might? <br /><br />Sometimes it is easier for a person that is not directly involved to give a more unbiased opinion. I guess I am just trying to make sense of all the confusion and different emotions that this battle has left me with.<br /><br />Any comments, suggestions, or feedback is greatly appreciated.

2014-05-17T22:30:30-04:00 2014-05-17T22:30:30-04:00 SGM Matthew Quick 129178

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>What actionable plan do you have in place for your desired outcome, besides praying, believing, and hoping?<br /><br />In other words, what are YOU trying to do to move forward?<br /><br />Are the two of you seeking counseling?<br /><br />By your post, it appears that your wife doesn't want anything to do with the marriage (you've only seen her for 20 minutes in seven months and YOU'RE praying for HER).

2014-05-17T23:32:54-04:00 2014-05-17T23:32:54-04:00 SPC Rebecca Lovie 129209

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Keep praying!!!!You must release all these doubts and worrisome thoughts It even seems like you are beating yourself up for not praying enough... you are enough even if no one suggests it You are the person God has molded you to be. When you feel overwhelmed, give it to him, realize you are not in charge. Try to silence any negative thoughts. I am not a perfect person but with every downfall I feel it brings me to realize that I am growing closer to God.

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