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RE4 discharge help?
Hello, I have a rather complicated question to ask any of you who might know a way to help me. I was separated from the Navy in Dec. 2015, (Total service time was 11months) Honorable with a RE4 code JFV. I've spoken to a local recruiter here and he told me to obtain all of my records (medical and the like) Which I have done, there is no negative marks or anything 'wrong' in them, which he found to be extremely interesting when I told him the story of why I got out, which I will tell you:
I was in a relationship for 4 years with this girl, and yes I was young (19), idealistic and in love. She broke up with me and I lost all motivation. Never was I late or negligible in any duty, I spoke to some Chaplin's who were no help what so ever, one even told me to just go talk to the counselor corpsman on board. I took his advice (being an E3 and him being a Commander). I spoke with the corpsman a few times about how I was unsure how to navigate this loss and how I was upset. I was asking for advice on how to overcome situational depression for my fiance leaving me, he provided none and even encouraged me to just get out of the Navy which I found odd because I was under the impression that there is only one way out (completion of service time). I was an idiot and thought if I did get out that I could repair my soon-to-be marriage, so I took the corpsmans advice and talked to the psych officer on board, after I explained the situation to him and told him what the corpsman had told me he simply said "huh, well I can get you shore duty" which I tried to take but was barred from by my divisional officer, the officer then said "well how about you just get out?" he then wrote a letter to the Captain without hearing my opinions. I didn't want to get out, but was told by the Officer that I should. I loved being in the navy and regret that I allowed this to happen to myself
With no marks against me in anyway, none psychological, physical, emotional or otherwise, how might I re-enlist?
I have a DD 293 form completed with letters of recommendation of re-enlistment from various military background colleagues, friends and family members,
Is there anything that might help my chances to get my DD 214 changed so I can re-enlist. I want to serve my country and restore my honor?
Hello, I have a rather complicated question to ask any of you who might know a way to help me. I was separated from the Navy in Dec. 2015, (Total service time was 11months) Honorable with a RE4 code JFV. I've spoken to a local recruiter here and he told me to obtain all of my records (medical and the like) Which I have done, there is no negative marks or anything 'wrong' in them, which he found to be extremely interesting when I told him the story of why I got out, which I will tell you:
I was in a relationship for 4 years with this girl, and yes I was young (19), idealistic and in love. She broke up with me and I lost all motivation. Never was I late or negligible in any duty, I spoke to some Chaplin's who were no help what so ever, one even told me to just go talk to the counselor corpsman on board. I took his advice (being an E3 and him being a Commander). I spoke with the corpsman a few times about how I was unsure how to navigate this loss and how I was upset. I was asking for advice on how to overcome situational depression for my fiance leaving me, he provided none and even encouraged me to just get out of the Navy which I found odd because I was under the impression that there is only one way out (completion of service time). I was an idiot and thought if I did get out that I could repair my soon-to-be marriage, so I took the corpsmans advice and talked to the psych officer on board, after I explained the situation to him and told him what the corpsman had told me he simply said "huh, well I can get you shore duty" which I tried to take but was barred from by my divisional officer, the officer then said "well how about you just get out?" he then wrote a letter to the Captain without hearing my opinions. I didn't want to get out, but was told by the Officer that I should. I loved being in the navy and regret that I allowed this to happen to myself
With no marks against me in anyway, none psychological, physical, emotional or otherwise, how might I re-enlist?
I have a DD 293 form completed with letters of recommendation of re-enlistment from various military background colleagues, friends and family members,
Is there anything that might help my chances to get my DD 214 changed so I can re-enlist. I want to serve my country and restore my honor?
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Posted 6 y ago
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Professional opinion, don't go back in. If some girl breaking up with you was that much of a hit to your emotions then you aren't made of the right stuff.
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SGT Joseph Gunderson
Bud, my first wife cheated on me, got pregnant, and left me during my first deployment... I was 19 years old. I didn't freak out and get the boot; I sucked it up and marched on. I will also tell you exactly what I tell everyone who happens to jump on here with an RE3 or RE4 code looking to give it another go, the military doesn't need people, least of all people that wasted the time and money of the military already. If your recruiter really wants to put in that extra work even if it means you might still not get in, good for you and good on him. If I were a recruiter, I wouldn't waste my time with people who have already demonstrated an inability to hack it.
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SN Greg Wright
SGT Joseph Gunderson - If you had a second you're dumber than me, ground-pounder! :) (First and only cheated. I ain't doin' it again!) Said with love, of course.
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SPC Denton McLaughlim
While I was on, my wife left me. She also left our 3 young children with me.
Know how much support I got from my command?!? I had to ask and ask and ask and finally had to use open door policy to meet my commander/1SG.
I was leaving my kids with other families on post and operating on next to zero sleep.
All my command could do was recommend I find child care (which costs an insane amount for an E4. Or develop and use a family care plan (ie ship my kids 1,000 Mike's away to my parents, who both worked full tine.)
Ultimately my mother flew out to ke ams stayed for several months with my kids... which meant she lost her income in the process.
My direct leadership said it sucks, but the only way to get their attention was to start being late or not showing up due to child care issues. That might start the separation process. Looking back in glad my mother helped me and I stuck it out. Not everyone has that caring of a family.
Ultimately my wife and I reconciled differences. But this was a pivotal moment when I got a bad taste in my mouth for the Army I never quite recovered from. Did my time and got out.
Know how much support I got from my command?!? I had to ask and ask and ask and finally had to use open door policy to meet my commander/1SG.
I was leaving my kids with other families on post and operating on next to zero sleep.
All my command could do was recommend I find child care (which costs an insane amount for an E4. Or develop and use a family care plan (ie ship my kids 1,000 Mike's away to my parents, who both worked full tine.)
Ultimately my mother flew out to ke ams stayed for several months with my kids... which meant she lost her income in the process.
My direct leadership said it sucks, but the only way to get their attention was to start being late or not showing up due to child care issues. That might start the separation process. Looking back in glad my mother helped me and I stuck it out. Not everyone has that caring of a family.
Ultimately my wife and I reconciled differences. But this was a pivotal moment when I got a bad taste in my mouth for the Army I never quite recovered from. Did my time and got out.
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Greetings SN K Walling . My experience is that the National Guard, especially the Army National Guard, has the power to enlist folks who have been discharged with a DD-214 carrying an RE-4 code. Do you research, assemble your documentation (including DD214, and statements by medical professionals and others that attest that you are no longer laboring under the original condition(s) that you were processed out for), and make an appointment to sit down with a National Guard recruiter in your State. No promises, no guarantees, but, hopefully, the start of a rewarding journey. Good luck!
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In my 3 years recruiting I saw a handful of people trying to change the RE4. Once they realized that it isn't the recruiter's job to do the leg work, they lost all interest and vanished. To change and RE4 takes months and even years. And if it gets changed there is no telling to what new RE code, it could be another permanent disqualification code. Because that's what the RE code 4 means, permanent disqualified.
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