Posted on Jul 2, 2019
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My stepson about to go to MEPS Monday. Lucky for me MEPS is on post. I want to be there to help guide him through process during the portion of signing his life to navy to help him get job he wants vs getting pushed into something less desirable. Is it true nobody can be with potential recruits until the oath of enlistment? And that parents can not advise child on signing for jobs? Appreciate the help and feedback!
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SGT Christopher Hayden
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Your "child" is an adult at this point in the process (or you signed away your rights to them to allow them to join at 17) and should have the knowledge to make an adult decision without mommy and daddy there holding their hand the entire way. You're going to have to let go at some point, and they should already have any idea of what they want in life without you sitting there with them when they are at MEPS.
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SGM Bill Frazer
SGM Bill Frazer
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Guidance needs to be done prior to signing, preferably at home
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SGT Christopher Hayden
SGT Christopher Hayden
5 mo
SGM Bill Frazer - Very much this. Once he's sitting with that Counselor it's time for him to already have a strong idea of what he wants and not just take whatever they want to give him (if that's what you're afraid of). SFC (Join to see)
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SGT Ro Sapper
SGT Ro Sapper
5 mo
Although I understand the whole, They are adults and you cant hold their hand mentality, its a very big step. They have been known to bully you into a certain field to try and meet a certain demand. I know this from personal experience. I see nothing wrong with having someone in your corner to guide you. This is an extremely important decision to make and not to be taking lightly.
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MAJ Ken Landgren
MAJ Ken Landgren
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SGT Ro Sapper - I whole heartedly concur with you. I maxed the ASVAB and the fucking recruiters said the only positions were Infantry and Tank mechanics. The whole office tried their best to make me decide on the two MOS's. They lied through their teeth.
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SCPO Jason McLaughlin
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Bryan....you will not be allowed to accompany him into job selection. That being said, he has to treat this like buying a car, which means he has to be willing to walk away if the deal isn't right for him. I was offered 6 different jobs before I made my decision. My exact words to the career counselor were "if you offer me another one of these shit jobs, you can take your Navy and shove it. I'll join the Air Force!"

Some inconvenient truths:
Apprenticeships suck. They are sold as a way to experience all aspects of a field so you can figure out what the member wants to do. This is bullshit. They are suck jobs for people who scored the minimum on their ASVAB and need to be happy that the Navy is willing to take them. If your son scored half-decently on the ASVAB he should have an "A" school.

Nukes make the most money for enlisted rates, but their work life balance is very shitty, and the school has the highest drop-out rate of all Navy rates. Schooling is 2 years long, and everyone I have talked to about says how miserable it is.

The flight deck might sound exciting, but statistically, it is one of the most dangerous jobs in the Navy. And, in the summer, in the Arabian Gulf, it is 130 degrees plus up there.

Finally here is a link to the last cycles PO quotas. Make sure he picks a rate that actually has a decent chance of promotion.

https://partner-mco-archive.s3.amazonaws.com/client_files/ [login to see] .pdf
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CPO Robert Lewis
CPO Robert Lewis
5 mo
It is true once enlisted he or she is now a government employee and as they told us "ignorance is not an excuse", you can only hope the recruiter/counsellor actually gave good solid advice to the recruit and not trying to fill hard pressed billets. So to reiterate prior planning is essential and if you feel your getting screwed, say something. if you get off to a good start you're more willing to go the journey.
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MAJ Ken Landgren
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I bet they will change the tune if you say he won't enlist unless you can accompany him.
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