What's a 'best practice' in dealing with family drama?

CH (MAJ) William Beaver — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 14:23:19 -0400

Family drama. Alot of us experience it. There are plenty of ineffective ways to handle, and only a few effective ones. How do you deal with your family drama? What is a 'best practice' you can share with the rest of us?

Response by SFC Stephen King made Jul 1 at 2015 2:24 PM

SFC Stephen King — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 14:24:21 -0400

breathing

Focus on the person and their meaning to you not the issue which is not the drama. It's how you approach the drama that is essential

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 1 at 2015 2:28 PM

CW2 Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 14:28:52 -0400

Be a good listener, and stay out of it.

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 1 at 2015 2:35 PM

MAJ Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 14:35:53 -0400

Kind of like how we handle problems as Soldiers: Objectively.

Response by CMSgt Mark Schubert made Jul 1 at 2015 2:58 PM

CMSgt Mark Schubert — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 14:58:25 -0400

When the drama appears, divert he conversation to what is REALLY important and the value of relationships. Maybe ask a question, "Is it more important to make a point, or have a relationship?"

Response by COL Charles Williams made Jul 1 at 2015 3:39 PM

COL Charles Williams — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 15:39:39 -0400

Be a good listener. Don't try to intervene and solve everyone's issues; we military folks are famous for being bad listeners, and quick to offer solutions.

Response by SSG Buddy Kemper made Jul 1 at 2015 5:48 PM

SSG Buddy Kemper — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 17:48:20 -0400

Love and forgiveness, bro. And a VACATION!!!!

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 1 at 2015 7:18 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 19:18:12 -0400

Set boundaries or you could end up being the bad person... Mucho esperencia aqui!

Response by SPC Johnny Velazquez, PhD made Jul 2 at 2015 7:46 PM

SPC Johnny Velazquez, PhD — Thu, 02 Jul 2015 19:46:03 -0400

It has to be confronted, whether you like it or not. Listen, get to the root of the problem, and after some souls searching, make sure you are not the problem it self. Do attempt to correct and/or address the problem, in a collective manner. If not, it'll become unmanageable, and regrettable in the end. Be patient, understanding, express empathy, discuss areas in need of improvement, and above all, never point a finger, unless that finger is pointing at you.

Response by Meagan Ahmad made Aug 29 at 2015 11:02 PM

Meagan Ahmad — Sat, 29 Aug 2015 23:02:57 -0400

Resist the urge to put it on facebook

Response by CSM Charles Hayden made Sep 28 at 2018 10:56 AM

CSM Charles Hayden — Fri, 28 Sep 2018 10:56:15 -0400

Having a short memory is vital for families to survive!

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Sep 29 at 2018 11:50 AM

MAJ Ken Landgren — Sat, 29 Sep 2018 11:50:53 -0400

It is important to have honest dialogue.