Would you encourage your children to go into Active Duty, the Reserves, or no military whatsoever?

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 14:57:47 -0400

I'm just curious because there are many different opportunities for either option. I personally was encouraged by my father to join the Army after high school but I rebelled and wouldn't hear of it to save his life. It was only after I completed a year of college that I decided to join and then 2 weeks later called my father from Basic training to surprise him. I decided to join the Reserves for myself and I used my benefits to complete my college education so it has been extremely useful towards that end. There have been times though that I regretted not simply joining Active Duty. I have a son who is almost two years old now and I think that in the future I would encourage him to do the same as I did.

Response by CPT Zachary Brooks made Apr 21 at 2014 3:12 PM

CPT Zachary Brooks — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 15:12:56 -0400

I would not encourage my kids to join the military, but support them with all the information, knowledge, and experience I can give (or find on RP) to them so they can make the right decision. Knowing what I know now, I might have been happier as a Navy Warrant.

Response by SFC Michael Hasbun made Apr 21 at 2014 3:17 PM

SFC Michael Hasbun — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 15:17:42 -0400

Option 4, Active Duty after college.

Response by SPC Christopher Smith made Apr 21 at 2014 3:19 PM

SPC Christopher Smith — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 15:19:22 -0400

I did it so they won't have to. My father did the same, but I had Sallie Mae to pay back, and could get a job. If my child does it, it will be because they want or need to, not because I encouraged them.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 21 at 2014 3:37 PM

SSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 15:37:25 -0400

I had a lot of reasons for joining the military, not the least of which was to honor my father.

I would prefer my kids finish college first, then seek a commission. However, if on the day they turn 18 they want to sign up, I will happily drive them to the recruiting station myself. Serving was one of the highest honors of my life.

They’re still going to college, though.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 21 at 2014 3:47 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 15:47:11 -0400

Unless they are continuing their education.

Response by SFC(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 21 at 2014 4:34 PM

SFC(P) Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 16:34:09 -0400

I can't answer this question truthfully because I have no idea what direction the military is going. My son is 4, in 13 years the military could be a horrible place to be, or it could be an amazing place to be. And my daughter is 1, no way I would recommend the military to her, in its current state. Sexual assault is rampant in the military and I feel like not enough is being done to address that.

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 21 at 2014 4:38 PM

CW2 Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 16:38:35 -0400

Event though I voted for Active duty after high school....I would like to caveat on that...I have 1 daughter and 3 sons....if ANY of them want to go into the military, then I will support them whole heartedly! Currently, my oldest son (13) wants to join the Army (he would probably be some kind of SF/Ranger type.....crazy kid) and my youngest son (9) wants to join (I have never heard this before from a kid his age...but he wants to be a chaplain!!!)

To be honest.....I can think of nothing that would make me prouder than to see my kids graduate Basic/AIT/OBC/ABC/CID....whatever....and I am honestly looking forward to those days!

Response by LTC Jason Bartlett made Apr 21 at 2014 4:44 PM

LTC Jason Bartlett — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 16:44:10 -0400

I believe it comes down to a decision that can only be made by the individual. After they make their decision I can facilitate from there. Two years into college my son made the decision I started facilitating the direction he wanted to take.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 21 at 2014 4:44 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 16:44:40 -0400

I would encourage them to go to school first. My oldest daughter was out there flapping in the wind after high school with no direction whatsoever, so I suggested she join and do an initial enlistment, just to get her grounded and focused.(she never did though).

Response by SFC Stephen P. made Apr 21 at 2014 5:03 PM

SFC Stephen P. — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 17:03:26 -0400

I could only see myself encouraging military if the intent was to become a physician, or pilot. For all other goals, I suspect I would remain neutral.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 21 at 2014 5:52 PM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 17:52:53 -0400

I would absolutely encourage my children to join the military given that the benefits that were there when I enlisted are still in effect. The experience, the possibilities for education, and the opportunity to serve your country. There is no reason for me not to encourage my children to enlist as long as the benefits are worth their time.

Response by MSgt Keith Hebert made Apr 21 at 2014 6:18 PM

MSgt Keith Hebert — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 18:18:34 -0400

I wanted to vote for both active duty and resersves/guard.
My son has joined the army national guard

Response by SPC Charles Brown made Apr 21 at 2014 6:22 PM

SPC Charles Brown — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 18:22:23 -0400

I followed in the footsteps of my father who did the same and likewise as far back as the Civil War. I have done my best to instill a sense of duty and pride in their country to my children and my up and coming grandchildren. I have one grand daughter who is in ROTC and planning on joining the Air Force after graduation. Hopefully she is just one of my eight who will choose to serve their country.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 21 at 2014 8:25 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 20:25:46 -0400

I'd vote for Active or Reserve. I'd want my kids to serve for a few reasons:

1. Earn the rights that they so gleefully use everyday without thinking about how they got those rights.

2. The ability to pay for college themselves, honestly I was a better college student after BCT/AIT and started paying for it myself.

3. A job skill they don't have to pay to get. Skilled labor is in demand and it's not going anywhere. I'd rather them have a skill they can fall back on if corporate America doesn't have anything for them (or they major in under water basket weaving).

Response by CSM Michael J. Uhlig made Apr 21 at 2014 8:56 PM

CSM Michael J. Uhlig — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 20:56:00 -0400

As the father of four children, two joined and two pursued other interests.  I encouraged al four to follow what they wanted to do in life. My older son that joined finished his service honorably, he completed 4  years (plus training) and deployed to Iraq for 12 months and Afghanistan for 9 months.  He decided he wanted to finish his enlistment, ETS and go to college.  I completely supported his decision and very proud of his service. My youngest son joined the Army after completing one year of college ROTC, he got his wish of wanting more of a challenge and is in 1st Ranger BN.  He's been in for about 18 months and returned from Afghanistan last month and I am very proud of his service as well. While I am equally as proud of my other two children, they chose college and I supported those decisions as well and very happy for what they've accomplished.

Response by CW3 Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 21 at 2014 9:19 PM

CW3 Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 21:19:40 -0400

My oldest Daughter is getting ready to enlist in the Army, and my youngest wants to go to West Point I see no issues with either of them joining the military.

Response by SSG(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 21 at 2014 10:15 PM

SSG(P) Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 22:15:18 -0400

I have encouraged my children to weigh all of their options before graduation and deciide how they will better improve themselves. With saying that, the Reserves is a great opportunity to attend college and have a small pay check at the same time. Active duty would be another option for them to get job and life experience to help make them highly employable after the service and college.

Response by MAJ Bryan Zeski made Apr 21 at 2014 10:31 PM

MAJ Bryan Zeski — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 22:31:11 -0400

I think that Active Duty service is an excellent option for young adults who have not yet decided what they want to do with their futures.  Active Service ensures that they will not be "wasting" years of youth figuring out what they want to do.  Regardless of their eventual dreams and goals, unless they have a well-thought out and resourced plan in place, Active Service will never be wasted time.  The life-skills, the discipline, numerous opportunities for education, active lifestyle, and Veteran status will ensure that young adults have a leg-up on their peers who choose to take a civilian job out of high school with little or no prospect for significant future upward mobility.

Response by SFC(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 21 at 2014 10:58 PM

SFC(P) Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 22:58:10 -0400

My daughter who is seven told me a couple of weeks ago she wants to join the Army. Considering her age I smiled and told her that hopefully when the time came she chose the Air Force or Navy. It's not that I think she would not excel in the Army but that overall it seems as though the benefits of those branches exceed the Army's. Regardless of what her future holds if she chooses to join any of the branches we would support her choice.

