Where are all my friends?

SPC Jeffrey Bly, try the unit search feature here on RallyPoint. You can search in the search bar at the top of the screen. And if you remember your friends' names, type those in. It works well. I've found former colleagues and friends here on RallyPoint.

When I became disabled all my friends slowly started to disappear, no calls, no visits , no contact. I'm not sure if I can really blame them, there is not a whole lot I can do so I guess I can understand why I am no longer included.

SPC Jeffrey Bly For those of us that served before cell phones, the internet, social media etc it was easy to lose contact with the people you served with. My only encouragement is to keep looking. I did the periodic looking on the internet for a good friend of mine. We lived in the barracks together, got a place out in town together, did almost everything together. When I separated, he married and PCS'd to Camp Pendleton. We lost track of each other, for years, almost 30. Over the last holidays I decided I would leave no stone unturned and spend whatever time it took to find him. I didn't find him, I found his obituary.

I was able to reach out to his son (I found his name in the obituary) and found out he killed himself, gunshot to the head. Alcoholism, divorce, depression, no one to talk to about things. I felt pretty bad hearing all of that and couldn't help but think had I looked harder and found him before this I might have made a difference. A friendly voice some one to talk to etc.