Posted on Jul 18, 2015
What do you do when you and your NCOIC have personal conversation about your private issues and he tells everyone?
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I was having issues at home and I did not fell comfortable with talking to anyone. I decided to trust in my NCO because he said if I have any issues he would help me get through them the best way he know how. I told him everything and even cried my heart out. About a week later people were talking bout me and teasing me. All because the NCO I trusted told everyone. My NCO is a E5, and then asked in a E5 and below meeting why don't there soldiers come to them or trust them.
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SPC Young, unfortunately you have an inmature SGT for a leader. I recommend you address your is with the next level of leadership to include your concern about your SGT lack of discretion in handling your issue. Your SGT needs some professional development. There are numerous avenues available to you as well when it comes to dealing with your relationship concerns. I would recommend you consider talking with your unit's Military Family Life Consultant (MFLC). I have found that the MFLC can be a great tool in a leaders kit bag. I have utilized our MFLC myself with some assistance with my daughter and her issues. Your Senior leadership should address your concerns with your SGT. Hope this helps.
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SSG VNicia Young
Yeah the moved me so I have a new NCO but now he just spreads rumors and say disrespectful things. I have used that as well as Family Advocacy.
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Unfortunately those personnel are in every unit. We can even learn lessons from bad leaders. Take this as an opportunity. When you're a leader you will remember this experience and be able to apply it toward helping your Soldiers. Some of the best leaders are forged in fire, not necessarily combat but through there own tribulations.
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I agree that he needs some development. What brothers me is how is no one else checking him on this. If he told another NCO and that other NCO didn't see an issue with being told such personal information then maybe it is not just one NCO that is to blame. And how other soldiers are now other soldiers are teasing her about it. That is a complete failure on multiple people if not the whole units leadership in their inability to identify this.
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The NCO was absolutely wrong to betray your trust. Unfortunately Leaders do have the same characteristic of all other groups. 10% are outstanding, 10% are a problem and the rest fall between those.
Unless it is serious enough to take it to higher ups then usually the best action is to ignore it. Anything you do will just tend to fan the flames.
Good luck and please understand most NCOs are worthy of the title and would not do this.
Unless it is serious enough to take it to higher ups then usually the best action is to ignore it. Anything you do will just tend to fan the flames.
Good luck and please understand most NCOs are worthy of the title and would not do this.
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Confront the NCO and display your disappointment in his loyalty and disrespect towards you. Explain to the NCO that it will be a very long time before you can trust the NCO again in the future. Having trust in your subordinates, peers and superiors is vital to overall success in the Military.
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That's unfortunate and it happens more often than not and it happens amongst all ranks. Back stabbing and dishonesty doesn't discriminate. All you can do is do your job to the best of your ability, strive to improve mentality and physically and live the Army values on and off duty.
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SSG VNicia Young - I wouldn't have spoke to him. Once he lost your trust I wouldn't have even tried.
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CPT (Join to see) agreed 100% once you lose my trust, it will take an act from Congress to get it back.
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So, Specialist, if what I am reading is correct, the offending NCO is no longer in your CoC, but is still unprofessionally spreading rumors about you. Is that correct?
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That is such an horrible experience and a very low quality NCO. I personally wouldn't deal with him or even tell him anything as you can't trust him. I would request to speck to the 1SG as he is also in the NCO Support Channel and inform him that you lost confidence in your NCO. There is nothing worse than being unable to trust another soldier. I would even go as far as to request to move to another squad. This is completely unacceptable. It reflects poorly on the unit and their NCOs. The reason why I would go to the 1SG is that he is responsible for the climate of the NCOs and sets the standard. Maybe he is failing in his NCO develop of those in the company. If your even need any assistance you can always rely on use here also. I don't mind at all mentoring and providing any advice I can give to help a soldier.
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SSG James J. Palmer IV aka "JP4" - I think some sort of reprimand would be in order to be honest.
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