SPC(P) Private RallyPoint Member 4180177 <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Long story short. My brother just passed away and he was a veteran. However he hated the military and also our family has decided not to hold a military funeral, but has asked me to wear my blues. What would be my proper military etiquette and customs at this funeral while upholding my families wishes? 2018-12-03T17:55:10-05:00 SPC(P) Private RallyPoint Member 4180177

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Long story short. My brother just passed away and he was a veteran. However he hated the military and also our family has decided not to hold a military funeral, but has asked me to wear my blues. What would be my proper military etiquette and customs at this funeral while upholding my families wishes?

2018-12-03T17:55:10-05:00 2018-12-03T17:55:10-05:00 SFC Ralph E Kelley 4180223

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>The decision is up to you. <br />Personally like or dislike your brother I would ask what your brother would want.<br />If he was okay with you being in the service, then I would wear it.<br />If you think he did not like you in the service, I wouldn&#39;t wear it out of respect for my brother.

2018-12-03T18:26:04-05:00 2018-12-03T18:26:04-05:00 PO1 Rick Serviss 4180272

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I&#39;m sorry to hear about your brother&#39;s passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. If he didn&#39;t like the military I wonder why he would ask you to wear it. That&#39;s a personal decision. I would do what your brother asked as a sign of respect for him.

2018-12-03T18:52:46-05:00 2018-12-03T18:52:46-05:00 SSG Private RallyPoint Member 4180274

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Sorry to hear about your loss first and foremost. Since your family will not hold a military funeral, I would be in a suit and tie instead.

2018-12-03T18:53:18-05:00 2018-12-03T18:53:18-05:00 CSM Charles Hayden 4180543

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>What !

2018-12-03T21:12:44-05:00 2018-12-03T21:12:44-05:00 CSM Charles Hayden 4180558

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><br />I am sorry for the loss of your brother. <br /><br />This seems like a personal call for you. <br /><br />If there is no Military nor Flag present, you would render Honors to? <br /><br />If you have personal knowledge that your brotherb HATED the Military, why would you wear a uniform? <br /><br />Pay your respects, no uniform nor hand salute is required. <br /><br />Memories of family interactions survive longer if they are quickly forgotten. <br /><br />If they wanna be that way, do what you think would please your brother. <br /><br />w/regrets, CSM Hayden

2018-12-03T21:22:08-05:00 2018-12-03T21:22:08-05:00 SFC Private RallyPoint Member 4180645

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>If my brother didn’t like the military I would respect that and wear a suit and tie. If his family asked me to be in my Blues while knowing my brother wouldn’t have wanted it I would respectfully decline.

2018-12-03T22:58:23-05:00 2018-12-03T22:58:23-05:00 CSM Richard StCyr 4182320

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Honor your families wishes, wear your blues. Condolences for the loss of your brother.

2018-12-04T16:02:42-05:00 2018-12-04T16:02:42-05:00 2018-12-03T17:55:10-05:00