Posted on Apr 8, 2014
CW2 Jonathan Kantor
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Should the military recognize spouses with an award?&nbsp; I think so.&nbsp; At the very least, spouses should be presented with a Certification of Appreciation when their husbands and wives return from a deployment.&nbsp; A ceremony should be held honoring them.&nbsp; I have felt this way for years and even though my wife would probably not care, I know a lot of spouses who would.&nbsp; They help us through the tough times throughout our careers and they deserve to be recognized.&nbsp; Thoughts?<br><br>***I am not talking about blanket awards here but rather those recommended by the Soldier for support they gave to the unit.***&nbsp; Sorry I didn't initially make that clear.<br>
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SGT Journeyman Plumber
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Hell no.

They're not military, so in my eyes, they are not worthy of any kind of official military recognition. I despise spouses who feel entitled to such things and by extension the service members that enable them with this nonsense.

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GySgt William Hardy
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I concur with 1SG Gilley in his comment. I know of many wives who have done many public services. One of the things they put in the movie "We Were Soldiers" was the part the spouses played back home. When I went to Iraq, the Camp Chaplin and the military women of the training base worked to provide us with "goody bags" as we left for our flight overseas. For military members who have spouses, they understand just how hard they work to keep things as normal as possible back home. There are always exceptions, so I don't want to hear that part of it. Tens of thousands of military spouses have had to work harder when the member deployed. Offering a certificate of appreciation would be a great gesture. My wife kept things going when I went to Vietnam and Iraq plus she also had to endure the long separations of non-accompanied tours and many other shorter training deployments.
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SPC Juli Reid
SPC Juli Reid
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So let me answer this as both a former soldier and an Army wife. I think any family member who renders service to the Military through volunteering with the unit itself or the post in various capacities is certainly deserving of any award they choose to present. As an Army wife I spent many hours volunteering with my husbands unit and working with the families. I also spent many hours serving 2 different duty stations as Mayor of our community in Military housing. I didn't do either for any award, but because I was a bit older and wanted to be in a position to help and serve any way I could. It was certainly nice to be recognized and told that the service I provided was found to be valuable. Nothing is worse than volunteering time and effort and never being told that what you are doing is actually serving a purpose.
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CW4 Angela Birt
CW4 Angela Birt
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No. Spouses do not deserve awards. They receive free housing, medical care and I know I'm in the minority, but I don't think that waiting on us during deployments is tougher than what a police officer, paramedic or fireman's spouse goes through every single time they walk out the door to work.
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SPC Brian Lewis
SPC Brian Lewis
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Wow, your an idiot. They may not need a damn medal but they deal with alot of shit the military throws down hill. They dont get shot at but hold down the fort for when we get home. Ive had my experience of entitlement of spouses but that doesnt justify you asinine comment. There are some very good, supportive and dedicated spouses that deserve a COA at least. A little recognition goes a long way
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If a spouse has done something to benefit the organization as a whole then yes. Aboslutely! In fact I have seen them. Just for the sake of being a spouse? I don't think so. A lot goes on "behind closed doors" that we don't see as service members especially while deployed. So If evry single spouse was given the same award when a whole unit redeploys what does that say? To me nothing more than a check the block. Then when you look at it form the perspective of the spouses, let's say you have a spouse cheating on their deployed Soldier (happens all the time), the community of spouses knows about it but the Soldier don't. All the spouses get the same "thank you" "award" what does it really mean to them in the end?
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Kind of funny because I believe the same thing but on the service member side. If you give everyone an award (end of tour, if you don’t get one you question your command and leadership) that it takes away from those that actually go above and beyond their duties. By the looks of most units in the military, they have a crap load of superior performing individuals. But I digress, no, spouses do not get military awards. They can continue to get letters of appreciation from the Commanding Officer on nice paper if they have done anything commendatory to benefit the unit.
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SGT Ernest Huerta
SGT Ernest Huerta
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And THIS from a Marine!?
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GySgt William Hardy
GySgt William Hardy
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Civilians do not get military awards, but there are a number of things that can be done. If they actually perform duties that reach the highest level, nominate them for one of the civilian awards. The least a command could do is give them a letter of appreciation. Many spouses have done things that deserve recognition. When I went to Vietnam, I was transferred from one command to another. I left my wife with her family. No support whatsoever. When I went to Iraq, there was a family support organization. Wives in different areas sent letters/emailed other spouses. They developed a system which included contacts for getting information about pay problems, contacting the service member in case of emergencies, etc. The women who headed these support services most definitely should be recognized and invited to an awards program.
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SPC Sonya Anderson
SPC Sonya Anderson
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lol this kinda happened when I was dating my husband. He was in another unit but helped us so much my unit gave him an award.
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SMSgt Lawrence McCarter
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The only award My wife received was a certificate in a nice hard cover blue folder with an Air Force seal on it,for support given at the same time I received My Retirement Certificate from the USAF. I'm pretty sure any spouse would receive the same. That was nice gesture from the Air Force but She wasn't there to take any bows or anything like that, just support Me and that is what She did. She had Her own job and career as a teacher. She never sought or expected anything that wasn't from Her own occupation and neither did I. Our joint team was our own household, family and support for each other. I wouldn't want it any other way.
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I received a certificate of appreciation in the green Army folder each time my ex-husbands reenlisted, thanking me for supporting my Soldier in his career and his decision to reenlist and the sacrifices I made as a military spouse. It was nice to be recognized for my influence in my Soldiers' lives and that I DO make a sacrifice as a spouse. I actually felt sort of bad for the ones I got with my first husband though... and I wound up using those folders for the AAMs, ARCOMs, LoMs and such when we ran out of them at my last couple of units. Yep, my first husband and I were dual military.
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