Posted on Apr 5, 2015
How was your marriage after your deployment/s?
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I saw a lot of marriages fall apart after deployments. I had one that did. We were married only 3 months when I had to deploy to Iraq the first time. We were married about two years but only saw each other 6 months total.
I wish I could say that we both just became a different person but there were some fraternization happening. (Not on my end)
What were some things you think you could've done to save your marriage? Some things are out of ones control. But I would like to hear some of yalls experiences. What did you do to make your marriage work?
I wish I could say that we both just became a different person but there were some fraternization happening. (Not on my end)
What were some things you think you could've done to save your marriage? Some things are out of ones control. But I would like to hear some of yalls experiences. What did you do to make your marriage work?
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Never go to bed angry...I have been awake for days because of this one....
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SGT (Join to see), I've said before that communication is key. And in our high-tech age, communication has never been easier, with Skype, e-mail, etc.
I think that if a person is going to cheat, a deployment gives them a huge opportunity to do so. If they're not going to cheat, deployment won't matter. And then there are some in the middle.
I spent only six months deployed, but also one year separated while I was in Korea. I don't have a good answer. We held our marriage together because we loved each other ... even though there were disagreements - for example, about how often we should communicate. I wanted constant contact, she was more laid back about it. In the end - after those two separations and many other shorter ones - we worked things out.
The rest of the story is not happily ever after though. We're now divorced, which goes to show you that I do NOT have the correct answer to your question, but I still think that communication is the glue that holds a marriage together.
I think that if a person is going to cheat, a deployment gives them a huge opportunity to do so. If they're not going to cheat, deployment won't matter. And then there are some in the middle.
I spent only six months deployed, but also one year separated while I was in Korea. I don't have a good answer. We held our marriage together because we loved each other ... even though there were disagreements - for example, about how often we should communicate. I wanted constant contact, she was more laid back about it. In the end - after those two separations and many other shorter ones - we worked things out.
The rest of the story is not happily ever after though. We're now divorced, which goes to show you that I do NOT have the correct answer to your question, but I still think that communication is the glue that holds a marriage together.
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Communication is a big part of any relationship. Friendship, dating, marriage. If you don't have that, well it really won't work out.
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You're totally right. I said the same thing to my ex-wife. With 2 deployments and WOCS, she never knew how/what to communicate. I personally think that she has a co-dependency issue that contributed to the divorce, but that is my opinion.
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My wife was a blessing during my service, she was with me 17 of the 20 years. I am proud to say that on November 1st we will celebrate our 50 years of marriage. Military wives are special in so many ways. I saw what happened in the military when deployment time came around and many wives couldn't handled it. It is a tough road and it's not for everybody.
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Congratulations, Sir, on your upcoming anniversary!! That has become very rare unfortunately!!
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