What is the policy in the military on pairing up married women with married men on 2-person missions. Should they have such close contact?

PFC Donnie Harold Harris — Fri, 29 Dec 2017 13:05:50 -0500

Response by SGM Bill Frazer made Dec 29 at 2017 4:07 PM

SGM Bill Frazer — Fri, 29 Dec 2017 16:07:46 -0500

1. Question is too vague. 2. It takes two to tango, and if they are serious about their marriage then it won't matter. 3. What kind of mission is run with only two damn folks. 4. There is such a thing as separate rooms.

Response by 1LT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 29 at 2017 8:29 PM

1LT Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 29 Dec 2017 20:29:43 -0500

Frankly - any pair of soldiers competent enough to be sent on a 2 person mission should be trained enough, disciplined enough, mature enough, and discrete enough - not to get into any trouble. My personal feeling is gender should have absolutely nothing to do with any kind of military assignment - particularly if the woman is armed and skilled in hand to hand combat. Warmest Regards, Sandy :)

Response by PFC Donnie Harold Harris made Dec 30 at 2017 5:53 AM

PFC Donnie Harold Harris — Sat, 30 Dec 2017 05:53:57 -0500

Looks like i have hit a Real Hot point. Loaded with all of it's secondary conditions.

Response by SGM Mikel Dawson made Dec 30 at 2017 7:34 AM

SGM Mikel Dawson — Sat, 30 Dec 2017 07:34:41 -0500

I think first consideration should be qualifications to successfully complete the mission and making sure the soldiers you send are qualified to complete the mission. Being professional in the job is the key. I think the command element, when selecting for the mission know their personnel and take all things into consideration. Other than that, I know of no set rule.

Response by SSG Jessica Bautista made Dec 31 at 2017 3:20 AM

SSG Jessica Bautista — Sun, 31 Dec 2017 03:20:04 -0500

Yikes, a lot to unpack here. The only answer I have is people are going to be people. I've personally been married 3 times, all servicemembers. Some people deserve your trust, some don't. I've had "work husbands" who prevented people from bothering me. We didn't use the term though, as it implied an inappropriate relationship, which it wasn't.

Response by LtCol Robert Quinter made Dec 31 at 2017 8:47 AM

LtCol Robert Quinter — Sun, 31 Dec 2017 08:47:13 -0500

There is no policy that I know of. Assignment to any mission should be based upon the individuals' qualifications to accomplish the mission. As a Commanding Officer, while I would consider personal situations, accomplishing the mission takes precedence.

Response by MSgt John McGowan made Jan 1 at 2018 8:53 AM

MSgt John McGowan — Mon, 01 Jan 2018 08:53:56 -0500

i think this discussion has gone about as far as it can. My opinion that's all it is. Clearly some have taken it to far but the policy is you follow orders. If a couple pairing up within a 24 hour period or the worry of it happening you are in the wrong relationship. I only started working with women a little later than most because of career fields. Not one that i enjoyed tthe first few. But women started in the different fields and it was a unknown of treatment. Mostly they were given solf jobs in the maintenance field which I never agreed with. Me i hardly ever cuss or use words that I souldn't say to my Mother but some get to carried away. Lets close this.