Posted on Dec 13, 2015
SGT(P) Daniel McBride
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When I was lower enlisted, me and most of my platoon to include NCOs within the company used to hang out, bbq, party...etc on the weekend. We never had issues separations work from fun. In my personal opinion, built up trust and respect between us. It created more of a family level closeness and we operated amazingly in garrison as well as during deployment.
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SGT Jose Perdelia-Torres
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No, I actually got questioned because I frequently sat with a particular lower enlisted Soldier. The Soldier that they didn't want me sitting with, ultimately became my Soldier. You aren't allowed to even sit at the same table with lower enlisted without someone (namely other NCOs) getting sand in their.....

I can certainly see the importance of the fraternization policies, but who determines it? In my case, the NCO ( my other team leader) was angry that I sat with his Soldier.

Still don't give two craps, you are expected to die (if it comes to that) with these people, who says you can't dine and joke with them!!!

And I sat with a LTC, when he asked me to, a table full of Officers. It could have been argued that it was fraternization; most people are not going to challenge a Battalion Commander....this is all because he wanted me to go to West Point. Which in retrospect I should have, but I was going to the promotion board that same day or week. hindsight 20/20...

I've smoke hookah (flavored tobacco) with Officers, it isn't that big of a deal to me. I mean believe me, i've literally washed the blood of all ranks from my hands..In the end we are just people, and we all bleed the same color....
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Understand that the policy is designed to head off future conflicts of interest or the appearance of it. I fully support NCOs and enlisted interacting in a manner that boast esprit de corp and unit cohesion. On the flip side of the coin, a squad leader shouldn't be hanging out with junior enlisted "buddy" in the barracks playing call of duty. All soldiers should be treated equally and considered equal. If Officers, NCOs, and Junior Enlisted should be permitted to be at a BBQ, but the invitation has to be all inclusive. You cant invite one without another. Also it is important to remember that customs and courtesies apply in and out of uniform. Thats why this has become such an issue. Just because you take the uniform off after duty hours, does not permit an E4 to address an E5 by first name for example.
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SGT(P) Daniel McBride
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True. Now some soldiers can't differentiate situations like that but from personal experience I've never had an issue as a soldier
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SFC Acquisition, Logistics & Technology (AL&T) Contracting NCO
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I've had and have seen issues where Soldiers have been unable to maintain the line... namely due to alcohol. In the end it boils down to the command climate and what is perceived as acceptable. Keep in mind that their are seniors who don't understand the concept of fraternization which only contributes to the problem.
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SSG Audwin Scott
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There is a thin line, especially dealing with alcohol. Me personally my soldiers loved me and I loved them, was it okay or cool to hangout with them in certain situations absolutely. I did try to keep a line however between hanging out though. I stuck with my fellow NCO's when it came to going out or even throwing a parties in which I did on numerous occasions at my place. If the event was a military structured event, I was all in with hanging with my soldiers or lower enlisted, but on my personal time not....
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Fraternization occurs when only specific cliques are involved and special favors for those that participate. Group outings are fine if everyone is included.
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