Previous Questions and Discussions Asked on RallyPoint

2015-01-31T15:50:12-05:00

In regards to previous questions and discussions that I have started, I am an American Soldier. I am squared away and I don't have any problems with authority. The question I asked about my ring was because I don't understand the NCO's motive behind telling me not to wear it, but I've decided not to push the envelope and just not wear the ring. In regards to the question about an NCO or Officer hitting or pushing me and whether I have the legality to defend myself, it was a general question. I am not a threat to anyone, I apologize to anyone who felt disrespected in regards to my discussion description "breaking it down barney style" it was rude and completely uncalled for. I completely understand with the questions I have asked how you could think I'm the problem. I might be, but I'm not a threat and as I said I will not wear the ring anymore in uniform.

Response by SGT Steven Eugene Kuhn MBA made Jan 31 at 2015 3:53 PM

2015-01-31T15:53:22-05:00

Excellent Soldier! If it took 65 people of all ranks, ages and generations to make this happen, I have to say this site is something very special.
This is a great attitude to have and I wish you all the Best with your career!
Steven

Response by TSgt Joshua Copeland made Jan 31 at 2015 3:54 PM

2015-01-31T15:54:23-05:00

Thank you for stepping up and clearing that up. It takes a big man to admit when their words could be mis interpreted.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 31 at 2015 5:37 PM

2015-01-31T17:37:30-05:00

SPC Voye most of the replies to your questions were concerned leaders. maybe some of the replies don't have the best approach but they were well intended and with genuine concerns. From my standpoint of view, seems you are a Soldier in need of "outstanding leadership" and maybe you was reaching out in this forum for advice. My recommendation to you is find a good mentor, someone that you admire and look up to as a leader. I know you may have a lot of questions and want to learn more. And a mentor can help you with your concerns and questions. I believe if you have a good mentorship and/or someone that help you, I know you will bloom and be a good leader in the future. Keep your head up and always do the right. Honor with your service all the persons that you love and care and make them proud. Hope one day to see you as a Sergeant or maybe an officer. My.02 cents.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 31 at 2015 5:44 PM

2015-01-31T17:44:30-05:00

SSG(P) Private RallyPoint Member, this is great and everything but IMO this doesn't merit its own topic. I recommend you go back to the topics you've created that are being referenced here and edit in these remarks there if you haven't done so already.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 31 at 2015 6:26 PM

2015-01-31T18:26:38-05:00

You learned one of the best lessons in professional written communications, to read it as it may be read by the recipient. It is a challenge to convey ideas, especially those with strong emotional elements. It is easy for others to infer tone that may not be intended, so as the writer, you must always review and analyze for unintentional messages.

On the flip side, it is equally important not to infer tone when reading the work of others. In a professional written dialog, it should be assumed that the tone is neutral, and clarified with tactful follow ups in needed.

You have learned a lesson that took many of us longer to figure out.

Response by SPC David S. made Jan 31 at 2015 6:55 PM

2015-01-31T18:55:56-05:00

Excellent SSG(P) Private RallyPoint Member . As you can see the RP community has got your back. We all want your military experience to be something you are not only proud of but more importantly an experience that makes you a better man. Like others have stated seek out a mentor that you can learn from and help in navigating any negative influences. Best regards

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 31 at 2015 7:59 PM

2015-01-31T19:59:26-05:00

SSG(P) Private RallyPoint Member: "The roads to truth are numerous. They vary by the path you choose". That is all I leave with you.

Response by SSG Keith Cashion made Jan 31 at 2015 8:15 PM

2015-01-31T20:15:55-05:00

Now AR 670-1 says you can wear a wedding ring...but I think maybe if you are spending a lot of your duty time in the motorpool or certain types of weapons systems that you could risk injury or loss of a finger that could be a reason. Using tact you should be able to ask your NCO " With all due respect can I ask why I cannot wear my ring?" But before you do that see if the other Soldiers in the Squad, Platoon have been told the same thing. If not then ask in the way that a professional Soldier would. You maybe surprised at the answer. It's not what you say...it's the way you ask. The Army is a wealth of knowledge, we have regulations that if read and understood. ..will make you Military Career no matter how long or short a great experience. I have read your questions that you have posted, and the responses you received are based exactly how you asked. I aslways told my Soldiers to...think before you make a statement or ask a question. ..because most will read or hear just the way you put it out there. If you are as squared away as you say you are, and want to go far in the military, then learn from what you are being taught. The Military is a great place to learn. One day you want to be that leader/mentor that Soldiers look up to. Don't get me there are some toxic leaders, but thear are a hell of a lot more great ones. YOU or the only one that will make or break your career. You are squared away...prove everyone on this site wrong about the NOW idea or opinion they have of you.

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 31 at 2015 8:53 PM

2015-01-31T20:53:13-05:00

Told ya that clarification would help the PR community. I am glad you did, SPC Cody Voye.

Response by MSgt Michael Durkee made Feb 1 at 2015 12:11 PM

2015-02-01T12:11:13-05:00

Thank you for stepping up, being credible and accountable. There will be many moments in your Military career that "just don't make sense" to you, press on and maintain your warrior spirit. If you find yourself faltering, look to your mentors. If you don't feel any locally can help, please trust that your RP Family will offer.

Response by SFC Mark Merino made Feb 1 at 2015 12:39 PM

2015-02-01T12:39:13-05:00

Way to step up, brother. "Seek responsibility and take responsibility for our actions". Sometimes we vent under the wrong circumstances and the fallout compounds our frustrations. Lessons learned go into our "toolbox" and we fall back on them in the future. No permanent damage done. The entire point of RallyPoint is to gather insights and wisdom from members who have been there and done that and learn from the benefits of our previous stumbling. Admitting we aren't perfect is the best lesson to learn when we are still young.

Response by CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 1 at 2015 11:21 PM

2015-02-01T23:21:55-05:00

Bravo, SPC Cody Voye! I was hopeful you would get there after some careful introspection.

I think I may speak for all the leaders here when I say it never gets old when mentoring takes hold. I am fairly sure every one of us recalls that moment of clarity when it all started to make sense because good leaders took time with us.