Would you let a battle buddy go home with someone they just met at the bar?

2015-08-04T08:40:18-04:00

Scenario: you are at a bar and your battle hits it off with a stranger. Do you let them go home with them? Do you just let them get a number and make them go back with you? Do you take them by force wit you?

What would you do and why?

Response by SCPO David Lockwood made Aug 4 at 2015 8:42 AM

2015-08-04T08:42:11-04:00

How long were you in the field for? Also are they single?

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Aug 4 at 2015 9:01 AM

2015-08-04T09:01:08-04:00

Let 'em do what they want. Uncle Sam may be in the business of protecting people from their own decisions, but I'm not. We're talking about adults, soldiers.

If a "buddy" of mine had tried to stop me from leaving the bar with a woman before I was married he would've had loose teeth for his troubles.

Response by SFC(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Aug 4 at 2015 9:13 AM

2015-08-04T09:13:00-04:00

I'd take my buddy with me. Let him/her get the other person's phone number. Let them sober up and call then. Alcohol doesn't do anyone any good. That's how sexual assault happens. Haven't you watched the SHARP videos, Sir? Lol!

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Aug 5 at 2015 6:40 AM

2015-08-05T06:40:39-04:00

I don't think I can make a grown person do anything, however, I would ensure that the proper percautions were taken. A picture of said person, their home address, a picture of their license plates and car, a picture of their driver's license, a picture of my friend and what she was wearing, a secret code word would be exchanged between me and my friend just in case she is in trouble and she will have to call me(not text) when she arrives and departs locations.

If my friend was intoxicated, that's a different story and I would ensure I got her home.

Response by CW3 Private RallyPoint Member made Aug 5 at 2015 6:52 AM

2015-08-05T06:52:11-04:00

Are they of sound mind, able to exercise good judgment? If not, I would defiantly have to intervene.

Response by SSgt Terry P. made Aug 5 at 2015 7:20 AM

2015-08-05T07:20:51-04:00

1.Yes, but i would make sure he could contact me if needed,after all he is supposed to be an adult.This is not taking into account if he is drunk.

Response by SSG Richard Hackwith made Aug 10 at 2016 3:03 AM

2016-08-10T03:03:47-04:00

Good question, no one ever stopped me. I only had to make PFC twice.

Response by SPC Adam Avinger made Aug 10 at 2016 10:02 AM

2016-08-10T10:02:45-04:00

How the hell is this even a question?

Response by COL David Turk made Aug 17 at 2016 11:01 AM

2016-08-17T11:01:05-04:00

It's probably the wrong choice for a picture, but why are the two pictured above in a civilian bar in their duty uniform?

Response by MSG Woody Ramsey made Aug 17 at 2016 12:41 PM

2016-08-17T12:41:22-04:00

You can't legislate morality or common sense. I would, however, get all the info I could on the person to include photos. I'd also try to reason with the Soldier in order to try to get him/her to realize what could happen---just so you know where I stand and what could happen to you.

Response by SGM Private RallyPoint Member made Aug 17 at 2016 2:08 PM

2016-08-17T14:08:16-04:00

Isn't that the whole point of going to a bar when you are single?

Response by Sgt Ralph Townsend made Aug 17 at 2016 3:39 PM

2016-08-17T15:39:55-04:00

where are her friends at?

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Aug 17 at 2016 4:57 PM

2016-08-17T16:57:16-04:00

Say what??? If my wingman is single and can take the shot and score, who am I to get freaked out about it. I apply this mentality to both the male and female person. That being said, I would verify they have a viable E&E plan just in case things go to hell with my number as their fire support if needed.
My God, we are supposed to be adults and war fighters, not little pre-pubescent children hiding behind our parents legs.
As far as the helpless female scenario goes, a good female troop never goes out without a weapon to lay waste to a critter should the situation warrant to protect herself from harm.

Response by Capt Christian D. Orr made Aug 17 at 2016 8:28 PM

2016-08-17T20:28:42-04:00

Why would I be a "cock block" (pardon my French) between two consenting adults? Unless I had good reason to suspect there was a genuine danger to my buddy's physical, legal, or financial well-being.

Response by PFC Janice Mayer made Aug 17 at 2016 8:36 PM

2016-08-17T20:36:30-04:00

is my battle buddy male or female? two completely different answers

Response by SPC Byron Skinner made Aug 18 at 2016 12:37 AM

2016-08-18T00:37:53-04:00

Sp4 Byron Skinner…The picture matched with the words is a strong image of an all to familiar situation, that you are in the wrong place to began with and its best to de-ass the joint with all your guys. The Army may have changed over 50 years but not this. You have to be careful in those boomtown bars. Guys like that SSg. from the National Guard 40th. Division is out on the hunt for some fresh…

Response by 1SG Billye Jackson made Aug 18 at 2016 12:27 PM

2016-08-18T12:27:24-04:00

If they are Totally Shit Faced NO! Same as if the are Driving.

Response by SSG Dale London made Aug 21 at 2016 11:22 PM

2016-08-21T23:22:41-04:00

In my experience, getting between anybody and his or her chosen partner is a fast track to a fat lip (or worse). How does being somebody's battle buddy give me the right to tell someone their choice is wrong?
By the way, I met my wife in a bar and we've been married for 28 years. Best decision I ever made.

Response by Sgt William Straub Jr. made Aug 25 at 2016 8:45 AM

2016-08-25T08:45:16-04:00

In a foreign country, most likely not. I have been to enough places to know that it's trouble just looking for a place to happen. IE; Bangkok, NKP, Combat Zone in Stuttgart. Stateside? I'm not sure. But I would take pictures of my friend and the other person. If I'm out with female friends, I would do my absolute best to stop it.