Response by SSG Jeffrey Spencer made Apr 21 at 2014 11:00 PM

SSG Jeffrey Spencer — Mon, 21 Apr 2014 23:00:39 -0400

I think it gives that teen (that knows everything) a head start on life and self discipline. Going to college is good, but how many would do better if they got some real-world schooling before hand? It did me a lot of good. It is also family tradition since the Revolutionary War. My daughter is now serving. Two more to go.

Response by PFC Nathaniel Culbertson made Apr 22 at 2014 12:37 AM

PFC Nathaniel Culbertson — Tue, 22 Apr 2014 00:37:09 -0400

being in the military is not only a family tradition, it is considered a right of passage for my family.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 22 at 2014 7:28 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 22 Apr 2014 19:28:49 -0400

Thank you all for posting, as I suspected we all have very diverse ideas on the issue.

Response by SMSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 23 at 2014 7:09 AM

SMSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 23 Apr 2014 07:09:16 -0400

Absolutely I would encourage it, would it be my first choice for my sons? Not necessarily, I will always encourage education first. However if my boys are like me and really have no desire to go to college out of high school then the military is a great way to go IF you learn a marketable skill or make it a career. As we all know avenues for school while you are active duty are also fantastic. I would heavily encourage not leaving the service without a degree.

Response by SFC Craig Dalen made Apr 23 at 2014 11:34 AM

SFC Craig Dalen — Wed, 23 Apr 2014 11:34:50 -0400

I did this so they would not have to. There are so many other options for them that were never shown to me. I want my children to become more than what I did.

Response by SMSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 23 at 2014 12:34 PM

SMSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 23 Apr 2014 12:34:27 -0400

For my sons - because they are both 6'4" 225lbs or more - I would definitely encourage them to join if they were interested, even in the slightest. For my daughter, I wouuld most definitely not! After 23+ years, 4 as an MTI (Drill Instructor) and 3 as a First Sergeant, I've seen too many Sexual Assaults to feel that the military is a safe environment for females (many males too). While I do all I can, and I agree that there are predators outside of the military, the environment/culture, close quarter living, and ideal environment for predators (constant alcohol infused party atmosphere in the dorms/barracks) isn't something I want to encourage my daughter to be a part of.

It's shameful and embarrasssing that our military has turned a blind eye to the repeated victimization of our brothers and sisters for so many decades. Many of our senior military leaders have been found guilty of predatory behavior, so what sort of message are they sending? Don't get caught? Racism, Drugs, Religious intolerance have a zero tolerance policies, but sexually assualt someone, and the first questions asked are far too often are to the victim; "Why were you there?" "Are you sure you were raped?" We persecute our victims and protect our predators because they are "good workers, good Soldiers, good Airmen." No thanks. Until we establish a zero tolerance policy for sexual assault and sexual harrassment in our military, my daughter will have no part of it.

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 23 at 2014 1:47 PM

1SG Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 23 Apr 2014 13:47:13 -0400

I feel like I have done enough for this country so my children shouldn't join.<div> </div>

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 23 at 2014 4:21 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 23 Apr 2014 16:21:53 -0400

I wouldnt encourage my children to go into the military. If they chose to i would back them and explain the differences in the branches but i would hope it would be a last option for my kids.

Response by GySgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 23 at 2014 4:44 PM

GySgt Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 23 Apr 2014 16:44:59 -0400

I support whatever my child wants to do as long as it's not criminal or obviously stupid.

Response by SSgt Gregory Guina made Apr 23 at 2014 6:30 PM

SSgt Gregory Guina — Wed, 23 Apr 2014 18:30:47 -0400

I have four kids and if they wanted to join then I would suport them in that. I would not push it on them as this lifestyle is not for everyone. They have the choice to join the miliatry, go to college, or move out once the graduate high school. If they wat to stay in my houes after high school they will be in college or pay rent.

Response by SPC(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 24 at 2014 1:07 AM

SPC(P) Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 24 Apr 2014 01:07:08 -0400

I went to Basic two months after graduating from High School. I needed to get out of the house and away from my parents as we didn't have the best relationship during that time in my life. Best decision I've ever made. There are days where I wish I had gone to college instead but I wouldn't trade everything I've learned while being in the Army nor all the friends (who are more like family if I'm completely honest) I've made while serving for anything.

Response by SGM Matthew Quick made Apr 24 at 2014 1:13 AM

SGM Matthew Quick — Thu, 24 Apr 2014 01:13:04 -0400

I encouraged my oldest son (18) to enlist and he leaves for basic training in August. He sees some of the benefits, but not all yet...who does at that age, right?

My youngest (16) has two more years and we (him and I) are leaning towards ROTC.

Either way, public service is important and the military is a honorable place to do it.

Response by CPT Aaron Kletzing made Apr 24 at 2014 8:46 AM

CPT Aaron Kletzing — Thu, 24 Apr 2014 08:46:27 -0400

I would encourage my child to explore ROTC/Academies after high school. That's the path I took, and it served me well. Of course, some of the other options here could be solid as well, depending on the individual's circumstances.

Response by SFC Christopher Perry made Apr 24 at 2014 8:57 AM

SFC Christopher Perry — Thu, 24 Apr 2014 08:57:37 -0400

I could not narrow my answer down to one specific answer for your survey. My eldest son was active for seven years. He was medically retired this past year after his second deployment. I also have twin boys who are taking their own approach to things. One is going to CSU and will stay on the enlisted side of the house after graduating. His brother is a cadet at UNT. While I did not actively encourage any of my boys to serve, I did not discourage it either.

Response by SFC William Swartz Jr made Apr 24 at 2014 9:09 AM

SFC William Swartz Jr — Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:09:38 -0400

I would encourage them IF they had a desire to serve, I have 3 sons and never pushed them towards the military even though they grew up in the Army Family. My middle son decided to enlist after he finished his AA degree and I supported his decision while trying NOT to push him towards a certain MOS or career field, he ended up enlisting as a 19K like his old man, while I would rather him have chosen finance to exploit his education in the accounting field. I didn't select a choice above because I would vote for AD after earning a degree rather than straight after HS.....

Response by SSG Robert Burns made Apr 24 at 2014 9:10 AM

SSG Robert Burns — Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:10:24 -0400

It's not a choice on your survey but I would say by far the best option is military after college. Graduate from school with no debt, get a guaranteed job and guaranteed salary/benefits and have way more experience than all of your peers you graduated with. Making you the most competitive in your class against those who may not even be able to find a job. And while they are looking for more jobs you are continuing your education getting your masters and even PhD often paid for.

It's a no brainer tome.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 24 at 2014 9:56 AM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:56:26 -0400

My husband and I are dual military (active duty) and neither of us joined the Army right after high school. My husband joined shortly after we were married and I followed 5 years later. We have four children; two girls and two boys. Both of us would leave the decision up to our children whether or not they would like to serve and when. It is a decision that neither of us would force upon the kids.

