Posted on Dec 6, 2019
What should I do about my NCO talking bad about me to other lower enlisted soldiers in my unit?
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My best friend (civilian) was on the phone with two friends of my husbands in his unit (Both PFC and so is my husband) and one of his NCO’s was in the car with them. His NCO did not know she was my best friend, and did not know she had the phone on speaker to where we could hear everything being said. It was not a private conversation, so she didn’t care that it was on speaker and that we could hear everything. They were talking about unrelated stuff, but then my husbands name was mentioned in a small part of the conversation, and his NCO immediately started bad mouthing about him. Mind you, the NCO was not in their conversation to begin with but the minute he heard my husbands name he started going off. Saying he is fat, lazy, has horrible work ethic, useless, annoying, has no business being in the army, and then he kept mumbling stuff we couldn’t hear because the two other people in the car started talking over him to change the conversation. My husband knows none of these things are true, he passes every single PT Test with a 280+, he is on the promotion list for this coming week because he is being waived to SPC 3 months early, he is currently working on a green to gold packet.. annoying - yeah well not everyone likes everyone so he doesn’t care about that. But what he does care about, is that an NCO in his company is talking bad about him to other lower enlisted soldiers in his company, and who knows who else this NCO is talking to like that about him. Does he leave it alone and continue to prove him wrong? Does he bring it up to his team leader? Does he ask to speak to the NCO privately? He wants to handle this situation correctly, if it should handle it at all.
*I am asking on his behalf because he does not have rallypoint*
*I am asking on his behalf because he does not have rallypoint*
Germany
Enlisted
Fraternization
NCOs
Posted 5 y ago
Responses: 25
Here are my take aways:
1) Why was the NCO in a car with 2 PFCs? Was this a work related travel?
2) The NCO didn't know the phone was on speaker. Was this an attempt to entrap the NCO?
3) If you were not part of the conversation, this is hearsay at best as you didn't know the exact words that were said by the NCO.
4) This sounds like someone is trying to stir the shitpot.
5) Could the NCO have been mistaken as to whom he was talking about?
Yea, not everyone can like everyone and not everyone can be liked by everyone. Even if your husband brought this up with the NCO in question, it would become a matter of He Said/She Said. Without actual recording or direct hearing of the conversation, how can this truly be proven? Your husband can either talk with the NCO......which could possibly not go well. Or, your husband can just drive on, ignore the comments and prove the NCO wrong. I suggest that since you did not hear the conversation, nor did your husband hear the conversation, that your husband just move forward and blow it off.
1) Why was the NCO in a car with 2 PFCs? Was this a work related travel?
2) The NCO didn't know the phone was on speaker. Was this an attempt to entrap the NCO?
3) If you were not part of the conversation, this is hearsay at best as you didn't know the exact words that were said by the NCO.
4) This sounds like someone is trying to stir the shitpot.
5) Could the NCO have been mistaken as to whom he was talking about?
Yea, not everyone can like everyone and not everyone can be liked by everyone. Even if your husband brought this up with the NCO in question, it would become a matter of He Said/She Said. Without actual recording or direct hearing of the conversation, how can this truly be proven? Your husband can either talk with the NCO......which could possibly not go well. Or, your husband can just drive on, ignore the comments and prove the NCO wrong. I suggest that since you did not hear the conversation, nor did your husband hear the conversation, that your husband just move forward and blow it off.
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SPC Stewart Smith
"Or, your husband can just drive on, ignore the comments"
Exactly. Think about your goals in life. Talking about others behind their backs leads to nothing. Talking about your goals leads to excellence.
Exactly. Think about your goals in life. Talking about others behind their backs leads to nothing. Talking about your goals leads to excellence.
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Use your GI Bill to take a course in basic English composition. Your grammar and writing are atrocious.
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SFC Kelly Fuerhoff
Honestly that's not the worst writing I've seen on here. But how nice of you to just denigrate the young soldier instead of offering her advice.
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MSG Frank Kapaun
SFC Kelly Fuerhoff screw you I did offer her advice. Her post makes her look both uneducated and whiny. Not the best face our army needs to put forward.
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SFC Kelly Fuerhoff
MSG Frank Kapaun - Lol wow. Ok boomer.
She also does not look "uneducated" nor "whiny." But keep booming on.
She also does not look "uneducated" nor "whiny." But keep booming on.
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