Posted on May 14, 2016
COL Mikel J. Burroughs
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I bring up this question because my wife was treated very poorly by another spouse because of my rank! Here husband is a Major in the Marines and she has told others that is the reason she doesn't like my wife.

Why play the "Rank Card?" RP Members your thoughts?

Why is this still happening in our veteran and retirement community? I've always addressed service members here on RP by their rank initially out of respect for what they have accomplished and then I drop it and start addressing them by their first name as much as possible. Accordingly, RP allows you to highlight the name of another member, so your RP Connections will receive an email and the rank is required - got it!

I think once we leave the service there shouldn't be a stereotyping of rank or service - we should get along and respect each other as veterans and retirees that served a "common purpose!" Again, this just my opinion!

By thw way my wife has never played the "rank card" and never will!
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Capt Mark Strobl
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COL Mikel J. Burroughs - While waiting in line commissary, a woman weaving her cart through line. She explains as she goes ahead: "I am a Colonel So-and-So's wife. I get front of the line privileges." From behind me another voice booms, "Well, I am the CG's wife. I suggest you return to the end of the line, Mrs. So-and-so." Some just, simply don't "get it."
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Lt Col Gary Odle
Lt Col Gary Odle
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I retired as a Lieutenant Colonel and in my world "retired" means "We don't do that any more." Yes, I earned the rank but once I retired I lost all my command authority and am the same rank as everybody else who is retired from the military: Retired. Period. Whether the retiree next to me is a Staff Sargent or a Brigadier General, we are all the same. Retired. And that Colonel's wife? Her husband needs to give her a good talking to and tell her to knock it off. She has no rank. She has no authority. And there are no "front of the line privileges" for anybody at the Exchange or Commissary except those whose jobs require quick action on short notice, like former Strategic Air Command aircrews when they were sitting alert. Her place is in line with everybody else.
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LCpl Rich Vail
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SGT Herbert Bollum - AT that rank, (E8/9) the Sgt knows pretty much where ALL the bodies are buried. The only ones who can safely cross them have stars on their collar points and then ONLY at great risk. An E9 is worth his weight in gold. I knew an MGySgt when I was an E2 in the USMC...a wiry old fart who could run my 20yo ass into the ground. He followed TR's dictum, "speak softly and carry a big stick" (his stick was he literally knew pretty much every general officer and E9 in the Corps. Moreover, he knew his job inside and out.
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SGT Michael Hearn
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SP5 Derick Johnsohne - I know that to be true I met a female Lt. on duty one night in Germany I would have gone out with her but that bar kept me away
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Sgt C Boothe
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PO2 Joan Feledy - I understand your situation. As a female military member, it was very difficult to mingle with female spouses. Many used their husbands' rank as power and generally disliked female military members, thinking we spent our duty hours trying to 'buddy up' to their husbands, even though I was married. I appreciated and trusted most of my active duty teammates and one or two spouses, but avoided the catty spouses.
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Playing the rank card is a sign of insecurity and lack of self identity. That's the same as a PhD demands others to call him/her "doctor". It's different when in the Military. Aside of the "respect" aspect, it is my job to address others with their ranks because it is in the regulations and I am doing my job. Spouses like that MAJ's wife just need to grow up and get over themselves.
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LCpl Rich Vail
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I have a Ph.D in History. The only time I ever use the title is when some officious nurse or aide in a hospital/dr's office gets annoying. I taught for a while, but left because I refused to be politically correct or teach that socialism/communism is the wave of the future. 25 years later, I'm a master cabinetmaker and love what I do...
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I admit that I am unusual in that my father was a WWII veteran and was raised to be polite to seniors and juniors alike. I always use someone's rank or sir/ma'am except in the most exceptional circumstances. As far as calling someone doctor or not, if they have a doctorate I will call them doctor. Anyone who doesn't think a PhD is a real "doctor" isn't necessarily being mean, but they are misinformed. The ThD and PhD are the "real" doctors, MDs, DMDs, etc. are doctors by custom accorded to the healing arts. Considering the amount of training associated with becoming JDs and PharmDs, I cannot figure why they don't insist on being called doctor as well.
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SSG Jeff Furgerson
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Well saidMAJ Ginny Morton
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PO1 William "Chip" Nagel
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Playing the "Rank Card" sounds pretty Petty but I am a Petty Officer. I'm sorry I couldn't help myself with the Cheesy Joke.
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PO1 Kevin Dougherty
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Sgt Jim Glanz - As a USCG Petty officer, especially as an PO-1 where I usually wore my undress uniform since my job was mostly administrative, my collars were adorned with brass and silver "crows". This commonly resulted in looks of confusion and the occasional "better safe than sorry" salute when I went to another services base. The work uniform had sewn on crows at the collar and were a little more obvious.
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PO2 Rob Waldrop
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As a fellow Coastie, I can relate. I was at Great Mistakes Navy Training Center for follow-on schools as a GM3, and I routinely wore my "flat hat" because I attended class in trops and the school's "military adviser" informed me that according to the 1968 uniform manual he had for the USCG, there were no garrison caps... I got saluted, returned it and explained if asked. One day an officer saw this and tried to bring me up on charges. He was laughed out of the school CO's office, and then the "military adviser", a Navy E7 was called in and asked why he was using an out of date reference to dictate a different branch's uniform standards. It was a good day...
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LoL, Chip ! Great humor !
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SSG Jeff Furgerson
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That was a good one
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