Why can’t an enlisted Reservist date or marry an active duty officer if they're not in the same unit or the same branches?

2020-01-09T03:01:09-05:00

I know the o/e rule but this situation doesn’t affect each other’s career. what would be the problem with this. Reservist are more civilian than soldier???

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 9 at 2020 9:17 AM

2020-01-09T09:17:07-05:00

How many different ways are you going to ask this question. It seems you got some really well thought out replies in earlier posts?

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 9 at 2020 9:41 AM

2020-01-09T09:41:42-05:00

Because regulations say so.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 9 at 2020 9:53 AM

2020-01-09T09:53:04-05:00

Because the Romeo Echo Golf Uniform Lima Alpha Tango India Oscar November Sierra say so. Not saying they make sense in some cases, but its the rules we have to play by.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 9 at 2020 10:19 AM

2020-01-09T10:19:37-05:00

The regulation simply states that the relationship must not compropmise the integrity of your command. While I was an active duty E-3, I dated an E-6 national guardsmen on active orders. When I was an E-4 and she was a Warrant Officer, we got married. We ran our relationship up our COCs to be sure everyone was on the same page and no one batted an eyelash. Run it up your chain to cover your six but you will be okay.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 9 at 2020 11:56 AM

2020-01-09T11:56:45-05:00

You're the Reservist, it won't affect your career. The midshipman is the one who will lose everything from the relationship. If they were Army it wouldn't be as much of an issue. But these are the clubhouse rules of the organization they chose to play for

Response by Kiersten Childs made Jan 16 at 2020 12:04 PM

2020-01-16T12:04:39-05:00

It sucks but that's the way it is. I had a guy I was kind of dating but I had to end things with him. Why? Because I had just sworn in at MEPS and signed a no fraternization policy. He's an officer and we decided it's just best to not risk anything. I'm not trying to ruin the man's career over some puppy love. He's spent the last 14 years building his military career and it's not worth it to ruin it by dating an enlisted. It sucks sometimes but that's the way it is. I would have something to go back to if we were to get in trouble but he wouldn't. His whole life has been military since he got out of high school. That's the same with being a reservist and dating an active duty officer. You have something to fall back on as a reservist. They are active duty and it could destroy their entire career. I would move on. It may suck for a bit but you'll eventually get over it.