What should I put in an exception to policy packet to ask for a BAH Waiver?

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 30 Dec 2020 02:24:53 -0500

Currently PCSing from Korea to FT. Drum. I was in Korea unaccompanied and now that I am headed to drum my wife of 10 years who has a 15 year old daughter from a previous relationship has custody of the child however the father can forbade my wife from moving from the current school district with out his permission which he will not grant at this time.

What should I put in a memorandum or packet to ask for this ETP?

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 30 at 2020 2:26 AM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 30 Dec 2020 02:26:15 -0500

To request to continue to receive BAH at the location we have for the last 3 years?

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 30 at 2020 12:50 PM

CW2 Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 30 Dec 2020 12:50:28 -0500

I'm pretty sure BAH ETPs go to SECARMY for approval. You are entitled to the BAH w/ dependents rate already. BAH is based off servicemember's duty location.
You, would likely need the ETP request memo (written VERY well), marriage cert, child's birth cert, divorce decree stating that she cannot come with.
But here's the issue. She's not your child (legally). Your w/ dependent rate of BAH is based off your wife, not her daughter.

Response by SSG Brian G. made Dec 30 at 2020 1:03 PM

SSG Brian G. — Wed, 30 Dec 2020 13:03:48 -0500

Hold up. Who has primary custody of the child? Is it the mother or the father? What you are describing is nothing like any sort of divorce settlement I haver ever heard of. Normally, even in joint custody, there is a primary custodial parent and that parent can then move etc., as they see fit and the other parent just has to deal. There is no "forbidding" or "need to seek my permission" BS.

Sounds like a load of BS to me in terms of the child.

As to your situation? Korea was one thing, but with you PCSing to Ft Drum, the Army is going to be unlikely to grant that.