What would you do if decades later you find your father and bigger brother both had some serious military trauma?

I wonder how my little brother and sister handle it. How my mom dealt with this mystery why her husband could not keep it together and her first born son went literally crazy to the point she drove him to the hospital.

It would make more sense if they all knew at appropriate times that the father was actually a Vietnam Combat Infantry Vet. It would make better sense if they knew that their brother had enlisted and was assigned to some odd undermanning “Test” of Guided Missile Frigates in the 1990s with a reserve enlistment that the VA would actually deny all support or recognition unless you actually appealed and appealed and appealed and fought. The fight was not that you did something wrong. The fight as that the actual enlistment was created to not make a minimum amount of qualifying active duty unless you got special orders. You were not in control of these orders. So your were kept in a status during the 8 year enlistment that did not qualify for va recognition.

You would apply as the depending son of a injured vietnam veteran and be denied based on statute of limitations, that did not take into account that the gap, was created because the father could not himself get into the va as his condition was limiting him, and he was also unaware that va even had benefits from what you later found out.

All this on 1 family

And I think it is a mystery why I am in a van and putting this in one message