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Lt Col Charlie Brown
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Good morning Col Burroughs and Posse. Great topic. So many of us in leadership positions don't like to say "no" We feel like we are disappointing people but sometimes we have to have the courage and wisdom to do that. We have to say no so that we can focus on what is important; what our primary mission is and not be distracted or wasting energy on that which is a distraction.
It's not easy to do but it is necessary for good leadership






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SGT David A. 'Cowboy' Groth
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Lt Col Charlie Brown Excellent words of wisdom ma'am.
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COL Mikel J. Burroughs
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Lt Col Charlie Brown - It is so necessary to be able to say just say "NO" Charlie. Your Meme's are spot on and the quotes are perfect...

“Many people have a hard time saying ‘No!’ It’s imperative in leadership to be able and willing you step up to the plate and say ‘No’ when you know you’re right and something is wrong. It takes courage and character to say the word ‘No’ when the time and situation is appropriate. That leads me to this quote for many to think about and relinquish…

‘The Beauty of No!’ – Unknown Author

May you always have the courage and ability to say ‘No’ with the situation calls for it; may your mind, body, and soul be opened to grace, goodness, peace, forgiveness, and a continued bountiful life of purpose; and keep your family safe, secure, happy, and healthy.” — COL (Ret) Mikel Burroughs

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Lt Col John (Jack) Christensen
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LTC Stephen F.
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I hope your integrity is intact and I hope your transparency of character does you justice and is worthy of emulation. No doubt your humility is genuine and you do not put on airs in social interactions since you have self-confidence and have no need or desire to demean others. The LORD justified each of us who are HIS adopted sons and daughters at our salvation and cleanses us of all sin and defects. By HIS grace HE sees us as pure with impeccable character even while HE sanctifies our soul to perfectly reflect HIS image. I hope and pray that you and I have taken to heart the admonition of the LORD to confess our shortfalls and failures and ask the LORD to help us genuinely repent and when appropriate ask for forgiveness. Scripture reminds us ‘for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified by his grace as a gift,’ [Romans 3:23 ESV] and ‘if we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.’ [1 John 1:8-9 ESV] my sister-in-Christ Lt Col Charlie Brown.

I pray for an increase of self-control, compassion and goodness for each of YOUR adopted sons and daughters who reads or hears this prayer LORD. I thank you for purifying our character through sanctification of the soul of each of us dear LORD. ‘For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. [2 Peter 1:5-8 ESV]
I pray for a secure night for each deployed service member, police and agents on duty, emergency room personnel, fire and rescue and EMT. I pray that none will die without the eternal security of personal relationship with you. Bless their family members with a secure and peaceful sleep and ability to rest in the comfort that YOU are their shield and buckler. ‘How beautiful upon the mountains are the feet of him who brings good news, who publishes peace, who brings good news of happiness, who publishes salvation, who says to Zion, “Your God reigns.” The voice of your watchmen—they lift up their voice; together they sing for joy; [Isaiah 52:7-8a ESV
I pray that the United States Congress will negotiate in good faith. I pray for compromise on non-essential riders to Infrastructure legislation. Hopefully the riders will be stripped from the legislation as unnecessary pork. I pray that authorization for critical race theory will be considered pork. ‘The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight. For by me your days will be multiplied, and years will be added to your life. If you become wise, you will benefit. If you scorn wisdom, you will be the one to suffer [Proverbs 9:10-11 ESV]
'I pray for wisdom for the Supreme Court chief justice and associate justices as they review cases and make judgements. 'I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live!' [Deuteronomy 30:19 ESV]
I pray that you and your family members slept well Tuesday night and awoke refreshed and healthy on Wednesday morning.
By the power and authority of the Name above all names, Jesus the Christ.
FYI COL Mikel J. Burroughs PO3 Charles Streich SPC Michael Terrell
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Good “Tuesday!” Morning “Burroughs’ Posse Leader from the now Rainy skies of the SW Florida Coastline... It was forecast to rain and it surely did that!!! Buckets! The area needs it though...

Today is: “Say No Day!” Why Not? Here is My Personal Quote:

"There is saying "NO" and then there is saying "No" and explaining why and offering a suggestion, which just might work better than the original request/order... So, it is OK to say "NO", but make sure you're prepared to explain your reason and offer a good alternative to whatever plan or task has been requested or ordered. - "Kerry F. Harkins - July 27, 2021

"The oldest, shortest words - 'yes' and 'no' - are those which require the most thought." - Pythagoras

"The courage to say no, the courage to say yes. Decisions do determine Destiny." - Thomas S. Monson

"If you must say yes, say it with an open heart. If you must say no, say it without fear." - Paulo Coelho

"Learning to "just say no" to emotional reactions isn't repression. Saying no means not engaging the frustration, anger, judgment, or blame. Without engagement, you won't have anything to repress." - Doc Childre

"Keep in mind that you are always saying "no" to something. If it isn't to the apparent and urgent things in your life, it is probably to the most fundamental, highly important things." - Stephen Covey

Another viewpoint:
"A rebel is a nonconformist who is constantly saying no, and I'm not that. I'm a conformist and I believe in progress, and you can't make much progress by saying no all the time. A rebel is destructive. I know I have something constructive to offer." - Paul Newman

Remember this...