Response by SFC Vernon McNabb made Apr 24 at 2014 11:03 AM

SFC Vernon McNabb — Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:03:08 -0400

I am not sure if I would necessarily "encourage" my kids to join; however, I would not discourage them from joining. I have sat down with my kids (20 y/o son, 17 y/o son and 15 y/o daughter) and explained to them the pros and cons of joining the service. I spoke with them about the many benefits that servicemembers enjoy such as paid medical, dental and education. I spoke with them about deployments, TDY, FTXs and STXs. I answered all their questions to the best of my ability so that they could make an informed decision. When asked which is better, AD/NG/USAR, I told them that one is not "better" than the other, but my preference is AD. I have been both AD and NG, and I just prefer AD. My oldest is in college now, my middle and youngest are both Juniors in high school (daughter completed 9th and 10th grade the same year) (we home school, and she worked through the summer to advance early). I would like to see them follow their dreams, and if their dreams include serving, I am behind them 100%

Response by Sgt S.P. Woodke made Apr 24 at 2014 12:07 PM

Sgt S.P. Woodke — Thu, 24 Apr 2014 12:07:00 -0400

LOFL not during this Administration

Response by CPL Felipe Silva made Apr 24 at 2014 11:53 PM

CPL Felipe Silva — Thu, 24 Apr 2014 23:53:27 -0400

Initially my enlistment to the army was purely for my own benefit(College),but after my enlistment was completed I was glad and honored I joined. My experiences both good and bad in the military cannot be replaced and I would not have gained the knowledge and comradery I have today.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 24 at 2014 11:56 PM

SSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 24 Apr 2014 23:56:12 -0400

My daughter was in the Army for two years. I did not encourage her but she knew my family and myself were military.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 27 at 2014 12:55 PM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 27 Apr 2014 12:55:12 -0400

I'm wasting my life away being from away my immediate family so my future family won't have to. Soon as I have a child I will give them my GI bill, and encourage (actually force lol) them to obtain high grades to get a scholarship and go to a nice college. But if they desire to go into military I'll encourage them to go in as an officer.

Response by MSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 28 at 2014 3:53 PM

MSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 28 Apr 2014 15:53:11 -0400

With the current talks of cutting benifits and down sizing I would not recommend anybody coming in.

Response by CPT Brandon Christensen made Apr 28 at 2014 4:39 PM

CPT Brandon Christensen — Mon, 28 Apr 2014 16:39:05 -0400

I have a 3 year old son right now and I would love if he followed in my footsteps. If he showed interested for the Army I would suggest that he go NG(like me)/reserves, finish you college education and then go active army if he wants to do this full time, otherwise stick with the NG/reserve and make it a great career (whether 20+ years or just 6 years)

I would be one proud father to see my son continue my family's tradition of serving our country.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 28 at 2014 4:41 PM

LTC Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 28 Apr 2014 16:41:50 -0400

I picked no military as it would greatly depend on what they wanted in their life. If anything I would recommend if they wanted to go to college to try ROTC to see if they enjoy it and then do it that way. This way they go straight to college and can compete with their peers while also experiencing some of the military life. They then can go active duty or reserves based on if they enjoy it and want to do it full-time or part-time.

Response by SCPO James Wightman made Apr 28 at 2014 4:58 PM

SCPO James Wightman — Mon, 28 Apr 2014 16:58:06 -0400

My son graduated Navy Bootcamp 5 weeks ago. He is currently in in the EOD pipeline. He did a year of college and decided he wanted more.

Response by MSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 28 at 2014 5:05 PM

MSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 28 Apr 2014 17:05:18 -0400

Active duty if they don't feel college is for them, even if just for 2-4 years. It provides additional experience and overall exposure to life after high school, provides some additional skills, & may get them to decide on some college after all.

Response by SSG Jeffery Haynes made Apr 28 at 2014 8:10 PM

SSG Jeffery Haynes — Mon, 28 Apr 2014 20:10:22 -0400

With my perceived direction the military is taking, I would discourage my children from joining. I have a 17 year old son that has talked to me about joining the Army. I would support him if he did, but strongly suggested going in as an officer.

Response by MAJ Steve Sheridan made Apr 29 at 2014 1:55 PM

MAJ Steve Sheridan — Tue, 29 Apr 2014 13:55:09 -0400

I picked one, but have 4 children and would answer differently for each child.

Response by SFC Rich Carey made Apr 29 at 2014 3:26 PM

SFC Rich Carey — Tue, 29 Apr 2014 15:26:37 -0400

My daughter would not be quailifed to join :-(

Response by CPT Jacob Swartout made Apr 29 at 2014 3:28 PM

CPT Jacob Swartout — Tue, 29 Apr 2014 15:28:29 -0400

I could see my son enlisting if he chooses to do so however, it would be after college for sure. As for my daughter I can safely say no.

Response by SPC Ross Kotewa made Apr 29 at 2014 11:29 PM

SPC Ross Kotewa — Tue, 29 Apr 2014 23:29:02 -0400

I have a 5 month old son and if he choose to enter service like his uncle and I have done before. I have learned so many lessons and have found, not just friends, but men I would call my brothers and they were there for me in my darkest of hours. I wouldn't trade that for anything in the world. I can only hope and prey that my son finds others like I have found and still are a part of my life.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 30 at 2014 1:41 AM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 30 Apr 2014 01:41:59 -0400

I would let any kid of mine choose there own path but would definitely make the Army an option. I noticed that many people believe the grass is greener in the other branches from what they served which I always find weird. Every service has it's benefits and it's detractors but I love the Army and all it's done for me so I would suggest it to anyone kids, family, and so on.

Response by SGM Private RallyPoint Member made May 1 at 2014 2:47 AM

SGM Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 01 May 2014 02:47:18 -0400

I let my sons make the decision and they both decided to join after they finished high school. My oldest son is currently serving on his second tour in A-stan. My youngest son is at Fort Bragg. When they told me they wanted to join I let them choose their MOS and the only thing I insisted they do is volunteer for Airborne School. My wife is prior military as well, so that may have had some influence. Best of luck to you SGT Dascoulias.

Response by SN Tim Landrum made May 1 at 2014 11:45 AM

SN Tim Landrum — Thu, 01 May 2014 11:45:31 -0400

Im a desert storm vet (USN Seabees) NMCB 40, my son is now active and in japan, he is a Seabee like his pop and is loving Okinawa. He works hard, dives, has great friends. Best choice he ever made !! Im VERY PROUD of my son !

Response by 1SG Michael Blount made May 6 at 2014 8:13 PM

1SG Michael Blount — Tue, 06 May 2014 20:13:55 -0400

I'd recommend going the Reserve route for three reasons:
1. Helps defray part of the college costs.
2. Having a longer-term game plan increases chances of success vs. drifting along with no plan or just winging it.
3. If my son or daughter decided to go Active Duty, then that would be his/her choice. At least s/he would have an idea of what Active Duty would be like, having completed BCT and AIT.

Response by SGT Paul Dare made May 9 at 2014 12:47 PM

SGT Paul Dare — Fri, 09 May 2014 12:47:53 -0400

I also joined about a year after college. It was the best thing for me at the time and I have talked to my boys (14 and 10 right now) about this for years. I would encourage them to keep it open as an option, but with lots of counsel on what to avoid, the pitfalls to watch out for and the ways to maximize the benefits (job training, college assistance, etc) I also did two years of the Guard after Active Duty, and I wouldn't recommend someone start off there. It was very hard for me to adjust to the different approach to discipline and it was very hard to form team cohesion only seeing the unit once a month and one month in the year.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made May 13 at 2014 2:46 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 13 May 2014 14:46:46 -0400

I am a little late to the party on this one, but as a father of a 16 yo daughter, I would neither encourage or discourage. I consider my daughter a very smart young woman, whom I believe will make informed decisions. If she comes to me and asks advice, I will give her the pro/cons of service.

