What's the general thought about an ARNG or Reserve officer dating an enlisted SM?

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 10 Jan 2019 20:35:58 -0500

Asking for a friend lol

Response by TSgt Terry Hudson made Jan 10 at 2019 8:54 PM

TSgt Terry Hudson — Thu, 10 Jan 2019 20:54:13 -0500

There is no “thought” on it, an Officer is an officer and Enlisted is Enlisted. Don’t do it!

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 10 at 2019 9:31 PM

Sgt Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 10 Jan 2019 21:31:32 -0500

SPC Private RallyPoint Member I think your friend already know what the answer is.

https://www.thebalancecareers.com/army-fraternization-policy-3344585

Which Kind of Relationships Are Allowed in the Army?

The Army's policy on fraternization and inappropriate relationships includes specific details about what is and isn't allowed between officers and troops.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 10 at 2019 9:39 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 10 Jan 2019 21:39:29 -0500

The answer is in the DA Pam. As long as the relationship was formed outside of work then it is allowed.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 10 at 2019 9:55 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 10 Jan 2019 21:55:20 -0500

The lines aren’t as defined in the RCs as they are in the AC. As long as they don’t work together or aren’t in the same CoC, there’s little to no issue.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 10 at 2019 10:19 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 10 Jan 2019 22:19:58 -0500

AR 600-20 ch. 4-14 through 4-16

Response by CPO Michael Hatten made Jan 10 at 2019 10:50 PM

CPO Michael Hatten — Thu, 10 Jan 2019 22:50:13 -0500

If they are not in the same command or even the same service, who cares? Neither is in a position to supervise or undermine the other.

Response by MSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 10 at 2019 11:28 PM

MSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 10 Jan 2019 23:28:03 -0500

It is different for reserves than it is for active duty. It happens all the time. If you are dating before hand then find out later that you are both reservists and one is officer and one is enlisted just don’t hang out at drill. You can’t be in the same squadron either. There are many officer/enlisted couples in the reserves. My husband was an officer before he got out. We just could never work together at drill. Even in the civilian world with a large company they generally don’t let someone supervise family members.

Response by CW3 Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 10 at 2019 11:42 PM

CW3 Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 10 Jan 2019 23:42:59 -0500

Did the ARNG or USAR officer make the acquaintance of the enlisted SM during drill weekend or do they know each other from the Reserve officer's civilian capacity? That makes a huge difference.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 11 at 2019 12:25 PM

LTC Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 11 Jan 2019 12:25:42 -0500

That's a NO-GO. Can't do it. If you start dating and find out, end it.

Response by SPC Casey Ashfield made Jan 11 at 2019 3:49 PM

SPC Casey Ashfield — Fri, 11 Jan 2019 15:49:39 -0500

It is my thought you are just asking for trouble. If she wore a uniform, it was hands off in my rule book.