“As a leader I wasn’t hired to say ‘Yes’, all the time. ‘No’ is an acceptable answer when you are leading!” — COL (Ret) Mikel Burroughs
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SGT David A. 'Cowboy' Groth
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Sgt (Join to see) You're very welcome brother Kerry.
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SSgt Marian Mitchell
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Amen Kerry!
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SSgt Marian Mitchell Amen, Sister...
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LTC Stephen F.
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I hope your integrity is intact and I hope your transparency of character does you justice and is worthy of emulation. No doubt your humility is genuine and you do not put on airs in social interactions since you have self-confidence and have no need or desire to demean others. The LORD justified each of us who are HIS adopted sons and daughters at our salvation and cleanses us of all sin and defects. By HIS grace HE sees us as pure with impeccable character even while HE sanctifies our soul to perfectly reflect HIS image. I hope and pray that you and I have taken to heart the admonition of the LORD to confess our shortfalls and failures and ask the LORD to help us genuinely repent and when appropriate ask for forgiveness. Scripture reminds us ‘for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified by his grace as a gift,’ [Romans 3:23 ESV] and ‘if we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.’ [1 John 1:8-9 ESV] my brother-in-Christ Sgt (Join to see).

I pray for an increase of self-control, compassion and goodness for each of YOUR adopted sons and daughters who reads or hears this prayer LORD. I thank you for purifying our character through sanctification of the soul of each of us dear LORD. ‘For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. [2 Peter 1:5-8 ESV]
I pray for a secure night for each deployed service member, police and agents on duty, emergency room personnel, fire and rescue and EMT. I pray that none will die without the eternal security of personal relationship with you. Bless their family members with a secure and peaceful sleep and ability to rest in the comfort that YOU are their shield and buckler. ‘How beautiful upon the mountains are the feet of him who brings good news, who publishes peace, who brings good news of happiness, who publishes salvation, who says to Zion, “Your God reigns.” The voice of your watchmen—they lift up their voice; together they sing for joy; [Isaiah 52:7-8a ESV
I pray that the United States Congress will negotiate in good faith. I pray for compromise on non-essential riders to Infrastructure legislation. Hopefully the riders will be stripped from the legislation as unnecessary pork. I pray that authorization for critical race theory will be considered pork. ‘The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight. For by me your days will be multiplied, and years will be added to your life. If you become wise, you will benefit. If you scorn wisdom, you will be the one to suffer [Proverbs 9:10-11 ESV]
'I pray for wisdom for the Supreme Court chief justice and associate justices as they review cases and make judgements. 'I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live!' [Deuteronomy 30:19 ESV]
I pray that you and your family members slept well Tuesday night and awoke refreshed and healthy on Wednesday morning.
By the power and authority of the Name above all names, Jesus the Christ.
FYI COL Mikel J. Burroughs PO3 Charles Streich SPC Michael Terrell
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SFC Joe S. Davis Jr., MSM, DSL
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COL Mikel J. Burroughs here is a share to go along with the read my friend.

https://www.greatbigminds.com/4-legit-reasons-to-say-no-when-someone-asks-for-a-favor/?fbclid=IwAR2RckLZzZCfYOV4kdegy1W4Si0sxKACQv8swLRYnJXrtCKbejzpVHd9wVQ

No is a single syllable word that some of us may find very hard to say at times especially when someone asks for a favor. Some of us are yes-men that will just agree to everything and anything, despite being aware of the unfavorable consequences. If at all we do say no, we will probably feel so guilty about it. Nevertheless, sometimes it is good to say no for our personal sake. These 4 legit reasons to say “NO” when someone asks for a favor may just do you some good.
When you’re broke

Many of us are ashamed to admit that we’re broke. You know if you had enough cash you wouldn’t mind lending it or spending it on something or someone. So when your co-workers asks to chip in ridiculous amount of money for your colleagues expensive birthday lunch, for the sake of your finances, please say no. Remember to be honest about it and explain your financial situation. Provide an alternative situation or work out a deal where your finances are not at stake.
When you have urgent personal matters