If anything I would recommend she finish college and then if she still desires to serve as I did, then I would encourage her to seek a commission.

Response by SGT Derek Melanson made May 13 at 2014 2:47 PM

SGT Derek Melanson — Tue, 13 May 2014 14:47:46 -0400

If my son is physically able (god willing) when he graduates high school which is still a long time off as hes only 3 now, first place were going is to a recruiter. I will leave it up to him but regardless Im bringing him to talk to a recruiter.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made May 13 at 2014 2:55 PM

LTC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 13 May 2014 14:55:01 -0400

It all depends on where you want to go. I feel that every citizen should have a 2-3 year obligation to serve either in the military or federal service. Those that want to continue on will make the call to either stay on AD or go into the reserves and reap those benefits. This requirement would help our "entitled" feel less likely to fail.

Response by PO1 G. Leslie /Stiltner made May 15 at 2014 9:22 AM

PO1 G. Leslie /Stiltner — Thu, 15 May 2014 09:22:50 -0400

My husband and I are both Navy Veterans he however retired and I took a hardship discharge. We have two sons and a daughter and I told both my boys they could join whatever branch of the service they wanted, but it had to be active duty. My feelings on the reserves is that its great for someone that has spent time on active duty and then wants to pursue a civilian career after his term, but still wants those military ties. I do not think that going into reserves as a high school graduate is beneficial because should they decide they want active duty later it is to hard to convert.

Response by CW5 Sam R. Baker made Jul 7 at 2014 9:23 AM

CW5 Sam R. Baker — Mon, 07 Jul 2014 09:23:50 -0400

I did not ask, nor push my daughter to join the Navy, but she did. With that said, I honestly believe the country needs all youth to serve or at least train for a national defense strategy and well a lot of us learned a lot about ourselves and others that we were sheltered from growing up. Does one truly know what they want to do at 17 or 18? I think the training and service for let's say two years would be beneficial to any and everyone. Of course reading threads here, you can see with a volunteer service the issues that arise, just think of a mandatory service issue.

Back to the question, I am proud of her for her choice, however I had nothing to do with it but live as an example and obviously caused indirect influence.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 7 at 2014 10:32 AM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 07 Jul 2014 10:32:07 -0400

I would recommend active duty, but not after High School. After college. I will not push any of my children to join the service, but I will give them the benefit of my knowledge and experience.

Response by PO3 Stephen West made Jul 9 at 2014 8:34 PM

PO3 Stephen West — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 20:34:14 -0400

I actually quit High School and got my GED during the bussing fiasco in Boston 1977. Joined the Navy and ended up going to propulsion engineering school then teaching same as an early graduate. One shipboard tour and a Mediterranean Cruise as well as a few other cruises. Best move I ever made. Tried to convince my daughter but she was adamant about college right away.

Response by Sgt S.P. Woodke made Jul 14 at 2014 12:00 PM

Sgt S.P. Woodke — Mon, 14 Jul 2014 12:00:09 -0400

not at this time

Response by Sgt S.P. Woodke made Jul 14 at 2014 12:18 PM

Sgt S.P. Woodke — Mon, 14 Jul 2014 12:18:42 -0400

Absolutely depends on who is in charge...BUT..without a doubt I would HIGHLY discourage any participation due to the uncertainty and CLEAR direction of any "Commander in Chief".... in addition...ONLY IF 100% autonomous CONTROL was retained in the hands of our nation and not relinquish ANY controls to any foreign governing bodies including but not limited to the U.N. or NATO.

Response by PO3 Richard Alexander made Jul 21 at 2014 12:51 PM

PO3 Richard Alexander — Mon, 21 Jul 2014 12:51:02 -0400

My dad retired Navy (and spent 4 years in the Air Force before he joined the Navy), and I spent 3 years in the Navy (1984-1987), as a Machinist's Mate (2 of them in an engine room). I had a lot of conflicts because I try to live a moral and holy life. I would not look at pornography, would not touch alcoholic beverages, did not do any recreational drugs, shunned rock music and never used profanity. Ultimately, I was sent to a Navy psychiatrist because my command believed I was insane when I said that rock music is Satanic (my command told the psychiatrist that I said I heard Satan speaking to me through the ship's intercom). Navy personnel come in a wide variety, but cheating, thieving, fornicating and general perversion are common, even in the command ranks. The Navy psychiatrist told me that I'm not crazy, but she also did not believe I was compatible with the military. So, I was kicked out of the Navy and cannot rejoin.

In my opinion, things have only gone downhill since then. Now, the military places open, practicing homosexuals in positions of authority on the confines of a ship. I would have discouraged my children from joining the military back in the '80s; I sure wouldn't want them in the military now! Oh, by the way... I was sexually assaulted by a pair of drunk sailors returning to our ship, and regularly sexually harassed by sailors aboard ship. I nearly killed a man who pressed a wrench up my butt, but I stopped myself before I hit him (he never did that again).

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Aug 15 at 2014 7:34 AM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 15 Aug 2014 07:34:49 -0400

I joined Active Duty through the Delayed Entry Program in High School however I can not lie and say I would 100% thrilled with my children joining. With the world in worst shape (I had 9/11 as a motivator even though I talked of joining since I was 8.) it gives me pause to think what conflict they may be sent into.

Would I be proud, absolutely. Would I be nervous, of course. It is a tough call for any parent, however it is up to the child to sign their name on the line.

Response by CDR Kenneth Kaiser made Sep 22 at 2014 2:21 AM

CDR Kenneth Kaiser — Mon, 22 Sep 2014 02:21:54 -0400

It depends. I joined the reserves while I was still in college. I started out as an E 1 with a submarine unit. I got paid and it was interesting, my first underway on a sub was right after Thresher went down with all hands. After college I applied for OCS, by then I was an E 4. I went through OCS and went on active duty as an Ensign O 1 and retired as an 0 5 with 26 years. I have had an interesting time serving on submarines, destroyers, small boats, cruisers and command centers. The later part of my career was more R&D type stuff than operational but working with intelligence type systems.

There were times when I was frustrated of course. I am a Viet Nam vet and was there when the Pueblo was captured by the North Korean's and nobody did anything. It made you wonder if anyone cared but then I cared and that was all that was important. Now the environment is different from my observations. We no longer seem to want to win as a country . It seems as if you need to bring a lawyer to a fire fight. People support the troops more than they did in my era, but they still commit them to combat than argue about what the troops are doing. SEALS brought up on charges because one of their captives said they hurt him that sort of thing. I would recommend to my kids that they serve because it is a maturing process that puts you head and shoulder above your contemporaries. The responsibilities you assume at a relatively young age are amazing and of course the opportunities to see the world and learn are unparalleled. In short it is hard as a parent but unless things drastically change I think reserves and active duty are good. Sorry for the long answer

Response by GySgt Joe Strong made Oct 1 at 2014 3:37 PM

GySgt Joe Strong — Wed, 01 Oct 2014 15:37:47 -0400

I'm going to offer another choice - Support them in whatever path they choose.

Discussion: Both my wife and I are Marines 10 years and 21 years, We've both deployed and BTDT.
The decision to join any service puts you in danger of being required to give up your life, or live out one injured in service to your country, not a small question.

I will, and am, encouraging my son to figure out his path and then live his life fully, not half-stepping in whatever direction he chooses to go.

I will be fully supportive of his choices as long as they run in the legal vein. Should he choose to be the best drug dealer somewhere, well, we're going to have a problem with that.
Otherwise, it's his life, and he has the freedom to live it out as he wants.

