When you joined the military, were you a "loner"?

SPC Margaret Higgins — Thu, 08 Oct 2015 12:55:29 -0400

Response by SCPO David Lockwood made Oct 8 at 2015 12:56 PM

SCPO David Lockwood — Thu, 08 Oct 2015 12:56:40 -0400

Not hardly! I am an extrovert and I talked to everyone!

Response by SPC Margaret Higgins made Oct 8 at 2015 12:57 PM

SPC Margaret Higgins — Thu, 08 Oct 2015 12:57:26 -0400

I know that in combat; you must engage in team work.

Response by SCPO Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 8 at 2015 1:20 PM

SCPO Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 08 Oct 2015 13:20:53 -0400

Brand new sailors, et al, who did it "by themselves" did not survive well in the military of my day. It was nigh unto impossible to be a loner. Chiefs would break them as quick as they noticed the slightest hesitation at a team mentality. I believe loners are not and never will be a good fit for the military even today; it goes completely against the very fundamental foundation of the military. Note: that excludes certain types of individuals whose jobs are highly sensitive and extremely classified. They may be few, but they are out there, defying death daily, and performing a service for this nation that very, very few can do, or would.

Response by PO2 Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 8 at 2015 3:46 PM

PO2 Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 08 Oct 2015 15:46:01 -0400

I am a loner. I don't relate well with most other servicemembers so I go about doing my own thing most the time. Now, when it comes to actual military actions, evolutions, transitions, what have ya, I'm a great team player. I'm a good follower, a decent leader and a great communicator. But when it's all said and done, say after hours or off the job, I typically keep to myself. Simply because, again, I can't really relate with anyone.

Response by CAPT Kevin B. made Oct 9 at 2015 12:05 AM

CAPT Kevin B. — Fri, 09 Oct 2015 00:05:56 -0400

Hmmm. Didn't start out that way but wound up being a loner for a bit. I hit my first tin can out of A school and after the perfunctory 30 days in the scullery where everyone ignored you, I turned to. There were only two of us qualified for Electronic Warfare so we stood port/starboard and were alone. It got pretty intense off 'Nam and we couldn't be distracted. The crew knew it and left us alone. Then we had to PM our gear which was S/TS and we were the only ones allowed in those spaces. Then since nobody knew what you really did, they'd ignore you. Our division chief was pretty much our only pipeline. I didn't have time to strike up relationships as we died in our racks briefly twice a day. Funny thing, when we returned to home port, some of the crew asked if I just reported aboard. That all unraveled the day I splashed a Styx off the starboard quarter and became everyone's best friend. Had the golden voice on the course change to the bridge and the golden hand on the chaff launch button that day. My reward was less sleep as the Skipper insisted I sit the EW watch on close shoots regardless of rotation. Ugh!

Response by SrA Matthew Knight made Oct 9 at 2015 2:46 AM

SrA Matthew Knight — Fri, 09 Oct 2015 02:46:16 -0400

Yep, still am too. I have always been a part of very small groups of friends, usually groups that don't pay much attention to any of the others. In high school I hung out with less than 10 people regularly. In Basic Training I had 4 or 5 decent friends who all happened to be Guard from the same base in Michigan. Tech School I only really did anything with some of my classmates and a couple of others who lived in the same hall as me. At Scott my friends were the ones from Tech that got sent there too. Here at Whiteman I have been invited to different social activities but have pretty much stuck to myself. I keep regular communication with friends from back home and that's about it.

It isn't the most fun sometimes but I have grown used to it. It has helped me realize just who my true friends are and it's kept me out of trouble and drama for the most part and that suits me just fine.

Response by SrA Edward Vong made Oct 9 at 2015 10:23 AM

SrA Edward Vong — Fri, 09 Oct 2015 10:23:23 -0400

When I first joined, I was what you would call the eccentric one.

Response by MSG Frank Kapaun made Apr 29 at 2018 10:56 PM

MSG Frank Kapaun — Sun, 29 Apr 2018 22:56:26 -0400

Yes I was, and for that matter still prefer my own company a lot of the time. There were times during my service when taking a mental hygiene break was just not an option. That said, the most important thing I learned in the military was how to get along with people I did not particularly care for for a greater organizational good.

Response by SGM Bill Frazer made Apr 30 at 2018 10:40 AM

SGM Bill Frazer — Mon, 30 Apr 2018 10:40:21 -0400

Yes, Ma'am- took along time to bond- especially since I enlisted as an E3, and had a ton of prior SVN folks with me who were now E2/E3, from being shake and bake E5/E6.