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Posted on Nov 17, 2020
How do you deal with managing your own anger?
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How many of you have lost your anger in front of fellow soldiers? How do you handle it when you explode right in front of them even though it is not directed at them when they had nothing to do with it? I let my anger get the best of me in front of my peers.
Anger
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Behavioral Health
Mental Health
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I refuse to loose my temper in front of anyone. I saw my mother do that often enough and all it does is make you look like a jack ass. I'll go behind a closed door and punch a pillow or something or vent to a friend who doesn't mind me cussing and fussing. I don't think I have ever lost my temper in front of my soldiers.
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CPL(P) (Join to see) Lesson learned. It’s time to check your mental well being. We must take care of ourselves if we planning on being of use to others.
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Maj Kim Patterson
CPL(P) (Join to see) there are things you can do outsiders official channels. Get together with a few buddies you trust on a non VA property when you can talk without documentation. Some of the best healing comes from a random connection
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Maybe there's a way to get training on that without exposing yourself to harassment - try doing some research independent of military docs, as that would obviously be risky. Good luck, and remember, you're both your most powerful self-advocate and self-critic.
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CPL(P) (Join to see)
SFC (Join to see) - I have notice that. I'm the biggest critic of myself. I hate failing and when I do, it hits me harder than I would like. Over the many years, I have definitely learned a lot about myself through my successes and failures.
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SSgt Richard Kensinger
CPL(P) (Join to see) - From a clinical perspective your concerns are warranted even tho BHC care is confidential and no info is released w/o your expressed written permission, and only the minimal amount necessary to a 3rd party.
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1) You are human. Means you make mistakes and can learn from them. The fact you are asking a question means you can and will learn from this...
2) I was very similar. I would blow my top as a young Junior Officer, until a wise senior enlisted took me aside and explained how my attitude affects the sailors. Since I cared about my sailors, I realized I had to do something so they weren't scared to come into work.
3) I learned 2 coping mechanisms. Before heading into a stressful situation, or something that would trigger your anger, do a couple of deep breaths. When you are breathing deep make sure you are filling the bottom of your lungs (let your belly expand). The second was when you feel your anger rearing its ugly little head, just take everything slow. When you slow things down and consciously think about everything, you will un-cock the trigger.
2) I was very similar. I would blow my top as a young Junior Officer, until a wise senior enlisted took me aside and explained how my attitude affects the sailors. Since I cared about my sailors, I realized I had to do something so they weren't scared to come into work.
3) I learned 2 coping mechanisms. Before heading into a stressful situation, or something that would trigger your anger, do a couple of deep breaths. When you are breathing deep make sure you are filling the bottom of your lungs (let your belly expand). The second was when you feel your anger rearing its ugly little head, just take everything slow. When you slow things down and consciously think about everything, you will un-cock the trigger.
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