He's asked questions about service and we answer him, but the bottom line is we don't want him to go in out of some misguided "Family Business" scenario(Not that there's anything wrong with that for those of you who have chosen that path either) - It should be his freely made choice to do so.

Response by CSM Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 1 at 2014 3:42 PM

CSM Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 01 Oct 2014 15:42:31 -0400

I would not necessarily say "encourage". I would however advise accurately to the benefits (all around not just the $) to joining. If my son is anything like me, which he is, he will benefit from the structure and comradeship that comes from military service.

I would give him my full support and guidance on whichever path he chooses (as long as his moral compass stays true!)

Response by Cpl Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 1 at 2014 4:06 PM

Cpl Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 01 Oct 2014 16:06:21 -0400

I did not vote as I think your choices do not reflect options available. I would have chosen other had it been available.

Having 4 sons and 1 daughter, I have already had this discussion with 2 sons. In both instances, I have presented my notion of civic responsibility as a citizen to my sons. I have detailed what that civic responsibility would be, whether military or other. I have given my objective opinion of what I know of available options military and other. And finally I reminded them that the decision was theirs and theirs alone. That they should never be coerced, bribed, threatened or lied to in regards to their perception of obligation. Further I reminded them that their decision in no way impacted how I felt about them and that I would fully support their decision as their own.

Response by SSgt Tim Ricci made Oct 1 at 2014 6:10 PM

SSgt Tim Ricci — Wed, 01 Oct 2014 18:10:09 -0400

Hmm!! Well my oldest son shoulda joined the Military but at 34 he is probably to old now and with a Drug arrest I doubt he could even fathom it! My daughter was to much of a free Spirit so it would not have been good for her, My Youngest son Has applied for Law School and is considering the Military but when Law school gets approved it will still be a few years! There mom was a Navy Nurse therefore an Officer and myself just a Stinking Knuckle Dragger enlisted!! I did preach to all of them that if they wanted I would go Officer!

Response by SGT Ian Falls made Oct 1 at 2014 11:52 PM

SGT Ian Falls — Wed, 01 Oct 2014 23:52:00 -0400

honestly i wouldnt pressure my son to join or not to when your an adult you make your own choices i made mine at 19 but i wanted to be infantry since i was like 13-14. also depending on certain aspects of a persons life it could end up for the best like me getting away from really haed drugs and the vegas street lif. im 29 now and fully retired bad shit happened along the way bet fuck i made it.but also i its one of my things now i cant stand civilians and there self intitled bullshit attitudes

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 3 at 2014 2:58 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 03 Dec 2014 14:58:00 -0500

It depends on the child, my oldest is a male and did not show an apptitude that would favor the military life. I think he would have been a brilliant yet misserable Soldier. My daughter however has the right stuff with exception of her ability to tollerate heat/sun. I suggested that if she wanted to join the military to go Air Force. She may still do that someday but at the moment she is majoring in Pre Med at the University.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 3 at 2014 6:08 PM

CPT Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 03 Dec 2014 18:08:41 -0500

I would encourage this, the Reserves allows some flexibility that the AD just cannot match. There are also some opportunities to do some cool things in the Reserves. And once you experience the lack of the organization of the Reserves, the AD disorganization isn't as bad.
Lastly, college is best done young.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 17 at 2015 10:21 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 17 Feb 2015 22:21:51 -0500

SGT Private RallyPoint Member I would encourage them to explore the possibility, like any other opportunity.

Response by SGT Pete Masullo made Mar 2 at 2015 6:21 PM

SGT Pete Masullo — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 18:21:58 -0500

I would not push them toward or away from military service. Interests and abilities generally guide kids the way they should go. I think these days its important to make "nothing" NOT an option. Also, I would make sure they weren't pressured by the feeling that they should do it or they are lesser people. They should feel a strong independent compulsion and then I would work day and night with them and their recruiter to make sure they were making good choices as to entry.

Response by SGT Joseph W. made Mar 2 at 2015 6:47 PM

SGT Joseph W. — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 18:47:43 -0500

If my youngest son wanted to join, I wouldn't stop him. All I would ask is that he take full advantage of the opportunity (get a degree, marketable skills, etc). I didn't take advantage of my GI Bill, but I don't regret it as I truly enjoy what I do.

Response by MAJ David Vermillion made Mar 2 at 2015 7:15 PM

MAJ David Vermillion — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 19:15:36 -0500

I like the idea of young men and women going into military after high school graduation. The reason being is that the military gives you discipline and a time to reflect on what's important. You can find your interest while making money and use the benefits you have earned to pay for your education, all of this makes sense in that you receive an education without the high debt that goes along with it. Time is on your side and more than likely your decision will be wise and well planned out.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 2 at 2015 7:19 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 19:19:38 -0500

I encourage public service, however I don't limit that to just the Armed forces... I believe that Firefighter and Police are just as important.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 2 at 2015 7:29 PM

CPT Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 19:29:57 -0500

I would say "Let him/her decide." There is no blanket statement to that. Some people just simply aren't "made" for college. They won't focus or don't have the motivation at that point in their life.

There are benefits to active duty. For one, you have a job, you have a way to gain an understanding on some of the world, and a chance to find out if they can find out their passion.

As for me, I personally have no regrets joining the Reserves. I went through college, had my degree, and direct commissioned as an officer/nurse. So I am doing my same-ish job, and I have the military side of things. However, the Reserves lacks heavily in many areas of outside support networks. If there is trouble finding a job, if you suffer a family loss...many of these areas are less established in the Reserves (the NG does a better job of "Family" than us). Often times Soldiers are given very little guidance on how to develop their careers, so they must find this out on their own. As a 27 year old nurse with college education, I STILL failed to 100% maintain my own career, as I was given ZERO guidance for around 4 years of it. As I discovered what I was missing, THEN I could begin working to advance. (It nearly ended my career).

Additionally, not everyone belongs in the military. There are people that simply lack the discipline or commitment. While I would love to make a 2 year stint in the military a requirement ....there are some drawbacks to this idea as well.
v/r,
CPT Butler

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 2 at 2015 7:37 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 19:37:41 -0500

Since I have no kids, I really don't have anything in this, but I think every person should do a military stint for at least 2 years right after high school. I think it would give a good amount of kids direction in todays world. There are tons of kids that have no idea what they are doing with their life and some that shouldn't be taking these big ass college loans for an education and working in McDonald's.

Response by LCpl Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 2 at 2015 10:20 PM

LCpl Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 22:20:36 -0500

As a Marine, from a family of Marines, I'd be hard pressed not to encourage my kids to make the choice to sign up. The Corps is a family business after all, but in the end how they go in, and if they want to go in, to whatever service this theoretical refugees from apron strings that have my last name might be interested in, or not, is their call to make, and I'll support them. I knew I wanted to be a Marine from age six on, it was one of my first full sentences. Maybe my kids will be that moto. Maybe not.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 2 at 2015 10:36 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 22:36:14 -0500

For me it depends. Do they know their goal in life? The reserves are great for a kid who wants to dive into college straight away. But active duty is great for the kid who isn't sure or lacks focus. Active duty also makes sense post college for a lot of people. No one side of the coin is better than the other. Know your kids I'd say.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 2 at 2015 10:46 PM

CPT Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 22:46:31 -0500

Soon as possible!!! It's the reason why I am in and can retire at 38. Following my father's footsteps was the best move I ever made. Joined the Army at 18 and I have been on active duty since. Basically have 6 years to go. I think the best thing about joining was the I was able to have all my degree's up to my MBA paid with for TA, working on my Doctorate with my GI Bill, going overseas both in Korea/Iraq (been overseas 10 years before as a military brat), meeting various mentors that would have been difficult to find in the civilian world, meeting my spouse, paid for my spouse's college with the MYCAA and half the GI Bill, and overall... being proud to serve in our Armed Forces.

