I am trying to make some light here and understand how to approach this situation. Running out of time?

I am hoping to hear your opinion about my situation and some words of advice. I am a 34 years old female (turning 35 next February), permanent resident of European nationality, married and living in the US since April 2018. I am 5, 5 and 125 pounds. I had a surgery on my collar bone back in 2010 and a metal screw left in there. No mobility restriction, no pain, no disability. I have a Bachelor degree from my country and I was told it can be evaluated and will stand as equivalent.
At the end of last year I came to find out that I can still pursue the military, for I am not yet over the age limit. After a lot of research (the structure of the army is very much different than where I come from), I went to a National Guard recruiter on January 4rd 2019 for the first time. There was not much convincing to be done at the recruiting station, as I was more than happy to get another chance at fulfilling the dream of my life, moreover in the US army, which I have a great respect for.

Now for the facts:
January 4th when I walked in the recruiter’s office, he asked me to take the AFQT to see where I’m at. I scored a shameful 6 but he said don’t worry as it is common for people your age and thinking metric system. Study and try again. And so I did; very hard, for the next couple of months.
I got my application package February 27.
I turned in all my documentation on March 21st and took the ASVAB on March 27th, scoring 82. The same day he asked about medical issues and required all my surgery documentation so we can address it before MEPS exam.
I had all my medical documents sent to me from my country, translated and emailed to him April 6th. He said a week or two he should hear from “them”. (MEPS Prescreening I assumed...) Ever since, things have started to become very blurry for me and I only get vague replies about what’s going on.
I refused a job opportunity mid of April as I didn’t want to take on a job and leave after a couple of weeks, when I would have to ship out for my dream job. May 2nd he texted me with a couple of medical questions (last pap exam etc) and asked me to describe the fracture incident; and then nothing.
May 13th (almost 5 weeks after sending the medical documentation) I asked for feedback and he replied 3 days later saying that he has no news and still waiting to hear from chief medical officer.
May 30th (7 weeks since I sent medicals to him) I emailed an SFC from NJ Recruiting operations, trying to make some light and get some feedback as to what my application status is. Early next morning my recruiter was calling me and scolding me for going to someone else as “they don’t know what my situation here is and cannot help me. And I should never contact anyone else from the outside again”. Also, that my medical was rejected by MEPS (I thought because of surgery and screw) and he has to get an approval now from the branch chief surgeon and then go back to MEPS and then again back to the branch’s surgeon to get a waiver. “This is the process and all you can do is be patient and wait”.
June 18th I ask for feedback. He answers they kicked it back cause he didn’t submit my 3 top options of jobs. “ Have I given it some thought?” (he never told me the jobs I qualify for were since my ASVAB..) He sends me the list of codes in a text and says Google it and get back to me asap. I send my picks the next morning( 35F was my 1st along with 92A and 42A) but he realizes that 35F is really not available to me due to strict clearance as I am not a citizen. He says hopefully 2 weeks for them to decide if I go to MEPS or no.
I asked for feedback on July 3rd (I am getting ready to fly to Europe to see my family 17th of July as he told me I won’t ship out before October/ November anyway). He answers “they kicked it back cause some of my paperwork mentioned some spinal injury and unless I get that cleared we can’t do anything more” I first thought he is looking at someone else’s medicals… Cherry on the top: one of my papers from the hospital did say “ Spinal lumbar sciatica “, one row; and then the rest of the paper talks about my surgery. I have never had any back issues or even been to any dr for such thing. I quickly realized it was a human error; the surgeon wrote on my paperwork thinking of previous patient or something…The same surgeon passed away early this year.. ( pulling my hair out by now). I suggested to the recruiter that I go to an orthopedic Dr here and get my back checked out, have an evaluation as per my current condition and show there is nothing wrong with it. He says let me ask and see if that would work and if “they accept it.
Around July 15th (another 2 weeks) I asked him if he knows anything and if I should try to get a doctor’s appointment to check my back before I go and he says no, haven’t heard from “them yet” so go ahead on your vacation and we shall see when you come back.
August 26th when I got back I contacted him and he couldn’t remember what he told me last… I reminded him and he said yes, go ahead and see a doctor for the “presumable back injury.
August 28th I went to the doctor, had xray done, got the clearance paperwork for my back ( and for my collar bone just in case that ever comes up again) and dropped it over my recruiter’s office.
September 6th (1 week and a half after I dropped the new medicals ) he is texting that the paperwork is not good; Not detailed enough, not as per “their” requirements. He asks me to go back to the doctor.
September 9th I call the doctor and say I need a more detailed paper. They have no idea what it is required and they want to see a sample of what the military is asking for. I go back to the recruiter and he says he will call the doctor.
September 10th I ask if he called the doctor’s office and what happens next. ( by now I feel like I am losing my mind). He replies “he has to request and see if they approve it”. I shoot back at him a couple of questions in a row. Not even half of what I have in mind; I don’t understand anything anymore. So I ask: “When do you think you will get a chance to submit them? When do you expect to hear from them? Where is my application at? Prescreening/ branch/ waiver stage?” He answers: “You are still prescreening; he hopes to send the medicals tomorrow and again hopefully 2 weeks before they get back to him and hopefully they will allow me to take the MEPS medical exam. But even after this they can still deny me.”
Considering that someone will take the time to read this big post- thank you, I appreciate it. I wrote as much detail and mentioned the facts chronologically because it has been over 8 months now since I first walked in the recruiter’s office, 5 since I took the ASVAB and sent all my medical records. And after all this time, I don’t feel much was accomplished. I feel like I have to beg for feedback, and it is always vague; I don’t know who “them and they” are. I don’t understand where my file is anymore. I feel like every time there is something else that I need to bring and something else went wrong but unless I ask for feedback, would never get to hear about it.

I understand that because of my medical complications things would get delayed, but does anybody else think something is wrong here? Does MEPS process one issue at a time and takes 2-3 months for each? Is my paperwork not processed in time or am I crazy? For I am turning 35 soon and not only do I feel that this is never going to happen for me but starting to lose respect for the army institution. Are these the values of the Military that I long for so much? Is this the typical process for enlisting? Should I contact another recruiter? What can I do?