Posted on Feb 17, 2019
Since the 17C AIT is 45 weeks total, do my dependents come with me?
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Good evening all, future soldier here, Army cyber. Leaving in three weeks for BCT... (at 34, send good thoughts please). I know this question should be obvious and answerable but I keep dredging up alternate viewpoints and my recruiter is off for the weekend.. (and my lovely wife wants an answer nowish.. ). Does my wife and two kids need to be gearing up for a move to Pensacola in a few months? All my research keeps turning up answers that say "for AIT over 20 weeks dependents *may* be included in your orders".
If they are, rock on, (the army moves you, right?).
If they aren't... it'll suck to be apart for that long, but we are currently very close to Gordon, so it wouldn't be terrible for them to just stay in the house they're settled in.
Thanks much all.
If they are, rock on, (the army moves you, right?).
If they aren't... it'll suck to be apart for that long, but we are currently very close to Gordon, so it wouldn't be terrible for them to just stay in the house they're settled in.
Thanks much all.
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I'll give you some solid advice. If you currently don't live far from Gordon, don't worry about moving, even if they put your dependents on your orders. One of two reasons; one, this will help you learn the army culture, being away from your family and learning to live the suck with the soldiers will really help you understand what life you are in for, and see the point of view of your troops, in the future. Two, your family should have opportunities to travel to see you, if you aren't on restriction. Distance is crappy, it really is, but coming from someone who has been married for almost 6 years, and has been away from my wife for close to half of that time, you learn a thing or two about yourself, and your family will gain more understanding of the life you have joined into.
Now, being impatient is common, but it is also an uncomfortable thing you will have to get comfortable with. Things constantly change, and there will be times that you won't know something important until 10 minutes prior.
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BE GUMBY. It is the best advice anyone ever gave me.
Now, being impatient is common, but it is also an uncomfortable thing you will have to get comfortable with. Things constantly change, and there will be times that you won't know something important until 10 minutes prior.
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BE GUMBY. It is the best advice anyone ever gave me.
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I'm trying to not be rude, but if your wife is going to be a military wife, then she needs to get used to slow military answers and going with the flow. If she is this pushy before you even get to your duty base, you are going to have huge marital problems. If she has to have answers immediately, she is going to be in for a big shock and won't be able to handle being a military wife. She sounds like someone who would call the commander every day, while you are in the field for over a month, asking them "when is my husband getting back".....and you will pay the price. Be prepared to be on the commander's "s*** list".
Just wait for the recruiter to get back and then ask them. You have 3 weeks. They should have all the answers for you.
Just wait for the recruiter to get back and then ask them. You have 3 weeks. They should have all the answers for you.
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naw, she's not being "that pushy". (I made it sound that way). Just asked any my research was being fruitless.
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SPC (Join to see) you might want to do two things:
1. Search RP for previous discussions that may bear on your issue. My brief research indicates the training is in two phases at two different locations. https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/can-my-family-come-with-me-to-ait
2. Start working on tactical patience with your spouse. There will times that no one will know until they know, no matter how anxious she is.
If you are authorized move of dependents, they'll be in your orders and moved at Army expense.
Wait until you can get an answer from your recruiter. Once this toothpaste is out of the tube it's hard to put back in. Also want to tag your discussion by editing your initial question and include 17C, Fort Gordon, Corry Station, and AIT
1. Search RP for previous discussions that may bear on your issue. My brief research indicates the training is in two phases at two different locations. https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/can-my-family-come-with-me-to-ait
2. Start working on tactical patience with your spouse. There will times that no one will know until they know, no matter how anxious she is.
If you are authorized move of dependents, they'll be in your orders and moved at Army expense.
Wait until you can get an answer from your recruiter. Once this toothpaste is out of the tube it's hard to put back in. Also want to tag your discussion by editing your initial question and include 17C, Fort Gordon, Corry Station, and AIT
Can my family come with me to AIT? | RallyPoint
My AIT is for 41 weeks. Will I be able to have my family with me?
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LTC Jason Mackay
This discussion would indicate that you coordinate their move when you arrive at AIT unless your recruiter says different. https://community.armystudyguide.com/topic/can-my-family-accompany-me-to-an-ait-that-is-21-weeks-long
can my family accompany me to an ait that is 21 weeks long
can my spouse accompany me to an ait that is 21 weeks long
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That... is more comprehensive than anything I've pulled up so far, thank you. Will edit post also.
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LTC Jason Mackay
SPC (Join to see) - confirm it with your recruiter before you tell your wife. There may be local policy that impacts this. From what I saw, there may be operational reasons why recruits don't make it past Corry Station.
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Having worked with 17C soldiers at Gordon all I can add is this: consider that even if moving them there with you is authorized, it may be in the best interest for them to stay put at Gordon. If you wind up assigned somewhere else after AIT then move them then, if you have someplace solid in the Gordon area, stick with it, the drive down to Pensacola isn't too bad and there will be plenty of opportunities for them to come down and visit. The main reason I say this is because the training you'll be going through there in Pensacola is intensive, it's rough and not everyone makes it through, and having them there may be too much of a distraction from time you'll need to study to ensure you make it through. I don't know you personally, what you're aptitudes or test scores were, or what your background with computers is, but if it's anything short of already having a degree in computing and software design then you may be better off having as few distractions there full time while you're getting through it. End of the day, it's only 45 weeks (yeah, just shy of a year), and coming from having been away from my own wife and kids for the better part of the last year and a half I can tell you it sucks at times, but also consider that 17C's are quite different from the rest of the force, you don't really deploy like the majority of other soldiers do, so while you may be away from them for nearly a year at AIT there's a good chance it'll be the only time in your army career you'll be away from them for that long of an extended period.
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