The biggest accomplishment was for my father who was a retired 1SG, seeing that I made it to the rank of SSG... attended my OCS graduation with my grandfather (who was barley able to work in Witchita, KS in the 1950's with a special badge due to his race) and having him see how far his family has come before he passed away in 2012. My goal is to set the example for my little one. Photo is from 2010.

Response by PO2 Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 2 at 2015 10:47 PM

PO2 Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 22:47:37 -0500

My daughter is only four months old so it will be a long time before she's even old enough to join. However, my husband brought this up as we are both serving in the Navy. He said "If she wants to join the military I want her to go in as an Officer. None of this enlisted crap like you and I." My thoughts however, were quite different. Whatever she decides to do, if she joins, is her own choice. I wasn't pressured to join by my father who served before me. I just asked him for his opinion on the matter and what I would be expecting. Even with all the knowledge I got from my dad and my grandpa I still never know what to expect. There have been times I wish I had done the reserves or hadn't joined at all. If I could go back in time to change things I would still join, just be a little smarter in some of the situations I got myself into. In the end it's my daughter's choice, not mine. I will be there to support her every step of the way.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 2 at 2015 10:56 PM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 22:56:22 -0500

Just graduated high school. Various of my family members have served. So it's been a dream to follow in the foot steps of my grandfather, who basically raised me, and was active. So before I even graduated, I joined as an Active Duty member, even though college was a great opportunity, I definitely do not regret my choice of going active.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 2 at 2015 11:09 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 23:09:00 -0500

As a graduating senior in high school, I was hard on my classmates who were graduating and going on to the armed forces. "Why do you want to waste 4 years of your life?" I asked them. Instead, I thought I was smarter than my friends and elected to attend college where I "wasted" four years of life in pursuit of a degree that I have never used. It was while attending college and enrolled in Military Science classes that I realized how wrong I was!! 18 months after receiving my college degree, I entered the US Army. It is a funny world. I would definitely encourage my three kids to pursue the armed forces, but I would likely recommend they consider the ROTC path.

Response by Lt Col Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 3 at 2015 1:13 AM

Lt Col Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 03 Mar 2015 01:13:35 -0500

I think that depends on the kid. Parents probably should not be discouraging, but I think expectation management is in order so the kid understands what hey are getting into. I did this for my brother who had grandiose ideas, thinking he wanted to go and become some hotshot combat troop. I explained for several hours all of the unromantic facets of military service. I found an honest reserve recruiter who had been a prior life infantry type that explained all of what a combat soldier does and what is expected of them. Told him the not so glorious side of military living for junior enlisted. He had talked to recruiters before I intervened with all these ideas that he could be a special ops type if he wanted to. They didn't lie but obviously they did not get into too many details of how ones gets into those jobs. Frankly my brother was not mature enough to even think of this. I made it a point to get him into a career that would be marketable for when he leaves. He opted for a medic position in the Navy with a possible prospect of working with the Marines. This was sort of a compromise, in his mind he could pursue something more challenging. At the end of the day he ended up doing neither. He was medically disqualled in the process.

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 3 at 2015 1:35 AM

MAJ Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 03 Mar 2015 01:35:59 -0500

I will have to make that call based upon who my children become. The branch and MOS also depends. What I don't want to is encourage my children to do anything they are not committed to. I also want them to view their accomplishments as their own.

Response by PO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 3 at 2015 12:24 PM

PO1 Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 03 Mar 2015 12:24:24 -0500

I come from a family rich in military service. My father was in the Navy and I currently have many cousins who have/do serve in the USMC, Navy, Army and Air Force. I have more cousins in the military than not. 80% of both sides of my family has military service. I was not encouraged to join, in fact my mother refused to provide consent when I graduated HS at 17. I had to wait until I was 18 to leave (yup I was a DEPer). She told me later that she was hoping I would just enroll in college and forget the "non-sense" of joining. Out of all her children (I am her only daughter), I was the only one to step up. Almost 12 years later, she still says she can't believe how far I have come and how much I have grown. I would not make my child feel pressured into joining but I wouldn't stop them either. I am proud to carry on the tradition that the first born of the first born (and so on) in my family has served.

Response by SFC Rodrick Carter made Mar 3 at 2015 4:54 PM

SFC Rodrick Carter — Tue, 03 Mar 2015 16:54:02 -0500

I joined right after graduating from high school but my reasons for joining may be different from many others. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I commend you on your decision to join and use the benefits to further your education. You seem to be a very mature person and possess wisdom beyond your years. I have an 18 year old daughter who is thinking of joining the military. I explained to her the pros and cons of military lifestyle but overall it's her choice.

Response by CSM Michael Lynch made Mar 3 at 2015 4:59 PM

CSM Michael Lynch — Tue, 03 Mar 2015 16:59:15 -0500

I'm not sure I would push them into the military, they have lived with it most of their lives. Would I be proud if they did absolutely and would support them 100%. I want the choice to be theirs and will be happy if they decide to follow my path. If they don't and pursue a future that is honorable, provides for their family and makes a change in the world, I am good with that as well. I want them happy and prosperous for years to come.

Response by MAJ Keira Brennan made Mar 4 at 2015 2:37 PM

MAJ Keira Brennan — Wed, 04 Mar 2015 14:37:44 -0500

My partner and I are encouraging our 15yr old daughter to consider either Active Duty or the Reserves/Guard when she hits enlistment age. We fully believe in the idea of National Service.

Once upon a time at 18, I enlisted. 24yrs later I retired (9yrs active/13yrs Res + two 1yr deployments). I enjoyed my time OCONUS (EUCOM and USFK). I enjoyed my deployments. I hated the zero-defect peacetime Army of the 1990's. I would do it again and encourage people to serve.

Every soldiers is a potential recruiter.

Response by Cpl Mark McMiller made Mar 4 at 2015 6:27 PM

Cpl Mark McMiller — Wed, 04 Mar 2015 18:27:55 -0500

I don't have kids, but I tell every young person I know about the benefits from being a service member; it really is a great deal.

Response by SPC Patrick Gearardo made Mar 8 at 2015 11:18 AM

SPC Patrick Gearardo — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 11:18:45 -0400

The funniest and scariest thing I did at age 18 was go to BAsic training. I wouldn't give up that experience for a pot of gold! The laughs, the comradiere(sp?) between my fellow recruits was truly life changing. The military in itself brings a brotherhood or sisterhood that cannot be broken at any time in your life. To learn about protecting each other and being battle buddies and then fighting along side one another is a life experience that you will never forget.

You can't teach that in college.

Response by SGT Jim Z. made Mar 8 at 2015 11:21 AM

SGT Jim Z. — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 11:21:45 -0400

If my son wants to join I will support him in his endeavors and if he does not want to join I will support him in his endeavors. This was my father's policy and in my opinion worked well. Inside I hope he has the desire to enlist.

Response by SrA Matthew Knight made Mar 8 at 2015 11:43 AM

SrA Matthew Knight — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 11:43:34 -0400

Another pole that needs an "Other" option. I wouldn't personally push my kids any particular direction. I would however make sure they thought about it longer than I did before making the commitment. Either way I would support whatever decision they make.

