How can we as Veterans organize enough to make Veterans of Modern Warfare as big if not bigger than the VFW?

Many of us younger Veterans have try'd and failed to either join and make a difference at our local VFW or where just tolled out right to shut up we are just young bucks we don't know anything. We didn't have it that hard. The VFW's i have visited in my area are all the same the Vietnam guys run them like a old boys club, i'll see some younger members join and show up for 1 maybe 2 meetings and never again. I try'd to change it by becoming a leader in the post i became Jr. Vice Commander they liked the ideas but did nothing. SO i moved up to Sr. Vice did that for 2 years was working on my 3rd year when they started there why cant we get younger members bit again and i tolled them and i was tolled i would be thrown out by the Sargent at Arms for using curs words. Mind you i had paid my 20$ in the swear jar so i could tell them and i had barley used 10$ cause i was not dropping the f- bomb. So i went to another post same thing the old guys are not doing anything but they don't want to change they don't want to adapt to younger veterans. They don't want to realize. We talk a little harsher than them and no we will not be tolled to shut up. We have family's with kids and we enjoy a brother hood so we like get together's like cook outs. We know when we are not wanted and the Vietnam Vets don't want us in the meeting they just as VFW members and that wont fly for us.