What would be the best advice to just move on after having a relationship go "south"?

SPC James Foster — Wed, 01 Jun 2016 17:39:12 -0400

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2016 6:06 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 01 Jun 2016 18:06:53 -0400

Take it one day at a time. Try to avoid doing anything idiotic and destructive. DO NOT find absolution by climbing into a bottle (been there done that). Don't jump into a rebound relationship. When you are hurting and can't take it, find your nearest Chaplain.

Response by SPC James Foster made Jun 1 at 2016 6:15 PM

SPC James Foster — Wed, 01 Jun 2016 18:15:09 -0400

Let's put it this way, I haven't had any contact with my ex for a long time. I'm trying desperately to get over her.

Before I moved back to my home state, she takes me off every social network, changes her phone number without any notice. I haven't stalked her or anything.

What doesn't help is where I moved to, doesnt help. I've been living the in basement of my mothers house. I can't even get an apartment at the present time due to not receiving enough BAH. Furthermore, I'm scared to even live in an apartment by myself.

I can barely concentrate on my homework.

Response by Sgt David G Duchesneau made Jun 1 at 2016 6:28 PM

Sgt David G Duchesneau — Wed, 01 Jun 2016 18:28:37 -0400

Move on the best way you can and stay busy! Also make sure that you do block him/her from your cell phone , email, Facebook and anything else you may have and DO NOT try and make contact under any circumstances. Just accept it, no matter how hard it is and again, just stay busy! Freak it and buy a Corvette!

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2016 6:29 PM

Sgt Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 01 Jun 2016 18:29:59 -0400

SPC James Foster The best advice is to stay as busy as possible. I was working full time and going to school full time. I did not have as much time to focus on my failed relationship. If you have friends that you can talk to, that will help. As MSG Private RallyPoint Member mentioned, take it a day at a time, and eventually the pain will lessen.

Response by CPT Jack Durish made Jun 1 at 2016 7:52 PM

CPT Jack Durish — Wed, 01 Jun 2016 19:52:47 -0400

Say "Thank you". I thank my exwife frequently for giving me my freedom. Always remember that the best relationship you ever had always replaces the worst one you ever had. (And, if you could see photos of my exwife, you'd really understand why I thank her. She is like a mirror image of the Portrait of Dorian Grey - as she grows older, the evil within appears on the surface while her portrait remains young and beautiful.)

Response by CPT Joseph K Murdock made Jun 1 at 2016 8:09 PM

CPT Joseph K Murdock — Wed, 01 Jun 2016 20:09:19 -0400

I guess it depends on how south it went and if love is still mutual.

Response by Capt Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2016 8:12 PM

Capt Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 01 Jun 2016 20:12:37 -0400

Go north.

Response by CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2016 8:51 PM

CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 01 Jun 2016 20:51:43 -0400

Onwards and upwards. I am so very sorry to hear of this. We have all been there, but do not let it suck you in.

There is no shame in going to see someone to vent all the things that are pinging in your head. It is money well spent to get all the negative energy out in a trusted environment. You will learn new skills on how to cope in those quiet moments when the thoughts creep in and won't shut up. It was invaluable to me after my divorce. And I am a much better version of me because of it.

You loved and you lost that love. You are grieving that loss. You are human. Please do not let it beat you and bitter you. Someone amazing is out there! :)

Response by MSgt John McGowan made Jun 1 at 2016 8:54 PM

MSgt John McGowan — Wed, 01 Jun 2016 20:54:52 -0400

SPC I had a divorce years ago. Later i remarried and she passed after 44 years of marriage. Someway with the help of our granddaughters the first wife and i got back together. It's been so much better this time. So there is always hope.