Response by SPC David Shaffer made Mar 8 at 2015 12:39 PM

SPC David Shaffer — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 12:39:04 -0400

I want my kids to get a degree first and then make the choice. My son wants to be Army Infantry already but he is only 7 LOL

Response by SSG Michael Rowan made Mar 8 at 2015 12:44 PM

SSG Michael Rowan — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 12:44:13 -0400

I enjoyed and learned from my time in the Military. Much has changed in the 10.5yrs since my ETS. I would support my kids decision and hope they make the best decision for themselves.

Response by Cpl Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 15 at 2015 3:41 AM

Cpl Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 15 Mar 2015 03:41:16 -0400

I say if if your goin to join do active duty.

Response by SSG Mike Sommer made Mar 15 at 2015 12:27 PM

SSG Mike Sommer — Sun, 15 Mar 2015 12:27:04 -0400

My oldest left high school for Billings MT on a football scholarship. Lasted 2 months and was home. Spent the next two years "floating". I highly encouraged him to go into the military. It would be great for him. So far he has said never. HA HA.
My youngest, Senior in high school going to play baseball at a community college. I talk to him about it but not even close to the way I did my oldest.
Two different kids that the military would be great for but for some reason I think my oldest needs it more.

Response by Capt Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 15 at 2015 11:38 PM

Capt Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 15 Mar 2015 23:38:31 -0400

I'm going to encourage them to join the Guard for tuition assistance and GI Bill

Response by SPC David S. made Mar 16 at 2015 3:08 PM

SPC David S. — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 15:08:53 -0400

I would encourage any type of service but I like prospect of getting an college education first then pursuing a military career. Either NCO or commissioned a college degree is going to play a part in one's career at some point in time as well it lays the foundation for getting a masters or even a doctorate so I say get it out of the way in the reserves as doing so active and deployed can be challenging. One can always go active after college however there are a couple of MOS's that do have a shelf life like the 18x's but its 30 so there's plenty of time to get the degree knocked out and still be high speed.

Response by SP5 Joel O'Brien made Mar 16 at 2015 3:10 PM

SP5 Joel O'Brien — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 15:10:46 -0400

Neither my mother or father encouraged or discouraged me about the military. Both of them served during WWII. My mother, in the WAVES, my father, in the Army. If not for a low draft number, I would not have considered military service at all. Things, however, worked out. I enlisted and wound up doing something I liked for three years in wonderful and exciting West Berlin.

Response by Sgt Cody Dumont made Mar 16 at 2015 3:44 PM

Sgt Cody Dumont — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 15:44:54 -0400

Every citizen of this nation has a debt to pay to Marines, Sailors, Soldiers, and Airmen when servered before them, and only a few will every get to pay that debt. I would honored if my children were a part of that chosen few. My grand fathers served in WWII, my father in the 1950's, I served in 1990's. Semper FI and thank you all.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 16 at 2015 3:47 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 15:47:38 -0400

I come from a long line of service to the United States. I served in the Army, My dad was in the Navy, Grandpa was in the Army, and my great uncle was killed in WWI. This is is how far back my knowledge goes but my family has been here since the late 1600's so there is a good chance my military heritage goes back further. With that said my father and I both earned degrees with the GI Bill and tuition assistance. We all learned discipline, respect, sacrifice, and I know it helped me shed my sense of entitlement. I would be proud to have my sons or daughters put on a uniform and serve. There is only so much a parent can teach their kids. I believe the military finalized the teaching my parents started. Stubbornness and impatience runs high in me and the military broke me of both something my parents tried to do. I believe that I didn't really grow up until I joined the military. I hope my kids would join the military because there are things they can learn better in the military than they could at home. Even in today's climate I would still be proud to see my son or daughter join.

Response by SGT Jason Dougherty made Mar 21 at 2015 11:20 AM

SGT Jason Dougherty — Sat, 21 Mar 2015 11:20:26 -0400

I'm actually struggling with this right now. I have a son, senior in HS and he wants to join the Army. I understand why he wants to. His Dad served, he wants to serve and defend his country, he wants the adventure, etc. But, this world isn't the same, politically, that it once was.

The VA scandal is just one of thousands of examples that prove that our leaders don't care about our troops. Too often, they're sent, ill equipped, poorly supported, and without a clear mission, into harms way for no real purpose.

He wants to serve, I am trying to talk him out of it.

Response by PV2 Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 26 at 2015 7:35 AM

PV2 Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 26 Mar 2015 07:35:34 -0400

whatever THEY want to do. That choice isn't up to the parents.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 31 at 2015 4:47 AM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 31 Mar 2015 04:47:00 -0400

I would never stop them from joining if that is there true ambition.

However, I am going to ensure they have all the chances to not join, such as money for college, etc. The military life is a rough one, and it most certainly is not for everyone. I have been to three different duty stations, and I remain in contact with 3 people total from those places. Friends are few and far between, mostly because making true friends is dangerous. Burying a friend is harder than burying a "work acquaintance," or an "associate employee contemporary."

My children will be constantly moving, always leaving friends they have made. They have been through a lot, and I really hope they will choose a life of stability rather than the nomadic life the military brings.

However, if they choose to serve, that is wonderful too. The benefits of the military are hard to beat, and it is a life to be proud of.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 31 at 2015 4:48 AM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 31 Mar 2015 04:48:18 -0400

I would encourage them to choose whatever they wanted to do. I would tell them accurately what to expect though.

Response by SGM Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 2 at 2015 8:15 PM

SGM Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 02 Apr 2015 20:15:46 -0400

I wish I knew then what I know now. My son was in high school ROTC, but didn't want to go to Iraq. I encouraged him to join the Guard, get an Intel MOS, then go to ROTC on scholarship, which would mean he would get college heavily subsidized and a paycheck too.

He joined the Navy and is on an aircraft carrier.

Particularly in the US today, jobs are harder and harder to find, and good jobs are even tougher. Starting your career in the military is a fantastic boost, even if you just serve a single enlistment. People who want to be in control of their lives, versus those who want to be controlled by their debt payments, would be well advised to consider the military.

Response by Sgt Michael Bredthauer made Apr 3 at 2015 10:16 AM

Sgt Michael Bredthauer — Fri, 03 Apr 2015 10:16:52 -0400

This is a conversation I have had while many people while assisting on Recruiting Duty, you wouldn't believe how many high ranking active duty Marines would slam the door in your face for trying to recruit their child who was in high school. Most I encountered were not only opposed but violently so, I don't see the problem. I think the Marines made the most positive impact on my life, there is no way I would want to deprive my child of that same opportunity. Being from that background I wouldn't want to sway their option to join either way, its totally up to them. Volunteering for the Armed Forces is not a choice that should be made lightly, although it seems thats how it has become.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 15 at 2015 1:14 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 15 Apr 2015 13:14:52 -0400

I voted for AD after highschool, but in reality it would really depend on the child. As a Retention NCO I talk to just about every Soldier in the units I support. Some of those Soldiers never should have joined the Military at all.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 15 at 2015 3:29 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 15 Apr 2015 15:29:13 -0400

Whatever they want to do, I will support. If they do wish to join, I would encourage them to earn a college degree first.

Response by CPT Jack Durish made Apr 15 at 2015 4:47 PM

CPT Jack Durish — Wed, 15 Apr 2015 16:47:45 -0400

I had two sons and two daughters. One of each joined the military: The oldest son retired from the Marines. Proud of all regardless of their military service. Each decided for themselves...