When urgent personal matters are concerned, put yourself as priority. It is urgent for a reason. At that point of urgency when someone asks for a favor that would affect the matter at hand, calmly explain to them that you cannot do it now. Tell them that you have some personal matter to look into and if you could, you would be more than glad to help. Genuine individuals would understand your situation.
When you have pending work

Some of us tend to do favors that intervenes that important work pending we have pending. Knowing you will land in trouble if you know you do not complete the work piled on your desk as soon as possible, learn to say no when your friend asks for a minor favor.
When you know the favor will land you in trouble

Some of you are superheroes to the extend you are willing to do favors that could land you in hot soup. As kind and genuine as you may be, if you foresee trouble, say no to the favor. A favor is meant to ease a person’s burden, not bear the person’s burden. For the sake of your own safety and sanity, be firm but not rude in saying no to dangerous favors.

You need to realize that saying “NO” does not make you a bad person. It just means you do not have the capacity to handle it at that point of time or you may have other priorities to look into. Sometimes, you need to put yourself first. Always provide an honest explanation to the person asking you for a favor. You can even propose an alternative if applicable. A good friend or a genuine individual will always understand the position you are in. However if they don’t, recognize that it is their problem and not yours.

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SFC Joe S. Davis Jr., MSM, DSL
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COL Mikel J. Burroughs - thank you my friend, how's everything going?
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COL Mikel J. Burroughs
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SFC Joe S. Davis Jr., MSM, DSL - Going well, all moved into the apartment in the The Woodlands, Texas my friend... the new adventure begins...
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MSG Thomas Currie
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Favors are an area where some individuals have a problem saying no and others have a problem saying yes. Either way, it's a problem.

Outside of favors (and sometimes even for favors) the military has a culture of always saying "yes" to anything from above (and usually saying "no" to anything from below.) Either way, it is often a problem.

I spent a few years as a Brigade Operations Sergeant. The Bde Cdr would send me to staff meetings were he expected our answer should probably be "no" because he knew that if he sent one of the staff officers they would almost always say "yes" -- a couple of other units started doing pretty much the same thing so it got to the point where if there was a senior NCO representing any unit at a post staff meeting everyone knew we were probably there to say "no."
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LTC Stephen F.
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I hope your integrity is intact and I hope your transparency of character does you justice and is worthy of emulation. No doubt your humility is genuine and you do not put on airs in social interactions since you have self-confidence and have no need or desire to demean others. The LORD justified each of us who are HIS adopted sons and daughters at our salvation and cleanses us of all sin and defects. By HIS grace HE sees us as pure with impeccable character even while HE sanctifies our soul to perfectly reflect HIS image. I hope and pray that you and I have taken to heart the admonition of the LORD to confess our shortfalls and failures and ask the LORD to help us genuinely repent and when appropriate ask for forgiveness. Scripture reminds us ‘for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified by his grace as a gift,’ [Romans 3:23 ESV] and ‘if we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.’ [1 John 1:8-9 ESV] my brother-in-Christ SFC Joe S. Davis Jr., MSM, DSL.

I pray for an increase of self-control, compassion and goodness for each of YOUR adopted sons and daughters who reads or hears this prayer LORD. I thank you for purifying our character through sanctification of the soul of each of us dear LORD. ‘For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. [2 Peter 1:5-8 ESV]
I pray for a secure night for each deployed service member, police and agents on duty, emergency room personnel, fire and rescue and EMT. I pray that none will die without the eternal security of personal relationship with you. Bless their family members with a secure and peaceful sleep and ability to rest in the comfort that YOU are their shield and buckler. ‘How beautiful upon the mountains are the feet of him who brings good news, who publishes peace, who brings good news of happiness, who publishes salvation, who says to Zion, “Your God reigns.” The voice of your watchmen—they lift up their voice; together they sing for joy; [Isaiah 52:7-8a ESV
I pray that the United States Congress will negotiate in good faith. I pray for compromise on non-essential riders to Infrastructure legislation. Hopefully the riders will be stripped from the legislation as unnecessary pork. I pray that authorization for critical race theory will be considered pork. ‘The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight. For by me your days will be multiplied, and years will be added to your life. If you become wise, you will benefit. If you scorn wisdom, you will be the one to suffer [Proverbs 9:10-11 ESV]
'I pray for wisdom for the Supreme Court chief justice and associate justices as they review cases and make judgements. 'I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live!' [Deuteronomy 30:19 ESV]
I pray that you and your family members slept well Tuesday night and awoke refreshed and healthy on Wednesday morning.
By the power and authority of the Name above all names, Jesus the Christ.
FYI COL Mikel J. Burroughs PO3 Charles Streich SPC Michael Terrell
Corey Hart - Truth Will Set You Free
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LPr_tXg8PdE
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