How to Stop Complaining in 21 Days | The Oprah Winfrey Show | Oprah Winfrey Network

How to stop complaining in 21 days. I recommend starting with just trying for 24 hours first. It is not so easy. One time I made it a whole seven hours straight with no complaining (ok I was asleep. but it counts). Who is up for the challenge?

http://www.AComplaintFreeWorld.org. We send the bracelets out free (the program is supported entirely by donations and you can donate if you choose). Here is how to use the bracelet:

• Begin to wear the bracelet, on either wrist.

• When you catch yourself complaining, gossiping, or criticizing, move the bracelet to the other arm and begin again.

• If you hear someone else wearing a bracelet complain, it's OK to point out their need to switch the bracelet to the other arm; BUT if you're going to do this, you must move your bracelet first! Because you're complaining about their complaining.

• Stay with it. It may take many months to reach 21 consecutive days. The average is 4 to 8 months.

"And relax. We're only talking about complaints, criticism, and gossip that is spoken. If it comes out of your mouth, it counts, so start over. If you think it, it's free. But you'll find out that even complaining thoughts will disappear as you move through this process.

"Start right now. You don't have to wait for your purple bracelet to arrive to get started. Slip a rubber band on your wrist; put a coin or small stone in your pocket; move a paperweight to one side of your desk or find your own distinctive way of self-monitoring now. Do it now. Then, when you catch yourself complaining, criticizing, or gossiping, move the item. Move the rubber band to the other wrist, switch the coin to another pocket, or move the paperweight to the other side of the desk. It's important that you move the item. It's that act of moving it that plows furrows deeply into your consciousness, making you aware of your behavior. You must move it, every time.

"Did you catch the very important word in the last paragraph? I said WHEN you catch yourself complaining, not IF. Complaining is epidemic in our world, so don't be surprised when you find out that you, too, gripe a lot more than you thought."