What should I do if I've been married for 2 years, have yet to receive BAH, and feel like I'm being neglected because I'm gay?

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 15 May 2020 04:06:24 -0400

I've already submitted an 1172 and a 5960 right around 11 times to my battalions Sshop

Response by SN Greg Wright made May 15 at 2020 4:31 AM

SN Greg Wright — Fri, 15 May 2020 04:31:53 -0400

Get the fuck out of here with that shit. No one is neglecting you because of who you slept with. There is some glitch. It happens. Figure it the fuck out and stop trying to be a victim. If you show up in the foxhole, no one gives a fuck who you love.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made May 15 at 2020 7:51 AM

LTC Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 15 May 2020 07:51:17 -0400

Two years? May be time to go to your cain of command and let them know they need to fix it or you'll be forced to go to the IG.

Response by SSgt Christophe Murphy made May 15 at 2020 9:10 AM

SSgt Christophe Murphy — Fri, 15 May 2020 09:10:43 -0400

Worked directly with your Chain of Command to get this addressed. 2 years is a substantial amount of time. Either the paperwork is wrong or the people are having an issue on thier end. Get your Leadership in the Mix. If the information you provided is accurate this is exactly what the IG office is for.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made May 15 at 2020 10:00 AM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 15 May 2020 10:00:32 -0400

No one is gonna give a shit that you're gay. And, unless you have direct proof you're being neglected/ignored because you're gay, please do not throw that accusation around lightly. But on to the topic of your BAH, have you spoken with your 1SG and Commander? Have you spoken with your BN CSM thru the Open Door Policy? Besides resubmitting the paperwork multiple times, did you at any time speak with your Leadership (from Team Leader to Commander) and get them involved?

Response by SGT Eric Davis made May 15 at 2020 10:16 AM

SGT Eric Davis — Fri, 15 May 2020 10:16:26 -0400

IG! You filed an IG complaint? You told you S1? Squad leader? NCOIC? Company commander? 1SG? then IG!

Response by MSgt Steven Holt, NRP, CCEMT-P made May 15 at 2020 10:23 AM

MSgt Steven Holt, NRP, CCEMT-P — Fri, 15 May 2020 10:23:57 -0400

Sorry SPC but I call BullShit on this one. No way in hell you submitted "11 times" and do not have resolution. Stop trolling for attention, invoke your Commander's Open Door Policy, and get it done. Assuming you submitted the appropriate proof (marriage certificate, etc), there is no reason 11 forms were lost/rejected/ignored.

As an added bonus... Do what I used to do with a particular admin clerk who "conveniently lost" paperwork. I started asking for a hand receipt each time I submitted something. It's amazing how quickly things started getting processed after that.

Response by LT Brad McInnis made May 15 at 2020 12:22 PM

LT Brad McInnis — Fri, 15 May 2020 12:22:58 -0400

If you waited 2 years for anything you are entitled, then that is all on you. The military will take care of you, but you have to remember there a lot of service members. It sounds like you are waiting for someone to hold your hand. That ain't gonna happen. It is your pay, you go get it taken care of. There are a ton of ways to handle it, and places to go. There used to be a story called "Message to Garcia" you may want to look it up.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made May 15 at 2020 2:25 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 15 May 2020 14:25:26 -0400

Yeah, I’m going to go with this shit never happened for 100.

There is absolutely no way in 2 years that you haven’t received benefits you are entitled to.

And on a side note, nobody gives a shit that you are Gay. I highly doubt someone is willing to basically end their career because of an EO complaint

Response by SFC (Retired) Efrain Hernandez made May 15 at 2020 2:40 PM

SFC (Retired) Efrain Hernandez — Fri, 15 May 2020 14:40:40 -0400

Good chance is not because you are gay. Although I would not put it past anyone to do that. Better chance of incompetence admin. Have you kept copies of each form submitted?
If you have use chain

Response by MAJ Byron Oyler made May 15 at 2020 3:06 PM

MAJ Byron Oyler — Fri, 15 May 2020 15:06:06 -0400

If you have hard evidence (video, written, recorded) that you have been discriminated as a result of sexual orientation, then absolutely make an EO complaint and drive that train. We do not tolerate that in our DOD. This complaint will be investigated to its fullest and people will get you answers. The other side of the coin that if it is not substantiated and senior leaders were accused, that might not go so well. I will add some advice here, everybody in this world has prejudice and are judgmental, none of us are perfect. Share with people what you want to be judged on and in this army as an infantry soldier, that is the ability to shoot, communicate, and move on out. No where in working to get your EIB does it ask very personal questions. Sure people will find things out and you should not try to keep secrets but the other side is only my close friends and family know my religion and politics, if you come into my office nothing is here that will clue you in on the gender of my spouse. I will admit this comes easy for me as for years I have been a bedside RN and firmly believe in the strictest and most professional nurse-patient relationship. Most important things to be in how I am judged in this life is as being a Registered Nurse and a field grade officer in the US Army.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made May 15 at 2020 4:14 PM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 15 May 2020 16:14:27 -0400

You can always use your commanders open door policy, should never jump to conclusions, keep trying to push those forms through and don't pay attention to any of the sour pusses on this site