Response by PFC Alex Rivers made May 6 at 2015 1:07 AM

PFC Alex Rivers — Wed, 06 May 2015 01:07:08 -0400

I'm not a parent yet, but it should be my childs own decision upon which branch of service, and what kind of service, if any at all that they go into.
Being a weekend warrior, I would lean more towards national guard. But in the end its just their own free will.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 22 at 2015 8:37 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 22 Jul 2015 20:37:34 -0400

My son just turned two, and I'm going to tell him about my experiences in the Army, but I'm not going to pressure him to join one way or the other. If he decides that the military is right for him, I'll back him 100%, and if he decides that it's not the lifestyle for him, I'll still be there for him the whole way.

Response by SPC Tiffany Ivanov made Jul 22 at 2015 8:49 PM

SPC Tiffany Ivanov — Wed, 22 Jul 2015 20:49:21 -0400

That is such a difficult question to answer. Answer for myself? Answer for her? This has been a great experience for me.... Even when it was crappy. I would prefer her to get a fantastic degree and stay safe inside doing a job she loves as a civilian. But if she truly wants to join, I will support her (and cry daily in the shower where it doesn't count). I would make sure she gets the opportunity I didn't get and research what she's interested in so she has no illusions about her options and what those choices would mean for her both short and long term. That includes the possibilities of danger versus lack of mental stimulation and interest in her job. But look at this face..... Please choose a nice safe stimulating desk job. LoL

Response by PO3 Sherry Thornburg made Jul 22 at 2015 10:34 PM

PO3 Sherry Thornburg — Wed, 22 Jul 2015 22:34:11 -0400

Both my sons have considered joining at one time or another. I'm concerned about it, considering this is a draw down time. My own dad wasn't real sure about me joining, but like him, I will be supportive and proud of them.

Response by PO3 Sherry Thornburg made Jul 22 at 2015 10:43 PM

PO3 Sherry Thornburg — Wed, 22 Jul 2015 22:43:54 -0400

The family lore says my Great grandfather was refused entry into the army because he was missing part of his trigger finger. He retaliated by inviting the recruiter out for drinks and got him drunk enough to sign the papers for him anyway. That was WW1. There has been a march into the services every generation since.

That said so you know where I'm coming from, I encourage college first. I think even a two year degree is helpful for achieving in civilian or military careers. The military agrees as they gave me E-3 status to start out because I'd done 2 years of college. My sons are 18 and 21. They have both considered joining the service at one point or anther. My eldest went in full charge after HS to get into the nuke field, but couldn't pass the math test. He is now plugging away at undergrad engineering courses. Noises have been made about going back to the recruiter when he gets his Associates. I fully support my boys in whatever they chose to do, but both me and my husband will make sure they know what they are getting into if they choose to join the service.

Response by SSgt Alex Robinson made Jul 22 at 2015 10:50 PM

SSgt Alex Robinson — Wed, 22 Jul 2015 22:50:11 -0400

I am the son of an army veteran. Both my brother and I served. I grew up in part thanks to the military. It's a great way to get an education and it's a good foundation for life. I would encourage and have discussed the military with both my kids. It is about being part of something bigger than yourself. Plus the skills that can be learned, the lifelong friendships and Al the experiences civilians will never have are priceless.

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 28 at 2015 1:12 PM

Sgt Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 28 Sep 2015 13:12:31 -0400

Definitely. Prefereably the Reserves in pursuit of a college degree and commission.

Response by 1LT Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 8 at 2015 8:13 AM

1LT Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 08 Oct 2015 08:13:46 -0400

I would encourage my children to seek appointment as an Officer and would encourage West Point or The Naval Academy if they were so inclined, but if they are my kids its OCS or a service academy if they want to join the military.

Response by SGM Steve Wettstein made Oct 21 at 2015 11:44 PM

SGM Steve Wettstein — Wed, 21 Oct 2015 23:44:21 -0400

My son joined for an easier route to get into West Point. He told me during in between his Junior and Senior year and I was deployed. So it was way to late to try and get him an appointment for West Point.

Response by CPO Anthony Picciano made Oct 21 at 2015 11:51 PM

CPO Anthony Picciano — Wed, 21 Oct 2015 23:51:58 -0400

Yes, Fi nothing more than to gain the experience of joining something greater than one's self.

Response by SGT Kenneth Curtis made Oct 22 at 2015 12:48 AM

SGT Kenneth Curtis — Thu, 22 Oct 2015 00:48:07 -0400

Yes. Being in the military is a good place to learn the meaning of discipline. It's also a good way to learn how to be more appreciative for what you have or to live/work with less than you would have otherwise. Hell, I learned how to fix most of life issues with just some 550 Cord and 100MPH Tape, I'm just saying.

I was in the Army for roughly 7yrs and learned so much more about myself. I am better for what I have learned and am more appreciative of what I have.

Response by SrA Matthew Knight made Oct 22 at 2015 2:52 AM

SrA Matthew Knight — Thu, 22 Oct 2015 02:52:59 -0400

I wouldn't specifically tell them to do it. It isn't my place to decide for them and I don't want to be that parent who's kids felt forced to join just because "dad did it". I would support them if they made the decision to do it themselves though.

Response by SFC Stephen King made Nov 9 at 2015 2:55 PM

SFC Stephen King — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 14:55:08 -0500

SSG Audwin Scott I would be happy if my Son choose to serve. However, I also would be fine if he doesn't #FamilyTradition

Response by COL Jason Smallfield, PMP, CFM, CM made Nov 9 at 2015 2:57 PM

COL Jason Smallfield, PMP, CFM, CM — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 14:57:10 -0500

Would I want my son or daughter to serve in the military?
- Recommended, yes. Mandatory, no.
- I will support the decision of my children to do what they want in life but the key thing is that THEY must decide. The military is not for everyone, even military brats.
- I saw seven kids playing, all stopped, faced the music, and rendered appropriate honors during retreat. Guaranteed that I would never see that off a military post. Sometimes respect is not properly taught by parents. Obviously was with these kids.

Response by Capt Private RallyPoint Member made Nov 9 at 2015 3:01 PM

Capt Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 15:01:10 -0500

One did. Changed his life for the better.

Response by PVT Rich Burns made Feb 15 at 2018 7:28 PM

PVT Rich Burns — Thu, 15 Feb 2018 19:28:25 -0500

I have encouraged my children, neices and nephews to enlist. The really valuable things I have stressed is: You get out what you put in, Keep your head down, Do as you're told, leave your self respect at the bus station until you Graduate and Never let anyone take it again and finally pick a job that requires you to do more than pull a trigger because the chances of you being there for 30 years is pretty astounding and you will get the training you need for later.

Response by PVT Rich Burns made Feb 15 at 2018 7:35 PM

PVT Rich Burns — Thu, 15 Feb 2018 19:35:47 -0500

To answer the other half of your question. As we all know Military Service is not for everyone. I myself should have waited a year or two before joining, that being said I do not regret my choice, however I would say go Reserve first its only a 6 month yime in Uniform at the base enlistment( 1 weekend a month, 2 weeks a year x 6yrs = roughly 6 months) if it suits you its easy to transfer to Active, not so easy the ither way around.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 18 at 2019 9:53 AM

LTC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 18 Jun 2019 09:53:32 -0400

My daughter joined and we actually deployed to Iraq together in 2009. She used her GI bill to pay for her college.